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Does Islam permit marriage with a transgender woman?

Transgender and Islam

I was wondering whether there was an Islamic ruling on this issue of being with a transgendered woman.

I am a straight guy who is attracted to women, but I have met a transgendered woman who is extremely beautiful and really nice. However, she did not have the surgical operation "below the belt" so she still retains her male organ for the time being.

What is the ruling for possibly marrying/having sexual relations with a transgendered woman? I have never had any sort of luck with women in the past. Every girl I asked out on a date for coffee or something has rejected me. So this is the first girl I am with.

~ sskyler80

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  1. Aoa bhai

    in islam gay transgender ect is forbidden in islam .it is not allowed and nit said by allah that you should marry this type of sex.your type of sex should be a straight normal girl muslim this is not a good issue for your relgion you really should move on from this and find a nice normal muslim women may allah bless you and guide you to the right path allah haffiz

  2. As Salamualaikum,

    Brother, I'm afraid your attitude will lead you to sin and disobedience of Allah.

    You said " I have never had any sort of luck with women in the past. Every girl I asked out on a date for coffee or something has rejected me."

    This is not the Islamic way. Dating a non Mahram girl is totally unethical in Islam. It will surely lead to a lot of sins, on top being that of Zina. So, please beware, so that you do not make Allah Angry with you. Moreover, the final abode is after the death. So, isn't it wise to live for that life, than follow our whims?

    Secondly, the ruling on transgendered people. Islam does not allow change of sex for mere whims and desires. If a person is a male, but wants to become a female and undergoes an operation, this is Haraam and it amounts to changing the creation of Allah. And this is something that Shaitaan does to lead the servants of Allah astray. Allah says in Surah an Nisa:

    118. Allah cursed him. And he [Shaitan (Satan)] said: "I will take an appointed portion of your slaves;

    119. Verily, I will mislead them, and surely, I will arouse in them false desires; and certainly, I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allah." And whoever takes Shaitan (Satan) as a Wali (protector or helper) instead of Allah, has surely suffered a manifest loss.
    120. He [Shaitan (Satan)] makes promises to them, and arouses in them false desires; and Shaitan's (Satan) promises are nothing but deceptions.

    121. The dwelling of such (people) is Hell, and they will find no way of escape from it.

    122. But those who believe (in the Oneness of
    Allah - Islamic Monotheism) and do deeds of righteousness, We shall admit them to the Gardens
    under which rivers flow (i.e. in Paradise) to dwell therein forever. Allah's Promise is the Truth, and whose words can be truer than those of Allah? (Of course, none).

    End quote.

    Allah Knows Best what is good for us, and it is He Who decides how to create us. We have on right to interfere in His Creation.

    Having said this, I must mention that such a situation may arise even without transgender operation such as in case of a hermaphrodite, as the Ulama mention. And Allah Knows Best. There are differenet rulings for these.

    Regarding transgender, there is a fatwa from the permanent committee for Fataawa:

    I suggest you to fear Allah, develop some Taqwa and look for a pious Muslimah to marry, thus forgetting the idea of this transgendered woman.

    Muhammad Waseem Editor

  3. Are you talking about a person born with both organs M/F or a man who dresses as a women, the first i dont no the second that would be haram.

    • Transgender is a term to describe those individuals who psychologically identify with a gender opposite of the sex organs they were born with. It's a form of depression called Gender Dysmorphia. A man convinced he's really a woman trapped in a man's body and vise versa. It is different than those born with ambiguous genitalia conditions. It is also not the same as being gay. There is also Klinefelter Syndrome in which males carry an extra X chromosome. Some transgenders decide to have sex reassignment surgery, and some do not. Reassignment surgery is not done on a whim however, but is approved after pretty intense counseling sessions and looking at where the individual lies on the BenjaminScale. There are those within Islam and other religions who say this reassignment is haraam, and the feelings of the individuals is haraam as well. There are muslim countries that do perform reassignment surgeries however. Iran has been performing them since the 1980's, and since 1988, they have been performed in Egypt as well. Both countries find reassignment surgery to be acceptable under Islamic law so long as the surgery is not done on a whim.

  4. Salams Brother,

    Firstly, there's no doubt that the above comments already explain what i was going to say. However, I'd like to add the fact that Allah has favoured you in this case because as you said, every girl you asked out rejected you. Majority people aren't that fortunate, and end result is Zina, regret, and trying to reform their lives in the most difficult ways possible. SO NOT WORTH IT! Im a guy and ive been where you are. I also was delusional, every girl i askd also rejected me, but thanks to My Creator blessing me with prior islamic knowledge from madressah, i realised that he was actualy protecting me. So i never pursued women again. Now im 24, still single, but very happy. lowering my gaze on the daily basis has made me taste the sweetness of iman. Im completing my studies this year, and after that ill find a nice muslimah to wed... If you put your trust in Allah, The Almighty will grant you two things - shukr(gratitude) and sabr(patience). With these, youll never be depressed in this world...

  5. ... Oh and one more thing, im sure you know that The Creator has promised you women in pardise? What we know about jannah from Quraan and hadeeth is not even 1%, so you can imagine the rewards that Allah keeps for a man if he keeps himself chaste in this world for Allah's pleasure. Just be patient, find yourself a good muslimah and make sabr. Allah knows what we all want in this world and in the Aakhirah, and he will give it to you in abundance... Inshaallah!!

  6. Assalam O Alaikum brother sskyler80,
    Brother first and foremost, just because you couldn't find a women for marriage doesn't mean that you should marry a transgender then there are differing opinions on operation and other procedures as sister Lydia mentioned. Keep searching for a Muslim sister and you will find one iA, but it will happen iA when time is right and off course if it is the will of Allah. Try all the venues available, try to look out of your own culture, society, country, background etc etc as this will help you improve your chances. Any ways, here are few links dealing with transgender which you may find helpful iA as they have ample amount of literature including some fatwas on the subject of surgery or hormone therapy and other procedures,


  7. Allah has somebody out there for everybody, it will take time to find a good women it just doesn't happen over night,keep trying you do not wanna marry this person is so much better to marry a Muslim person.

  8. Assalamualaikum brother.

    Gay, transgender anything either then men and women relationship is haraam and forbidden in islam. Just make dua to Allah for a good muslim normal wife. you said on your post that the 'women' still has male private parts... So im woundering are u attracted to males now because you got rejected by females?? because nobody has mentioned it yet but that would make you gay coz u like males wearing girls clothes.

  9. Salam brother,
    I would like to outline something here. You said the lady did not have the surgery, therefore she has male organs and will probably be considered a man (I am sorry if i hurt your feelings or the feelings or anyone else). How would perform your marital duties if you were to marry her? This would be make you commit two huge sins under islamic law. Sex with a male and anal or oral sex. I apologized for the words I used but I thought it may be necessary to add this to all the great contributions on this post.Think about this and keep looking for someone. The best way would be through family or friends. And of doesn't work, there are still islamic dating websites if you are really looking for marriage. Try those ways.
    May Allah (s.w) guide you and find you a righteous wife that will be your partner in building your way to Jannah. Amin

  10. Salaam, I have never taken interest in reading people's comments in view of transgender people because i believe its only Allah who i have to answer to. but I feel like commenting today. I am a muslim and alhamdulila I am a transgender female living a normal life, I had my surgery at the age of 21 and for the past 10 years I have lived my life according to my deen and islam. There are many things which are haram in islam can anyone put there hands on there heart and honestly say they have never done wrong? If one has made a mistake you ask Allah for forgiveness, it's ridiculous how scholars preach as though they are messengers of Allah, when it constantly states in the Quran Allah is most forgiving, I don't consider what I did a mistake, however I am a slave to my creater and I bow down to Allah and ask him for forgiveness and I thank him for what was granted for me in my life, It's pathetic how everyone comments accusing transgender of being haram, if one is born with such difficulties they will do all they can to correct it and make life better, you all should pray to Allah and ask Allah to grant you healthy children, I would hate to think one day because of your low mentality Allah grants you a transgender child, god forbid what that child will go through. I have a mother I have a father and I was created exactly how every other human was, rather then use such harsh words and accuse people of being haram please think carefully befor hurting someone's feelings.

    May Allah forgive us all Ameen...

    • Wa'alaykumsalam bro,

      So basically you are a male born with male genital organ and then you've done SRS ( which might involve genital organ change, breast agumentation etc etc ) and now you think you're female and you also think that you aren't doing anything wrong in Islam. You believe you didn't do any mistake ? Thats pathetic bro.
      I have indeed put my hand on my heart and said I havn't done anything haram of that degree. Which degree you may ask ? The sins which are explicitly forbidden in Islam ( like zina, alcohol, gay, changing Allah's creation, accusing chaste women, theft etc etc ) are of high degree and will be punished in hell fire for long as Allah wills. And for other wrong doings which are not explicitly forbidden in Islam but morally wrong are of low degree, as obviously human beings err. Since Allah has made certain prohibition, we must never transgress those, if we do, then we can gurantee a seat with the satan in hell fire.

