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Our love is impossible...

Assalamu alaikum

I'm a female, from somewhere out the earth. My story is, I have been loving a guy through just visual media. I mean like we didn't even talk each other in mobile atleast once nor has met each other yet he loves me to the core with all the deen he has for allah.

I always make sure to remind him about Allah each minute, and being a best companion to remind about Allah everytime. I have been next to him all the time, Alhamdhulillah. We repent always,

We love each other with all the deen we have for allah yet he belongs to a family where in their village they never allow outsiders to marry their son/daughter. He's a person who loves his mother so much, so when he knew it's impossible to marry me he started to move with me like as a friend. And stays like a close friend.

I know very well I was doing a sin by talking to non mehram, eventhough he was the only guy I talk to. Yet it didn't grew me much impact when he changed his mind.

Now I'm totally under a doubt... How come guys could change their feelings very quickly?  Isn't this seems like some irony behaviour by cheating on a girl?  Or am I having a bad impact on guys because of him? 

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  1. Assalam wa Alikum sister

    You know that it is a sin to talk to a non mahram but you still are, please stop even if he is the only guy, it is still wrong. You seem like a sister who knows this so even if you think this is a little sin, don't think of it that way as no one knows what sins Allah will forgive.

    Man changing their feelings quickly is not exclusively to just men but even women can change their feelings quickly. You can't get into any particular persons head and figure out why this is as only Allah knows. This is something we can only guess. I think what you really asking is about him, you want to know why has he changed his feeling towards you.

    The question you should really be asking yourself is, why are you continuing a relationship with him whose parents would never except him to marry a girl outside his village. It would be hard for him to go against his parents wishes because the Quran states how important it is to respect parents "Allah has forbidden for you to be undutiful to your mothers." (Sahih Al-Bukhari) and Speaking in the Quran, "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents; to Me is thy final Goal." (31:14).

    Hope that answer your questions

  2. Asalaam Walaikum.

    (Lets just take the Haram element out for a second as you know what you did was wrong)

    Why would you want to marry someone who clearly cares more about what others think than whats best for him and you.

    Lets say for argument sake you did marry him, I reckon your feelings and thoughts will always be 2nd and what the society thinks and says will be first.

    Hes not worth it if you ask me. May Allah bless you with a beautiful pious husband who isnt afraid to go againt society and protects you ... Ameen!

  3. Stay away from him, sister Love before wedding is haraam, and even friendship without self interest is bitter truth. Your linked with him because still there is some love for him hidden in your heart. Please understand that it may spoil you and your future, cut all relations, treat this moment as allah has saved you from the bad future. Lisen to allah and forget and wash your brain.

  4. Salaam Sister,

    Awesome name by the way, Ferrero Rocher, love the chocolate.

    You seen most men/boys are not as emotional as girls/women, so it's easy for them to move on to other women.

    I suggest forget about him as he didn't even try to convince his family members that he wants to marry you, he just changed his behaviour towards you. How do you think this kind of guy will be able to keep you happy in the future ?

    Repent for your sin of having a non mehram friend. Keep learning and practicing more about deen. Inshallah you will get a very good Husband in the future.

    May Allah bless you with a wonderful Husband.

  5. As salamu alikum .. Sister ( i dont suggest u) i request you from bottom of my heart to listen to the lectures of yasmin mogahed on heartbreak/healing a broken heart/advice for those who think they are in love and many more just youtube it wallahi by Allah all your questions will b answered.. And it will be clear what you need to do ..May allah show every one of us the right path... Its natural to fall in love but we need to do that in a right way ..

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