My girlfriend is engaged to someone else to save her parents pride
I'm from a sikh family but I have quietly converted to Islam. My girlfriend is a muslim (memon), we met 4 years ago, we are madly in love. She never said much but naturally after studying religions, I started following Islam, but not everyone knows. I was an atheist before, I was not following any religion.
She spoke to her parents about me, and I met her parents, her mom told me everything is fine, but we would accept you only when your mother agrees to your conversion.
My father had just expired a few months back, im the only child, and my mother had only me. He died at 54 suffering from cancer, it was terrible. I explained to her mother, I said it will take time, but im sure she would agree, as it is a little difficult because i cant hurt her right away, because of my father, and she is very religious.
I asked them for time, time passed by, her mom asked me once or twice after that, i said i need little time, suddenly they engaged her to someone, but for me she broke her engagement, and her parents got mad at her, she stood by me, her parents were only worried about their reputation. After this i spoke to my mom as i felt that they are trying to take her away from me, my mom agreed, but now, they were against me, no matter what i did, because that guy with whom she broke the engagement, spread the news that she is seeing a kafir, not knowing that I follow islam.
Its just that i have not legally changed everything, her parents were worried that who will marry her now, whole of the memon community knows about this now, one of her cousin shows up, and proposes for marriage, her mom cries and begs to her and she's engaged again, because her mother is a heart patient as well as diabetic, so just to shut the previous guys mouth, they engaged her to this guy.
I want to marry her she wants to marry me, and i want to convert legally and have a happy life. My mom would allow and understand legal conversion only when i get married to this girl, we are going through a very bad time, we cant leave each other. Once she wanted to get a court marriage done, but i said no because i cared for her parents and she has a younger sister too. I always wanted to marry her with her parents being happy about it, i just took time to convince my mother.
If i cant marry her, i wouldn't be able to practice islam the way i would when we would be together and everyone would know, that i have legally converted, and she would support me and i would learn more, other wise i would just go through depression.
Im really tensed, if i was not able to phrase the situation correctly, forgive me, what should we do, please advice,
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