      You said you have only Allah to answer on the day of judgement. Well thats obviously true, but then again you've got to take other advices and comments of the people in this world, before answering your Lord. Allah might ask, why didn't you take heed when my pious servants wanred you with proofs and evidences from My Book and my messenger of how you wronged your soul ? By now you aren't ignorant of the fact that what you did is wrong in Islam, so you'll have no answer on that day. The commentators here aren't trying to lead you on a highway to hell, instead we are trying to bring you to the straight path, the path our Prophet and his companions walked on. You did a great sin and you say you didn't and you'll answer to Allah? What will you answer ? Since Allah has already warned us in His Qur'an of satan's promise to misled mankind, to create in them false desire, false promise etc Allah has also warned us that satan would make bad seem good and satan would try to change Allah's creation, which I believe satan succeeded in destroying you my bro. What if Allah told you, you were born male, why did you change my creation ? Will you answer him back ??? Astaghfirullah. Allah might tell you, My book is clear to understand and I told you to obey my messenger, why didn't you understand then ? Why do you imitate women when my messenger wanred you against it ? Another example is, if a woman ignores the hijab and have pre-marital relationship causes fitnah in the society, but she says, she is doing her religious duties and she don't care what people say, she's just gonna concentrate on her life and answer Allah. But one may ask her, what about the Islamic rule regarding hijab and mingling with non mahram male, having bf etc ? She obviously transgressed those and so how can she be answerable to Allah. She will indeed have her mouth sealed and her hands, feet etc will testify of her wrong doing and she will be thrown to hell unless she changes herself, repent and do righteous deeds.

      Therefore, take heed before death comes knocking at your door. Take heed before your ribs will be crushed in the graves.

      Just few questions, if a man marries you, wouldn't it be that he married a man literally ? And then it becomes a gay relationship in a way ? Can you get pregnant ? Do you get periods or menses ? Is milk present in your breast ? I was just wondering of how feminine are you bro.

      Yes Allah is forgiving, he forgives those who repent sincerely. But can a man who marries another man repent sincerely knowing that he is not on the Islamic path and he is doing tremendous wrong? Can an alcoholic hope for repentance ? I highly doubt so. They've got to change their ways first and then hope for Allah's mercy.

      May Allah guide you, have mercy on you and forgive you.

      • Surah an Nisa:
        Allah cursed him. And he [Shaitan (Satan)] said: "I will take an appointed portion of your slaves;
        Verily, I will mislead them, and surely, I will arouse in them false desires; and certainly, I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allah." And whoever takes Shaitan (Satan) as a Wali (protector or helper) instead of Allah, has surely suffered a manifest loss.
        He [Shaitan (Satan)] makes promises to them, and arouses in them false desires; andShaitan's (Satan) promises are nothing but deceptions.
        The dwelling of such (people) is Hell, and they will find no way of escape from it.
        ( 118-121)

        "O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan.And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing." ( 24:21 )

        "And indeed We have created many jinns and men for hell; they have hearts in which their is no understanding; and the eyes they do not see with; and the ears they do not hear with; they are like cattle - in fact more astray; it is they who are the neglectful." ( Surah A'raf )

      • You seem very angry, my reply wasn't to provoke you but to make you realise only Allah can judge. You don't know me personally you certainly don't know what's concealed in my heart, legally, psychically and mentally I am all female. I dont feel the need to discuss personal questions which are against islam and im certainly not going to give you the satisfaction. There are genetic females in the world who can't conceive children, does that make them any less of a women? If I have made a grave mistake then only Allah will punish me, no way does Allah say seek punishment from pious people if that's what you call yourself lol, I am not imitating a female I am a female and alhamdulila with Allahs will I will continue to be a good one.

        • Lol bro, Its your life, you're gonna have to enjoy it to your extent because Allah's promise is true. He will punish the wrong doers and reward the pious servants who do righteous deeds and tries to guide people to the right path. I do not know whats in your soul obviously, but since you've explained the wrong you did, by this I understand where you came from. Allah is angry at you. Just imagine the OPs case, he fell in love with a ' woman ' only to find out that person is a transgender woman with a male genital organ, how gross it is and to deceive a male servant of Allah. Our Prophet said: "Whoever deceives us is not from the ummah” ( Saheeh Muslim )
          we will only command good and forbid evil, whether you take heed or not is not our problem, you've got to fear Allah. Commanding what is right and forbidding what is wrong provides a mechanism whereby the Muslim Ummah can fight off various social, moral and spiritual ills and maintain a healthy and dynamic life.

          `Abd allah ibn Mas'ud was once asked, "Who are the living dead?" and he replied, "Those who never command something good and never forbid something bad"

          "If one of you sees something wrong, let him change it with his hand; if he cannot, then with his tongue; if he cannot, then with his heart and this is the weakest faith."

          "Let there among you be a group that summon to all that is beneficial commands what is proper and forbids what is improper; they are the ones who will prosper." (3:104)

          Therefore, we are only doing our duty of warning.

          If I have made a grave mistake then only Allah will punish me,

          Yup fear Allah, His punishment isn't just scholding or any easy punishment. This is what hell looks like,

          Their penalty will not be lightened, nor will they receive respite" (2:161-162).

          "They are (men) whom Allah hath cursed: And those whom Allah Hath cursed, thou wilt find, have no one to help" (4:52).

          "...Enough is Hell for a burning fire. Those who reject Our Signs, We shall soon cast into the Fire. As often as their skins are roasted through, We shall change them for fresh skins, that they may taste the penalty. For Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise" (4:55-56)

          "But he whose balance (of good deeds) is found to be light, will have his home in a (bottomless) Pit. And what will explain to you what this is? A Fire blazing fiercely!" (101:8-11).

          "...Those who deny (their Lord), for them will be cut out a garment of Fire. Over their headswill be poured out boiling water. With it will be scalded what is within their bodies, as well as (their) skins. In addition there will be maces of iron (to punish) them. Every time they wish to get away therefrom, from anguish, they will be forced back, and (it will be said), "Taste the Penalty of Burning!" (22:19-22).

          "In front of such a one is Hell, and he is given,for drink, boiling fetid water" (14:16).

          "In its midst and in the midst of boiling hot water will they wander round!" (55:44).

          "Is that the better entertainment or the Tree of Zaqqum? For We have truly made it (as) a trial for the wrong-doers. It is a tree that springs out of the bottom of Hell-Fire. The shoots of its fruit-stalks are like the heads of devils. Truly they will eat thereof and fill their bellies therewith. Then on top of that they will be given a mixture made of boiling water. Then shall their return be to the (Blazing) Fire" (37:62-68).

          "Verily, the tree of deadly fruit will be the food of the sinful. Like molten lead will it boil in the belly, like the boiling of burning despair" (44:43-46).

          "And those who followed would say: 'If only We had one more chance...' Thus will Allah show them (the fruits of) their deeds as (nothing but) regrets. Nor will there be a way for them out of the Fire" (2:167)

          no way does Allah say seek punishment from pious people if that's what you call yourself lol,

          lol You are wrong because there are certain sins which requires hadd punishments from pious people. If you were in an Islamic state under shariah law, then you're gonna have to come under punishment if you do unlawful things like sex with a man etc. The punishemt of sodomy, gay sex etc may be death. As our Prophet said kill both of them who commits sodomy, gay sex etc. You are fortunate to be far away from shariah country, but no one can escape Allah's punishment on that day, that day there is no refuge.
          Since you're born male but underwent surgery and deceived yourself into female and maybe wearing female clothes etc, then surely this is called imitating. Sin on top of sin.

          "And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith to your Lord and submit to Him, before the torment comes upon you, then you will not be helped". (39:55)

    • Thanks for such encouraging comment, would like to seek guidance from you regarding gender transition as i have been diagnosed with gender identity disorder and in the desperate need to change sex to live a happy life free from the cruel bondage and intolerable pressure which is actually becoming life-threatening for me.

  11. I truly hope not to offend people and apologise if I upset anyone. Gender may be binary (male or female) but it is also complex, including genetics, mentality, physical appearance, upbringing...

    Humanity in its arrogance has messed around with so much of the world, that even as a foetus, a person is exposed to multiple chemicals that they should not be. It has been shown that such exposure can cause feminisation or masculinisation of animals, so it may be that some people who were meant to be female are born with male features, or vice versa. There are also genetic and hormonal disorders that can result in genetic males appearing female and genetic females appearing male.

