Stuck in love and need to forget
Salaam,
My name is Shurida and I am 19 yr old. Kashmiri American. Muslim girl who made the mistake of committing. a sin. in Islam by having a relationship with an Iraqi guy whom I truely love. The problem is I want to get close to Islam and change my life. I was born and raised in the U.S. and was raised practically like a non-Muslim girl due to my parent's divorce, basically I never had anyone to explain me write/ or wrong. I got attached to an Iraqi guy who wanted use me for Zinna and I thought he was going to marry me, now he is telling me that he will be going back to Iraq to marry a 18 yr old and if i want I can marry him as a second wife or girlfriend or leave him if I wish to.
I do not know what to do, he is all I have. I pray to Allah everyday to have him marry me only... I am going crazy everyday, I'm even thinking of going to a psychic to do some sort of voodoo on him which i know is haram and i'm sorry I am being this honest on here but i can't take it anymore, i feel like i was used and now i'm wasted and no good guy will marry me and i will most likely commit suicide.
Is there any sort of prayer which can calm me down or make me forget him or just give him to me. I even went to an Imam, which was no help at all. Another problem is that this guy told me that one reason he will NEVER marry me is due to the fact that I am a born Sunni Muslim and he is born SHia'te Muslim and also that I am not Iraqi, I mean it is not my fault if ALLAH has made me Sunni and Kashmiri, what can I do, I swear I'm on alot of medication due to my stress...i cant move on I am stuck in one place I need help please how can i find out the truth of my life. I will appreciate anyone who can advice me in this matter.
Salaam
-Shurida
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email me if u need some1 to talk to. I can feel your sorrow. Dont do stupid things okay? Lots of love
asalamwalaikum, im ayaan frm india,23,single..,i read this story n i m very much touchd abt shurida..i too hav been thru this pain in my teenage stil thr r sum wounds left.bt life goes on.i knw its nt rite to say bt i wud luv to marry a gal like shurida n infact i wud love to marry her if she also needs a guy like me...if intrestd heres my email id .if felt bad sorry.may Allah fulfill evry1ns desires.
Ayaan...what an inappropriate comment.
u r mad bro.....wen i saw ur blah..felt ashamed..
I came in search for an Dua for forgeting the past love...
in this last ten days of ramdan all i pray to Allah is to make me forget..
whoever reads this please include me in your prayers....
Im that down right now...sometimes even true Love do have boundaries of culture religion country..
Thanks..
plz tell me that dua to forget my past:(
say every day*3rd kalma tamjed last verse.lahula wala quwata.and so on.every day .whithen week inshallah ur wish will be fulfill
Allah love human beings more then 70 time a mother love a child.
So At night Allah come from 7th sky to the first and ask human beings
Is there anybody who can ask me some thing what he or she wants
thats what i hear from a good friend of mine .
Just pray tahajud and cray cray as more you can InshaAllah you will feel the change in few days
Please tell me dua please urgently I need it.
ASSLAMM WALELUM I AM ALSO GOING THROUGH THIS SITUATION I LOVE A GET
BUT I WANNA FORGET HER WHAT SHOULD I DO PLZ REPLY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
I WAS NON MUSLIM BUT NOW I CONVERTED INTO MUSLIM
Wa Alaikum as Salam Raj,
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Sir..do help us and pray for us...that we get hidayat from allah swt..that we get away from these haram stuff...
There are many ways for a happy life for you
Dear sisters,
Assalamualaikum,
I am not writing to tell you what is right or what you need to do as I am another like you, servant of Allah and I am not qualified for advice. What I believe is that Allah is the Gafoorur-rahim, The Most Merciful, The Compassionate- Only Allah is aware of our intentions- our past, present and future. If He wants He can take you to the right path. It is up to Allah to show us the straight path and it is His will to keep us blind and make us suffer. So sister your best bet is to seek forgiveness from Allah and ask HIM to show you the straight path. Please establish regular prayers and try to recite the Qur'an, the guidance for mankind and for jinn. You will find your way out. Ask Allah, Your Raab, The Lord of this earth and heaven. Ask Allah can soothe your soul. You have already realized your mistake so you see Allah is making you feel inside- You are in the right path my sister. This is your test my sister. Only Allah knows about your heart, your soul. This test is to strong your Eman. Sister please read surah Ta-ha ( chapter - 20 ) regularly, Surah Mariyum ( chapter 19 ) both for marriage and forgiveness. Please read surah Mumin chapter 40 with translation where you can find how it is described about zina ( adultery ) and we are instructed to safeguard our body and private parts. This will help you understand the rules of Allah is not so difficult to follow. Allah only asks His slaves to follow the basic rules otherwise we shall face the consequence for violating the rules. Sometimes Allah keeps us blind until we seek repent sincerely.
We are lucky if we learn our lesson faster and go back to Allah- Dear sister Shurida, Please seek refuge in Allah from Satan the outvast who is always alluring us to commit sins. Please read Kalimas and especially Kalima Kufur, Read 4 Kuls, Read Kalima Tauhid 25 times, listen to Ruqeya online- go to you tube and listen to any ruqya to calm you down. Listen to surah Baqarah is to ward off any evil intentions. Always keep in wadu and try to cover your head - it's to protect yourself from evil eyes-
Sister please know one important thing- there's no one can love us more than Allah, No one but Allah can fill your heart with love and abundance. I have expereinced this- if Love is divine, if Love is Allah and The Noor is what we are made of then remember Love is the light, Love is Allah- Just submit your soul to Allah- Then you have no worries- Allah will ease your pain, will send your spouse the one who is best for you. Just know we are only supposed to love Allah- and Love will make you grounded- but lust, desires will make you desperate- what you feel is lust, unlawful desires not love- Love is unconditional. Love is not lust- Love is eternal, Love is Allah- And Trust me Allah can fill your heart with this love- not lustful desires- Allah will show you the True love and you will find your man- Be patient- seek from Allah- He is our Protector, our provider, our Creator.
Inshallah Allah will make it easy for you-
I am another slave - brother / sisters if I have said anything wrong please forgive me and keep me in your prayers so that Allah will enlighten me and forgive myignorance.
Thanks-
Ma sha Allah, jazak''Allahu khair ya akhi for the good advice.
Pls move forward avoid mobile just pray Allah for your parents he will only destroy your n may be Allah has written better then her in your life soo only pray too Allah all the best @danish.
Asalaamualaikum
Sis...I sympathize with very much. I know how it feels when you're stuck in a situation like this...it feels like the world is crumbling around you. But when you eventually get out of this imprisoned state of mind and heart...which inshaAllah you will, you'll be able to see things alot clearer and realise that this man was not ever good for you anyway.
You want to hear that there is a dua you can read that will make him be nice to you and marry you...but it doesnt work like that. We make dua to Allah because we know that He knows best. Allah does answer our prayers - but that doesnt mean we get what we want. We get what Allah thinks and knows is best for us. And from the way you're talking - I can sense you're a very intellingent young woman who has just got caught up in a bad situation - so you know what I am saying is right. I know its so hard - but the only thing that will help ease your pain at this difficult time is faith in Allah and time.
OK, you've committed sins/mistakes - and that is a terrible thing. However, Allah is the Most Forgiving. Allah loves those who repent...and I feel this is a test for you...try your best to turn to Allah and He will come to you with speed. But don't think your pain will just vanish...it takes time...and you will inshaAllah come out stronger because of this situation.
