Please make dua for me after abortion
Abortion Recovery
Asalamualaikum,
I had an abortion 3 days ago at 12 weeks. I was pregnant from zina, I know I was doing wrong I tried to cut all ties with the guy but I don't know why I couldn't. I asked for some way out but ended up falling pregnant.
I didn't want to have an abortion, I wanted to keep my baby but the father didn't. I am not going to go into you much detail of what he did but after 2 months of constant arguing and pressure I gave in and went for the appointment. I failed as a woman, I failed as a daughter, a mother and most of all I disappointed Allah. I prayed for another route to keep my baby but maybe my duas weren't sincere enough. Whilst I was in the clinic all I did was make dua for something to go wrong so I could keep my angel and asked Allah to protect my child but before I knew it I woke up from the surgical abortion and they told me it was done. I said nothing and showed no emotion, once I got home it hit me so hard. I stayed in bed crying and blaming everyone around me. I wondered why my mother did not notice what was happening to me and why my baby's father could be so heartless.
I listened to some sisters who were talking about a mother sacrifice and that's when I realised no one is to blame but me. I should've fought the world if I had to and protected my baby. I was wrong and I can do nothing but repent. While I was at this talk I made dua hoping the abortion had failed. I asked Allah to protect my baby and I have complete faith that Allah did. I want to request all you good hearted people to please make dua that the abortion did fail and my baby is safe inside me as I am feeling like it did fail. I'm more than willing to sacrifice my life for my child.
Also are the any books I can read or advice from anyone on how to deal with this? I have started to only speak to Allah about my heartache and I believe I will be forgiven one day and Allah will guide me into the path of being a good Muslim. I know I should cut ties with my baby's father but I do still care for him and am making dua he finds his path and meets me on his way there so we can do things right after repenting sincerely. Please everyone keep me in your duas, I'm nowhere without Allah's help.
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Asalaam Walaikum my dear sister.
It tore my heart reading your post, it must be a difficult time for you.
Lets say for arguement sake what you have done is Murder. There was a man who had killed about 100 people and that man did sincere tawbah and Allah granted him Jannah. So sister please don't despair Allahs mercy, if you do, then this is what shaytaan wants us to feel.
The fact you feel bad shows you have Imaan and what you have written clearly describes a soul yearning for Allah. You say you are willing to Sacrifice your life for your child then do exactly that - Become the best Muslimah you can, adhere to the rules Allah has set out. Insha'Allah this child you never met could be the exact reason you change your life for the better.
"Those with the worst past make the best futre" - Umar Ibn Khattab.
Start praying Salah if you havent done so already and read Qur'an, you say you are talking to Allah trust me there is no-one better to talk to so keep doing that and Allah will grant you your du'as. Sabr is all you can do now my sister.
Be strong and carry on making du'a - I would reccomend you cut ties with the man because we should never be with someone assuming we will be ble to change them because this rarely happens tbh.
Sometimes Allah allows certain things to happen in our life to get closer to him, you can find stories online and even if you meet people they will tell you the life they led before the changed - You say you asked Allah for a way out maybe this was your only way, we all have different wake up calls and this is yours.
Dont let this opportunity to pass my dear sister ... become the best and I will make du'a for you to find Happiness in this life and May Allah grant you Jannat Ul Firdous and a beautiful pious Husband ... Ameen.
Salam .Well i guess you learned from this experience.Was having sex really worth it.Unless you dont change your life 360 degrees and start to obey Allahs commandments and the teachings of our prophet muhammad you can never be successful in this life or the hereafter.No matter how much money a person has or status or fame this person will always face failure!!!!So repent and learn deen keepaway from all evils because shaitan will try it again.
THINK about your comments damco. "Was having sex really worth it" is a hurtful, unnecessary comment. Do you think she thinks it was worth it? If you read her post with any kind of attention you would see how much pain and regret she feels. So ask yourself, what is your purpose in leaving such comments? Is it to show your superiority? Or do you truly wish to help? If you wish to help then try to imagine how that person is feeling, and then kindly and compassionately suggest to them a way forward.
Wael
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Wsalam dearest sister,
Every single word in your post speaks of your agony and anguish. May Allah Swt make it easy for you. Ameen.
I write only to encourage you in your struggles and to assure you that you will be in my prayers.
I do know that turning to Allah alone and confiding our deepest, most painful secrets/ thoughts/actions to Him and Him only is the soothiest remedy I have ever known.
Assalamu Alaikum sis. I have been through the same thing and it has almost been a year. I was gone half the time of yourself. I don't know if my words can be of any help but know that you are not alone. To this day I do feel extreme regret and pain. I suffered from severe depression but I have left it all to Allah now and I hope to be forgiven one day. I agree with Brother Jaaz that maybe we needed this as a wake up call because for so long I was blinded by the shaitaan and his evil deeds. The fact we feel regret and sadness shows that Allah wants us to turn to him and he is ALWAYS there and will always be there for us. Don't lose hope and hold onto your faith as strong as you can and never let go.
My duas are with you sister. May Allah heal our hearts and make us the best of Muslims. Ameen.
Assalamualikum,I want to ask that it is possible to get pregnant after having sex 4 years ago?
Rida, no, it is not possible. Sperm can survive in the female's body for only about five days.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
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Is there any other way to get pregnant without having sex?
Assalaamualaikum
Pregnancy requires sperm from the man to meet with an egg from the woman. Generally speaking, that requires penetrative sex.
Modern science can provide assistance in conceiving for couples who have difficulties, including procedures such as IVF. There have been reports of pregnancy occurring after other forms of sexual activity, if viable sperm is introduced to the woman's reproductive system, but most of these reports are unconfirmed.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Assalamualaikum sister although this your post happened many years ago but im actually going through the same phase right now and alihamdullilah I've repent to Almighty Allah swt and I've started observing my five daily prayers and Reading my Quran sometimes Masha Allah but what I'm most scared of right now is that I tell some people about this which I later know that it's another major sin to uncover what Allah has concealed for one