    Instead of criticising and telling people they are damned to hell for their gender identity, perhaps it would be better to explore with people what led to their decisions, what they faced that caused them to feel that gender reassignment surgery or living as the gender they weren't raised as was necessary for them. We are encouraged to learn and to help each other to follow the straight path. How can we do that without discussion?

    Only Allah knows what will happen to each of us on the Last Day. While we're here, let's try to help each other on the path rather than condemning each other.

    • We are only repeating what Allah has already promised for the wrong doers in the Qur'an. Anyways, its good to hear what exactly made that brother to go for SRS and become female ? What made that brother to change Allah's creation, and become female ? Etc

      • Brother,
        I wonder what purpose you achieve by repeating what has been said numerous times besides if you read their comments, you will realize that these brother/sisters know that it's a haram and are trying to avoid falling into sin rather than promoting/indulging in it. Please try to show some compassion and also there is no point in referring """Zara""" as brother when she herself associates with females. Whether her treatment (if she had one or which ever that might be) halal or haram is really not for us to discuss here because there are scholars out there who differ on this. I will appreciate that focus on helping people rather than repeating what they already know.

        Jazak Allah,


        • Bro,

          Hope all well with you and yours!!

          I wonder what purpose you achieve by repeating what has been said numerous times

          Well for one, mind satisfaction then striking fear in the heart of wrong-doers then reminder for those who is unaware etc All with good intention insha'Allah.

          besides if you read their comments, you will realize that these brother/sisters know that it's a haram and are trying to avoid falling into sin rather than promoting/indulging in it.

          No actually, I came to this thread only to reply to " Zara ", I havn't read other comments yet except that of Bro Waseem, and so if you read " Zara " comments carefully, that person doesn't acknowledge that what they did was wrong. That person wasn't trying to avoid it it seems. It rather seems as though that person is willfully indulging in it and maybe promoting in a way.

          there is no point in referring """Zara""" as brother when she herself associates with females.

          If a person is born male with Allah's decree, How can I call that person ' sister ' ? Allah is my witness, I don't want to be fooled.

          Can sex change through SRS or by other means be halal ? I never knew that. For all I know, plucking eye brows, breast agumentations etc which changes Allah's creation is haram, so I wonder how sex change through SRS or other, where a person change his entire male body to female can be made permissible ? Naudhubillah

          Allah knows best.

          Audhubillahi min ash shaytan ir rajim. Allahhumma inni audhubika min adhabil qabri, wa audhubika min fitna til masih al dajjal, wa audhubika min fitna til mahya wa maamati, Allahhumma inni audhubika min al mathami wal maghrami. Ameen.

          • How am I promoting sex change? All I say its wrong for you to judge me and to leave it to Allah to punish and forgive, you can refer to me as "bro" It doesn't concern me or affect me in any way, alhamdulila my faith in Allah is very strong and I believe Allah is most forgiving, I would never suggest to any muslim brother or sister to go through what I have just for the sake of it nor any human being would just for fun, you make it sound like I planned to go against Allahs will or purposely I made changes to my body for sexual satisfaction? Are you crazy? Who on earth would want to make such a big change unless there's a valid reason? I can't begin to explain what one has to go through but alhamdulila Allah has given me a very beautiful and peaceful life now.

          • Bro Ali,
            You haven't changed much have you lol?. OK! She is already fearful of Allah (swt) and is completely aware of consequences if she ever falls in sin and am sure if she has ever committed sins (knowingly/unknowingly) then she has repented iA. Indeed you have good intention but your approach is wrong because your comment hasn't helped her deal with her situation rather than going over same thing over and over again which she already knew.

            LOl if she hasn't acknowledged then what for and why would she repent and ask for forgiveness. She clearly said that she has made mistakes, which she is aware of and has repented to Allah (swt) as well as has asked for forgiveness. What do you expect her to do to prove that to you? You should not assume too much when you know too little or none please.

            Then you said if a person is born boy then why would you refer to them as sister. Where did you get that she said that she was born a boy and then she changed her gender, instead she said that there are people who are born with both male/female parts. It is completely different from a full male/female heterosexual changing to female/male, which is off course haram. (something that we see often happening in West).

            There are differing opinions on whether a transgender can go for surgery or therapy to take any gender they wish (male/female). Some scholars say it's haram, some say it's halal. Also, it also depends upon so many other things for instance, if a transgender feels attracted to males then they can become female or probably they have more feminine feature and they want to become a woman. All I am saying is try to distinguish between someone indulging/promoting such lifestyle and those people who are struggling to stay on the right path, knowing that it's haram. Criticizing or harsh attitude toward them won't help because they already struggle a lot with that in their real life with people around them.

            Can sex change through SRS or by other means be halal ? I never knew that. For all I know, plucking eye brows, breast agumentations etc which changes Allah's creation is haram, so I wonder how sex change through SRS or other, where a person change his entire male body to female can be made permissible ? Naudhubillah

            Again, read what I said above and do some research on these issues. It's one thing born male/female and changing to female/male which I know is haram and it's all together a different thing to be born with both organs and wanting/undergoing treatment.


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            even though in ur head your views are the "one and only" that is right, there are scholars and even muslim psychologist, who im sure their knowledge are way broader about this matter, than you.

            "According to the scholar and hadith collector An-Nawawi:

            A mukhannath is the one ("male") who carries in his movements, in his appearance and in his language the characteristics of a woman. There are two types; the first is the one in whom these characteristics are innate, he did not put them on by himself, and therein is no guilt, no blame and no shame, as long as he does not perform any (illicit) act or exploit it for money (prostitution etc.). The second type acts like a woman out of immoral purposes and he is the sinner and blameworthy.[3]

            Furthermore there is the observation of Ibn Abd Al-Barr who was a contemporary of An-Nawawi:

            The mukhannath is not only the one who is known to be promiscuous. The mukhannath is (also?) the one who looks so much like a woman physically that he resembles women in his softness, speech, appearance, accent and thinking. If he is like this, he would have no desire for women and he would not notice anything about them. This is one of those who have no interest in women who were permitted to enter upon women."

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            O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames.

  12. Zara,

    Hope all is well,

    How am I promoting sex change?

    Firstly you said,

    I don't consider what I did a mistake,..I thank him ( Allah ) for what was granted for me in my life

    then you criticize scholars,

    it's ridiculous how scholars preach as though they are messengers of Allah, when it constantly states in the Quran Allah is most forgiving

    then you criticize other users who said transgender SRS is haram,

    It's pathetic how everyone comments accusing transgender of being haram

    basically, It started by you not acknowledging what you did was wrong and then thanking Allah like everything is cool but infact you accepted satans wisphers ( your free will) when he told you to change your real self and then you blamed scholars and other users who blamed transgender or SRS.
    So if this is not indirectly promoting sex change then what is ? We don't have problems for those who have gay feelings, because with hardworks and obidiance it can insha'Allah perish but those who act illegal upon those feelings is considered forbidden. I got an aquaitance who is 'transgender' but he didn't want to do any sort of surgery because he knows it gross and deceiving, he prefer to remain single and worship Allah. After getting scholding and preaching from an Imam, he changed his ways and is now happy.

    if one is born with such difficulties they will do all they can to correct it and make life better

    Even if they have to trangress the Islamic limits set by Allah and His messenger and follow the footstep of satan ? How about gays ? They think that they are woman, they feel woman, they act woman, they love none but man, they suffer life being gay without revealing themselves in some places, they fed up of hiding etc Can they go for sex change and imitate woman ? If yes, then isn't that dis-obeying Allah and His messenger when it is clearly stated that changing Allah's creation is from satan and gay marriage etc is illegal ? If no, then according to you ' they must do all they can to correct it and make life better ' . Both can't be right now can it ?

    I would never suggest to any muslim brother or sister to go through what I have just for the sake of it nor any human being would just for fun,

    Thats good, but who would do that anyways for fun ?

    I may be crazy for not grasping your idea that you sinned and you think its fine. I may be crazy that I can't believe that some people believe that SRS is fine. Lol I'm crazy indeed hahahha.

    • I actually smile when I read your thread, I'm not quite sure what your motive is but, I never miss my namaaz, I have been to hajj and umrah, what would you like me to do? What would you like all other transgender women to do? Should we stop praising Allah? astakfar shall we stop reading namaaz? should we not call ourselves muslim? What would you like us to do? The last couple of days all you have tried to do is put fear in me, but its not worked because you have only made my belief stronger, thankfully I don't need to listen to your crap in real life, I won't be entertaining your messages anymore, I actually feel very sorry for you, rather then advising someone politely with respect you use a sharp tongue, you are really hurtful and rude, you have not changed my mind about anything...

