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Salat Al-Istikhara in Arabic

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Chinese Muslims praying in Xinjiang China

"Istikhara" means to seek goodness from Allah (Exalted is He), meaning when one intends to do an important task they do istikhara before the task.

The one who does the istikhara is asking Allah Almighty, the Knower of Unseen (Exalted is He) to guide him or her to know whether the task is better for him or not.

Salat al-Istikhara is a powerful tool that Allah has given us to ask His guidance in all matters. We should not hesitate to pray Istikhara before making any choice in our lives, big or small.

It's important to do this prayer with sincerity, knowing in our hearts that only Allah can give us the guidance we seek, and resolved to follow the guidance He gives us, even if it clashes with our own desires.

We should also say the duaa with firm conviction, not begging or pleading, but asking Allah clearly for guidance.

And we should not be impatient after our duaa. We do not put Allah on a timetable. And we should not expect some sort of miracle, or a dream full of signs and symbols. These things are not necessary. We simply say our prayers and trust that Allah has heard us and will answer us in the way that is best.

We have several articles about Salat-al-Istikhara on this website, IslamicAnswers.com. Take the time to read the articles and learn how to perform the Istikhara prayer properly. It will benefit you tremendously in your life choices.

According to Bukhari, Volume 2, Book 21, Number 263:

Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: The Prophet (Sallal Laho Alaihi Wasallam) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara, in all matters as he taught us the Suras of the Quran. He said, "If anyone of you thinks of doing any action he should offer a two Rakat prayer other than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer):

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Salat Al-Istikhara in Arabic

TRANSLATION: "O Allah! I seek goodness from Your Knowledge and with Your Power (and Might) I seek strength, and I ask from You Your Great Blessings, because You have the Power and I do not have the power. You Know everything and I do not know, and You have knowledge of the unseen. Oh Allah! If in Your Knowledge this action ------------------------------------------------ (which I intend to do) is better for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then make it destined for me and make it easy for me and then add blessings [baraka'] in it, for me. O Allah! In Your Knowledge if this action is bad for me, bad for my religion and faith, for my life and end [death], for here [in this world] and the hereafter then turn it away from me and turn me away from it and whatever is better for me, ordain [destine] that for me and then make me satisfied with it."

WAY TO PERFORM ISTIKHARA:
First pray Two Cycles (raka') of ritual Prayer (nafil) such that in the first raka' after Surah Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Kafirun (Chapter 109) and in the second raka' after Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Ikhlas (Chapter 112). After finishing prayer recite this (supplication/dua'): Dua in Arabic Text above.

How many times?
It depends. Sometimes it takes only once to get the answer and sometimes it takes longer. It is better to do istakhara seven (7) times. If you have received an answer, you may stop doing istikhara. You do not have to continue to do isitkhara for 7 days. It is better that right after reciting the supplication, given above, sleep with ablution (people who cannot keep the ablution for longer times due to health problems do not have to worry about ablution before falling asleep) facing the direction of the Qibla (facing the Qibla is not required but it is a Sunnat of our beloved Prophet Peace Be Upon Him). It is better to recite salutations (durood/ salawat) on the Prophet Allah's Grace and Peace be upon him before and after the above Dua (supplication).

THE IMPORTANCE OF ISTIKHARAH

Allah says in the Holy Qur'an: "And it is very possible that you dislike something whereas it is good for you; and (similarly) it is very possible that you like something whereas it is bad for you". (Baqarah 16)

From the above ayah, we learn that man has limited knowledge and deficient intellect. Therefore, many a times, he may desire something, which may prove harmful to him, and on the other hand, he may dislike something, while it is good for him. The sole possessor of perfect knowledge, and the only knower of the unseen is Allah, the Creator of man and the Controller of the system of the entire universe. Therefore if man desires good, he can only find it in the hands of Allah. According to one Hadith: "It is from the good fortune of man that he makes Istikharah (seeks good) from Allah, and it is from his misfortune that he discards Istikharah."

'Allamah Aini (RA) writes: "Man should never overlook any matter due to its insignificance and discard Istikharah. How many matters are regarded as insignificant and Istikharah is not made for them, due to which great harm is suffered when carrying them out or abandoning them. It is for this reason that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) is reported to have said: "(Every) one of you should ask his need from his sustainer to the extent that he should ask Him for salt, and for a shoelace when it breaks."

"Allamah Ibnul Qayyim (RA) has written: "The person who makes Istikharah (seek good) from his Creator and makes 'mashwarah' (consults) the creation never regrets, since Allah said to (His Nabi (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam)): "Consult them in matters. Thus, when You make a decision, place your trust in Allah".

Shaikh Tahir bin Husain bin Abdullah bin Tahir wrote in a letter to his son after he had become an amir or governor: "Whenever any matter of importance comes upon you, seek assistance in it by making Istikharah to Allah and fearing him". He also advised him thus: "and perform Istikharah abundantly in all your matters". (Al-Istikharah by M.T. Hakeem)

A GREAT BENEFIT OF ISTIKHARAH

Hadrat Shah Waliyyullah (RA) writes: "From amongst the greatest benefits of Istikharah is that man becomes detached from his carnal desires, his animalistic characteristics become subject to his angelic nature and he hands himself over to Allah. When he does this, he reaches the stages of the angels whose quality is that they await the command of Allah. When Allah's command is received, they exert themselves through divine motivation and not carnal motivation. I believe that excessive Istikharah is a proven tonic for the inculcation of angelic qualities."

A MISCONCEPTION

But alas, today, Istikharah has become as equally difficult as making a decision. People hesitate so much to perform this great act of worship, that only at the last alternative, when no other way can be perceived, they would turn to some innovated act that has no basis in the Hadith, such as the taking of a good omen by opening the Qur'an and counting lines and letters, etc.; or asking someone else to perform Istikharah on their behalf. Shaikh Nuruddin Itr says: As far as the common practice today which people aspire to uphold, that Istikharah will only be correct if it is carried out by certain persons, and that a dream is necessary, this is extremism and obstanance, and is not the command of Allah nor His Rasul (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam). This all stems from such constraint among the Muslims that does not behove of them. This led them to abandoning one great Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), thus they deprived themselves of the merits of this great Sunnah and it’s blessings, and from blemishing it's purity. Similarly Hadrat Moulana Shah Hakim Muhammad Akhtar (RA) states in his book "Sunnats" on page 49, that "asking another person to make Istikharah on one's behalf is not substantiated from any Hadith. To make mashwarah' (consult) with someone else is Sunnah.' Sometimes Istikharah becomes a means of greater confusion. A person who does not generally see dreams, nor perceives an inclination towards or away from the object of his Istikharah, now finds himself in a greater predicament. As for the person who does see a dream, he is put through the inconvenience of finding someone to interpret it for him. And if he saw a clear dream, or received an interpretation indicating to one particular option, and thereafter was not able to overcome the obstacles obstructing his path to achieving his aim, this person is left in sheer perplexity.

STATUS OF DREAMS IN ISTIKHARAH

Firstly, one must understand that none of the narrations in the Ahadith have any mention regarding a dream, or even about performing the 'Istikharah' before sleeping. However, some "Ulama do prefer that Istikharah be performed before sleeping.

With regards to the person who does see a dream after performing 'Istikharah', this dream is just like any other dream that a person sees. This means that just as other dreams fall under one of three categories (which will be explained shortly), likewise will the dreams seen after Istikharah1 be. It is reported in a Hadith narrated in Sahih Bukhari and other books of Hadith that dreams are of three types:

1. Hadeeth-un-Nafs (imaginations)

2. ‘takhweefus shaytaan’ a dream instilled in the mind by shaytan. This also known as ‘wasaaisu-us-shaytaan’ or ‘tahzeenu-us-shaytaan’.

3. ‘Bushraa minallaah’ True dreams, which are also known as ‘mubash-sharaat’

It is mentioned in a Hadith that the dreams of pious muminin (believers) are generally true dreams.

Another Hadith states: "The most true dreams are those seen at the time of Sahar (early dawn).

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  1. I got very good proposal when v speak to qari he checked in istakhara that its good but when my sister did her self she see black cloth in her dream tell me what v will do know

    • salaam
      If u dont have a clear asnwear after istikhara then follow ur heart.

      • They say if you don't get a clear answer than you should keep making the prayer once a week, or to talk to people about about the situation. ex- if all five agree, then there's your answer. and following your heart, I've followed it many times but lately its not the right chose. inshallah things get easy for you, and to the muslim umma.

        • Make istihkara once a week for how long??? I have not heard this before - but have read that it should not be done more than 7 times for a specific reason, BUT that it can be done again after some time has passed and things/ situation may have changed

          • aoa

            When you found your answer till then u cud do Istikhara.. read my post for clear understanding. JZK

        • did u know that ive had a really bad shatian dream so I would like to know what cuase that to happen because it was really sirecy and its stiil going on so please tell me what to avoid in shatian so if not don't reply k thank you all for your time plzz reply and tell me about it thanks ! And I also forgot plzz list it douwn thank you im from Algeria

      • walikum was salam. and what if ur heart take u to the wrong part?. then u would realize after it happened.

