My wife is cheating on me
My wife and I have been married for 27 years and I found out she was cheating on me with multiple men. I forgave her and told her to stop this nonsense, she said she would, but a few days later she was doing it again. She left me and our two lovely children to continue her intimate relationships at another house.
During the day she preaches islam but at night she is a different person. The first person she got involved with scammed her for a lot of money, talking pictures of her naked body through her camera on the computer. Unfortunately this man threaten to release her photos onto the internet "social media" unless she paid this man hundreds of dollars, needless to say she paid him the money what he asked for.
I have files on her having internet sex "cybersex" with 7 other men and when I confronted her about all these men she said it was ok to do this under Islam law. Please can someone explain to me and verify the truth in her statement because I dont believe her. ....... Thanks you in advance........
Brother Thomas
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OP: During the day she preaches islam but at night she is a different person.......I have files on her having internet sex "cybersex" with 7 + men and when I confronted her about all these men she said it was ok to do this under Islam law.
She is bringing a bad name to Islam. Unfortunately there are many many people who pretend to be very religious but are just opposite in their real lives
Assalaamualaikam
I'd be curious to know what rationale she gave for saying cybersex is permissible... Honestly, I've never come across anything that could support this viewpoint. Islam teaches that we should have modesty - where's the modesty in exchanging explicit pictures and messages with strangers on the internet?
If you and she are both committed to trying to fix this relationship, then she'll need to put a stop to all of this. It may be that some marital counselling might help. Sometimes, people can turn to things like cybersex for external validation because of difficulties in how they cope with life and how they see themselves and others - if this is an issue for your wife, then she could get professional help from a therapist.
But there's no excuse for her continuing this sort of behaviour. It's disrespectful to you, to Islam and to herself... and setting a terrible example for her children. If she refuses to change, then you may need to consider whether you can stay in this marriage or whether divorce is needed.
Pray istikhara before making any big decisions. Trust in Allah that He will guide you to what is best.
Midnightmoon
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Her behaviour is appalling especially after 27 years of marriage! Any inappropriate contact with a non mahram is prohibited in Islam, that's way before getting to the stage of cyber sex. She's making a fool out of you by saying that. She doesn't seem to feel any remorse for her behaviour. It's best you give her an ultimatum, She either takes you and the marriage seriously and stops her disgusting behaviour or she leaves. I really hope and pray she comes to her senses and puts a stop to this and works sincerely and wholeheartedly on the marriage. May Allah swt guide her and make things easy for you, Ameen.
She is lying about Islam which is punishable, she is cheating her husband which is punishable, she is with other men which is punishable and she is showing her naked body to men which is punishable. Whatever the punishment can be, first the husband has to find out whether their marriage is intact , because there are some activities which break the marriage, her husband must check hadith and Quranic verses to find out the condition of breakage of marriage, if the marriage is broken automatically then living together is haram.
There is nothing which "breaks" or invalidates a marriage except divorce.
Wael
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Brother Thomas ,r u converted to islam ? ISLAM has strict rules and all of her actions are Un Islamic and sinfully ..I will suggest you to divorce her .
To be honest Islam or no Islam, even an athiest husband wouldn't tolerate his wife cheating on him, including cyber sex and showing naked images of herself. That's just disgusting behaviour. A marriage is a commitment, there should be no other man or woman involved with the couple. She needs to repent and stop her sinful behaviour or you need to let her go. Also she's old enough to know what's right and wrong, she should be a role model to her two children, she's failing as a muslimah, a wife and a mother.
salaam, are you sure she is mentally stable?, i think their is something wrong with her, may Allah bless her with sense, and guide her to the straight path
I want to know if she is mentally ok number 2. If yes then I want to ask her hwo she has justified cybersex or any intimate relationship is allowed outside marriage? She is playing you and you need to get rid of her. I think you should give her the boot and divorce her. That behaviour is wrong in so many levels and out far away from Islam.