      • No to all those questions, of course not, but masha'Allah great that I've only made your belief stronger 😀 . Nevermind if you ignore my comments, but you weren't willing to listen to anyones advise too instead you took our comments as pathetic and crap without providing Islamic proofs only your opinion, look up for evidence.
        Anyways our advises may insha'Allah be useful and taken heed by others who maybe in your situation looking for Islamic stance.

        Allahumma 'hdinaa fiman hadayt
        wa 'aafinee fiman 'aafayt. Ameen.

    • I am A muslim, and i tell you, you are getting very judgmental about Zara, This is absolutely wrong, She has is a woman now, and have a normal married life. If that is not understandable to you, you need to search on this topic first. Secondly, she has changed her sex, not her religion. she has done something for which only she is answerable no one like you or me. even if she has done some sin, you or me cannot decide weather its a sin or not.
      Above all i would like to mention few of the practices being done in Muslim hubs like Egypt and Iran, where people with gender identity disorder are getting sex change under Islamic shariah government permission and are also funded by Government. They are allowed to marry, and live a normal life ahead.
      Now i have another project for you, Please start criticizing such governments who allow such procedures, i am sure there cabinets which have plenty of Islamic scholars are not as learned as you are.

      • Above all i would like to mention few of the practices being done in Muslim hubs like Egypt and Iran, where people with gender identity disorder are getting sex change under Islamic shariah government permission and are also funded by Government.

        ISLAMIC SHARIA GOVERNMENT ??? Lol. Since when these countries govern by the sharia law according to you ? Infact Iran is dominantly shia, so their sharia law is void according to sunni as their hadiths are different. So brother, when these countries starts governing by sharia law in its whole, then come back to me. Untill then pray for Imam Mahdi to come soon.

        Now i have another project for you, Please start criticizing such governments who allow such procedures, i am sure there cabinets which have plenty of Islamic scholars are not as learned as you are.

        ALL the governments in the world are corrupt. Period. If you doubt it, then do your research of public analysis. There are many forums about it. Furthermore, 'Islamic scholars' in the cabinet? your so called "islamic scholars" are working together with corrupt governments under man-made law. Except the regions in Saudi or elasewhere if any that govern by sharia law. Btw Do you know that voting is shirk ?

        If they open 1 hospital for SRS in Makkah and/or Madina, then I'll start another new project.

        • Brother Ali,

          I see you give references to your replies Mashallah. I need to know if a person is born with organs of both male and female what are the rights given to him/her by Islamic view.

          Specially the following.
          1) % right on property after father's death.
          2) Should he/she cover like woman or man.
          3) Read salath like man or woman.
          4) Allowed to marry or not.

          I see in most Muslim societies intersex gender is hated and not invited in mosques etc. I believe that they are also human and should have some rights in Allah's world if they are given feelings and desires.

          Most people just say that in Islam there is no such thing as (intersex). Such answer means that we are denying the existence of such gender in the world and we are putting parents of such children in bigger strain that there kids will have no rights in the society when they grow up specially if they live in a Islamic society.

          your reply will help our Ummah with these important questions if in case there is such a child in their family.

          (References would be appreciated)

  13. I can't begin to explain what I went through as a child, I knew for certain I was not homosexual because there was no sexual reason for me to change my gender. In fact I never even thought about sex etc.

    I knew from a very young age something was not right, but who do you turn to at the age of 7/8 at this age mentally I was female and I knew nothing more, the distance it created between me and my mum at this age I remember as it was yesterday. No mother wants her child to behave feminine, I tried to keep myself to myself until I reached 12/13 were my emotions were going through a roller coaster, rather then focusing on my school I was fight a battle with what was going on, rather then developing as a male I was developing as a female, people would assume I was gay because I had feminine features and my voice never broke alhamdulila, I was 14 when I went to my Dr and confided in her about what was happening and how my breast were developing and feelings emotions getting more stronger,

    I come from a respectable family who never understood what was going on with me, I first suffered from extreme abdominal pain at the age of 15 when I went to the hospital I was told it was a hernia, but a scan and further tests showed i had a under active uterus, this was removed but still mentally things were not right.

    I admit and Allah is witness to this that I did not ask Allah for help at this stage I never prayed nor was I interested in islam in fact I was interested in nothing at this stage,

    My brothers and sisters couldn't understand me my mum was suffering because she couldn't come to terms with it and my dad he just wouldn't talk to me, my family assumed i was just gay.

    I began hormone therapy and then I under went srs surgery which I funded myself with one of the top surgeonsin the world, changing my sex was one thing but the road which took me to my surgery was so difficult that I actually feel so ashamed that I can't tell you what I had to do in order to fund for my surgery may Allah forgive me for my grave sin, once I had my surgery I felt a burden had been lifted off me and alhamdulila I took a new turn in my life were I went to Uni and finished my degree and never looked back at the disgraceful job I had to do.

    You going to say why did you do such a job if I knew it was wrong, it was a certain point in my life which even I didn't know what was going on with me, I was alone and my family wouldn't speak to me. I'm not a stone but I'm not god either, I'm human and I have feelings to.

    The point I'm trying to make is, I became a better person after my surgery, I began looking in to islam and reading, praying and learning from people who began coming in to my life, a new chapter had began for me and I was so great full to Allah that good religious people were being introduced to me, I don't struggle anymore, alhamdulila I pass everyday life and I am accepted in society, I'm not doing wrong by making my history public knowledge I'm accepted and respected and alhamdulila women come to me today asking me how to read namaaz, salatul tasbie etc so how can I not think Allah has accepted me?

    I would never encourage another transgender to go through what I went through, because I didn't go through this alone if I suffered as a child I regret to say this but I have made my mum suffer for the rest of her life because she can never come to terms with me changing, although she's proud I have been to hajj and settled down and given two beautiful children a home and a mothers love but still deep down she can never accept me. Now please tell me is there a bigger punishment then this?

    I am human just like you I feel pain and if I can ask Allah for anything it would be to help my mum to stop her suffering, you assumed I was this animal who didn't care but my argument is that no one knows what is in other people's hearts,

    I honestly believe that cross dressers (males dressed as females) have played a big party in making society think bad of transgender people, I am no longer transgender because I am not transitioning. I wish I never commented on this site because its like putting salt on ones wounds but its refreshing to read there are understanding comments which are being made to which is a nice way to teach islam.


    • Zara,
      i am a born female Muslim and a psychologist and i have read cases like yours.
      Trust me you have not done any sin at all.
      you even don't need to clarify yourself at any point to any one.
      You are beautiful and God knows about it. I wish you all the best for life ahead.
      Such cases are handled and are allowed in islamic society like Iran and now even in my country like Pakistan.
      I again wish you all the best. Keep your moral up. Show the world that you are a beautiful human being, a beautiful muslim and above all a beautiful woman, who can be a good daughter, sister and wife,
      Good luck.

      • Sana, thank you for your kind words. May Allah grant you all the best ameen.

        In view of this post I believe it was left amicably. Alhamdulila I am happy with my life but still seek forgiveness as advised by our most respected editor "muhammad waseem" from this site.

        ...I just wanted to acknowledge your message and say thank you.


      • hey sana is this surgery allowed in pakistan?

    • hey zara? when u had ur surgery which country's citizen u were? there wasnt any difficulty in changing ur docs and getting a new job..was the surgery expensive?

      • I'm a British citizen, alhamdulila I had no difficulties changing my documents there is a law here in the UK which allows transgender patients to change there birth certificate providing they go through the legal requirements via the gender recognition panel. As for getting a job, I was only around 18 when I had my surgery and I was a student, I legally changed my status at a young age therefore luckily I avoided the embarrassment of telling friends and colleagues, I graduated from Uni as a female and alhamdulila I have no problems because I am very lucky that I look female as I should. Surgery was expensive as I chose to go private, due to me having a non active uterus I wanted a specialist to handle my case, alhamdulila I am lucky with the results.

        Although I have answered your questions, I would advice anyone to seriously think about what final decision they make, alhamdulila Allah has blessed me with a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful children my life is normal, but I have seen cases where transgender women are not happy due to social acceptance. Only Allah knows if I have done wrong and all I can do is ask Allah for forgiveness.

        What ever you decided please think carefully, all the best.

