Comments on: My family does not practise Islam. How can I guide them? http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/ Islamic marriage advice and family advice Sun, 12 Feb 2012 02:36:31 +0000 hourly 1 By: Mohd http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-41881 Mohd Thu, 03 Nov 2011 07:03:40 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-41881 Dont listen to brother... He's trying to stop you from praying, That's a devilish thing to do. Dont listen to brother... He's trying to stop you from praying, That's a devilish thing to do.

]]> By: Violet http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-41832 Violet Thu, 03 Nov 2011 01:52:52 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-41832 Hi, what should I do.. I like to look up namaaz for special nights (Extra namaaz not the obligatory namaaz lool) and it takes some time to you know copy and paste all the instructions and stuff and finally print it out, and my sibling gets extremely mad at me and he wants me to spend time with him, but I don't feel like watching tv when I can be doing something which is soo much better (pray) he always says youre just trying to do all this just for show, all of this is going to do nothing for you or says youre doing this 24/7 and when im praying (the extra namaaz) he says stuff like Hah you did it all wrong and I got fed up and said why the heck do you prevent me from doin this!? just because u dont want to be on the right track doesnt mean i have to follow you? and he got extremely mad at me! Sometimes I feel like just living somewhere else where I can be as religious as I please, regardless of sins that I have commited in the past... what do you think about this? Hi, what should I do.. I like to look up namaaz for special nights (Extra namaaz not the obligatory namaaz lool) and it takes some time to you know copy and paste all the instructions and stuff and finally print it out, and my sibling gets extremely mad at me and he wants me to spend time with him, but I don't feel like watching tv when I can be doing something which is soo much better (pray) he always says youre just trying to do all this just for show, all of this is going to do nothing for you or says youre doing this 24/7 and when im praying (the extra namaaz) he says stuff like Hah you did it all wrong and I got fed up and said why the heck do you prevent me from doin this!? just because u dont want to be on the right track doesnt mean i have to follow you? and he got extremely mad at me!
Sometimes I feel like just living somewhere else where I can be as religious as I please, regardless of sins that I have commited in the past... what do you think about this?

]]> By: serendipity http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-40021 serendipity Mon, 24 Oct 2011 03:11:16 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-40021 Sr. Z Thanks for the vote of confidence in me :) Well, my oldest nephew (26 yr) is marrying a nonmuslim and the next one (21 yr) has a live in relationship for the past 4 years.....my siblings keep me away from these nephews (and their younger ones aged 20, 19, 18 yrs) bec they think, as I said above, "too religious" and don't WANT them to learn from me about Islam, and you are right, Sr. Z, it hurts to see them straying. The fiance of the one who is getting married is a sikh girl and apparently acc to my sister has wanted to know about Islam - I offerred that she could talk with me anytime and since then this girl does not answer my emails/Skype with me when she used to make contact with me atleast once a week. I think I have done my duty and rather than burn the bridges of civility that exist between us, I will stay away from discussing religion at all with them. May Allah understand that I tried and have been rejected, and bring them back by opening their hearts to Him and His way. Ameen. Sr. Z
Thanks for the vote of confidence in me :)
Well, my oldest nephew (26 yr) is marrying a nonmuslim and the next one (21 yr) has a live in relationship for the past 4 years.....my siblings keep me away from these nephews (and their younger ones aged 20, 19, 18 yrs) bec they think, as I said above, "too religious" and don't WANT them to learn from me about Islam, and you are right, Sr. Z, it hurts to see them straying. The fiance of the one who is getting married is a sikh girl and apparently acc to my sister has wanted to know about Islam - I offerred that she could talk with me anytime and since then this girl does not answer my emails/Skype with me when she used to make contact with me atleast once a week.
I think I have done my duty and rather than burn the bridges of civility that exist between us, I will stay away from discussing religion at all with them. May Allah understand that I tried and have been rejected, and bring them back by opening their hearts to Him and His way. Ameen.

]]> By: SisterZ http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-40012 SisterZ Sun, 23 Oct 2011 22:30:13 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-40012 Dear Sister, You are not a 'fundo'. It so hard though when we see our loved ones drifting away on to the wrong path. Keep being a 'loving' but 'firm' aunt, giving 'reminders' when appropriate, at the same time trying to keep the door of 'communication' open. Its tough. So remember, you can only try - the rest is up to Allah. Allah guides whom He wills. SisterZ IslamicAnswers.com Editor Dear Sister,

You are not a 'fundo'. It so hard though when we see our loved ones drifting away on to the wrong path. Keep being a 'loving' but 'firm' aunt, giving 'reminders' when appropriate, at the same time trying to keep the door of 'communication' open. Its tough. So remember, you can only try - the rest is up to Allah. Allah guides whom He wills.

SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor

]]> By: Abu Az-Zubayr http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-40009 Abu Az-Zubayr Sun, 23 Oct 2011 22:10:10 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-40009 i see, because there are like seven posts of different situations under the same username i see, because there are like seven posts of different situations under the same username

]]> By: serendipity http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-40008 serendipity Sun, 23 Oct 2011 22:09:35 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-40008 Br. Abu Ahmad You have shared wonderful ways of asking Allah to guide loved ones back to the path of Islam. I am unmarried and have no kids, but love my nephews dearly. However, their parents (my siblings and their spouses) think I am "too religious" because they are not practising Islam in their daily lives but are after the duniyah, hence their sons are into drinking and premarital sexual relations etc. How can I do what you have suggested if I cannot get to hold/hug my siblings and my nephews to be able to rub their chests (and get them to wonder if I have gone nuts doing that!!)? I do not want my parents bloodline to be away from Islam, when they are good muslims and gave us all good values, but as we grew older, my siblings drifted away. I am inshallah planning for hajj next year and have been told that I am a "fundamentalist". thanks Br. Abu Ahmad
You have shared wonderful ways of asking Allah to guide loved ones back to the path of Islam. I am unmarried and have no kids, but love my nephews dearly. However, their parents (my siblings and their spouses) think I am "too religious" because they are not practising Islam in their daily lives but are after the duniyah, hence their sons are into drinking and premarital sexual relations etc. How can I do what you have suggested if I cannot get to hold/hug my siblings and my nephews to be able to rub their chests (and get them to wonder if I have gone nuts doing that!!)? I do not want my parents bloodline to be away from Islam, when they are good muslims and gave us all good values, but as we grew older, my siblings drifted away. I am inshallah planning for hajj next year and have been told that I am a "fundamentalist".

thanks

]]> By: SisterZ http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-39993 SisterZ Sun, 23 Oct 2011 19:09:29 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-39993 'Back in those days' - Thats funny Wael, you make us both sound like dinasaurs or from the 'black and white' days as I used to say (black and white, as in non colour tv). Hmm, now wheres my walking stick old' boy? SisterZ IslamicAnswers.com Editor 'Back in those days' - Thats funny Wael, you make us both sound like dinasaurs or from the 'black and white' days as I used to say (black and white, as in non colour tv).

Hmm, now wheres my walking stick old' boy?

SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor

]]> By: wael http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-39990 wael Sun, 23 Oct 2011 18:57:50 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-39990 Back in those days we used to allow people to send their questions by email, then we would post the questions on their behalf. So you'll see many older posts that were posted by me or SisterZ. We stopped doing that because the number of questions arriving by email was impossible to handle. We were literally getting 20 questions per day. By requiring people to log in and write their own questions, we have made the process somewhat more difficult, but at least now the number of questions is down to a somewhat more manageable level (though the waiting period is still more than a month). Wael IslamicAnswers.com Editor Back in those days we used to allow people to send their questions by email, then we would post the questions on their behalf. So you'll see many older posts that were posted by me or SisterZ.

We stopped doing that because the number of questions arriving by email was impossible to handle. We were literally getting 20 questions per day.

By requiring people to log in and write their own questions, we have made the process somewhat more difficult, but at least now the number of questions is down to a somewhat more manageable level (though the waiting period is still more than a month).

Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor

]]> By: SisterZ http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-39979 SisterZ Sun, 23 Oct 2011 16:12:45 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-39979 No. This post was written by a sister called 'Deniz'. But because she couldnt submit it for some reason, she emailed it to us and I posted it, hence my name appears at the top. Funny huh, it looks as though I submitted it and then answered it myself too. SisterZ IslamicAnswers.com Editor No. This post was written by a sister called 'Deniz'. But because she couldnt submit it for some reason, she emailed it to us and I posted it, hence my name appears at the top. Funny huh, it looks as though I submitted it and then answered it myself too.

SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor

]]> By: Abu Az-Zubayr http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/my-family-does-not-practice-islam/comment-page-1/#comment-39975 Abu Az-Zubayr Sun, 23 Oct 2011 13:45:42 +0000 http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=2731#comment-39975 sisterz, is it not you who posted this text?" sisterz, is it not you who posted this text?"

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