      • Salaams sister,
        I hope you married the guy since in dream according to islamic view its khair

        AHMED

  2. WAY TO PERFORM ISTIKHARA:
    First pray Two Cycles (raka') of ritual Prayer (nafil) such that in the first raka' after Surah Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Kafirun (Chapter 109) and in the second raka' after Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Ikhlas (Chapter 112). After finishing prayer recite this (supplication/dua'): Dua in Arabic Text above

    i thought we can choose which surah to pray after the Fatiha of course, Surah Kafiroun and Sura al lkhlas are mandatory or only suggestions?

    • Salams sister, i don't think its obligatory to say those two surah's, But from sunnah we know that Prophet SAWs used to recite these two Surah so we can follow it. My suggestion is any surah you pray after Fatiha it will do the work. For following sunnah we get more blessings, if we leave sunnah, we don't get any bad deeds. So its upto person what He/She wants to pray in the prayers for Istikhara.

      I am not an alim or big mufti. But this is what i heard and this is what i believe. Allah knows better (Walah o Alim bi sawab).

  3. I saw many dreams in two days. First night I saw myself feeding my friend a white cake on her birthday, but also saw a red playing card (I've been playing solitaire excessively lately). The second night, I saw another friend wearing red lipstick and a red shirt, but in another dream I saw me and my friend performing a dance on stage in front of a large audience (weird, but true), in which my friend takes a bow after the last act in a parrot green dress. My heart is still the same after two nights. What should I do? I keep seeing many dreams in one night.

  4. there is no dreams going to come after this salaat.
    Just goto an site where u can find the right way to perform the salaat and follow it.

    • abdul khader, this website has a lot of good and sound information about istikhara. Check out some our links at the top of the page.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • ya but about the dream, do u ve any authentic source?

        aslmalkm

        • abdul khader, have you read any of our articles on this subject? We never said or suggested that a person must get a dream after istikhara.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • ohh k because there was one who was speaking about dreams so i thought she/he would ve read from here about dreams so told tht

            and what about this

            WAY TO PERFORM ISTIKHARA:
            First pray Two Cycles (raka') of ritual Prayer (nafil) such that in the first raka' after Surah Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Kafirun (Chapter 109) and in the second raka' after Fatiha (Allhamd"¦) recite Surah al-Ikhlas (Chapter 112). After finishing prayer recite this (supplication/dua'): Dua in Arabic Text above

            ??

            can v not recite other surahs??? after surah fatiha

          • Salaamalaikum

            I have a problem ..
            i know my namaaz but wen it cumz 2 readin nafil .. and etc
            my mind just goes blank i've tried revising revising and revising
            I just need sum advice
            MUCH APPRECIATED
            Thankyouuu
            Haz

          • What do you need help on revising dear Sister? Because the words that you recite in your obligatory Salaah are the same that you recite in your voluantary Salaah(Nafl).

            SisterZ
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Salaam.

    can someone help me because I dont know where else I should ask for help.

    I am thinking on preforming Istikhara about someone I want to be with but Im not sure if I am still allowed to speak to that person until I see some guidence from Allah. I heard from someone that you are not allowed to speak to the person or even see them for 7 days, I just wanted to know if that is true

    • Walaykum Assalam,

      Mmm, i dont think you have to stop speaking to him while your doing istikhara, (Anyone can correct me if am wrong) however you have to make sure you have a clear mind, and are not already inclined to a decision, As that would make it harder for you to interpret the istikhara,

      Another thing amina, talking from personal experience, please fully research on istikhara first, and try and understand it before you go about doing your istikhara,
      it sounds easy to do, buh it's alot of responsibility.
      please read the translation it will help you to realise what your actually asking for,
      And inshAllah it will give you a better understanding too,

      I hope Allah (Swt) Guides you The right way And makes you happy with your destiny (Ameen)

      x

  6. Salams sisters and brothers,
    I'm in need to perform the salat istikharah. My question is: when is the best time to do it? Can it be anytime, be it in the afternoon or evening? Or should I perform it at night, like after midnight? If yes, should I sleep first?
    Jazakallah for your response.
    Wassalams.

    • walaikum assalam wr wb,

      you can do at any time of the day .. apart from the prohibited timings of dawn and dusk and after asar..
      wama alaina ilal balaagh

  7. hey to everyone .its the first time i visit this website and its really amasing to find such advices .however i would like to have as well some advices for myself if possible .When i do isti5ara it should be after my salatt or i should do it seperatly .please advice
    thank you may allah bless u .

  8. Asalaamualaykum Nadine,

    Please read the articles on istikhara, you will find information on how to perform istikhara according to Quan and Sunnah.

    JazalhAllah,

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. as salamuialakum

    A guy has asked for my hand and i have said no i'm not ready yet for marriage, he kept on mentioning it and it came to the point where i kept on thinking about it excessively on a daily basis. I was very confused on whether my decision to say no to him was right or not so i began research on instikhara before i performed it. The research i got was if i was to have a dream anything that was green or white mostly would be a yes or go for it and anything that would be black or red would be a no or avoid it.

    Soooooo in my dream i saw a white room at first the whole place was white, from the wall, celing, floor and furniture. But then my gaze went to the right and there was a big red painting hanged up on the wall, my gaze then went back to the left and there was a small window with red coloured stained glass like the ones in teh churhces but this was really red and then a man walked into the room with a red jumper. Thats it

    Please if anyone could get this interpreted it would be extremly helpful

  10. please i need help ....after my istikhara prayer...i got a dream where i saw me wearing white another women wearing white and a close cousin of mine wearing green and a brother of the boy i would like to marry whom this istikhara was about was wearing a red top....so i'm confuseddd is this a signn sayingg yess marry that boyy or noo don't marry that boy...or is descision entirely upon meeee...after a done the instikhara i feeled good but when i had the first dreaam i had a bad feelingg after thinkingg the dream was positive...i'm totally confused byy sseing 3 different colours in my dream.

    • Sister Tamaana, istikhara has nothing to do with seeing colors in a dream. Please read some of our articles on Istikhara to learn all about it. The links are at the top of the website.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  11. aslmualkm. .

    good dreams are from ALLAH and bad dreams are from satan. .

    and after istikhaara prayer there is nothing like u will get a dream. .

    but there will be signs from ALLAH, once u ve been shown the signs just close ur eyes and follow them blindly.

  12. can the admin delete this thread as it has wrong information about the way of performing istikhara, i mean there is no sahih hadees which says tht after istikhara u have to get dreams and in ur dreams u ll be shown the right path. .

    • We already had this discussion three months ago, brother. The post says clearly, "We should not expect some sort of miracle, or a dream full of signs and symbols. These things are not necessary. We simply say our prayers and trust that Allah has heard us and will answer us in the way that is best."

      And the post also gives good, authentic information about Istikhara. Please read it.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  13. *RIGHT WAY TO PERFORM ISTIKHARA*

    2 rakath of nafil namaaz(salaat) and then the dua :

    Allaahumma 'innee 'astakheeruka bi'ilmika, wa 'astaqdiruka biqudratika, wa 'as'aluka min fadhtikal-'Adheemi, fa'innaka taqdiru wa laa 'aqdiru, wa ta'lamu, wa laa 'a'lamu, wa 'Anta 'Allaamul-Ghuyoobi, Allaahumma 'in kunta ta'lamu 'anna haathal-'amra-[then mention the thing to be decided] Khayrun lee fee deenee wa ma'aashee wa 'aaqibati 'amree - [or say] 'Aajilihi wa 'aajilihi - Faqdurhu lee wa yassirhu lee thumma baarik lee feehi, wa 'in kunta ta'lamu 'anna haathal-'amra sharrun lee fee deenee wa ma'aashee wa 'aaqibati 'amree - [or say] 'Aajilihi wa 'aajilihi - Fasrifhu 'annee wasrifnee 'anhu waqdur liyal-khayra haythu kaana thumma 'ardhinee bihi.

    ____________________________________

    Thats it. .
    and after istikhaara prayer there is nothing like u will get a dream. . (not proven from sahih hadees)

    but there will be signs from ALLAH, once u ve been shown the signs just close ur eyes and follow them blindly.

  14. Waw! mashaa Allah Brothers and sisters

  15. hi sister and brother .. I have a question! Can any one pray istikhara to another one? ( for example: Can I pray for my friend? ) Thanks all

  16. Aslamu alaikum brother/sister

    plz tel me is their any specific time to perform Istikhara, i have heard that Istikhra should be performed only at night.. if it is so then plz brother/sister guide me.. May Allah give us right path.. Ameen

    Jazak Allah Khair

  17. Salam,
    Most of the questions asked, have the answers in the text above. read the text first.

    • Thank you for point that out 'Mohamed F', I agree.

      I do wonder if anyone actually bothers reading the above articles about Istikhara because we seem to be getting alot of questions asking the same thing. As you said, they will most likely find an answer to their questions in the articles, if they just 'read'.