        Zara x

  14. Bro Muhammad,

    lol I see what you did there. Now I do not need to clarify what I've said. Read Zara's first post properly then you'll undertsand for yourself and then read my replies, for all, I was against sex change and nothing else and now alhamdullilah Zara also considered it a mistake. Finally read her last reply, all your assumptions are opposite to Zara's answer but according to what I've replied. No one is talking about ibaadat lol, its about transgender SRS. Anyways, now I'm guessing your talking in general and not specifically about Zara is it ?

    Anyways what I find amazing is that, Zara's first few posts contradicts the last post like totally. Where, that person is now very aware and believes what was done is a ' grave sin ' (in that person's words).

    According to me that's fear struck, I'll consider that as mission accomplished . 😀 Awesome innit.

    @ Zara, may Allah ease your situation, may He have mercy on you, may He forgive you and may He help your mum. Ameen.

    • When I talk about grave mistake I talk about the job I did in order to fund my surgery, did I consider surgery a mistake, I think you must have mis read what I said or perhaps I miss wrote what I meant but just to clarify I corrected a mistake, not that I'm saying Allah made a mistake because that's like pointing fingers at everyone I don't blame anyone for my decision but I accept responsibility for my own actions.

      I don't want to mislead any other transgender person which is why I'm not sure how to address this situation me explaining a little about my history I thought would make you realise a little.

      You say that I'm fear struck because of what you said, no I'm not afraid of what you have said but I'm afraid of my Allah but I also believe Allah is most forgiving, do you want me to stop believing this?

      Do you want to punish me? It sounds like you do, instead of telling me to make dua and ask for forgiveness in this form or in a certain way to ask Allah to forgive me you have done nothing but put ill feelings in my heart,

      I think it's agreeable this issue is not an acceptable issue in society alhamdulila I pass everyday like every other female, and if I am doing wrong then Allah is whom I will answer to, I'm going to be in my grave all alone the time I have on earth let me please pray to Allah and believe he will forgive inshallah.

      Your a brother and I respect what you have tried to do but please re consider your approach, I'm a strong individual but at times you have broken me while reading your messages which I felt you was only pushing me away from islam. Alhamdulila my belief is strong therefore nothing can break that.

    • @Ali bin Abdullah al sheikh,


  15. There is one question which has risen during this thread, it has been said that what I have done is haram, if I marry a male even though I am female this has also been said that its haram,

    I'm happily married to a male I have 2 beautiful children 6 and 1, is it haram for me to continue living my life? Alhamdulila we are a happy family very religious and I want to raise my children in a good way they have been given a second chance with me, rather then breaking my family is there no way that Allah will accept my dua for forgiveness? Have I done wrong by getting married? Has my husband done when he is no fault at all?

    • Assalamu'alaikum Zara,

      I understand the situation and the discussion you have been having above. And I also believe you understand that what you did was a mistake that can't be undone, except with more pain. When you believe you have sinned and you accept it, then that is one condition of the tawbah being sincere (accepting your mistake), the second condition is that you leave the sin (which is not possible in your case), the third condition is that you do not repeat the sin.

      Now that you are living as a woman, it is not upon any Human Being or any other creation to decide what will become of you in the Hereafter. It is Allah's Decision. The sin you have done is neither Shirk, nor Kufr, but a major sin as it involves changing Allah's Creation which Allah Prohibits clearly in the Quran when He Says:

      So set you (O Muhammad ) your face towards the religion of pure Islamic Monotheism Hanifa (worship none but Allah Alone) Allah's Fitrah (i.e. Allah's Islamic Monotheism), with which He has created mankind. No change let there be in Khalq-illah (i.e. the Religion of Allah Islamic Monotheism), that is the straight religion, but most of men know not. [Tafsir At-Tabari, Vol 21, Page 41] (Surah ar Rum, Aayah 30)

      Do sincere Tawbah and never encourage anyone to go for changing one's gender. Practice Islam as you should, learning from the scholars, because they are the "heirs of the Prophets" as a Sahih Hadith mentions them.

      The doors of Tawbah are open till one dies or till the sun rises from the west (day of Judgement) if one lives till then.

      You believe in Allah and hope for His Mercy, that is important. But make sure you do not deny what the scholars say about transgender. They are certainly not the messengers, but they have evidences to what they say. You have the right to stay upon Deen, like any of us, including myself and all of the scholars of Islam.

      Concentrate on the Deen and learn from the scholars of Islam and do not be demotivated by people criticizing your past. If one commited Shirk - the greatest crime, then did Tawbah, then his tawbah is accepted, then why not yours? Keep your hopes alive and tweak your 'Aqeedah and manhaj a little to acommodate the scholars of Islam in it and following the way of the Ahlus Sunnah, and in sha Allah, even I will pray that Allah forgives you and all of us.

      Muhammad Waseem Editor

      • Jazzakallah brother, I appreciate your reply and I will take your advice, although I ask for forgiveness the way you have explained to me I agree may allah forgive me. What ever my reasons were i can now accept they were not as big as the sin I have made, however. It's impossible for me to revert or correct my sins all I can do is keep asking Allah to forgive me and take your advice and never encourage anyone to do the same.

        I do feel really guilty, up until now I have just locked it away not ever bringing it up, my husband was some one I met 7 years ago, my intentions were not to mislead him or make him fall in love with me. He assumed i was born female and asked if it was possible to meet my family for marriage, I never planned to get married but when I told him the truth he was heartbroken, I moved away from him but I didn't realise I had hurt him even more by doing this, he asked different scholers and he got mixed reviews, it was his mum who broke down and asked me to marry her son because she couldn't bare to see him hurt.

        My husband had a couple of conditions which were he wanted me to follow islam strictly and wear Islamic atir, I accepted his conditions and alhamdulila I have been very happy ever since, we have two beautiful children and live a normal life.

        Please tell me my husband hasn't committed sin for loving me, it will kill me knowing due to me my husband is going to be punished he is such a loyal man whom I can't ever see hurt, I take great pride in my beauty and appearance i always have, I don't want this to be the reason for my husband to suffer.

        I cried my heart out to him this morning but he reassured me Allah will forgive inshallah but you are a brother who is more educated in islam for my peace of mind please tell me what should I read to ask Allah for forgiveness? I will sacrifice my life for my husbands happiness and protection

        • Zara, I believe you wrote that you had had an under-active uterus which was removed for health reasons. I may be wrong, but if you had organs of both male and female, you may have an XX chromosome set (female) rather than XY (male). If this is the case, then rather than changing your sex, your surgery has resulted in the external appearance matching the genetic makeup of your body. I don't feel that this would be a sin; if we have corrective surgery, we are restoring rather than changing Allah's original creation. I don't know if this is the case for you, but it could be worth considering.

          Like you, I believe that Allah is forgiving and merciful, and that if people truly repent, they will find forgiveness and redemption. If you and your husband are afraid that your relationship may be sinful, it might be worth discussing it with a scholar from your local masjid.

          • Salaam, yes I was born with an under active uterus, this was removed because I was in extreme pain agony if I'm honest. I was told by the consultant that I should have been born female but the choice was mine if I wanted to correct my gender on the outside, I was also told I would not develop as a male hence why my voice never broke and my appearnce never became masculin, my parents were against the doctors decision but I still went ahead may allah forgive me for hurting my parents, alhamdulila my facial features are extremely famine and I'm very lucky I never had problems with facial or body hair the rest of my body naturally developed as a female, even the correction surgery has been done with amazing results were by the gynaecologist said herself it was as good as a real one.

            I am afraid to approach a scholer in my area, I live with my in laws and they are respected people I have to think about there izzat, also no one knows about my history apart from my husband and his mum knows a little but not the full story, however. I am now getting answers to my questions from this site and alhamdulila brother Muhammad has given me a dua to read which I will read constantly, I love learning new things about islam I can't explain how passionate I am about my religion may allah forgive me for my sin and make me a better muslima. Jazakallah for your help and advice it's very much appreciated may allah grant you lots of health and happiness Ameen.

        • As I said earlier, the creation has no capacity to judge whether someone will be forgiven or not. It is solely Allah's Decision.

          Your husband liked the woman in you. You were a woman in totality when he married you, right? You also became a mother of his children later. Still, if he seeks Allah's Forgiveness, it will be better.

          You did make Allah Angry by challenging His Nature and changing His Creation, but it is written on His Throne:

          ان رحمتي تغلب غضبي
          Verily, My Mercy overpowers My Wrath

          This Is our Lord Who Is The Oft Forgiving and Most Merciful. You should hope for His Mercy, but also Fear His Punishment, because whether He Forgives or not is His Decision.