Please please, try to be strong...I do know how you are feeling. There is light at the end of the tunnel...xxx
i am agree with you 😛 way you said ..... b strong like u r rite now dont worry eveything all good
Subhan Allah, it is well said
Respectable lady,
You are not encountering a situation that is very unique; this happens to people with different intensities. In your case the intensity seems high solely because you truly loved the guy. I am a male, but have undergone a situation like this where I eventually had to forget the girl I loved. Based on my personal experience, I can suggest you something. As I learned through your description about the man, he appears to be a very selfish guy who exploited you to fulfill his sexual desires. Not only that, he does not want to repent and compensate you for whatever he did because he never loved you. All he wanted was sex. Anyways, now you sit calmly and think about all the selfish acts he did to you throughout the span you were with him so that you start to see his real picture. Once you realize his real face, you will not love him. I know how it feels when you love someone. It is like you find him a very mean guy now, but after 5 minutes, you will again be missing her. But don't worry, you will inshallah recover from it after sometime. Keep praying to God. Trust me, one morning you will wake up and find yourself in normal condition. Only time and thorough thinking is the solution to your problem. Take care and God bless you.
Hello,
I also sympathize with you. Sister Z had some great advice so I won't be able to do any better than her. But I want to offer any comfort and sympathy I can give. I also feel your sorrow because I have done something similar to you, but my situation is a bit different. If you are truly feeling suicidal you need to get some help, fast. The last thing you want to do is commit another sin on top of the ones you already made. That guy is obviously not worthy of you, and look at it this way. At least you found out what kind of a person he was before you married him... otherwise you would have been in a much deeper hole. I hope this helps you, and I wish the best for you.
Salaams Shurida.I know how you feel.My wish is also to find a dua that will help me forget a girl i sincerely love.I liked this girl for 11 yrs and never told anyone due to she being a girl from my family,my cousins daughter.Two years back i told how i felt and she said she liked me and i thought insha allah we will be together.She recieved a marriage proposal last year and knowing that i liked her read istikharah salaah for this proposal.According to her its a sunnat to read for the first three proposal even though i asked 2 months before and she came up with an excuse.I cried night after night because i loved so much and couldnt beleive that my own family would do such a thing to me.After the istikhara salaah said no for that proposal she asked me to read.I read during last year ramdhaan and waited 3 months for an answer which i begged for.She told me after begging her that her istikhara salaah was a yes but she will never marry me.We were friends for a while but it soon fell apart.She told me to leave her alone because i made a fuss about another marriage proposal she recieved.Its been three months since i have spoken to her although i see her,i just dont speak anymore.Her sister even stopped speaking to me.I love this girl so much although i know she will never mine ....I read salaahtul hajjah continously hoping that one day she will say yes.As time goes by it seems more unlikely she will ever look at me in that way.I want this dua to forget that i love her so that i can try to move on with my life and fine someone that will care for me in that way.Up to today my mind still wonders,wondering if she will ever love me even though deep inside i know it will never happen........
I have been deceived after nearly 9 years. A pure cheating case. I loved him honestly and cared as much as I could. One fine day I was sent pictures of him with another girl. It all fell apart. Its been 4 months and I still cry everyday. People tell me to stay busy, but the fact is, even if I am busy I am still thinking of why he did that to me...why I deserved to be treated like that...
I was ready to forgive him and put everything in the past if he asked for forgiveness...that forgiveness that I was hoping hed ask for didnt ever come from him....He contacted me 2 3 times....saying he loves me....but he never asked to be forgiven...
Im human....we are supposed to forgive...but I tell Allah I am really really hurt...I might be a bad person but I have never hurt someone like this....
contact me....I know i'll understand you.
aslmualikum...
cirin let me tell u dat i am also goin thru the same phase... i had a childhood frnd since class 1..i developed a kind of feeling for her wen i was in clas 6th,, waited for 5 long yrs...nd finally wen we were in class 11th she admitted dat she also has feeling for me...since den we were togethr... v literally treated each other as spouses...we were so close nd so attached to each other but v were alwz worried about our marriage as she wz a non-muslim girl...though i was a bit religious and conservative still i cudnt control my self...nd still v continued wit our relation sayin dat wen tym will come we will c to it...
i knew her for past 17 yrs... v were in relation for past 7 yrs...
but in june 2012 she tuk admission in a mba colg in pune,,,since then our relation was not going smoothly...i alwz wondered where d things are going wrong...nd finally..in jan 2013 i discoverd some of her pics with a guy in a bit compromising positions...initially she lied dat he is just a frnd but later on she admitted dat both of them had feelings for each other... i was shattered to pieces...bcz i had decided that i wud inform our parents about our relation and try to convince them for our marriage...
i really wanted to commit suicide at dat point of tym... but as time passed i found peace in allah's rememberance...i still think about her every moment but now i m recollecting d broken pieces of my self...i m much stronger than wat i was...a mch better muslim...
u shud always remember dat behind everything there is god's will...its just a testing phase...most importantly allah loves his slaves even more dan a mother does to her child...so its for sure he has something better for us in future...its said dat if allah answers to our prayers he is increasing our faith...if he delays he is increasing our patience....and if he dont answer...than he has certainly something better for us...so pls pls have patience and faith in allah..because he never betrays and never does injustice to anyone...inshaallah u wil find peace...ameen...
Sad sad sad! WAllah if i was not married i wud hav wanted to marry u and take care of u and help u with ur situation but anyway im marid just keep making dua thers alot beautiful good women in the world just keep making dua.and remember we not alive to be wondering about love but we r alive 2 live 2 learn wats right and to obey Allah remember he comes first in our life.
assalamu alaikum shahid, i read ur post, i can understand your pain, which i have also underwent some 3 years ago, my guy, the one whom i loved a lot, left me by saying " you are not up to my status", i felt very bad , i cant sleep and started using sleeping pills, went to psychiatric counselling for 6 months, i was almost mad. then i decided to come upto his status and live in front of him, i turned all my anger on my studies, and i studied like a devil and cleared my undergraduate with 90% and got into post graduate in the same college where he was doing and took revenge on him by studying hard and achieving many prizes and medals. now i completed my pg with 86%.
you know all these happened in allah's grace, and now he is making a call many times a day and asking me y r u not speaking with me and so on. but i made my heart so stubborn that i will never accept him. initially i felt happy when i saw his call, but he doesnt seem to understand what his fault was, he was asking causually what was the wrong i did and y r u punishing me like this.
though i dont know the dua for your problem, i would like to say u to concentrate on things which u r good at and live in front of her and make her feel that she missed u.
i would say that she doesnt deserve u, u deserve a better girl , show all your love to that girl ur life will be in bliss.
i will dua for u brother. allah hafiz. whatever happens is for our good
allah better knows
when u feel sad just recite, ya hayyu ya qayyamun bhirahmatheeka asthagith.
Hey, shaheed..very amazing..i also have a very close story like u. i also do love my cousin since 9 years.
how do i tell u how much i loved her. she also liked loved me but now she told me that she does not like me. i wonder how the girls are like this. i prayed lots of time to ALMIGHTY ALLAH to forgive her but everything is in vain. it worsens more than before.
i thing there only one way to forgive her is to make more friends especially girls.
try it..if u have the capacity through this.
sorry..i couldn't did it..cause i am a service man and less scope of meeting any girls.
Assalaamwaalaikum did that imam told u for even thinking to do magic ur increasing ur chances of going to the helfire! i think u shud ask for forgiveness frm Allah and move on with ur life. no man is worth this especially that muslim who is not even a sunni muslim, it would be truely also a sin to marry a man like this! sister sounds like this guy did magic on you cos this dont sound right
Sister, the guy is a scam and you should be glad that you are getting rid of him. I mean how can someone does what he did? You said it, he used you and then wants to marry another girl. You are very lucky not to marry someone with such selfesh qulaities. Pray to Allah for frogivness and move on, you will find much better person to marry to.
Sister -Shurida
Salam!
How could you still love a jerk like that??? refresh your memory n thik again...
God saved you from this evil that's for sure...make dua to allah for that
Just ignore these type from now...dont let them use you....or anyway...give him a big punishment....hows
I am also a victim for being cheated and i dated this guy from lahore pakistan and he was in madly love with me and told me that I was his jaan and he cant live without me and made me believe how much he loves and cares for me and the thing is a wonderful man, i dont know what went wrong and he is gone without telling me and I am gone mental without him, I tried to commit suicide about 7 times but i failed, Please help me and I am lost and dont know what to do, I am so so helpless now..I am torn apart and just like a sharp knife went through my heart. any help would be appreciated.. I did lots of things to change for him. My background is christian but he told me 2 years ago he wanted me to become muslim and it was a very difficult decision to make because i am frightened of my families as well. but anyway I secretly started to read the quran on the internet without telling him and wanted to give him a surprise as i would shut him off when he talks about quran i was shy to discuss anyway 2 weeks before his sister got married I became more and more love with him and started to read and practice the quran openly in my home and also started understand more about it. It was like i am suppose to become muslim in order to marry him but at the end he left me and I have no idea what to do...his family calls me bhabi and they are so attached to me and so friendly to me and they show me so much respect to me...I am stuck and please help me
Asalaamalaikum, Dear Shareen, please don't try to take your life again. Your life is so precious and is a gift from Allah - the One who really loves you. While you are alive, you have the chance to do things, to change, to make a difference, to help others, to develop yourself. When you're dead - its all over. You'll have committed a major sin and will have harmed no-one but yourself and your family who care about you.
Life is so much more wider, colourful and encompassing than the restricted picture you have constrained in your mind. Yes, you must be very hurt if this 'guy from Lahore' has treated you unkindly and left you after making promises. But at the same time, if he has treated you so unkindly - he's not worth it either. If you are in contact with his family - have you asked them where he has gone and why he has gone? Its a horrid and lonely place to be when one feels this way at the hands of supposed loved one, and it will take time for you to get over, but suicide is not the way. I am not sure whether you are Muslim or Christian, but either way - neither religion accepts suicide.
Shareen, sometimes strange things happen to us - things which are very painful. But eventually we realise that those things were blessings in disguise. A person cannot become Muslim just to get married, as the belief in Allah and of Muhammed(pbuh) has to be genuinely and truly from the heart for him to become Muslim in the first place. If this experience has brought you to Islam, maybe this is your real gift. You may not see this yet as you are hurting very much.
One very important thing dear Shareen - love is not something that is necessarily conveyed through 'I love you's' and of calling each other mushy names and the feeling of having to be with each other all the time. No no no...That really is not what establishes love. Thats the decepetion that many have fallen for.
Anyhow, lets be practical here. You said that he left without telling you, so speak to his family first and find out what is really going on. Where is he and why has he not contacted you?
I feel sorry for you but look on the bright side allah stoped you from marrying that freak if he really loved you he would have married you and told his parents look she is my izzat my wife you have to except her. i was in that same situation but little bit differnt i fell in love with an afghani guy and his family didnt except me yet i was his girlefriend for 5 years i was blind in his love it took me 2 years to get over him even his family said to me that i can beacme his first wife then he has to get married inside his family 2nd time plus he never told me he was enaged back home i found that out last minute thank god i didnt get married to that freak yes he was the first man in my life who i gave my boydy and heart to but i reailzed something i comitt this sin by mistake i was only 17 when i met him dum and young. Allah has writen some 1 better in your naseeb sister some one 1 millinon thimes better then.I will pray for you. takecare
yes love hurts and the truth is every one falls in love at some stage of there life but what ever is written in your naseeb by allah will happen.The only way to get over some one is to keep your self busy and pray to allah.
salam
my name is sania, i m from houston TX, i m 22 year old life is perfect mashallah have perfect family but only one thing that i dream all ma life was shaadi i alway want it to marry a nice rich guy who would love me... i m very flimy kind a person.. but also very religious.. few year ago my brother friend and i start dating and he was very close to ma family so i alway thought he would never gonna cheat on me.. i knew him since i was 12 but now wen i asked him to marry me he said no an came up wit stupid excuse.. He never said that he wanna leave me but he have shown no interest in me.. now i m so madly in love with him that he is on ma mind 24X7 i think i might go crazy i been prayin day an nigh that i get marry to someone else so i can move on but life seem to b stuck and there no ristas comin at all.. is not like i m a bad looken women i m pretty with good education, religious, good family even very traditional..
any advice can help...
thank u..
sania, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you. My quick answer to you is that this guy is playing games with you. He has no intention of marrying you. You need to cut off your relationship with him completely and don't get involved in this kind of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship again. I know it will be difficult, but give it time and you will stop thinking of him so much.
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assalaam alaikum,
i am 42yrs divorcee with 2 children, and after 3 years of divorce i met someone in a foreign country..i went there because of my daughter's studies..and by chance i met a muslim guy in the lift of the building where i was staying and he started talking me..and after 1 week again i met him he asked for my number, i did not want to give my number because i was not comfortable from the start but he asked me twice so i was feeling shy to refuse him and i gave him my number,. after 5days he sms-d me and invited me to go for a dinner with him , but i did not reply him for that again i met him after one week in a shop while i was on shopping with my children. he came to me and asked me why i did not reply his sms and he told he is waiting for my reply, i told him i don't have a reply for that. and i went away from him..later i told my children about him. and my daughter told me i was rude to him, and told me to tell him the truth the reason why i refused . so i sms-d him by saying that i was a divorced and have 2 children.so he called me that night and talked me. we became friends after that
he was very nice to me and my children, and he told me that he loves me very much. so i was so happy because i liked him a lot too..but after few days he told me that he cant marry me.because i have children.so i decided not to talk him.
but he was very sad and told me not to leave him..so i agreed with him because i loved him a lot and for me it is also not easy to stop talking him..but i am a religious person even before i met him. i make dua like everyday for getting married soon,and after 2 years he went to his country for 1 month and came back and told me that he got engaged to a girl, i was like crazy..i cried a lot, he told me he will never leave me. i know the truth that he will not marry me..and i told him we will not talk again in life..but he did not stop calling me, when i told not to call he did not stop ..so again i started talking him because i was madly in love with him and could not find a way to go away from him that easily. he told me though he is engaged it was his family's choice and he is fully with me and his fiance is in his country so not to worry about it. i was with him one more year after he got engaged, and he went back to his country for 1 month holiday..while he was there i decided to come back to my country for good. I sent a mail to him by saying that i going back to my country, and he replied me by asking me to wait until he come back..but i decided not to wait for him. and i came back.