      So dear readers, please read, Iqra!!! :O)

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  18. Me and this boy really liked eachother yet he went Pakistan a while ago and when he returned he told me that he had got engaged to his cousin in Pakistan and i dont know why but i didnt believe it so i decided to do istikhara and asked if it is in my kismat to get married to him.
    The first night i saw grey and white teddy bears in a dark room with a white light shining down on the white teddy bear, the teddy bears were travelling along a machine in a factory and then the dream ended with a big white teddy bear on the green grass walking toward me.
    The second night i saw an ocean which was half blue and half green and in the distance there was a black scuba diver.
    The third night i saw all my family dressed in black and white police outfits and my mother was wearing a pink and black one.
    Then i did the instant istikhara (where your head tilts to the right or left) and i asked if it was in my kismat to get married to him and my head tilted to the right which could only mean that it was positive. i did this twice and received the same result.
    I'm confused as to what the dreams mean and whether i should tell him or not.

    • Fatima, everything you are saying about Salat al-Istikhara is incorrect. Please read the article on this page that you are commenting on. It explains everything about how to perform Istikhara. We also have additional articles (you can see the links at the top). Istikhara has nothing to do with dream interpretation. Your teddy bears, scuba diver and police outfits are irrelevant and have nothing to do with Istikhara.

      Secondly, there is no such thing as "instant Istikhara" with the head tilting one way or another. This is utter nonsense and has absolutely no foundation in Quran or Sunnah. Sorry to be harsh but I want everyone to be clear that no such things exists.

      I guess people don't want to take the time to learn and pray Istikhara properly, instead they want a shortcut, so they invent some silly thing with no basis in deen.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • '...teddy bears, scuba diver and police outfits'

        Wael, you left out the tipping of the head from side to side.

        Sounds like something from the Telly Tubbies and Exorcist combined.

        Ya Allah, give me strength.

        SisterZ
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • SisterZ: we used to joke when growing up that when Allah (SWT) was "distributing" common sense at the time of creation some people were missing!! LOL...now I know there are many, many more people in the world who were absent at that time ;) Atleast we are getting free laughs here!

  19. Last couple of months I was having a mild fight with my husband who lives in a different country.but this fight turned into something where we came up to a thought that we might have to end this relation knowing I love him very much. But deep down inside of my heart I know we belong together but when I use reason and my persoal experiences I see different. Then I decided to perform salatul isthekhara since Allah is the one who knows the best for me. First night it was a blank slate where I did not feel anything. Second night I saw something but it was so gloomy and unclear that when I woke up for fazr salat I could not recall anything. Then the third night I was a beautiful place where I went with him in last January.there was one of his friend who took us to that place I clearly saw his face.I felt very peace through out my dream felt very happy to be with him just like the way I felt when we were going there in real life.then I woke up for fazr prayer and suddenly I thought may I did not see anything tonight as well but when I was making my wadu the dream started to come back in my sense then I realled the whole dream. Please guide me through this part since it's about my marriage life and divorce. Am I making a right decision to not to file for divorce eventhough my husband is insisting me for that? Am I in a right path which is chosen by my lord Allah?

  20. I forgot to add one thing that after that night I started to thing about my mistakes a lot and the desire to be with him is increasing day by day.is it a guidance by Allah as well which come alone my dream?

    • Salaam sister,
      You should makeup a mind why this isthikarah for
      1.to stay in marriage
      2. To divorce.

      Then according to that the signs can be seen.
      I.e if you wanted to stay in marriage this is sign of good to continue in marriage.
      Hope ALLAAH Keeping the marriage intact which is best for you since you too love hime.

      Ahmed

  21. I have done my istekhare for my rishta in which i have seen qurani ayet in sky 2nd night white parrote 3rd the white dopata with green and red flower in my mom cloth box,i am soooooo confused what should i do.

    • Istikhara is not about dreams or dream signs. Please read the articles we have posted about Istikhara to get the proper understanding.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • It is not true that "ishtikhara is not about dream". Dream is 1/46th of prophethood. Anyone doing ishtikhara can see a related dream. Whether it is written in kitab or not, dream REMAINS a way to know things of the past, present and future.

        Sister Farhana is a good example. These dreams were making up the mind of Farhana. Brother Burhan has given the explanation that ishtikhara is about "following the heart". So, the dreams provide input to our hearts and minds - as did in Farhana's case. See how she was remembering her faults in dealing with her husband. So, it is not wise to say - ishtikhara is not about seeing dream. Stating this may be true, but not necessarily unrelated.

        I should request an update and a reflection from Farhana if she can see this post after many days now.

        Was salam

  22. Aslamu alaikum brothers/sisters,

    Its really very very important decision for me i kindly request all to help me out. Its about my marriage. I did Istikhara many times and even my mother also did Istikhara many times. But we dint get any indications or signs. Whereas when the girl side they did and they got positive signs. I really dont understand i cannot concentrate on anything. I like girl very much. I want everything to happen smoothly. I dont know which way to choose now. I feel very difficulty. I dont know what to do my parents are really worried about me. Please suggest / advice / opinions.

    • Syed, wa alaykum as-salam. Istikhara is not about getting signs. Please read some of our articles about Salat al-Istikhara (links at the top of the page) to learn more about this important prayer.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • LOL, Br. Wael, this is the advice I think you have given the most # of times on this website - I admire your patience! Maybe you should make a headline on each page here so people can READ before posting the SAME question over and over again!! LOL!!!

        Interestingly, the trend I am seeing here is that the istikhara seems to become suddenly important specially to the Indo-Pakistani muslims and that too when it is regarding marriage. I wonder why this cultural "attachment" to istikhara for just this reason...it is not used for anything else by this ethnic group (I am one of them in case people start getting angry at me)

        • Yeah no kidding. It's baffling how people just post the same question again and again, without even reading what has been written on the same page.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  23. Lol! And whenever it's a marrying a cousin question, you automatically know that it's someone from Indo-Pak-Bang background (I can say this because I belong to that group). I think if people are asking the similar questions, which have been answered, then give them the links. There are other serious qquestions that are urgent to answer.

  24. I would love if someone can answer this dilemma that I am facing. A position has been opened in my company which I would like to apply internally. Now, if I want to apply, I would have to take a signature from my department manager, and his signature will mean that my department is ready to release me should I get the job in another department.

    I am new in my job (only 7 months old) and I am really having tough time in my current role. I believe that I am a misfit for this position and this is the reason I am contemplating a change. However, my fear is if I disclose my wish to my supervisor and my current department manager, they may take it negatively and may have doubt about my commitment, especially because I am still very new.

    Personally, this job most of the time makes me suffer from extreme depression, but as I type such things, I feel guilty thinking that if I have expressed displeasure or have become impatient over the divine decree. On top of that, my family really need me to work on this position as the pay is super awesome.

    Now, I have prayed istikhara each day of ramadan and have prayed it 7 times today. Personally I was strongly inclined to talk about this issue with my supervisor even before I started doing istikhara and this inclination is still there. However, I did not have the confidence to do so, especially because my mom is against it, and I still feel somewhat helpless.

    Has my istikhara been correct since I had a strong inclination even before I started it?

    PS. You can delete this post if you deem that I should submit it as a separate post.

    • Stranger, you know it should have been a separate post. But I'll give you my quick opinion. Apply for the new job. The money is good in your current position, but you are miserable. Is money worth your happiness and mental well being? Also, you are only speculating that your manager will interpret your desire to move negatively. Maybe he will understand. After all, it's not like you are quitting the company. Lastly, consider the benefits if you get the new job. You will be happier, doing work that you like, and therefore you will be more productive and probably get promoted sooner, Insha'Allah. Have courage, follow your heart, and apply for the job you like. Final point, if you get the new job, make sure you stay in it for a few years before even contemplating a move, otherwise you are right, they will think you lack commitment.

      No continuing discussion on this please, if you need more advice then submit a separate post.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  25. I want to marry this guy whom i know since many years. We have been the best and worst of friends meaning we've had our ups and downs but we have stayed together. I kept it a secret from my parents initially because the guy was studying and we wanted that he gets independent when an official proposal from his family arrives. Now that I have taken my parents into confidence and an official proposal has come from his side, my parents are totally against it based on reasons of "caste and language and customs" etc (Please inform whether they are right in judging a man based on these insane reasons?).

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  26. Asalam o alaikum brothers and sisters, please help me out on this matter!

    I m doing istikhara for the past 2 days, i do it after Isha prayer but i dont sleep after that (i've heard that dreams are not necessary). So for the past 2 days my feelings are still the same, nothing seems unusual, no change in feelings, no sign or anything.

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  27. Asalamulaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu

    Just a general question, it's said to do Istikhara for seven days if on the first day when istikhara is performed, an answer hasn't been reached.

    Does the seven days of Istikhara need to be consecutive days? Or can they be any days, so long as seven are complete all together?

    Jazak'Allah Khair in advance!

    Walaikumsalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatahu

    MrAhmed

    • By the way, I'm not sure of the authenticity of the above point made regarding an answer being reached, so please forgive me if I have indirectly repeated what many people have said regarding signs.