          Always say this dua and ask your husband to say the same:

          اللهم مغفرتك اوسع من ذنوبي ورحمتك ارجى من عملي
          Allahumma Maghfiratuka Awsa'u min Dhunoobi wa Rahmatuka Arjaa min 'Amali ( O Allah! the extent of Your Forgiveness is far wider as compared to my sins and the extent of Your Mercy is a matter of greater hope for me than my deed)

          Allah Is full of Mercy. Repent sincerely, learn the deen from the right sources and obey your husband as he should be obeyed.

          Muhammad Waseem

          • Yes I was full female when I met my husband, we got married and we adopted our first son from an orphan, he was only a baby when he came in to our life and he has brought us so much happiness, my daughter was carried by a surrogate. I wish to have more children in the near future.

            I will always read the dua you have advised me, and I will continue to read it for the rest of my life, i will also ask my husband to read it. jazakallah for your help I will always remember you in my dua as you have brought some peace in me.

            As for obeying my husband I will continue to do so he is an amazing muslim very religious and very loyal to me, I am very fortunate to have him and his lovely family.

            Thank you kindly for your advice.

      • Assalamualaikum,

        I recently learnt something new and feel the necessity to mention it.

        When a person commits a major sin, no doubt it is neither Kufr nor Shirk, and it is upon Allah to Forgive that person or not.

        But if the person committing the sin does so, considering the sin Halaal for oneself, it leads to Kufr as it amounts to the rejection of the Order of Allah. (This may include any sin such as gender reassignment (except in case of a hermaphrodite), surrogacy, etcetera, May Allah Forgive us all and protect us from committing further sins)

        I also learnt that reversal of what has been done was possible. One who has undergone the surgery should consult a medical expert and ask for possibilities of reversal. If it is possible, then one should go back to the normal (previous) gender.

        I just felt it was necessary to let my fellow Muslim bretheren know this in order to correct themselves, abstain from committing sins and seek Allah's Forgiveness for the sins that have already been committed.

        And with Allah is all Tawfeeq.

  16. Assalam 3leykom,

    i've just recently been returning to this site after the lengthy discussion I had with 'Professor X' earlier this year....

    There are also new and more recent posts to do with transgender. I'm a trans-woman, however I identify myself as a girl only. I have never had weak faith and have always been close to Allah, in my early years and much, much more so now.

    I firstly wish to reply to a few points brought up by answerers brought up on these discussions.

    1) Someone mentioned that Shaytan is messing with you and wants to deviate you from Allah's path.
    I actually highly disagree that Shaytan can pray on someone and completely take over one's mind and soul to such a deep level so easily!!

    Shaytan is amongst the jinni, we are human souls of Allah who are actually higher in rank to jinni and we are in fact much stronger! Let alone Allahu Akbar! ...This situation is crippling for one who is going through it, others will never understand what these feelings feel like. Many years I myself was against SRS because i thought it was wrong from what people said. However the more i'm transitioning and being myself on the outside, the closer i am becoming to Allah spiritually rather than superficial people pleasing and the more i am becoming anti shaytan! Islam is about what Allah wants, it's not about the comfort of society!

    The distracting emotions and pressures are becoming less and less to me because i'm feeling more comfortable in my body....However this has not made me a vain worldly being just because i'm about to have SRS. In fact I do not fear death at all, I fear Allah! I have no desire for any worldly pleasures, however I wish to die a complete female, even if I had SRS and died the next day, Al7amdolillah!

    This may not make any logical sense to many but sorry to break it to you but life is beyond logic!
    The life of the soul, the life of the akhirah it is not binary! it is beyond! way beyond!

    2) Somebody mentioned ""operation can be carried out to reveal what is underneath" is not for transgendered."

    Sorry but i have to disagree with you! There is no denying that there is more to a human being than just the physical body! you can look at this in a metaphysical sense only and said that one is completely masculine on the outside, and disregard what this person feels on the inside just to suit the "Look" of society and change ones nature.....This actually sounds more like it's for vanity's sake! .. Why would you try to change the temperament of somebody's soul which is eternal for something that is temporary only like the body?

    Just because there is no physical femininity doesnt mean that there is no femininity of the mind (which we forget is also physical! just because we cannot see a visual difference between a male brain and a female brain doesn't mean that it should be written off from being something that is underneath to be revealed!

    More importantly than the brain... there is the temperament of one's soul! After looking at this, the body is actually just a mere vessel! and just because we see it doesnt mean it's more significant than the soul or the mind! This attitude of concentrating on physical only and holding importance to it only is actually more an attitude of vanity...

    Transgender people who are truly suffering with feelings of being trapped in a body that is of the opposite gender to their nature are actually anything but vain! Allah has made us not get attached to our body so that we know our souls better

    Where is a part of Islam that values the nature and the soul? if this world is temporary, the body is temporary therefore we must look at the soul primarily and go according to it's nature!

    I have suffered enough in my life and been put through hell on earth and back, even after SRS yes my heart feels calmer and I can concentrate on my deep relationship with Allah without being distracted by traumatizing feelings of being trapped! i'm in love with Allah! huwa 7abibi! No one can accuse me of going off the path just because I chose to transition. in fact i've come out wiser in life after going through all this. Life is still a test and just because a transgender person has transitioned and had SRS does not mean automatically that they have failed the test

    I myself as a girl who has had to live through this have gone through a grand privilege of the sense of detachment from my body and insight to which Allah has given me, as hard, suffocating and crippling as this life has been to me beyond belief, it has been such a huge gift and for such love i cannot thank Allah enough! Al7amdolillah ya rabb!

    3) Yes I agree with Prof X and those who say that you must go through the pathway of medical care who will not leave anything behind. Alot of people on here think that in the west they are waiting eagerly to give you a sex change and jumping at the fact to call you transgendered and diagnose you so.... Take it from someone who has gone through these procedures herself You don't realise just how hard it is to convince these western specialists that you are transgendered, you are looked at and examined through a fine tooth comb! They will put you through hard tasks Even before giving you any sort of treatment at all let alone hormone!

    There was a point that they put me through so many tests, and examining me so much i began to actually think "Wow, everyone seems to think i'm crazy... Am I? "

    Finally, if you are struggling, don't suppress a transgender diagnosis is not easily acquired! And is a lengthy process where you WILL need a strong faith and Allah's help! So stay close to Allah no matter what! ... And it's naive to make out that Allah will "decrease your reward and punish you" just because you transitioned... you still are going through a test, SRS is not an instant fix! The psychological trauma is eased but scars still remain which needed to be faded out, the human brain is a habitual organ, so don't seek an instant fix with SRS but see it more as a turning point, more like the beginning of a healing process which may last until death, this is the test in life, continued after SRS and treatment.

    At the end of the day, one cannot judge a situation like this unless they have the deep insight! .
    If someone thinks they can judge or dictate mine or someone elses life, then it's time to start questioning their own comfort zone which they call their faith!

    I am not Haram! I am a soul of Allah and He is ALL I have! wallahi never have I come across a love so sweet as His! Al7amdolillahi rabb-al3alamin!

    Zaynah ('Your sister in Islam')

  17. hey zaynah..i want to know that are u married? and which country do u live in?and at which age u went through the surgery?i have a friend facing the same problem for years and still struggling and fighting with that..

    • Hey, firstly, SRS for me is going to be in the coming months inshaallah! i've been waiting for it for years. But again didn't take it lightly... at first for many years i was deciding to not do it as I wasn't sure about it spiritually.

      May Allah be with your friend. I would never wish being transgendered upon anyone!'s nasty and is truly hell on earth, therefore no one has the right to judge but Allah because He is the only one who knows what someone in this situation is truly going through! Everyone should only look at their own faults because they have enough of them! ... If they think they don't then something is Definitely wrong!!

      I live in the UK. i've never been married but one day Inshaallah I hope to be, may Allah will Ameen!...

      ......As for your friend. My advice would be to make sure that they feel comfortable with everything at each stage before doing anything, by that i mean removing any doubts spiritually, personally and socially. This is important! Transition should NEVER be taken lightly!

      But one thing I stress on, to keep Allah in one's life. Really, His love is what has kept me going and guided me! wallah!
      elhamdulillahi rabb el 'alamin!.

    • dolly, Islam does not permit the surgery, unless when there is a valid shar'i excuse for it, because it goes against the command of Allah. You can read the comments above for clarity. This is a serious mattet and should not be taken lightly, as Zaynah has said. Sister Zara (look at the comments above) had "transgendered", but what she has done can't be undone. For this reason, she was asked to repent to Allah and hope for His Mercy and Forgiveness.

      But someone who has not yet done what she has, should not go ahead, except if a qualified Mufti approves the act (i.e. there is a valid shar'i reason). So ask your friend to avoid it and work on solutions that do not go beyond bounds. If after all the trying, it doesn't seem to work, she should approach a "qualified" and a "wise" Mufti, who shall advise him/her and let him/her know of the problem is an exception to this rule. Do not be influenced by governments allowing such transitions. They do not make Islam, but Islam is what makes them (that is if they follow the Sharee'ah).

