Parents blocking marriage with cousin
My parents are not convincing me for my marriage. The person who I love is my second cousin. He belongs to my mother's family. My mother and his father had some family issues in the past, and they don't want my marriage with him. He is a good, religious guy.
I talked to my parents, and now they are saying that he has to wait for 2 years unitl I complete my graduation. But they know that it's impossible because we hav an age gap of 8 years. He is 28 years old, and he already waited for me for the last 2 years. Now his family is seeking a marriage for him, so how can I convince my parents? Please tell me.
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Asalamu alikum,
unfortunatley my dear i dont know or i dont think anyone knows the secret to letting your parents get you married.
All you can do is make lots of dua, pray istikhara and have a frank discussion with your parents.
Maybe you can ask them to do a nikah, so you can start looking for home together and plan the wedding while you are halal. and then after you are done school you can move in.
Is there a reason they object to the marriage? are they concerned about your studies? do they not want you to be distracted? maybe find out the reason and try to see if it makes sense.
In any way, be patient my dear and inshallah keep discussing with them why its important to you and inshallah if its meant to be you will be married eventually.
As-salamu alaykum sister,
You've already convinced your parents halfway. They say you have to wait two years, right? Maybe you can work with that. Let your family discuss it with his family. Maybe the two of you can conduct your nikah now, with the agreement that you will continue to live with your parents for the next two years until you complete your education. Then you can live as a married couple, and in the meantime the two of you can talk and spend time together when possible.
Wael
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