      Jazak'Allah Khair

  28. Asalaam, myself and a man that i would like to marry started reading istikara salah. after one night he got an answer but i did not. should i continue to read or can i take his answer as the right one.

    also i havent been in the best state of mind recently to fully concentate on my istikara.

    what should i do?

    thank you in advance.

    Wasalaam

  29. asalamwalikum i did Istikhara for passing in exam but in dream i saw white small papers and grass and also money 18+9 rupees in my dream ( about this dream iam thinking that i going to pass i will get 18+9=27 marks
    is that true )so please forgive me if I have indirectly repeated what many people have said regarding signs.

  30. asalamwalikum i did Istikhara for passing in exam but in dream i saw white small papers and grass and also money 18+9 rupees in my dream ( about this dream iam thinking that i going to pass i will get 18+9=27 marks
    is that true )so please forgive me if I have indirectly repeated what many people have said regarding signs.

    Reply

  31. Assalam alaykum, brothers and sisters I want to know if praying salat al istikhara is permissible for someone that wants to know if he should study sharia and eventually go on to be a alam or mufti or imam. The reason its so hard for me is because I have to study in saudi arabia, yet. I was born and raised in new jersey. This is indeed a huge step, so I want to know if this a valid reason to pray salat al istikhara?

    • Walakumsalaam Nabeeh

      I don't see any reason why there would be anything wrong in praying istikhara for this reason.

      When we pray istikhara, of course the choices we are seeking guidance for must be halaal which yours are. But I understand why you asking this question, for example: it would not make sense to do istikhara for guidance on 'should I perform hajj', as this is already fardh; but one could do istikhara regarding the group they choose to go with. So in context of your situation, it is not fardh to become an 'aalim/mufti', but it is halaal and certainly an excellent line to pursue.

      It seems you have a great opportunity infront of you. May Allah make this path easy and a source of blessing for you.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Jaza'aki Allahu khair, I will keep you updated if you would like, and inshAllah will guide us all to the right path.

        • InshaAllah, that would be nice.

          Ps, pls note, I am not qualified in fiqh, my answer to you regarding your istikhara was based on the understanding of what I have read.

          SisterZ
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  32. asalamwalikum i did Istikhara for passing in exam but in dream i saw white small papers and grass and also money 18+9 rupees in my dream ( about this dream iam thinking that i going to pass i will get 18+9=27 marks
    is that true )so please forgive me if I have indirectly repeated what many people have said regarding signs.

    • Asiya, Walaykumsalaam,

      We are not qualified to interpret dreams, and this is not the correct way to do or to interpret istikhara either. The best way to pass your exams is to do your studies, do your best in your exams and also make dua to Allah(swt).

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Salaamalaikum

        My dreams have been very strange and havr effected me emotionally
        I have been having dreams about my uncles friend who my uncle told me 2 keep contact with 4 islamic reasons i.e islamic advice this was 2-3 years ago ? and i keep having dreams that he needs 2 contact me
        this was in 2009 we stopped contacting eachorther cuz my younger cousin told my family and then we stopped talkin 2 eachorther
        he was khalifah and i know it was'nt right 4 me 2 start tlkin 2 him but meand my uncle are extremly close hes very religious.

        and secondly i keep having dreams about my maths teacher ?! it been 2- 3 weeks and i've been having theese dreams constantly
        in the dream my maths teacher gives me advice for my problems
        Now why on earth 2do i have theesr dreams i reli want 2 know
        I look forward 2 ur reply

        Miss Confussedx

        • Nabeel Durrani Sadozai
          Thankyou for your reply and ur right this cant be true but i think u have misunderstood a little if theese dreams randomly came i would ignore them but durin the day bizarley
          i cant stop thinking about them
          unknown why so how can i stop thinking abt them that was my main question
          thankyou so much 4 the advice very help may Allah swt reward u 4 wat u do
          Thans again
          i look foward to ur reply
          Miss Confussedx

  33. Asamualikum,

    I hope that you can help me. I am a 36 year old female who is not yet married. Many things had happened that had prevented me from marrying. Otherwise, I am regarded as a catch, yet nothing seems to happen. I also had no feelings about settling down, so that was the initial problem, but when I suddenly realised that it was important.. I cannot find anyone suitable; it has been about 3 years now that I have been truly open to marriage. I have a strong belief in my faith and I have always conducted my self in an appropriate manner,

    Anyway, I did istikhara last year as it seemed doomed that I would ever marry. However, I was a little shocked by what I saw.. I saw the name and image of a person I had a proposal for about 7 years ago. I saw him repeatedly over three nights. Even in one dream, I saw him say to me that he and I couldn't avoid each other as I was meant for him and he for me. I even tried to escape his path, but I got tired of arguing with him so I fell back and then I found my self falling into his arms. Once that happened, I suddenly felt security, love and warmth. I even saw my deceased father invite him for dinner in my dream.

    The thing is, he apparently rejected me without even seeing me based on his sisters feedback that I was too short for him 5ft 2.. He was 5ft 10.
    I was shocked as I had never been rejected and what was worse, he did it without seeing me. I was really shocked how a grown man could do that. Especially without meeting. In my dreams, his family ask for forgiveness too. Anyway, I find it highly implausible that we could be together, even if they did come back... And this proposal came 7 years ago! I heard that he was a decent human being, so I was a little drawn to him for that st the time, but it didn't work out. He is also still not married from people have said. I have recurring dreams about him and his family. Is it possible to see who you will marry or should marry? Even let's say that is the case, even when I didn't do istikhara, I still saw him... For many months. We have no connection so I really don't know what this all means. Please help.

    I look forward to your reply.

    Best wishes.

    • Naz, please log in and write your question as a separate post. My short answer to you would be that sometimes dreams don't have a deeper meaning. I have dreamed many times of particular women. However, if you are convinced that the dream is true, then work to make it true. Don't give up so easily. When Allah gives us something, He gives it in the form of guidance, or an opportunity, not a fait accompli.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • I am trying to register/log in, but I seem to be having problems. Thanks for your reply though. I will try again later, but where do you wish for me to post my question ?

        Looking forward to your reply.

        Many thanks.

        Naz

      • By the way.. I don't know what to make of these dreams ... As I said, I have no connection with him/never met face to face so you can imagine how shocked I was. The one thing that only could mean anything if we were to examine it closely is that in all of these years, we are not married. Also, it's a bit pointless as I don't know anything much about him, if indeed it is Allah's will, it will happen anyway?

        • True sister, if it meant to happen it will happen. Just rely in Allah swt and make loads of dua. He knows what is best for you, so just put all your trust in him-he is Ar Rahmaan and Ar Raheem, you never know what he's got in store for you ;).

  34. Assalamualaikum.
    I'm facing a great indecision.

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  35. I want to do istikhara to get guidance with my marriage. I am engaged, but I dont think he is good for me. I have made the decision to break the engagement. However, I want allah's guidance in this matter before I take any steps. However, the problem is that my parents wont allow me to do istikhara. Esha namaz happens early like at 6 pm, and I cant go to bed at that time, since isnt even so early. I did try to delay doing my eaha namaz, I thought of doing it later, and then I can do istikhara and go to bed. In one of ur articles it says that its best to sleep in abluton straight after doing istakhara. I would really like to do that, but I cant because of my parents.

    So what should I do in this situation to get better guidance. Shall I ask an alim to do istikhara on my behalf, or shall I do istikhara myself, but rather than going to bed with ablution after istkhara, shall I just do istikhara after esha namaz, eat and watch tv and I will need to go to the toilet after drinking water, I wont be able to make ablution after it. I will try to go to bed as soon as I can, but these things will happen apparantly. Will this affect my istikhara? If it does, then what else can I do? my parents wont let me do iatikhara, if I make ablution just before bed time, they will ask why I did that, I can make an excuse for one
    day, but 7 days I cant do. Plz can u urgently tell me how to get the guidance from allah in this situation?

  36. Salam,

    Thankyou for this article it has helped a lot and alhandollillah I felt good after praying.
    I just wanted to let you know my situation and seek your advice.

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  37. hello i need help i love someone and want to marry him, i want to do istikhara to know if i will marry him or not. am not sure if this is allowed can anyone help me out please

  38. @ Miss confused,

    First and foremost the main problem is this that its completely innovation (BIDAAH)to conceive that u would get an answer in the sleep, its completely untrue. tHIS IS NOT THE CORRECT WAY OF THE SAHABAH AND THE SALAF WA SALIHEEN. I cant stomach this that "how can anyone beleive what is shown in dream"how can be the dream completely true most of the time its not true IT CAN BE BUT MANY PEOPLE HERE ARE conceiving that its true whatever they see and why u dream like that becuase THESE THOUGHTS ARE DOMINATED IN UR or anyones MIND(who seeks answers in dream) AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY THESE LEAD them TO THAT.

    There is nothing authentic concerning anything specific that is to be recited in the prayer nor is there any authentic report concerning how many times one should repeat it. so the limit of 7 is completely wrong.

    Secondly NO ONE can do istekhara on anyone's behalf its nothing but complete fallacy .No where in authentic ahadeeth u r going to find this.
    @MISS CONFUSED say this to ur parents that its an act of reward to sleep with ablution there are many hadeeth in this line .but i dont support u sleeping awaiting for the istekhara result.