      I hope the matter is clear. :) Jazakallahu Khair

      Abu Abdul Bari Editor

      • assalam aleikom.

        Actually in that case you should not state that "the surgery is not allowed" if you are advising to seek a qualified imam!... I have asked a qualified scholar personally and he said the SRS is best for me because i'm clearly struggling this much. amongst others i've seen too.. and yes they are qualified. I'm going by Islam and not by these governments. Because I don't fear muslims.. I fear Allah.

        The person in this situation is going through a struggle which you are not... and you dont see it as a struggle at all..... so I can understand you not looking into it and writing it off as haram, because it's extremely easy for you to do so. you dont have to live this agony therefore have the luxury and comfort of stating it to be haram without seeking any extra nowledge, where as i've actually sought more knowledge than you have due to having to live through it. so i'm sorry but i do know more in depth!

        One needs to have some respect for a unique situation between the human and Allah.... and Allah judges each person accordingly.

        I know this situation is socially uncomfortable for people, and there is a lot of trans-phobia... but that is no reason to irrationally write it off as haram,..

        Like this fact or not, this is the test upon non-transgendered Muslims.

        We don't need an "Excuse" to transition and have SRS.. because we have a valid Reason for it! And only Allah knows our struggle. other humans do not.

        • Actually..Let me rephrase this:

          I know this situation is socially uncomfortable for people, and there is a lot of trans-phobia... but that is no EXCUSE to irrationally write it off as haram.

          Assalam aleikum

        • What is meant by "qualified" is that a person is on the Aqeedah and Manhaj of the Sahaabah Radiyallahu Anhum. If the person you asked was such, he would never make a general statement about SRS being allowed. It is rather Haraam in general, and the proof for this is the following Aayah:

          فَأَقِمْ وَجْهَكَ لِلدِّينِ حَنِيفًا ۚ فِطْرَتَ اللَّهِ الَّتِي فَطَرَ النَّاسَ عَلَيْهَا ۚ لَا تَبْدِيلَ لِخَلْقِ اللَّهِ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ الدِّينُ الْقَيِّمُ وَلَٰكِنَّ أَكْثَرَ النَّاسِ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ
          So direct your face toward the religion, inclining to truth. [Adhere to] the fitrah of Allah upon which He has created [all] people. No change should there be in the creation of Allah . That is the correct religion, but most of the people do not know.

          The fatwaa of the "qualified" scholars is something mentioned earlier in this post. I do not gain or lose anything if you choose to disobey Allah :) but I choose to advise when I see a fellow Muslim commit a mistake or a sin. Yes, you are answerable to Allah, but I intend to inform you, so that you know and you do not meet Allah in surprise.

          Allah also Says in Surah Saad, Aayah 26:

          وَلَا تَتَّبِعِ الْهَوَىٰ فَيُضِلَّكَ عَنْ سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ الَّذِينَ يَضِلُّونَ عَنْ سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ لَهُمْ And do not follow [your own] desire, as it will lead you astray from the way of Allah ." Indeed, those who go astray from the way of Allah will have a severe punishment for having forgotten the Day of Account.

          Excuse is given when a special case is concerned. For example, a hermaphrodite, which should be referred to the "qualified" scholars.

          If you think you struggle with something unbearable, everyone has some or the other struggle and it is a part of life. Patience and abstinence from disobedience is what I would choose and I choose in times of struggle, which I have faced in my life.

          May Allah Enable us to do what is right, Aameen.

          Wassalamu'alaikum :) :)

          Abu Abdul Bari

      • I was wondering in the case of someone being born with both male and female parts,which has happened more than most people realize,what is that person supposed to do? We are not allowed to go against the command of Allah and change his work,Allah does not make defects or mistakes correct?so would this person with both male and female parts marry a man or woman?

        • This is what I mean when I say "hermaphrodite" as you can read above. What is Haraam is any case other than this, attributing the waswas as a reason for making the surgery Halaal for themselves.

          If a person is born with both male and female characteristics, then they are allowed to undergo the surgery, once their gender is determined. This is what the scholars say. The permanent committee for fataawaa was asked the following:

          The ruling regarding a hermaphrodite who bears the following characteristics:

          1- Feminine signs continued until reaching 18 years old
          2- Having feminine sexual organs
          3- Testes not located in their normal place
          4- Gene analysis is (x.y)
          5- No breasts, uterus or ovaries
          6- Primary analysis show that femininity is 60%
          7- The family prefers that this hermaphrodite grows up as a woman
          8- Changing that person's sex into a male is very complicated
          9-Changing that person's sex into a female is much easier through the help of some hormones
          10- Marriage is impossible even after the sex-changing operation is carried out
          11- The height and build is much closer to that of a man

          I hope the eminent shaykhs will issue a fatwa as soon as possible. The operation has been delayed until the fatwa is issued. May Allah preserve you!

          They replied: if it is expected that it will not be possible to distinguish the gender of that person after performing the operation and he or she will not be able to marry, the operation should not be
          carried out in this case as it will be pointless.

          The operation should be delayed until it is possible to expect that the gender will be identifiable. This is based on the Hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him) in which he said: Your blood, your property, your honor, and your person (i.e., bodies) are as inviolable to one another...

          May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.

          End quote

          I hope it is clear :)

          Abu Abdul Bari

    • Hi dolly, it's really sad to hear about your friend, I myself relate to the suffering she must be going through. How old is your friend? And what medical steps has she taken to address the issue?

      I was around 18 when I had my srs surgery, I suffered allot and unfortunately my family suffered to, although today alhamdulila I am married to a British Pakistani and I have 2 beautiful children its safe to say that alhamdulila I am very happy I have an amazing husband and in laws, however because my family relations with my own parents can never be how they should be even after everything I can say one still suffers.

      Your friend needs to think with a clear head and take in to consideration how it will affect her parents and her life after, at this moment in time listening to people say it is haraam etc should be avoided and if possible recite the Quran and have faith in Allah to guide you and your friend.

      In my case I am not going to argue with people who have an opinion against transgendered people, however only Allah knows if we are doing wrong or right. We should respect there views and acknowledge it and there is no harm in asking Allah for forgiveness, I ask Allah for forgiveness because I don't want to waste my life away without repenting to Allah only to find out I did something wrong...

      Alhamdulila my life is so much better after srs surgery, but I know an acquaintance who had srs surgery recently she is 27 and sadly she regrets it and unfortunately for her she can't turn back, which is why your friend has to come out of the form of depression and think carefully and ask Allah for guidance. Everyone needs a good friend to support them at times like this and you sound like a nice person who wants best for your friend. Inshallah Allah will show you and her the right path.

  18. Deleting your comments because they are filled with anger and harsh tone. When someone speaks from the Quran, either accept it or not, it is your choice. But what is in Quran, it is. I did not say you were a person of desire, but I mentioned that verse because Allah Ordered us not to follow desire.

    And Zaynah, it was my duty to inform, whether you want to accept this or not is your choice. Why would I be accountable? :) Please do not show anger. Instead, strive to follow the Law of Allah to the extent possible. May Allah Help you.

    And I do not have to show pride for what the Quran says. It is Allah's Word. I am answerable to Allah for what I do and you are for what you do, while the tuth is clear form falsehood. :) May Allah Guide us all.

    Abu Abdul Bari Editor

  19. Zaynah, were going to meet people who are going to try to put us down but we also will meet people who will guide us, I don't think you should take what Abu Abdul Bari has said personally if anything you should respect him for sharing his knowledge with you and the rest of us.

    I believe you have a good head on you and from the way you address things I believe you have knowledge to but at the end we are all going to go back to Allah, only Allah knows what is right and wrong.

    As for the editors of this website I believe we should show respect because if it wasn't for them people like myself wouldn't know, from my previous messages you can read they showed allot of support and guidance and I respect them for that.

    I would like to wish you all the best for your decision, and if srs is for you then good luck (its not painful as you would think)

    • my friend is 26 years old and she consulted 2 psychiatrists..she is having these feelings since she was a small child she also had the hormone test which is not balanced...she is happy dressing up and acting like a male nd she does it to the maximum she can with the permission of her family she is an amazzing daughter an amazing nd very caring and lovely person everyone loves her...she has tried to go against her will and tried being a very feminine girl at different stages of her life but was never satisfied and happy doing that,,,she has a strong faith Masha Allah she is a much better muslim and much better person than all of us around her

    • Hello Zara,
      I am Aria , a 23 year old transgender living in Pakistan is there any way i could contact you or get in touch i could really talk to someone like you ..

