Parents not allowing marriage because he is Alevi
I want to get married with a friend I've known for a few years now, I know he's the one and I'm in love with him. The thing is I'm Sunni and he is Alevi. I don't want to do anything in the haram way, so I'd like to get married to him but my mother is saying no because he is Alevi and saying that my father will also not want to give me away to him. I believe this is very unfair as he himself is a very good person.
We are both turkish, therefore turkish alevis are basically the same as us but are abit more laid back. I know we believe certain things differently in religion, but he doesn't mind and will continue learning the religion my way if thats what it takes. I don't want to have to leave home without my parents blessings in order to marry him, but if my parents keep saying no because of that reason I think I might have to. He is Muslim in the end and the same nationality as me, shouldn't that be all that matters?
What can i possibly do? My father is very strict and will not change his mind. What will happen if I leave home and marry him without my father acting as my wali..I really do NOT want to do this because i love my family very much and worry about the future sometimes..but i really do think he is compatible for me and would love a future with him, but my parents will not allow it just because he is alevi, doesn't it say that a muslim should never outcast another muslim due to these different sects? is what my parents are doing right? what can i do, convincing my parents will not really work.
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