but i don't know why i could not wait without sending him my number after i came back to my country.
but i thought i will not be able to see him often like before and it will help me to forget him easily. and now its been one and half years now, i see him online some days and if i see him i used to talk him,untill now he did not get married, he told me he broke up his engagement with that girl and again he engaged another girl and he is planning to marry this year, and even i got a proposal from my country after i came back , and he is also a divorcee with 3 children.. i agreed to marry him. he has spoken my mom and my brother too regarding the marriage. so i asked him lets pray isthikhara before our marriage but he told me it will be okay if i pray istikhara and he didn't. I prayed istikhara for 1 week and after 2 weeks passed he called me and told me he cant continue with me for his personal matter, i was shocked, i was not expecting that and was so so sad to hear that from him..because i trusted him and i told him what has happened to him to break the relationship like that, even i asked to explain the reason and if i have done something wrong please forgive me and lets continue but he was so stubborn that he did not even answer my calls or sms, i was so sad and cried a lot because it was so unexpected..i was like broken inside even now its hard to forget but i never loose my hope still i am praying Allah everyday for my marriage..and i am trying my best to pray 5 times a day. and read duas ,its really difficult to live alone in life because we need a companion.i want Allah to choose the best person worth for my prayer, who is not selfish at all..please pray for me and if anyone knows any special dua for this condition please do not hesitate to send it..thank you for reading ..and May Allah bless us all and save us from all bad deeds..and forgive our sins. Make us strong enough to understand Allah is always with us and His kindness and blessing is most High among everything in the world. wassalaam
Dear Mariam,
May Allah heal your pain and replace your loss with something better, aameen.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
may Allah be with you. I have been passing through these situations and still passing but i dont want to discuss. anyway I believe that your prayers will not go unattended. time will pass we will die but your deeds and feelings will give a reward better than the whole world.
dear sister..
dont even think about doing anything silly.. i know it is easier said than done.. but this was a blessing in disguise for u.. he could have married u n then married another girl n left u.. but u r still single n ALHAMDULILLAH wat better than to turn to ALLAH..
as far as forgetting about him is concerned im sure it is very hard.. but ALLAH TAALA never gives anyone more pain than he/she can handle.. so just hang in there and be patient.. PATIENCE is a big virtue.. make duaa to ALLAH.. cry in ur duaas.. if he really did deserve or love u, he would never have hurt u or made u cry like this.. but he did n u do not deserve him..
it is stated in a hadith, something to the effect that says, marriage is the only thing that increases love between two people.. u wil INSHALLAH find someone who is destined for u n u will marry him n fall in love with him.. and u will look back at this and laugh about it..
u also mentioned that u thought of committing suicide..
my dear sister, suicide is haraam.. for a pain like this u wanna burn in jahannam forever? never my dear sister!
just read all ur namaaz.. read Quraan.. keep praying to ALLAH.. INSHALLAH soon u will be out of ur misery n it will all make sense to u.. as to y this tragedy happened for the better..
remember me in ur duaas sisters..
i hope u feel better n forget about him INSHALLAH AAMEEN
I really liked and believe what you said. You made me feel very good about myself. I believe in God more than anything in the world and he sure will 100 percent help. Just be patient.
salam,
i am 17 and i have been in a relationship for 2 years with a guy.we were soppuse to get married and what not our parents even knew about us, but we had some promblems that lead us to go our own ways, but he has went the wrong way he does drugs and other kind of things that is tottaly wrong. He is always in my heart i dont know how to get rid of him, I am going through alot of depression and i cant sleep at night. My parents are worried about what i am going through. I am tring to forget the past but nothing is workng i wanted to know if there is any type of dua where i can ask forgiveness for my sins and a dua where i can slowly forget him and move on with my life becouse its ruinig everything in school and im a whole mess right now. salam.
Wasalam, my beloved Fatima,
Prophet ﷺ taught us some beautiful words, learn it and recite it with your Heart, do your salat, my beloved sister:
اللهم باعد بيني وبين خطاياي كما باعدت بين المشرق والمغرب اللهم نقني من خطاياي كما ينقى الثوب الأبيض من الدنس اللهم اغسلني من خطاياي بالثلج والماء والب
Allahumma baa’id bayni wa bayna khataayaaya kama baa’adta bayna al-mashriqi wa’l-maghrib. Allahumma naqqini min khataayaaya kama yunaqqa al-thawb al-abyad min al-danas. Allaahumma ighsilni min khataayaaya bi’l-thalji wa’l-maa’i wa’l-barad.
“O Allah, put a great distance between me and my sins, as great as the distance You have made between the East and the West. O Allah, cleanse me of sin as a white garment is cleansed from filth. O Allah, wash away my sins with snow and water and hail.” (Bukhari)
In the first part, we are asking Allah (swt) to keep us far from the sins we have not committed yet. In the second part, we are asking Allah (swt) to cleanse us of those sins we did commit. And the third is greater, because we are asking Allah (swt) to purify us. The choice of the words “snow and water and hail” signifies being washed of our sins. The snow and the hail have a cooling effect, like the forgiveness from Allah of our sins.
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
@ Sister Fatima,
You can go on youtube and search for "haramain recordings". They are salaat in Makkah and Madina. Seeing people pray in multitudes will Insha Allah give you peace. Try to see videos of Shaikh Salah Al Budair, and side by side, keep the translation of the Sur'ah (which the Shaikh recites in the video) open on your computer screen.
Insha Allah you will shed tears and cry. Read translation of the Qur'an, ponder upon it's meanings. See what a Muslims life should be, see in it what Allah commands the Prophet (Salallaahu alayhi wasallam) to do. See in it what kind of life are we required to live as Muslims. Make it a mirror, see in it what you should be doing as a Muslim and see yourself through that mirror how much have you achieved of it.
Read the Qur'an again and again, see in it your life, how Allah has guided you, how Shaytaan is an enemy unto man and how we fall in his trap and how Allah's slaves repent and walk aright. Devote much of your time and attention to the book of Allah.
Insha Allah, you will see a way if you remember Allah much, as He says in Surah Al A'raf:
201. Lo! those who ward off (evil), when a glamour from the devil troubleth them, they do but remember (Allah's guidance) and behold them seers!
Salaam,
Your brother.
RECITE SURAH YASEEN and make dua in TAHJUD..
Im going crazy for this guy I really love. And I also am looking for a dua to read so I cAn forget him. We met a year ago and would have never thought I would have fell in love with him cuz he wasn't my type. Im a Pakistani american who use to act totally American. I had an American boyfriend and everything. This guy was from bangladesh. We ended up talking cuz I fell in love with how sweet he was. But after about a year he has been acting weird and showing me signs of cheatig. Be he claims to be such a good Muslim and everythig. He made me become religious and do namaaz. But he broke my heart by not wanting to be with me. It's hard to explain but he's not showing me love. And I'm crazily in love with him. People tell me that a Bangladeshi man will never marry a Pakistani girl. And I'm really starting to believe. I think he just needs something from
Me. We use to talk on the phone for hours and now we barely talk for 5 mins a day. He drives me crazyy. I really love and I can't forget him. Please somebody can you give me a duA to read to forget him.
As salamu alaykum, sister Anna,
Please log in and submit your question as a seperate post. Dua is not a magic potion, stop from your own will any contact with this man, if you want to marry tell your parents, they will find a suitable husband for you, insha´Allah.