      • Aria, it is not possible. We do not allow the exchange of any personal contact.

        Abu Abdul Bari Editor

      • when did u came to pakistan aria and how do u manage to live in pakistan after undergoing this operation..u must have operated in some other country


  20. Dolly, I would advise your friend to speak with a medical professional in the field, and to consult reputable scholars. Sex reassignment surgery is a huge step, and cannot be reversed in most cases, so it's crucial that your friend has proper guidance and support in making a decision.

    As my fellow editor has highlighted, there is guidance to be found in the Qur'an. Where the situation is unclear, it is better to avoid making judgements ourselves and instead to ask experts for their advice and insight.

    I hope that your friend finds the help and support they need, and that whatever the outcome, they find peace with it.

    Midnightmoon editor

  21. can i contact u both in any way zaynah and zara?

  22. Phew! I just got tired reading all of them. What an argument! But the award goes to... Brother Abu Abdul BaRI 😀 * clap clap clap *

    No offense. This thread was super heavy..but jokes apart, this issue is not as black or white as we usually paint it. Only Allah knows what is right. Although i dont agree or disagree with brother ali but some ppl r born with defective eyes or facial features. In that case all parents who can afford a correction surgery will apparently go for it, so y not correct defective genitals?? but again since im not a scholar i wont judge anyone. when we talk about scholars' differing opinions then the hadith says that we should leave what we r not sure about. Like the camel hump hijab. A lot of ppl seriously criticised me for it bt i cudnt help it since my hair r volumnous..though there r differences in opinions on that too, i didnt take that as an excuse. I try to tie my bun as lowas i can but it still shows a bit and Allah knows best. We face such conflicts on daily basis and to reject what we want for His obedience is taqwa. This is a very serious issue though.

    This post was an eye opener for me. I wont b too quick in judging transgenders again.

  23. Hi, will someone please please tell me why my comments are not being posted

    • I did not delete your earlier comment. It was one of the other Editors. I'm not sure of the reason. I'm sure if you have something substantive and useful to say, your comments will be published.

      Wael Editor

      • Ok thank u brother wael,it was just a few kind words I wanted to give , which I felt needed to be said,my responses are just short and to the point sometimes that's the best,thx

  24. AS I'm going to read this ginormous thread later. I read a few points against but I know this is actually a very routine operation and hormone therapy in the Islamic Republican of Iran. In fact the state encourages it.

  25. Very interesting read it took a couple of hours to read this. I have a question, I work with a girl who is really religious beautiful and has all the qualities I want in a wife. I asked her if I could introduce my parents to hers she was hesitant but told me straight out that she has had a sex change and that her intentions were not to marry. She asked me to respect her honesty which I have I respect her so much more and it's been 2 months now and I have want to marry her. She's amazing I read my namaaz and follow Islam I'm looking for a wife who has the same qualities I have found my perfect match who turns out to be a transexual. Can I pursue this? As she has already changed and I am in love with the women she is.

    A question for zara how can I convince her to marry me did your husband say or do anything which made you realise he was the one for you? You sound like a god fearing girl I would appreciate your reply please.

    Wa salaam yasir

    • Wa Alaikum as Salam Yasir,

      Is she a woman who was previously a man? If yes, then know that she will not be able to bear children or become pregmant except with complicated external (third party) fertilization which is not allowed in Islam and surrogacy which is Haraam, too. (both are equal to Zina).

      If she is remorseful of what she did and it is not possible to reverse what she has done, then she should repent to Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'ala. Of she has considered it halaal, even after knowing that it is haraam, then the danger is that it may lead to Kufr.

      You have read that changing one's gender is haraam, but sex reassignment surgery is allowed for hermaphrodites. If the woman you refer to was a hermaphrodite and her gender was determined to be a woman, then I believe she should be able to bear because Allah would have Created in her what a lady requires for bearing children.

      In a case other than this, I advise you to choose a lady who has embraced how Allah Created her and will help you gain His Pleasure and His Jannah. Fear Allah and do what you would do for the sake of Allah and make sure it is correct.

      This is my advise.

      Abu Abdul Bari Editor

  26. I have come across a Islamic schloar from Egypt (Al-Azhar University) who issued a fatwa allowing a man in Turkey to have a sex change. In additon there are support groups out there, one on facebook - Muslim transgender and Iman.

    • A specific fatwa given to an individual is not applicable in general, except when the case is similar to other individuals. So the state of this man has to be mentioned and the wording of the fatwa as well. A mufti identifies if the person has the characeriatics of a hermaphrodite and if so, allows the surgery.

      Additonally, if the scholar you are referring to is a person upon the Quraan and the Sunnah then he would never give such a fatwa, allowing the surgery in general.

      Abu Abdul Bari Editor


    How about gays ? They think that they are woman, they feel woman, they act woman, they love none but man, they suffer life being gay without revealing themselves in some places, they fed up of hiding etc Can they go for sex change and imitate woman ?

    No. Gay men don't need hormones. They are not women. Some of them could 'desire' of being born woman but it is only a desire (as to say: "oh.. maybe someday.. i will be a butterfly!"). They would feel uncomfortable in a feminine body. Some of them just act like women... but there is difference between 'to be more feminine' and 'to be a woman'. Iran law is doing wrong with gay men, they are not women and they can't "become" women.

    A woman born with HBS has a male appearence. Due to the particular condition she's raised as a boy so she has to MODIFY her nature accordingly to her external appearence. They wear a mask and try to live as men, but i have to tell you: actually, they will never be able to do this.
    The psychological problems which are involved are only a consequence of the physical\biological problem, which is the origin, the real cause.

    Mind is psychology, Brain is biology. We can change the mind. We cannot change the brain.

    A gay man can be 'mentally' feminine or more sensitive, but never be a woman cause -to be a woman- implies having a female sexual identity, which is innate and imprinted in the brain. That's why women born with HBS start to feel better just few months after hormone therapy, even if there are not so many external changes. They take care of themselves (of their body and soul), they not indulge their desires.

    Why associating the verb 'to desire'? Why spending all of your energy on these issues (medical issues) and relating them to the verse "change Allah's Creation"?
    What about men born with Aphallia? Do they 'wish' to have a phallo for their birthday? They 'desire'? An operation is an operation: would they change Allah's Creation?
    There are a lot of cases like this.

    I know what you mean. You talk about FREE WILL. You are right. We should not indulge our free will.
    A man can't be a woman. A woman can't be a man. A HBS woman can't be a man (even if she tries and tries...). A HBS man can't be a woman.

    The transgender umbrella doesn't fit anymore. We are not FREE to choose our sexual identity.

    Ma assalam

  28. important

    I beleave that medically , it has been proved that if any of this deviated sexual disease ( fetish ) inside you , than it is advisable that you should keep your steroid at a same level for as much time until you will never feel the urge of releasing your sperm for a wrong feeling of sexual behaviour , it could take few months its could also be , a ruthless fight with iblees we seek refuge to our lord from him .

    wa salam

  29. salam....

    In Quran it is stated in Surah 24. An-Nur, Ayah 26

    Unclean women are for unclean men, and unclean men are for unclean women; and pure women are for pure men, and pure men are for pure women. They are free from the slanderer's accusations; for them there shall be forgiveness and honorable provision from Allah.

  30. im sorry i just couldnt not comment. WHAT. Is wrong with all of you 'muslims' ? the same god that made you made that transgender woman do you think she chose to look that way? Why are all of you talking about her like she is the scum of the earth. Like she is any less of a person than all of you ignorant fools? Muslim is about acceptance you all cant just talk about a creature of god this way i hope all of you get punished for the way you all kept talking about her. You all are ignorant about this please ask an imam like zakir naik or something

  31. Personally I think this should be the consensus on transgenderism in Islam: Too many religions are intolerant of other people and basic equality. It would be nice to have a faith that welcomes the LGBT community, and when Allah (SWT) says that all men and women are as equal as the teeth of a comb, this includes transgendered people. Alhamdulillah! Shame on people who are not tolerant of this type of decision a person makes. Gender is not defined by appearance of the body, but by what lies within the heart.

  32. I can understand. girls are not responding u is not the point. i think the point is u r attracted more to that transgender . I am also trapped in such delusion still. I love shemales. I am not gay and i dont like men but i dont know why i like transsexuals so much, yet i never had sex because of sin fear. i just watch movies. although i agree God created only men and women. the third term is by Shaitan but im helpless. wish i could get out of this desire

  33. assalamu alaikum
    I want to know 1 thing, Is she born with male genitals or she changed her gender?

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