    BELOW IS THE CORRECT WAY OF EXECUTING ISTEKHARA.
    An-Nawawi holds that "after making istikharah, a person must do what he is wholeheartedly inclined to do and feels good about doing and should not insist on doing what he had desired to do before making the istikharah. And if his feelings change, he should leave what he had intended to do, for otherwise he is not leaving the choice to Allah, and would not be honest in seeking aid from Allah's power and knowledge. Sincerity in seeking Allah's choice, means that one should completely abandon what one desired oneself."

    I WOULD LIKE TO NARRATE ANOTHER HADEETH FROM TIRMIDHI CLASSED AS SAHEEH IN THE LINE OF ISTHEKHARA stating its importance ,it show effects if acted the right way.

    Hadith - al-Tirmidhi # 2151. [Classed as saheeh by al-Haakim, 1/699, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was classed as hasan by al-Haafiz ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 11/184]

    The happiness of the son of Adam depends on his being content with what Allah has decreed for him, and the misery of the son of Adam results from his failure to pray istikharah, and the misery of the son of Adam results from in his discontent with what Allah has decreed for him.

    I hope i have answered the questions .
    All that is true is from allah if i have erred its out of my mistakes .

    wallahu alam bisawab.

    Assalam oalykum wr wb.

  39. @Miss confused ,I hope that soon u will not be confused inshallahu taa`la ,Shukran jazeelan for understanding my notion.

    Well coming over to you question , dream is a dream whether u see that in night or day , secondly as u have confessed that these thoughts are preoccupied and in the language of neuroscience preoccupied thought in your frontal lobe make you dream what u think .So this is the reason for those dreams appearing bizarrely.

    As u have asked that how shall you stop thinking about them?!! Well cut out everything which leads to those thoughts if you dont cut out the roots how could u stop the tree from bearing fruits?!!

    keep ur self busy reading Tafseer of qurran,recitation of quraan gives u enormous blessings and hadeeth ,mere keep ur self busy in household stuff this and that. and i know nowadays everyone looks like a practicing muslim but when you go deep down they are not practically practicing ! I pray to you that may Allah always guide you the path of salaf saliheen , and keep u away from all sorts of Bida`ah.

    I hope i have understood you and your question ,give me a chance to serve you again .If you and anyone have any questions u can reach me at *****

    All that is true is from Allah swt if i have erred its out of my mistakes and sluggishness .
    Barakallahu feeki.

    • I removed your email addy. Please do not post contact info here, thanks.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • I am sorry i didn't knew the guidelines .

        • Nabeel Durrani Sadozai
          Thanks alot for ur reply much appreciated
          I've tried reading Tafseer of qurran,recitation of quraan but it make me think about them more i've even tried listening to Naats and Nasheeds nothings seems to be working i dont i will completley forgot them but i've tried not think about them that much i cut a long story short theres more detail
          Thank you for all ur advice
          May Allah swt reward u for what u do
          i look forward 2 ur reply
          Mis confussed ...

  40. @Haz

    I could understand your situation , u know ur case is more psychological then spiritual, u think that u cant get this thing out of ur mind and u act according to that . secondly naats are not islamic i mean it involves music and many things out of the boundary of islam. u can listen to those nasheed which are free from music such as ahmed bukhtari,bushra lana etc

    You know to figure out the problem u have to go the root and u know what is the root urself. ponder on this and think how to cut that out. The most important thing is this that do not think about it no matter what. cut out all those thoughts which lead u to that. Secondly tafseer will make u think ON THAT MATTER OF THE VERSE RATHER HIM (UR FIANCE) ,

    and i can feel that u arent comfortable in publicly expressing , and u should fight with urself. AND THINK THAT U ARE STRONG RATHER WEAK.

    Shukran once again .
    hayak allah

  41. U know it seems to me ur experienced ALOT !! and u have great knowledge obviously and i think im strong
    but im not the strongest wen u get to know sum1 reli well its reli hard 2 frget them and i wont forget them but i'll have 2 do sumit right?
    But Alhamdulilah im getting stronger
    Thanks 4 ur advice very supportive
    and u reli understand me i've neva so much understanding wiv anyone
    I look forward 2 ur rePLY :)
    Haz x

  42. Nay,I have studied neuroscience so may be due to that well , i am not experienced but from knowledge elhamdulilah and being with the sheikhs and having elders company as u know experience without knowledge is like learning to swim without water. u know the first step towards knowledge is this to accept our mistakes and learn from it and i try to do that .and try to act according to quran and sunnah ,Inshallah

    Jazakallah khair for listening ,understanding and appreciating me ,giving me a chance to earn reward alf shukran ,and soon u will not be miss confused Inshallahu ta`ala.I would be very happy indeed to remove ur title of miss confused :)summa inshallah

    The main problem is this when u get to know that person u didnt followed the guidelines with whom u should get close and now you liked him for yourself ,for ur nafs and that is why its hard for you its like a bad habit. If you would have loved for allah than would have forget for Allah and remember what u expect from Allah u will get that so always expect good ,repent and be in hope and fear with allah swt.

    Thanks for your kind perusal !

    Nabeel

  43. Nabeel :)

    You shud be proud of what u have acheived in life.. have u ever felt trapped in a younger persons body and know more than u should ?
    i would'nt say bad habbit sum things just happen i've repented and i have fear of Allsh but that person will nevah be forgotten its like wen ur stuck with sumfin for good and then ur waitin for sumfin to happen but u dont know wat it is ?
    nut sum way or another i cant keep thinking abt it that will make matters worse
    u have great knoledge TRUST ME ur logic is quite interesting
    Thanks Alot
    May Allah swt reward u
    Haz x

  44. @miss Little confused ,i was indeed waiting for ur reply.

    Indeed ,Shukran for understanding and i thank allah to make my words comprehensible to others ,well age has got nothing to do with knowledge, Iqraa was the first verse of qurran marking the importance of knowledge in Muslims. And when we grow with knowledge we have a better future which also help other in there future inshallah

    Well there u go, the moment u say it will never be" forgotten" u will act according to it ,didn't i said u that its more psychological then spiritual ! The whole problem pertain is this that u dont trust urself u are not confident in urself. and when that something was not good why are u waiting for something good to happen.!! and u know nothing good is happening isnt? still u cant understand.

    FINALLY u got the point stop thinking about it u have confessed its making worst. isnt. SO ITS YOU who is thinking and making an issue out of it. You have repented,remorseful on that khallas, leave it and cut the roots detouring towards that which will make u remember.

    Live life according to sunnah and quran in which u can find the phrases from The Allah-All mighty and he is all wise and all hearer,all seer.

    Fee AmanAllah , Ur in my prayers ameen.
    Please do make me remember in the prayer and all of us shukran .

  45. Nabeel
    I finally trusted myself and everyfin u have just sed its helped me and i was reciting Quran 2day and i was thinkin y am 1 wasting my time and making life harder 4 myself
    SO THANK YOUUU x
    at least sum1 understands me and i understand u back
    i await ur reply
    i dont know what 2 say u've got summit special inside u and i hope its it stays with u 4ever
    i cant thankyu enuff it was kindah a wakeup call
    Reply :)

    Haz x

  46. Dont make me feel ashamed, and ur just exaggerating but i really feel good that u understand me ,im just normal u make me FEEL special that's it and it gives me joy that i was able to help someone ELHAMDULILAH.

    just strive to learn as much as WE can , becuase the day u stop learning will make u fill with pride and if anyone who says that i have all knowledge then he/she is kazab(liar) so we should always strive to learn and we are indeed learners .

    I came to share this idiom with you and i found ur reply
    Well Indeed
    "Happiness is something that comes into our lives through door we dont even remember keeping open "

    So elhamdulilah it was you who closed the doors and complaining of stuffiness inside you because u were stopping urself to see outside the door ,summa elhamdulilah Now i beleive THAT MISS CONFUSE IS NO MORE CONFUSE!

    Inshallah I will always be like this infact we are choosen as the best of ummah because of this trait that we promote virtue and prevent vice .and i will surely keep it alive always inshallah and thanks a lot again for letting me earn reward for Allah swt ,jazakallah khairan.

    Miss Haz? (no more miss confused) :)

  47. U have nuffin 2 feel ashamed about yh u cud say that i've just neva had anyone 2 help me wiv my problems but Alhamdulilah Allah is always there
    Nabeel we say we are normal but we all have sumfin that makes us stand not only do u have sumfin special but u stand out from a crowd and u shud be proud of that and i've learnt alot of things from u
    and I'll remeber that quote its was me who was stopping myself from solving this problem....
    Im glad i made sumone smile
    Keep doing what u do and ur'll always shine
    Thanks alot again
    is there anyway u cud email me i know ur not aloud 2 leave an email here
    but its kindah important
    Haz x

  48. Elhamdulilah , am so glad that you are on ur way to finish ur problem, i thank Allah that he gave me a chance to share and make u understand , and i also thank you for understanding me and finally u have opened the door allowing happiness to enter inside you and subsiding those things which is of no value.