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
You are doing right getting closer to Allah(swt), Alhamdulillah. That´s the straight way.
i am reading a lot of posts on this site, you people are doing good job. indeed bringing ease in the lives , well done! i had been passing through the situations like that and still in these sort of situations but feeling good after reading admirable answers.
Umair, thank you. Maria has not been active lately, but I'm sure she would appreciate your comment.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
asalaam alaikum sister... did u get any prayers for your situation?? at least i need your help to forget my love and continue life.... allah hafiz
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Salam, I am going through a similiar situation as most of the people here
The guy I loved is getting married to someone else the Problem is that he is my cousin
and I will have to attend his wedding. He has hurted me so much and has made my life
misreable. I don't Know what to do except cry I wish Suicide wasting haram in Islam
I don't know How I'm going to see him get married to someone else. Please help!
Laila,
I am sorry for what you are going through. Suicide is haraam and you will only give yourself endless pain and misery by choosing that path. Please see this article:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/suicide-in-islam/
At the same time, if you wish for further advice, please log in and submit your question as a separate post.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam,
Has any heard from sharuda?? I really hope she is ok inshallah xx
Salaam sisters,
I used to think I was the only person in this world going through this feelings. I can relate to your pains. I just wanted to share my part too. It has been six months already since i broke up with this guy. To be very honest, i still dont know why this happened. I dont know what my future holds. I knew this guy for 6 years, before he proposed me he was one if my best friends. Growing up, I never wanted a boyfriend. My priorities were my studies. This guy, made it clear from the start he wanted to marry me and he is 100% serious about it.
We were living in two diffirent countries when we first knew each other. We both used to chat almost everyday with each other even through it was 7 hrs time difference. When he first told me that he is falling in love with me, i freaked out because i wasnt looking for any relationship. And i never considered him as anything more than a friend. I remember i was 18 then, and he was 23. He begged me to give him a chance, when we met for the first time on his bday i was really hesitant because we was wat too short for me and super skinny. I felt really bad to make any comments abt sOmeones appearance. So i just kept quite and told him i need some time to think. In the meanwhile, he got admitted to a uni in uk so that we both can live in the same country. He made such an effort that i felt he really is the one for me. So i said yes.
We both had such a great connection, we used to fight a lit but we always patched up the next day. He even introduced me to his family. I introduced him as my friend to my family too. Even our family were getting on really well. He was in the uk for year and half. I can honestly put my hand in my heart and say i helped him with everything i could while he was here. He was such a gentle man, he hardly used to keep me waiting for anything, he would meet me atleast once every week. He was just the perfect guy not from the outside, from the inside. I thought i was so lucky allah has sent me such a nice companion. Who just loves me the way i am. We were even planning to get engaged asap i finish my msc. But i guess Allah had some other plans for us. After his studies he went back home and told me he will be back in 3 months. 3 month turned into an year. I started to become really frustrated. I just felt like he is making no effort to be together at all. He told me he has got an amazing job there which will be beneficial for his career later on. I suported him and carried on with this long distance relationship for another yr since i wasnt ready to marry yet.
I didnt see this coming even in my wildest dreams. Just one month after i started my msc all of a sudden one day he told me he wants to break up. I was in shock at first i thought he is joking, i didnt even take it seriously. When i asked him for a reason, he gave me family reasons, distance relocation etc. when i told him i will relocate to where he is living, he told me he is in love with someone else there. He didnt wanted to hurt me so he didnt tell me. And later i found out that girl was my classmate and she knew he was my boyfriend even though she went for him. I really didnt wanted to give up on him so easily coz i loved him so much. I told him i wil do anything for him leave my family ,my easy life. His reply to this was "go and die". Because i wasnt ready to have any implicit physical relationship before marriage, he said he cant wait any longer. That just made me pause. Till today this words rings in my head. I cant express how hurt i still am today, i dont know how people can change so much.
It was the most painful thing i have gone through in my life. I was considering suicide so many times. The hardest thing for me was to Stopping myself from calling him. I couldnt do anything for months. It took me a long time to build up the strength to delete all his emails and memories.
Today he is married to my friend and probably living a very happy life. His memories still brings tears in my eyes. I unconditionally loved him and still do. He just left me alone and stil wonder how can he forget all the promises he made.
I m 24 now, i dont know what Allah has in his mind for me. I wont lie, i really want something bad to happen to them. Karma should get to them for cheating and back stabbing behind my back. But then again who am i to judge? It didnt even come on my mind that in islam it is not acceptable to have this kind of relationship. I only found this site and islamic articles after my breakup becoz i was seeking for mental peace. Everything happens for a reason, may be it was Allahs way to remind me of his presence. I feel really guilty now for my sins. I put that guy above my parents in my life. I wish there was a way to get him out of my mind. I wish i knew how he replaced me for another girl so easily. I thought i will be okey without him, afterall he is a cheater. But it still hurts me having to let him go and to see him happy with someone else.
dear forgive him then you will get out of this problem believe me you will be free and believe ALLAH HE knows the best no doubt
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Dear sister Mariam, i have this very nice dua for you.
INNA- LILLAHI- WA INNA ILAYHI -RAJIOON ALLAHUMMA AJURNI FI MUSEEBATI WAKHLUFLI KHAIRAM MINHA.
May ALLAH(swt) replace you with someone better IN SHA ALLAH. ameen :).... Have faith in ALLAH and know that this was ALLAH's plan and whatever he does is for our own good only. He knows whats best for us while we may not know so put all your trust in ALLAH and hope for the best. Also dont forget to repent to Him(ALLAH) for the sins you have committed. Be strong and take life as a challenge. May ALLAH ease all your pain and grant you a pious spouse IN SHA ALLAH. Also see translation of this dua 🙂
Dear sisters
I am touched by all your stories, may allah ease your problems and replace your loses with someone better, inshallah.
I thought I would share my problems as I am finding it really hard to get my life on track. I am a born muslim, 29 years old now, but lived a western life over the years, the last about 10 years since I started going to uni, i haven't been living an islamic life. i lost faith in allah and my family were very controlling as a child so i wanted to do my own thing and be independant. as a child i didn't understand islam, it was forced.
i moved out of home and been living on my own for about 10 years. When i went uni i mixed with non-muslim friends, i started drinking and did lots of major sins but at the time i didn't see anything wrong with it i just wanted to have fun. i had a non muslim boyfriend for over 6 years who i thought was going to marry me and it ended. i was devasted but did get over it in the end. i still didnt see what i was doing was wrong, i went further astray, drank more, thought i don't need anyone, became so selfish and bitter, had white boyfriends did lots of bad things. i have been depressed for a long time.
anyway, since the end of last year, all i had was my so called career and job, splashed money, went on holidays etc, but i felt that money etc wasn't making me happy, i started asking myself questions what is the point of life, i considered suicide but never did it, i have always been controlling, wanted to control my life. i would go to work on the train everything was a routine, then my gran was ill, i had issues at work, my gran passed away, thats when i started praying as i felt nothing in the world was helping me cope thats when i found peace but i got scared, like whats going to happen to me when i die, and i thought what is this religion that i've been born into, as everyone in my family new what was happening and death was something they were not scared of. i started reading books on islam, and read the interpretations in english, i go really scared and stopped doing some sins like drinking, eating halal food started praying but i was not doing anything else felt it was too hard and gave up. i have always been lazy person and living on my own, i realised i cant live a life on my own.
