So i can marry her if i honestly decide to convert?
I am from the US ( dont associate me with G.W. Bush please) and i am a focused musician however, but i am willing to convert in order to live a meaningful life and marry a girl a from Palestine. Could our marriage be justified?
I am willing to follow the religion to the best of my abilities. If this can be justified, is there any easy way to explain this to her parents when the time is right? (What would be a good time by the way) Would a musician of this country be suitible for a muslim woman? I respect her and the religion.
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As an American convert to Islam myself I can shed some light on this and offer advice at the same time.
First as a non muslim right now, you have before you a very unique oppurtunity. If you accept Islam for the right reason and with true sincerity in your heart, all of your past sins are forgiven and you start fresh. However on the downside, marrying a women is not a right reason for accepting Islam. If you beleive that Islam is the truth become muslim and don't wait on what her or your parents think. Also don't delay in accepting Islam if you beleive it is the truth. Frankly, you don't know what the future is going ot bring and people younger than you have died without expecting it.
After you bcome accept Islam, and learn more about what God has called mankind to do, you may find that the girl you like now is not the best for you. I speak from experince that when you become muslim and put Islam into practice your priorities, likes and dislikes change and things that were important before are no longer important and things that weren't important now become important to you. Your eyes are opened to the world around you and things are made very clear and you realize that you were very ignorant before (although you don't perceive it now) and this is not an ignorance on an education level its an ignorance on life. It is difficult to explain really, you really have to expereince it to understand. However, I've been muslm long enough to see other guys and girls go through what your gong through, my advice is the same and comes from expereince, the first thing you should do is determine if you beleive islam is the truth? To do this ask these questions: Do you beleive God is absolutly ONE and unique? Do you accept Muhammad as a 100% human prophet and messenger that God sent to all of mankind? If those are both yes, then are you willing to submit your life to God? This does not mean become a monk or live in poverty (although being a musician you might be used to the latter) but everything a human being does in their life from how they eat, sleep, use the bathroom, have sex, work, relax, travel, shop, etc has a right way in accordence with God's insturctions and a wrong way that is not inline with what God said to do. If you are willing to do the best you can to live your life the way God and his messenger has taught us, then in reality the choice is very simple. You are ready (like it or not) to become muslim and accept Islam as your way of life. After that then you can think of marraige because you will have became muslm for the right reasons. If you become muslm because you wanted to marry a woman and not because you thought that Islam was the truth, then the marriage wont work anyway in the long run and you will never have truely beleived in Islam or tried to make it work anyway. You may think you will right now but in reality you wont and are not being honest with yourself. i've seen and heard it enough to know what I'm talking about. After you have became muslm you may find that you want a muslim sister as a wife that is more serious about Islam than the one you are looking at (a quality a nonmuslim isnt' going ot appreciate as much as a muslim would). The importance fo finding a good wife is that marriage is half of your way of life and your spouse is a key to your paradise. You want someone as a mate that will help you on your road to heaven and encourage you in that directoin rather than someone who is constantly piling kindling wood around your feet and trying to light a match! So become muslim if you think Islam is the truth. Then choose a wife that is good for you and good for your hereafter. It may or it may not be the one you are looking at now. But do it in that order and for those reasons. If she is a good sister, she will understand and agree with what I have said because she will want you to be sucessful in this life as well as the hereafter and she will want someone that will halp her do the same thing. This isn't just all about you, it will have a big effect her too.
Salam alaikam brother..peace be upon you.
I hope u read this comment and that is for two reasons...
one i myself am a muslim women who has met a none muslim man..we did not choose to fall in love and our love is not a lust full love either..which is hard for me to explain how that is.
two he is willling to convert to islam as well..so when i saw your question my heart went out to you..and i understand how you are feeling..and yes their is hope depending on the girls family.
I dont know if there is a way i can contact u outside of this site e.g email or messanger but it would be nice to. by the way the man i love is in the usa too.
Assalam Alaikum dear brother
Firstly marriage of an Arab girl to a non-Arab man is not considered valid in Islam based on Kaf'aa. But the reverse is true and an Arab man can marry a non Arab girl
Now all non-Arabs are considered Kafaa (Islamic compatibility) to others.
So if you want to marry islamically, marry a non-Arabic girl
May Allah be with you
Amen
Brother Kashif, I have never heard anything like that before. What is your evidence? If you are basing it on mere compatibility, an Arab girl may well be compatible with a non-Arab. For example, an Arab-American girl raised in California would probably be much more compatible with a Pakistani-American also raised in California than an Arab raised in Morocco or Iraq. Compatibility is not based on race.
Kashif...I've never heard of such nonsense in my life.
The Quran does not say such a thing, infact it encourages mixing of different nations.
Allah says in the Quran, Verse 49:13
O mankind! Lo! We have created you male and female from Adam and Eve, and have made you nations and tribes that you may know one another. Lo! The noblest of you in the Hereafter, in the sight of Allah on the Day of Judgment, is the best in conduct in the life of the world Lo! Allah is Knower of your status and lineage; He is Aware of your works and standing in His sight.
There are many examples of successful marriages where the couple are from different cultures. The thing that binds them together is their love for Allah and their understanding and practising of Islam in their every day lives.
External problems created by the families or wider community may present issues thus causing challenges in the marriage. But this is not a reason to say cross cultural marriages are wrong or not recommended in Islam. It is quite the contrary.