    Well u may reach me at my email

  49. :) u make me smile thanks
    So how can i reach u ??

  50. *******************(Email deleted)

  51. Will my email be deleted please !

    • Nabeel,

      Why did you post your email address here and then ask for it to be deleted? You know full well of our policies on this website as your email address was deleted once before by Br Wael. I can only assume by your name that you are male, and you have just given your email address to a young 14 year old sister.

      Your intentions maybe good, but it was so wrong of you to publish your email address again despite the previous warning. If you have any advice for the sister, you should be able to advise her on the the website in public, there is no need for private talk.

      Insha'Allah you will take heed.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  52. Yh im sure one of them will delete it
    dont worry

  53. Jazakallah khairan and i am sorry for myself behaving cunningly really i do comprehend ur statuary ,

    Its my official email addressee , and secondly she said that its kindah important , and in that line i did it clubbing to that i thought she might not want to expose it publicly .Because in public people learn less and get wrong picture of someones sins more!

    barakallahu feeki

    • Salaams,

      To both of you (nabeel and haz):

      If someone has an important and private issue to discuss, they should either confide in a trusted relative, a respected imam, or personal therapist. No one on this site who posts questions should be seeking out private sessions with answerers; and no one who answers posts on this site should take it upon themselves to be a poster's individual counselor. For one, most people who traffic this site are NOT qualified to do so...and for the few who are, professional ethics would prevent them from engaging this way. If someone is in an emergent situation our same-sex editors may assist with linking that person to local resources and offering basic support. Beyond that, let's all take care to conduct ourselves within the parameters and adab that befits our honor. Thank you.

      -Amy
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  54. I would like all this deleted as soon as possible all the comments i have made

  55. Thanks ,it would be indeed , i really don't want anyone to speak something back please!

    Sincerely,

  56. CAN SOMEBODY DELETE THEESE PLEASE !!!
    I DO NOT WANT NO REPLIES I JUST WANT ALL THE I HAVE MADE (Haz) TO BE DELETED

  57. sallam i perfomoed istikhara and had a dream that the

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    • If two people have the same dream, they will be interpreted differently, depending on their personal situations. Having said that we do not interpret dreams.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  58. With the name of Allah, the beneficient, the merciful.

    Asalam Alaikum Wa Rehmat'Allahi wa barakathu.

    I don't know but i think that you don't need to see dream for your Istikhara to be completed. The thing is if you pay close attention to the meaning of words in the dua of Istikhara, it means that you are asking Allah to guide your life in the way best to you. Istikhara means to seek help from Allah. We can say this dua at any time for any decision we make, even on maybe for going to shopping. There is no hadees or any recommandation or gaurantee that one will see the dream. But more important thing is the seeking for help from Allah SWT.

    Biggest problem which we muslim are facing about this matter of Istikhara is that we have taken this dua as something superstitious. Which is not the case at all, because of our thinking many people are taking advantage of those people who think of Istikhara as some super natural cuase. It is help from Allah and you can also experience very un-usual situations, but they can also mislead you.

    As a muslim we have to be more cautious regarding Istikhara, because once we are misled, this can have very awkward consequences in our life. But we have to do it without loosing our faith in Allah. In this message what i am trying to say is that we have to be careful from the people who have started misleading muslims with the name of istikhara for doing sorcery, may Allah protect us and every muslim from such shaitans and misguidance. Ameen,

    P.S. Please educate your friends and family regarding this matter if they have fallen in the trap of those so called saints, may Allah protect us.

    Wa salam

  59. In al-Qur'an, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

    "When My servants ask about Me, I am indeed close to them. I listen to the prayer of every supplicant, when he calls on Me. Let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe in Me, so that they may walk in the right way"

    al-Qur'an 2:186

    Praise be to Allaah.

    The description of Salaat al-Istikhaarah was reported by Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah al-Salami (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said:

    “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to teach his companions to make istikhaarah in all things, just as he used to teach them soorahs from the Qur’aan. He said: ‘If any one of you is concerned about a decision he has to make, then let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer, then say: Allaahumma inni astakheeruka bi ‘ilmika wa astaqdiruka bi qudratika wa as’aluka min fadlika, fa innaka taqdiru wa laa aqdir, wa ta’lamu wa laa a’lam, wa anta ‘allaam al-ghuyoob. Allaahumma fa in kunta ta’lamu haadha’l-amra (then the matter should be mentioned by name) khayran li fi ‘aajil amri wa aajilihi (or: fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri) faqdurhu li wa yassirhu li thumma baarik li fihi. Allaahumma wa in kunta ta’lamu annahu sharrun li fi deeni wa ma’aashi wa ‘aaqibati amri (or: fi ‘aajili amri wa aajilihi) fasrifni ‘anhu [wasrafhu ‘anni] waqdur li al-khayr haythu kaana thumma radini bihi (O Allaah, I seek Your guidance [in making a choice] by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allaah, if in Your knowledge, this matter (then it should be mentioned by name) is good for me both in this world and in the Hereafter (or: in my religion, my livelihood and my affairs), then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.”

    (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 6841; similar reports are also recorded by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa’i, Abu Dawood, Ibn Maajah and Ahmad).

    Ibn Hijr (may Allaah have mercy on him) said, commenting on this hadeeth:

    “Istikhaarah is a word which means asking Allaah to help one make a choice, meaning choosing the best of two things where one needs to choose one of them.

    Concerning the phrase ‘The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to teach us to make istikhaarah in all things,’ Ibn Abi Jamrah said: ‘It is a general phrase which refers to something specific. With regard to matters that are waajib (obligatory) or mustahabb (liked or encouraged), there is no need for istikhaarah to decide whether to do them, and with regard to matters that are haraam (forbidden) or makrooh (disliked), there is no need for istikhaarah to decide whether to avoid them. The issue of istikhaarah is confined to matters that are mubaah (allowed), or in mustahabb matters when there is a decision to be made as to which one should be given priority.’ I say: it refers to both great and small matters, and probably an insignificant issue could form the groundwork for a big issue.

    The phrase ‘If any one of you is concerned…’ appears in the version narrated by Ibn Mas’ood as: ‘if any one of you wants to do something…’

    ‘Let him pray two rak’ahs of non-obligatory prayer.’ This is mentioned to make it clear that it does not mean fajr prayer, for example. Al-Nawawi said in al-Adhkaar: He can pray istikaarah after two rak’ahs of regular sunnah prayer done at zuhr for example, or after two rak’ahs of any naafil prayers whether they are regularly performed or not… It seems to be the case that if he made the intention to pray istikhaarah at the same time as intending to pray that particular prayer, this is fine, but not if he did not have this intention.

    Ibn Abi Jamrah said: The wisdom behind putting the salaat before the du’aa’ is that istikhaarah is intended to combine the goodness of this world with the goodness of the next. A person needs to knock at the door of the King (Allaah), and there is nothing more effective for this than prayer, because it contains glorification and praise of Allaah, and expresses one's need for Him at all times.

    The phrase ‘then let him say’ would seem to imply that the du’aa’ should be said after finishing the prayer, and the word thumma (then) probably means after reciting all the words of the salaat and before saying salaam.

    The phrase ‘O Allaah, I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge’ is explaining ‘because You know best.’ Similarly, ‘by virtue of Your power’ most likely means ‘seeking Your help.’ ‘I seek ability’ (astaqdiruka) means ‘I ask You to give me the power or ability (qudrah) to do’ whatever is being asked for, or it probably means ‘I ask You to decree (tuqaddir) this for me.’ So it may mean making it easy.

    ‘I ask You of Your great bounty’ refers to the fact that Allaah gives out of His great generosity, but no one has the right to His blessings. This is the opinion of Ahl al-Sunnah.

    ‘You have power, I have none. And You know, I know not’ refers to the fact that power and knowledge belong to Allaah alone, and the slave has no share of them except what Allaah decrees for him.

    ‘O Allaah, if in Your knowledge this matter…’ According to one report, he should mention it by name. It is apparent from the context that he should state it, but it is probably sufficient to be thinking of the matter whilst making this du’aa’.

    ‘Then ordain it for me’ means ‘make it happen for me’ or it may mean ‘make it easy for me.’

    ‘Then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it’ means ‘so that my heart will no longer feel attached to it after it has been turned away.’

    ‘Make me pleased with it’ means ‘make me content with it, so that I will never regret asking for it or be sorry that it happened, because I do not know how it will turn out, even if at the time of asking I am pleased with it.’

    The secret is that one’s heart should not be attached to the matter in question, because that will result in a person becoming restless. Being pleased with something means that one’s heart is content with the decree of Allaah.

    (Summarized from the commentary of al-Haafiz Ibn Hijr (may Allaah have mercy on him) on the hadeeth in Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Kitaab al-Da’waat and Kitaab al-Tawheed.).

  60. Assalaamu alaykoem brothers and sisters,

    I have made istigaraah with positive results each of the6 times I've made it. After making istigaraah the following morning I felt and overwhelming sense of peace, algamdulilaah. The. Istigaraah was regarding a marriage. Unfortunately, the marriage proposal, the brother has said he sees no future with us. Was. My interpretation incorrect. What do I do now?