my family are not aware of all the things i've done but they suspect it, they just want me to get married. i do too but i have so many insecurities. i don't know how to let go of control and accept the things have happened in the past and how i become a muslim now. i have become so removed from my family, i have not appreciated or done things for them.
i have the option of moving back to my parents, but i am scared how i will cope with the restrictions, or that it might push me further astray. i neglected my duties as a sister, daughter. i am scared i will affect my younger siblings life negatively if i move home. i feel
i have lost my job and am scared to do anything. i feewl like i'm in stuck position. i always havent liked change, and my constant worrying makes me stay in the same position.
i am scared that no muslim guy will want to marry me and i'm getting old/ugly, i want to have children.
but i can't seem to balance trying to follow islam, deal with things for others, my family and fulfill my own desires to get married.
i get angry at life and in allah, i cant seem to be grateful or appreaciate any good things.
i am never satisfied with what i have, i dread the future and can't get out of the past.
i cant even apply for jobs, i wasn't coping doing a job and keeping a home on my own tahts why i need a man to support me.
but i dont know what to do, i feel like dying.
any help suggestions would be great.
Dear Rajeena,
I can not emphasise enough how much I can relate my life with yours. In so many ways I am going through the same problems. I think its the culture and the people around us that made us greedy. I am never content with what I have, I always want and seek more. I don't know about you, but the only time I pray to Allah is when I need his help. And in return when my prayer don't get heard I act like a stubborn child. Since I lost the love of my life my life is going downhill. I keep failing in everything I do. I know its frustrating. But I keep telling myself I can only try my best I have to leave the rest to Allah, he knows whats best for us.
There was a time I used to ignore my parents, didn't listen to them I just used to do what i wanted. I was in a really dark place emotionally after my boyfriend left me. I still get upset thinking about it. But I am realising it now everything happens for a reason. Remember one thing no matter how big your mistakes are, your parents will be always there for you. When I was going through shit, I found my peace through my parents. I never share anything with my mom, but when I was going through that depression she noticed. I didn't wanted to tell her anything about my breakup, but a mom knows what her child is going through. She can read you clearly she can understand and feel your sorrows. My mom helped me to get out of this depression, she made me realise she is more important in my life than any other person in this world.
I know it will be extremely hard for you to cope with the restrictions if you move in with your family now. But trust me, they will be there for you no matter what, you just need to open up to them. I am getting old too, I sometimes worry whether a good muslim guy will marry me or not. But at present my focus in my life is to look after my parents and do things for them. I used to hate going out with them, I used to lock myself in my room and say No to everything they would ask me to do. Now I am trying to change myself. Every time I do something nice for them, that brings a huge smile on their face which is worthless. I used to think after I broke up I am lonely and no one cares about me. But I was wrong, Allah is merciful on us sister, we still have the greatest gift we can have in our life. The presence of our parents, Allah is with us through our parents.
Leave your past in the past, we can only try to get better in the future learning from our mistakes. You don't need a man to support yourself. You leave in a western world, women can do everything a man can. Make yourself stronger, broaden your mind. And most importantly, have faith in Allah. When you are contemplating on any decision and cursing your fate, don't think about the peoples who has a perfect life, think of the people who are in a worse situation than yourself. That will make you humble and you will appreciate the things you have in your life more.
Life is a beautiful gift, we all have to die one day. But according to islam death is not the end its only the beginning. Think of what are you going to take with you for your afterlife, if you die now? i am really scared of death. And most importantly, think of the pain you will put your family through if you have a premature death. Shut that thought out of your mind sister.
Forgive me if I said anything to hurt you. After reading your post, I totally saw my reflection in yourself 5-6 years down the line. Even you are a godsent to me, you are sending a message to all those muslim girls out there who are going through this dilemma. You are not alone in this sister. Please feel free to share your feelings here I am sure it will make you feel thousand times lighter. May Allah eases your troubles and answer your prayers.
Hi Tara
Thank you so much for your reply. That really helps to know other people went through similar situations.
My parents have always been ungrateful, even in the past and didn't provide the nuturing kind of relationship.
So, I'm scared that and I'm the second eldest and in the culture, I'm from Bangladesh originally, there is expectaion for me to get married and I guess I put the pressure on myself too.
Plus, like I need to change the way I dress as I haven't always dressed modestty.
I was so image conscious, I haven't worn a hijab etc, and not sure if I wear these will impact on what impression I give to potential guys for marriage. But not sure if I'll be a hypocrite.
I got really short hair, but then I think, that if I wear a hijab, will I be a hyprocrite.
I know I need to do things for the right intentions, for allah's sake but it's difficult to change. I guess I need to be patient.
I feel like I wasn't even coping on my own for myself, let lone for other people. I guess it's never too late to start to do good deeds. I have to just try my best.
I think I should be more grateful to allah that maybe this was the sign, me being in this position to make me realise how important my family are.
Dear Rajeena,
Changes doesn't come overnight. You need to be patient. With regards to wearing hijab, you have the answer to your question. You need to do it with the right intensions. I feel the way a girl dresses reflects a lot about her personality and individuality. You can look very classy with modest clothing. It doesn't always have to be revealing. I believe in less in more.
And about hijab, I am not a hijabi either. But I intend to commit myself to it one day when I will feel I am ready for it. There are girls who wears hijab and then paint their face with makeup, wears the tightest cloths they have. You know they might as well not wear the hijab at all ! But I have deepest respect for girls who can carry a hijab with all the right intensions. I am not sure what you meant by "impression on potential guys". I think if you are wearing a hijab thats a sign of respect to yourself and if a guy doesn't appreciate it why would you want to be with him? Does he want you as a trophy in his life? You are not a subject of display.
Every ones goes through hard times in their life. Take it as a challenge. I think you need to have faith in yourself and in god. Take small steps everyday. Stop worrying, things are not always in our control. Sometimes we need to let go. And the problems will drift to where its meant to go. Don't worry too much about marriage, work on yourself. Pray to allah to guide you. We can;t change our past, we can't predict the future. We can only work on the present and do our best. Worrying will only bring the worst out in yourself and hold you back.
Tara I read your story . And guess what I aam not surprised. I just pity you . And pity myself too because even I'm one of the victims like you. Tara see, you don't know how actually boys are. 5 fingers are never equal but the majority of boys don't worth girls . Boys usually are good with their wife's not girlfriends. And you had been wondering how could he forget that he ever loved you. Well the boys I know nowadays are two faced. They will prove you in any possible way to make us girls realise how much they love us. They stay good with us like as they can't live a second without eachother. But don't forget guys are stronger. They can forget anything possibly . No matter if it was a long term relationship. They give first priorities to their parents first and then to their studies and last to the love. They usually marry a girl who loves her parents more. That's guys mentality. Although we are quite aware of that we can't merge the feelings for parents and love. Each has their own value. Anyways what I am saying is that guy can even love with two girls at a same time. Those are evil hearted people. And you will find such guys almost everywhere in this generation now. It has not only happened to you but with many of other girls as well. And at the end people end up suiciding. But lemme ask you one thing . Would killing yourself bring an end to your life? NO . Because you will have another life after this world. You will be sent to hell fire. You will never receive any mercy in this world nor in hereafter. If you want to stay happy forget him. Because now you came to know how guys are. I call such guys having schizophrenia which a mental disorder . Guys are always complicated. We loving girls are out what we are from inside. Guys are not like that. They will not even let you feel that they will leave you or will not be true to you . They will have a great time pass no matter even if he loves you. Because they know forgetting for them is easy . He found your friend better than you so he left you. And don't be jealous because Allah says every evil would enjoy this world a long happy life indeed but not in hereafter he will be sent to hell and be eaten by snakes. It is said the one who takes revenges is the weakest person the one who forgives and forget is the intelligent one so forget that dirty person. No space should be given to evil in our Heart , recite salatul hajat . It's a two rakat nafl namaz that is read after isha. And make a dua and along with that recite la ilaha ila anta subhanaka inni kuntu minazalimeen. Surah karima.
