Need to make parents agree to our nikah
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I am from India. My question is I am in love with a man who is Pathan and we both love each other. We are in the relation from 3 years and we both have decided for nikah. My parents are not agree to the nikah but the problem is that we both can't live without each other so please help me out so that my parents and his parents agree. Please you give me something to make the parents agree. Please help me out.
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Assalaamualaikam
If you and this guy want to have a halal relationship with your parents' approval, he will need to persuade them that he is the right man for you. He and his family should come to your parents with a proposal, and he should provide them with evidence that he is a practising Muslim of good character. If your parents reject his proposal for a non-Islamic reason (eg. skin colour, caste - which isn't Islamic -, etc.) then he could approach an imam from his mosque and ask them to help mediate.
However, there's no easy way to simply make someone think the way you want them to think, and it may be that your parents aren't agreeing for valid reasons. If you and this guy have been in a haraam relationship for 3 years, that implies things about his character and iman which may mean your parents will not feel he would be a good husband for you.
Remember as well, to pray for repentance for transgressions - you might want to read our articles on tawbah and repentance. Allah is Most Merciful, and has given His guidance to help us, so we should all try our best to heed it.
Midnightmoon
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