    Shukran

    Zainab

    • Asalam Alaikum,

      Dear your answer is in your question.. when we do Istikhara Allah (SWT) guide us the correct directions , even ur result of Istikhara was corrected but only Allah knw that what is more better for you that is why he turned u that direction ... trust only Allah becaue only he knws that what is best for us and Istikhara is also a duaa.. feel it..JZK

  61. as salam,
    for some reason i had performed istikhara salat for three days and made dua in my own language which is other than arabic or english. i havent memorized the dua that has to be read after istikhara salat because i cant say that part in arabic where it is required to say why this istikhara is about in the middle of the dua...for example, whether i should marry this person or not...is it okay for me to make dua after istikhara in my own language? please reply ASAP.

    • Sis, thats what I do and I am sure it is fine.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • why not? can't ALLAH understand any other language other then ARABIC. ofcourse He can and He most mercyful has allowed us we can make dua in any language but our Namaz has to be in Quranic Arabic otherwise ALLAH will not accept it.

  62. Assalam-alaikum , I really need help. Actually my exams are in two more days and I haven't been able to study at all because of family issues. I am in stress because I really want to get high marks on my exam so my parents could be proud and so I can go to a good college .Please remember me in you prayers and is there any duas I should read for my exam to be successful ? Also my mom has told me you should always believe in God. To be honest i do believe in God i really do .however sometimes i lose hope and faith in myself and i dont understand what i should do.I would really appreciate your response jazakalah.

    • Walaykumsalaam, Dear Sister,

      Just do your best and leave the outcome to Allah(swt). Recite this dua: "Allah is sufficient for me. There is none worthy of worship, but Him. I have placed my trust in Him and He is the Lord of the Majestic Throne."

      Abu Addarda(ra) said: “Whoever recited this dua(as above) seven times in the morning and in the evening, Allah will suffice him anything that concerns him.” [It was collected by Ibn Assuni, Abu Dawood. The hadith of Abu Dawood is Mawqoof. Ibn Baaz, Shu’aib and AbdelKader Arnaout classified its isnaad as saheeh]. NB: Hadith Mawqoof: Statement made by a Sahaabi. Hadith Marfou: Statement made by Rasool(sws). Mawqoof is as authentic as Marfou as a Sahaabi would only make such a statement if he heard if from Rasul(sws)

      Also, seek refuge with Allah(swt) before reading and studying. Get to sleep on time, eat well, drink plenty of water and make sure to pray your Salaah.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  63. Assalamoalaikum!
    I got a proposal of my own cast (i.e.Syed Sunni). My father did Istikhara for continuously seven days but he didnt see any dream or any good or bad sign. Now my question is, should i do this Istikhara again? My family likes that family alot but because of this blank reply..m a bit doubtful and confused as well because there is no reply neither positive nor negative..So plz guide me should i do Istikhara again?

  64. Assalamu alaikum wr.wb

    i need a help. i have 2 elder brothers. i did istikhara for my eldest brother's marriage after isha salah and slept.

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  65. Assalamalikum,

    please let me know as few site i read its 2 rakath sunnah and here i read its 2 rakath nafil...plz i have 2 question, requesting to answer me ASAP....
    a) if the 2 rakath is sunnah or nafil??
    b)after praying istikhara is that i should not talk to any one and sleep with out talkingt to any one??

    Allahahafiz

    • Sunnah and nafilah are not different.

      I don't know if anything has been reported about sleeping without talking to anyone. However, in general I do think that seclusion is good for Istikhara and for personal contemplation.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  66. assalam-o-alaikum,

    i know istikahra is not primarily related to dreams..but having an answer in dream could be possible? so please one of the editors tell me if i'm wrong.. i want to go abroad for studies either in Uk or aus .. i'm confused as to where i should go.. so i did istikhara.. although i'm relying on circumstances but i saw a dream in which i saw northern ( or maybe southern) lights. but i was thinking to myself i'm in uk.. but i was really in awe to see the aurora which looked really breathtaking ( i really like aurora borealis, and it's my desire to see aurora borealis one day) but i wasn't thinking of northern lights before the dream.. not in my mind.. i even forgot about wish to see the lights. but my friend kept insisting that i already got my answer and it's uk.. and at the back of my mind i kept thinking but northern lights arent visible in uk.. so i just googled and found out they are visible in the city where i want to go to.. should i take it as a hint?
    i had told myself that i wont rely on dreams until there's a clear indication.. do u think it's a clear indication? i did it in ramadan.. i didn't pay attention to the dream until now..

    • Allah May or May Not Guide through dreams.

      We do not know interpretation to dreams, and I do not claim that I am correct, but I think it is as you think, if you saw the northern lights.

      Go ahead and apply for the visa if you are not confused. If you are, then do the Istikhaarah again.
      Insha Allah, it will not be approved if UK isn't the place Allah wants you to go to. Have your trust in Allah and move ahead. If you still have queries, please post your question separately.

      Thanks!

      Muhammad Waseem
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  67. AOA
    i want to ask that my friend did istakhira for me and my life with a person.
    but it turned out negative.
    but i am not satsfied with the result.
    should i perform istkhara again and this time i want to do it myself so that i can b satisfy with.
    thank you

    • Salaams,

      You should always make the istikhara yourself. Having it done by a third party carries the risk of it bordering into being fortune telling or being mis-interpreted.

      Istikhara is about seeking the guidance of Allah. If you are the one who needs the guidance, how will it benefit you for someone else to receive it?

      Do the istikhara yourself, and go with the outcome you feel guided toward.

      -Amy
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • thanks for the reply.
        but i have heard that istkhara cannot be performed again. though i am not satisfied with my friend doing istkhara, but she said k istkhira cannot be performed again.
        thank you for your reply.

        • Salaams,

          I'm not sure where your friend got that information, but it's not true. I would even venture to say if you have never done the istikhara yourself, it hasn't even been done once! A person can do istikhara more than once on a particular issue, if they still feel uncertain after the first time. The only limit I've ever heard put on istikhara is 7 consecutive days. However, I would assume that if you made istikhara once about an issue for even 7 days, but then 3 years later had a concern about the same issue, you could still do it again.

          The only time it would be suggested a person refrain from doing istikhara multiple times is if they are doing it only because they didn't like the first outcome, and hoping it would be different if it was done again, and so they do it over and over until they get the result they want. That's frivolous.

          -Amy
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  68. Hi there My name is Mohammed Arbi iam 29years old I khow a girl for 4 months she said to me once Iam going to do Al-Istikhara, I said to her go ahead she said no iam not, I wanted to do Al-Istikhara but I love her so much that i dont want to do it because what if it is not my favour. Iam confused really love her.

  69. Assalam-O-Alikum
    I want to discuss my mother situation

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  70. ASSALAM O ALAIKUM
    My friends did istakhara for me and i also prayed istakhara for myself, that is my love is good for me or not in the future ? but one of my friend saw funerals of several people then another my friend saw death of someone and blood and i myself saw that building is falling on me and death of someone and i just wokeup but my eyes were still close i was about to cry in the dream beacause i wasnot able to call my sister to stay with me because i was so scared of that dream.. what does that death means?? plz someone tell me

    • ayesha, the results of Salat al-Istikhara do not come from random dreams from your friends. It comes from your own sincerity with Allah and trust in Allah. You pray istikhara yourself, then you choose whatever action seems best and right to you, trusting that Allah is guiding you to what is good.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • i prayed istakhara myself i saw that triangular shaped building is falling on me and suddenly i saw death of someone and i know that during my dream that i am awaked but couldn't able to go to my sister to tell her that i am not fine because during my dream i was so afraid and scared of my dream and i was thinking that i am about to die if i couldn't touched my sister and when i touched her i felt relief.. what does that mean??

        • Allahu 'alam. Probably nothing to do with your Istikhara. Please read our articles about Istikhara to understand this important prayer better.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Probably its a sign signifying 'danger', wallahu 'alam. Pray isthikhara continuosly for 7 days atleast and do some backround check on that guy by informing your parents. Do not do it on your own as it is extremely risky.

          • AoA, in jnauray this year i was going to get engaged to a girl i like, som one told me to do istakhara , the method was 2 nafals but before nafals it there was 11 times 3rd kalma ,11 times darood sharee and 11 times surah Ikhlass , and then pray to Allah about his guidence and offering te two cycles, and then there was left or right turn in nemaz for positive or negative node, my question is if there is any such type or method of istakhara because i am in a tention please guide me

          • faiq, those are all invented practices, not from Sunnah. Read our articles on Istikhara to learn how to perform it properly.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  71. Assalam o alaikum , thanks for your advice but because of that formed practices i have done a damage now i am afraid what to do because if i will do istakhar according to sunnah and it comes out something else from the previous one how will i face my family and friends and that girl family ,like they will be saying as i am making jokes or doing some bullying steps which in a muslim and pathan society is not a good thing , what do you suggest is best for me like i shall go for sunnah way and other things will come easier on their own
    regard waiting for your reply

  72. I performed istakhara last year in the month of July...

    • Gul, colors seen in dreams have nothing to do with the result of Istikhara. Please read our articles on Istikhara (links at the top of the page) to understand this prayer better.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  73. How can one perform this salat if they do not know how to read the holy Quran? Also I got told by someone that you should read this salat after every prayer that you perform is this correct?