Salaam sis I read ur messages I really loved why u explain in the messages ! I read like 10 time ! I don't know how I tell you all this hue much I tough frm ur message! Sis me also love someone who never loved me back even I knkw he never my type person ! I always cry and balm Allah 🙁 but when I rea ur message u made my life change ! Thanks you so much for ur sweet advice !
No worry sis. I love you all heart breakers. Has visited this place to tell you the truth of worldly people. Keep smiling and cheering 😀 life's great 😉
Thank you for your kind reply sister.
Its amazing to think how much emotional feelings can torment you, and how easily you can get relieve from it if you seek help to Allah ta ala. My life has changed so much in the last one year. You are right about revenge or vengeance is a sign of a weak person, it is a vicious cycle. Forgetting and forgiving is the hardest task and thats what I choose. But it was a very good lesson for me though. In islam they ask you not to become close with a guy prior to marriage I researched about it and realised it was forbidden for this exact emotional reason that I suffered. We should love Allah first and everyone else comes second. Last year I performed hajj by the grace of almighty Allah and I prayed to him for my own forgiveness for my mistake and alhamdulliah he has listened to my prayers. I don't know how but today I feel nothing. I have no guy in my life and I am very very happy with my life masa-allah. I pray for the same mercy for all the heart broken sisters here.
Also, I don't know what to do to stop thinking, I have always been a worrier, I worry too much and don't take any action and that's what s bothering me too. I'm losing my finances etc, not being able to cope with forms to get allowances etc.
Dear Tara
Jazakallah for your message. I'm still struggling. I feel like I have such a cold heart, even recently a death in the family happened and I keep thinking about myself and what's going to happen to me. I should care and love my family and be worried if they die. I don't know how to make my heart soft. I feel that its dead, and Allah will not guide me anymore. I'm so selfish, I don't feel remorse when my own family might be suffering. I don't know how to open my narrow mind. Everyone has problems, but I've been living a life that I thought it was my world. I dont know how to build the love for Allah , he gave me so much yet why can't feel any love, appreciation do good deeds. When I pray I seem to keep thinking of myself and not others, not even my own family.
Even if I recite the quran, I don't feel anything. I don't know how to stop thinking and start acting before its too late. I feel like I am going to hell anyway. I keep isolating myself and keep thinking my problems are the only problems. I cut out friends & my own family. Oh how do stop doing this to myself & my family.
Rajeena
Dear Sister,
I have the same problem as all the above sisters except that I never became physical with the guy that i have loved so much. He lured me into marriage and started to pass time with me. Then i came to Us from Pakistan on a scholarship and he followed me on the internet and made an impression that he wants to marry me. Now he is saying he can not marry me for unknown reason. I have to stop communicating with him but i am afraid i might go crazy. I want to cut off all ties but i can't. How can i forget him as i can't see him with someone else. Please help.
Sana,
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Salaam,
My name is Ali From INDIA (MUMBAI)......In my Whole life I did not got Love of anyone even not My parents or bro or sis.....My real Mother expired 14 yrs ago which makes me more depressed, After a long period I met this girl who was very nice n caring to me 2 yrs back and I got addicted to her I also do alot of duas to get married to her.......but from last 5 months she changed alot n doest not talk to me properly n give very childish excuses......I know she is lying to me n she left me for nothing......after which i went into depression n I m taking anti depression medicine which makes me very weak but still I cannot forget her, I dont know wht gunha i have done that i m facing this problem, In my whole life I never did any gunha nor I was in any relationship even I never smoke n I was always very strict to my religion.......I dont know y i m facing this problem, If sucide was not haram in Islam than I would have done sucide......I m really very depressed.......I did not find any duas to forget someone.......
I m making an Humble request to all of U plzzzzzzzzzzzz do duas for me
KHUDAHAFIZ!!!!!!!!!
Ali, may Allah heal your heart, and make your love for Him fill your heart, so that it is enough for you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
here is a dua for all of those who are in ths bad bad situation insha allah ths dua vl remove all ur worries,depression and tension recite ths dua as mch as u can may allah keep all of u frm ths stn ameen... allah allah rabbe la ushriku shay an..... recite daily asmch as ucan itis vry short and easy to remember
salam.....i wuld lyk sum advice
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Wael
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how do i write it as a seprate post
hi shurida
how you feel now..
dear sis i too am from kashmire ..
i felt deep grief for you..may Allah has fixed out your frustration ..wishing to hear from you living a happy and settled life
i have nice idea!!! one dua.....but i cant remeber it now ...sis..
Please tell me that dua 🙁
I'm from Iraq too northern Iraq I'm
Tilling you girl leave this jerk and move on!!! At the end his parents want him to marry a Iraqi girl because that's how it goes!! And must of them use girls for sex and have fun and leave them!!!Seen it with friends take my advice they don't know the meaning of love/ respect or anything so take my advice leave himmmm alone.,,
Aslam o allikum Shurida,
how r u ??i read ur story,but i dnt have a words to say something after readng ur story but i just want to say and sugest about something that forget evrythng what was happened to you,read namaz properly and reciting QURAN sharef evryday and always recite DROOD and ZIKAR ,make sure if u read and reciting these ur hert wil going to be relax and troubless inshallah we hope u wil be fine and spend ur life free of tenstions and stresses,inshallah Allah gives u a bundle of hapinessz STAY BLESSED tc ur self ALLAH NIGHBAAN
Asalamalaikum shurida,
i read your story n i really felt sorry for u but dont lose hope n never give up i'm sure allah tha-alah have something good in stock for u .....pray daily n keep praying until the end i 'm sure allah will show u the right path ...think that whatever taken away from u is taken away to give something much better than that so always be positive cause allah tha-alah never ever let us down ..he just make us go through some difficult and confusiing situations to test us and our faith in him..have faith in allah ..and maybe its because he dosen't deserve a girl like u .. n u deserve more than that...
my dear sister in islam may allah tha-alah give u strenth to overcome all the fears and diffuicult situations in ur life n may allah give u all the happiness in life ..n may he show u the right path ..... n bless u
ameen ..
i may be a stranger to u but we are sisters in islam so all the very best with ur life n always be happy
thaima,
Allah has someone better in life for you, worry about your faith and be stronger. At the momment you dont need a man, you need to be closer to allah. Please remember islam a new way of life for Best. Its peace Its love to many thing i cant explain how much i love my religión. But you need to for get your past-islam Its and opportunity to start new REPENT to allah. He love you and he Knows Best, the worth thing you could do is let him use you like a trash dont go to low you need to have DIGNiTY! Here We dont judge if are american or what ever nation, or if u didnt have someone Who tell u whats wrong or right. We should know, you be surprise how much you can learn in islam you just gotta be faithful to your religión and have good intention. Dont worry about the iraqy Boy Seriously everyone will pay there prive in the day of the judment.
it had been a long time , i believe that Allah would have helped you and never loose hope, may Allah be with you and everyone who is suffering. i realized that everyone had been passing through these type of situations i almost read all comments, thanks Allah . May Allah bring peace in our lives aamen
Asalamualiqum brothers and sisters,
I am safah.from India.i am in love with a guy. He also loves me alot. But now i came to know that it is haram to keep relations with a non-muharram person.the thing is that i want to change myself. I want to walk on the right path of islam but whenever i tell him that we should break he starts to cry and tells me that he cant live without me. I cant leave him because i love him. This is our 4th year.and i cant even marry him becuz he is not doing any job yet. Can u plz help me what to do.i am totally confused and dont know what i should do further.
thanks.
safah, break off your relationship with him until he is ready for marriage. That is the only Islamic option.
Wael
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I am a muslim girl....
Sara, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Assalamualaikum dear sister don't worry, he came in your life it might be good for u, he went away from ur life that might be much good for u, keep thanking to Allah and keep resiting ihdinas siraatal mustaqeeb , I'm also in similar situation but life is in process, and alsovresite this Inna lillahi was Inna ilaihi raajioon, Allahumma ajirni mimmuseebati waqlufli khairam minha , , and be proud to be sunni Muslim, live life love urcoarents n relatives who gave u love , if u can't love them who are ur past n present then how can u expect love from ur future , parent they might be divorced by they relation , not by yours , n no parents its in live for those who really care about u, life is given to u as a gift by Allah , its your duty to save it and return a good and strong life to him back Allah alone when he wants to take back, there is no wright on u that u can take life of your, here I'm n much much pain than u , but I'm telling u so that I too can become strong , wait and watch after somedays or some years u ur self will hate that guy and reject him on his face one day, live leave n love ur self , they will get there punishment , the people who hurt what they know what we are getting in our future , much much better than them in shaa Allah , and they will get nill
Dear sister,perform tahajud for 40 days and ask for your forgiveness and ask allahs help to forget that shaitaan..........that was shaitan who is open enemy of muslim believers...allah will forgive our every mistake...hes most bountious and merciful....and move on in your life....
I think u leave him.and block his numbers.after breakup u wil b in much paim u wil feel u r dying u bear this pain and offer regular prays and ask Allah that u forget him .after 2 months u wil b better without him
aoa.i was in love with a person from last 4 and half year....
Wa alaykum as-salam, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Be a strong women and don't beg to such a useless man , who do not respect women. Time will heal all ur pain. Trust in Allah , he will guide u to the right path. I'm sure Allah has written something better for you. Just pray to Allah so he can forgive you the sin you have already committed. Always react zul jalal walikram u will feel stronger In Shaa Allah
I'm 28 years old, I'm married from last year, he married me with his own choice, I love my husband more than my life, but after marriage I knew that he is also involved with some one girl, I request to my husband alot please leave her girl, but he can't leave her, I request to her girl also please don't break my home, but she can't, my husband told me after a some time. I'm not contacted with her but he still contacted with her, even now I'm working in Dubai from last 1 month and my husband still in pak, and fully involved with that girl, but I'm still mad in my husband love, when I decided to forget him than I feel pain in my heart, I can't sleep, I can't do any thing, but now I want to leave him, please.suggest me some good wazifa for help me to forget my Husband
listen my sister, I don't know how your feeling but let me tell you something I was with a guy for 5 years! and we both wanted to get married things happened and then he started using me and just this year he broke up with me, he was all I had too we basically had hubby and wifey relationship and seeing him go away sank me and I wanted to do everything to get him back. I wanted to kill myself I wanted to hurt and I was just miserable and maybe Allah put him in your life to get you closer to deen, maybe he was a lesson. thing I am doing that are helping me are:
1. cut all the cords with him, ie block him from all social medias don't ever meet him. make istakhfar for commuting zina
2. don't go to places you guys went or atleast limit them. (it's hurts seeing these memories)
3. pray to Allah, start praying 5 times, pray on times. tell Allah how you feel, cry to him. MAKE HIM UR BEST FRIEND. TRUST him. make dua to Allah nothin is impossible for him, never know he might listen to your dua. you wouldn't believe there haven't been one prayer went I didn't make dua for us and not one sajood went I didn't make dua for us again.
4. find things to do, new hobbies like I start working out ( helps me when j am angry take my angry there), soccer etc
5. learn about Islam. what is true love in Islam is prophet love for Khadijah
6. your young get career, start studying
7. don't go looking for another guy let time heal you, remember we all came in pairs.
8. MOST IMPORTANT FORGIVE HIM FOR HURTING YOU, forgive him and move on.
you wouldn't believe it's been 3 months I am still not over him and he got engaged after week of our broke up and still wanted to use me.
listen my sister how can we be happy when we started our relationship wrong we hurt Allah. we let shaytan play with our minds and shaytan is still doing that. trust in allahs plan alhumdullah he knows betters.
My daughter in love with a boy i want to make her forget
kaniz, you cannot "make" anyone forget anything, or stop loving someone. The only cures to love are separation and time. First of all, if the boy has decent character and your daughter is old enough to marry, consider letting her marry him. If that's not possible then try to keep her away from him. Time will do the rest.
Wael
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hey dear sis im so sad my bf deceived me 🙁
Assalamualykum shurida... Wow.. Dnt knw wht 2 say even i luved a grl still do bt she dosnt nd she said she wil nver...
U knw i used to cry torment about my wasted love... 1 and a half yrs i prayed to allah dat jst she should b happy nd i could a lil plce in her heart...bt she dosent love me.. Niether 1.5 yrs bck nor now...
I would hve been destroyed... Bt i was saved whn i realised the real happiness of lfe is in ibadat of Allah i strted namaz and believe me now i dnt care about dat person dat our love remain or die.. Im free... U knw ur need is not a wazifa actually its repentance... And namaz...
And if u want to love someone then divert all ur love towards the love of Muhammad (S.A.W) trst m ull forgt every other love...
Regards-
Fardeen
I m also in such type of situation I m strongly in love with a person whom I can never get but I m thinking about him only day and night what should I do ????.
Do your best to stop thinking about him. Busy yourself with other things. Live your life and strive to better yourself and please Allah.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Alla hamduu lil lahii allaa hull kuliii...read this how much u can insallah insallah u will be Abel to forget the past and ur mind will be free zazkkk allahh sabhiii ko assalamoalikum ...
Definitely there are many ways to live a happy life for you
Hi Brother/ Sisiter,
I am facing the same issue for past a year, I loved a Muslim boy and presently he got married to his own cousin as his parents insisted.
Now we are facing very bad situation that we could not forget each other.
I cant even felt to marry another person. but my parents are insisting me to get married.
Please help us forget my past and goahead with my life. please help me with the dua at the same time.
I am non-muslim, but I wish to follow islam.Kindly suggests me in this.
May allah give hidayat to you my sister...hope you soon get close to allah...its a plan of allah..who is testing you...you have to pass this test...and you dont know what is so so biggest reward is waiting for you from allah as a gift...dont be sad...have faith on allah swt.....
Ya Rabb...why do we long for those whom we were never meant for?