The boy I love lost his virginity to someone else
Salaam. I've just joined this site and I was wondering if I could get any advice.
I'm 19 years old and my best friend who is a male is the same age as me. We have a good friendship - no physical contact. We both wish to marry INSHALLAH in the coming years when we are of suitable age. I've known him for three years, and we mean a lot to each other.
Before he told me that he was a virgin, and I said okay. Today he's telling me that he's so sorry he lied to me but he sort of lost it to his ex-girlfriend. I'm devestated, I feel heart broken but I think I love him.
When we talk, and he first told me how he wanted to marry me I was so relieved as I felt the same, so we're waiting for the right age to get married. He is very sorry for what he has done and has apologised so many times to me today.
He is also now a quite good muslim - in his past he was not. Since I've met him, I myself have become a better muslim (I've started to pray all my prayers and am striving to achieve more) He has done many dua's for us to get married and I can tell he cares for me a lot, almost love?
I'm just so devestated right now. I've been crying for the past 2hours since I've been told; I've prayed and done dua for patience (I'm impatient) and asked for guidance to the right way. I have myself done dua's for us to be together if that's what Allah wishes for us to happen, as Allah knows best.
I mean so much to him - he has only one older brother as his two sisters passed away at very young ages. He's been through so much and I'm one of the people he loves. We've gone through so much. He's the only guy I speak to. I've never been in a relationship as it's wrong and I'm totally against it. He promised me his virginity and has apologised for lying to me as it's lost (he's not sure if it's lost or not)?
I just don't know what to do. I want to forgive him as he forgave me for my lie so it's only fair. I get hurt so easily. What can I do? Is there something I can read for patience, happiness, and strength. I don't want to leave him and move on from him as I still want to get married to him, and we both have strong feelings for each other, which we think will develop.
How can I forget this, and move on from what he's told me? Is there something I can read to help it go away? He hates and regrets what he's done so much.
Please give me some advice on this. I don't want to leave him, but how can I overcome the pain?
Shukar Allah brothers and sisters!
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