  74. salam
    so i recently met someone and we talked about engagement but i dont know him that well. should salat al istikhara be done to see if it is the right way to go with him or...?

    thanks.

    • Suzy, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we will advise you in turn Insha'Allah. We need more details than what you are giving us here.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  75. can we do istikhara in the month of RamDaan?

  76. Assalam U Allaikum

    I want to know whether I can read the dua after seeing it (Like taking a printout of it & then holding it in hands after the Salat) as I am quite slow in memorizing the dua. Even I am afraid that I could make mistake after memorizing. Please help me out.

    Jazak Allah Khair.

  77. Aslamualakum
    I would like some advice with a predicament
    I'm in? I'm 35 & have been looking to marry for a while...over 3 years ago
    I talked to a brother but he was not interested in committing to marriage..as time
    has gone by I feel I have fallen in love with this man...although we have never met in person?
    He does not feel the same way, always says he is not ready at the age of 33.
    I have performed isthikarah prey...I have not dreamt any thing...but all I feel the more
    I try to talk with him & try to get closer the further away I have pushed him.
    I have very strong feelings in my heart for him to the point I feel heart broken!
    I feel I have attached myself to the wrong person?

    Allah knows best.
    JazakAllah

  78. Assalam.....just wanted to know whether i can ask a close friend to do the istikharah namaz on my behalf???..suppose he did it and got a negative answer, can i ask Allah duahs to make it positive?

    • fatima, pray Salat-al-Istikhara yourself, it's better. Also, if you have a close male friend, that is a problem already. In Islam, unmarried men and women do not get close in that way.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Can i ask someone very close(a girl) to do the namaaz on my behalf?
        Suppose i get a negative answer and i really want it to be a positive one..can i ask Allah duah for it?

        And for how many days i need to perform the Istikhara Namaaz?
        Can it be for only one day?

        • fatima, you can pray Istikhara once or more than once. When you pray Istikhara, you are asking Allah to guide you to the choice that is best for you in your dunya and aakhirah. If Allah guides you to the best choice, why would you ask Him to change it? Would you rather have the worst choice? No, make the choice that feels right to you, trusting that Allah is guiding you in response to your dua'.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  79. Salam, One year back Ahmed proposed me for marriage...

  80. Salam I was wondering since I can't read arabic can I recite the isteekhra in english

  81. salam i have been trying to find the meaning of this dream but could not find it i got a dream-pt yesterday night that this whole world got submerged in water and now only our area is left to get submerged but some how some of our cousins come and rescue us and then i got up . please if you can tell me the interpretation of it ..and also i wanted to know if i can do istakhara for a cousin who stay's far away and din't meet up for a long time but we know each other ..thankyou ...w.salam

    • We are not dream interpretation specialists. Could be that you are feeling overwhelmed by the events of life, and that is represented by the water. Allah knows best.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  82. Salam. I am going through some depression due to grave mistake done by me. as part of repentance,I have to decide over some materialistic things, i wish to do isteekhra.
    But being not in normal frame of mind and disturbing sleeping patterns, how could I do it? can you please guide.

  83. salam i reverted to islam about 3yrs ago...

    • lisa, you should pray Salat-al-Istikhara yourself, and the result is not dependent on dreams. Please read out articles on Istikhara and educate yourself on this subject.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  84. Please can you give me any answer on this that after my istakhara i saw very red fruit.what can this mean?

    • amna, Salat-al-Istikhara is not based on dreams or colors seen in dreams. Please read our articles about Istikhara (links at the top of the page) to get a better understanding.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  85. AOA, I have a question. Some people say that after when you gets the guidance from Allah in your dream (istekhara), and if you still dont do what it is been indicated in the dream. you gets punished for it.
    I just wanted to ask if this is true and if there are any strong resources or evidences to it?
    Many thanks, Jazakallah!!!

    • Why does everyone think that guidance from Istikhara must come in a dream? Where does this idea come from? It's very strange. Salat-al-Istikhara is not dependent on dreams. You ask Allah to guide you to what is best, and then you make your choice, trusting that Allah is answering your dua'.

      I never heard of any punishment for not following Istikhara, however it seems to me that the punishment lies in making the wrong choice. In other words, if Allah shows you what is best, but you choose what is worst, then you are punishing yourself. So why would you do that?

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  86. Can anyone help me
    I did this prayer this morning asking will I marry my ex that just broke up with me and I was worried about it. We love each other but some issues drove us apart. I prayed it this morning and went to bed like 45 minutes afterwards I feel asleep I woke back up in a hurry to check my phone ( I don't know why) but I was still worried about it.. I went back to bed and woke up later at 0930 and I felt like I had no worries at all. I felt like Allah will take care of me and I shouldn't worry about her everything will work out... It felt like a spirt installed and made me think/believe that she will return to me... Can someone with experience help desifer my outcome of shush a great and beautiful prayer and am Did I disifier the feeling right
    islam is the best
    Thank you for all the help
    Hatim matar. حاتم مطر

    • Hatim, I removed your email address as we do not allow posting private contact info. It sounds like Allah answered your Istikhara prayer, Alhamdulillah. Just make the choice that you think is right and best, and trust that Allah is guiding you, Insha'Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  87. Assalam oalikum!!!

    m aik question phnchna chati ho kay istakhara m main nay red colour dkah han (istakhara for rishta) red rose dakhy han its good or bad..... baki istakha sab sahii ae han but aik hi asa aya han plz bta di ga ga as soon as possible..

    • Salat al-Istikhara is not based on colors seen in dreams. Instead, one prays to Allah for guidance, then makes the best choice he can, trusting that Allah is guiding him to what is good, and keeping him away from evil. (See our articles on Istikhara for more info - links at the top of the page).

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  88. Have seen red coloured clothe in dream after seven days of istakhara. .....and got feelings that the task is actually not good for me ......can anyone plz tell me exactly that it is red signal ..........

    • Assalaamualaikam

      Please read the information on istikhara provided on this website. Istikhara isn't a spell or ritual that has colour codes or prescribed symbolism - it is a prayer asking Allah that if something is good for you in this life and the next it is brought to you, and if something would be bad for you that you are kept away from it.

      If you require advice about your problem or dilemma, feel free to submit a new post for publication and it will be answered in turn, inshaAllah.

      Midnightmoon
      IslamicAnswers.com editor

  89. Wallaikum asalam
    Sir I have recently got admission in medical college but just after going there for few days I intensely started feeling that this feild is not good for me I cant maintain my intrest in it ......I got confused and did istakhara for 7 days(if I should continue medical or not ...but on seventh day what I only saw was my cousin wearing deep red bridal dress on her wedding (in reality she died some 31 year ago at age of almost 1 year ...some 13 years before my birth ) ........I m really confused about the result of istakhara ..... day by day my intention is getting away from this feild ....I want to change my feild but my family is not letting me change my feild .....plz guide me some way

  90. Salam,
    I have been doing namaz istekhara for the past 3 nights, to stay with my husband or leave him after he has committed adultery, but he will not confess to it, and i have a lot of prove, even when he was drunk one night he told me and he was sorry, after the namaz i did not have any dream but i have been crying non stop for 2 days know, please some one help me to see what it means.
    thank you sooo much

  91. Assalamoalaikum...

    [Editor's note: If you require advice, please log in and submit your question as a new post for publication; we can then advise you in turn, inshaAllah. It would also be a good idea to try to write your question in English if possible, as questions are published in English.

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  92. Assalamo Alaikum,
    The humble request is to take this issue into your kind attention.
    One of my couzin named (Humera Irfan Bin Sughra Irfan) she is engaged to a person for last 6 year and the person Adeel Ahmed to whom she engaged with he is a drug addictive person but no one from his family mentioned this thing at the time of engagement .Then after some time his parents sent him to Saudia Arabia.But he is still not doing any job in Saudia Arabia Now, the whole family want to get rid of this relation but Adeel's family does not want to leave my couzin at any cost.Then use to abuse her criticize her a lot on calls and they use to Harare her by saying many thing.Now, she just want to have any secure way by which she can get rid of those people without any problematic scene or if you can help by any manner so that would be great.
    Thanks

  93. Assalaamu alaikum. Is it okay to mention our problems in any language if arab is unknown?

    • Wa alaikam salaam.

      If you have a question that you wish people to give you advice about, you should submit it as a new post for publication - that way it can be published on the front page and answered in turn, inshaAllah.

      There is a waiting time of about 4-5 weeks between submission and publication, due to the number of posts that are submitted.

      Posts are published in English. If you feel you're struggling with writing your post in English, you can ask the editing team for help - we speak a few languages between us, so inshaAllah someone may be able to assist.

      Midnightmoon
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