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Salam Aleykum, I am writing this post because I really need some advice, please not criticism. I embraced Islam a little ago, but throughout the way I found a boyfriend not yet Muslim and I consequently got pregnant. He'll in sha Allah embrace Islam as we are planning to get married and build up a family seriously, however I'd need information about what this sin can cause in the future or hereafter, what this sin can spiritually affect our baby since all we did were known as haram and what do we need to do to purify ourselves before getting marriage.
Thank you.
kamikomex
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Assalaamualaikam
Firstly, congratulations are in order - Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed you twice - by guiding you to embrace Islam and by giving you the gift of a new life.
Any sins a person commits are theirs alone, so the actions of you and your boyfriend will not be counted as sins by your child - all children are born innocent. It's important now to make sure that you take the best care of your baby that you can.
If your boyfriend is planning to accept Islam, I'd advise that he do so as soon as he can, inshaAllah. We never know what tomorrow will bring, so we shouldn't risk leaving such important things for another day. Once he does so, inshaAllah, the two of you could then speak with an imam about having a nikah. That way the two of you can become halal for each other.
If you haven't already, have a look at the information on this website about tawbah (see the heading "Tawbah in Islam" at the top of the page) - inshaAllah you may find that helpful in repenting for any sins that have occurred.
It would be worth speaking with an imam about your situation, to clarify when the two of you can marry and how to go about arranging this. I'm not entirely sure what the protocol would be for a couple who are embracing Islam at different times and who are expecting a baby together, so it'd be important to clarify this.
In the meantime, try to find a "New to Islam" class and/or a sisters-only study group. That way you can learn more about Islam and make new friends. Welcome to Islam, sister, and may Allah bless you with a happy and healthy baby.
Midnightmoon
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In addition to what sister Midnightmoon said above, Imam Abu Hanifa (may Allah be pleased with him) expressed that he does not see any problem in that, if the both of you hide the sin and get married before giving birth to the baby. Therefore, if your boyfriend is really convinced about embracing Islam, then he should embrace it, even today, and then focus on planing to get married soon. The nikah does not need to be with a big celebration at the moment--you may both do the nikah, in other words, the marriage contract (which will make the two of you lawful for each other), and then postpone any party/walimah you may intend to celebrate, till when you are completely ready and prepared for it, inshaAllah.
As for what you need to do before marriage, or what could happen in the hereafter, the answer is that, you need to repent sincerely in this life, do good deeds, and die as a believer--if the both of you do so, and raise your children on the same path, Allah will replace your previous sin with good deeds, out of His grace, and therefore you and your husband, together with your children, will be among the sincere and righteous in Jannah in the hereafter, inshaAllah.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says: