I’m a Sunni and I want to marry a Shia girl
ASSALAM U ALIKUM
I am a 22 years old Sunni Muslim and she is a 20 years old Shia girl and we both are doing bachelors together. I am in love with her and within a year, we created a very strong bond of love within ourselves (nothing physical).
There are many hinderences in our marriage:
1-My family is strictly against love marriage
2-Religious differences are present..........she is Shia and I am Sunni
3-She belongs to highly rich upper class family and i am just a regular middle class guy
I just dont know what to do, I really love her but I fear that if we don't get married, she will do something bad with her.
I' ll be honest, the marriage chances with her are just 10 percent.
please help me ,
- shahzeb2019
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Dear Shahzeb:
I will only focus on the religious difference on my advice.
Personally I would advice you not to marry this girl unless she becomes a Sunni.
I agree that there are many things common between the Shias and Sunnis. However, the difference is greater. First of all, they openly proclaim that the Caliphate of Abu Bakr Siddique (May Allah be pleased with Him), Omar Farouque (May Allah be pleased with Him), and Uthman Ibn Affan (May Allah be pleased with Him) are illegal. They also reject any Hadith that has been described by either of them and some even go to the extent that they even curse the first three rightly guided Caliphs of Islam.
No one among the Sunni scholars ever questioned or doubted the status of the first three rightly guided Caliphs. They were also given the glad tidings of Jannah while they were in this duniya. If I were in your position, I would have never been able to reconcile with the girl unless she first reconciled to give due reverence to the first three caliphs of Islam and eventually became a Sunni before tying the knot.
I have here focused on one difference only. There are numerous other differences and some them are even more serious. For example, they believe that Ali ((May Allah be pleased with Him) and their subsequent 11 imams are divinely infallible. The sunni belief however is that no human being is divinely infallible except for the prophets and the messengers of Allah.
Before you see your family as obstacle, I would see religion sectarianism as even bigger obstacle. I have nothing against Shias, for I believe in the policy of "live and let let live". My heart will never be able to able reconcile with Shias however, mainly because of their blasphemous position against the first three rightly guided Caliphs of Islam. This is strictly my personal opinion. The Prophet in one of his hadeeths warned that the only saved sect from his nation will be the Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jamaah. And Allah knows best and He is the best of all judges and He will recompense accordingly.
dear if it leagal to marry yahudi nasara,then why not marry with shai,
they both are eligable to marry themself.May allah bless all
Wow u got a lot of obstacles in front of u. Let's see, shia peoples are strict, and once they find out she got something goin on with a sunni guy, she will prob get cursed at and the worse they will do is kick her out and say she's dead of them. We young peoples don't really care that much these days, but its the parents!! Wat can u do. Bein a sunni Muslim, ill say that u should try to give her up. U said she might do something if she can't have u, well tell her to tell her family that she got a boyfriend that she wants to marry. Let's c wat she does then. Who kills themselves for someone else these days. That is the hormones talking. U guys are still young, and will find someone compatible for urselves.
What prevents you from marrying a girl ? You both are musilms and have same beliefs.Good luck
They can go ahead and get married now, they r legal age. But they have to worry about their parents. Very easy said than done, go ahead and get married!
U both r welcome to anywhere in India except Lucknow,. Nobody will bother whether u r sunni or shia. Indians like decent & educated Muslim people
Nikah made in heaven, If you love her go marry her,
I'm in the same situation, I love my sunni ex-boyfriend but we broke up because of religion. I want and thought it could work and maybe it can but think about your future. There might be things about both the religions that you guys might not understand, and have you thought about what religion your kids will follow? Just remember, don't convert for love, you must believe first.
I can't believe that people are talking about things like converting, they are both muslim!!! What everyone is saying here is haram, do you all not fear Allah. Allah is the judge not us humans. Both Shia and Sunni say the shahada and believe in the oneness of Allah, seriously what is this world coming to when muslims differentiate between each other. It is haram for the families to stand in the way of 2 people's kismet unless they have a valid reason, and the sunni shia one is a ridiculous one. My advice is to do Istikhara and lots of duaa and let Allah guide you as to whether this is the best for you.
I agree with Sunni girl.
Shia's and Sunni's are both muslim. They both believe in one God, the angels, the hereafter, the Koran and the prophets, including prophet Muhammad PBUH.
In a world where it is hard enough to meet and marry decent muslims, we are making it even harder for each other when we discourage marriage based upon sunni-shia distinction.
i totally agree to u.....
well dear here another one is my name is mansoor and i am 24 right now and the girlf whom, i love is 22 and she is a shia!
we startred a relationship i year ago! now i proposed her for nikaah and we are both muslims and i dnr care abt shia and sunni ..our prophet Nabi s.a.w was Muslim and HAzrat ali r..a was a muslim and reat other shabas were muslim itz we idiots who do this! \
well my dear sisters and brothers! i fighted with every one in my sunni society and begged to mom dad n now they have acpted the gal az their family and now az my love is a shia she is geting scared! and i just have faith in allah and now she is runing away from me and she is gona kiill herself like this!\now she is avooiding me for my good sale bt indeed i have given her a stand and i am on the edge i cant leave her! just i knw when you have faith in allah and then you face problemz you get everytg good! plz guys suggest what shd i do! and what shd she do!
@shahzeb bro! allah bless u ur going for sunnat nikaah dnt worry i wd say one thing make sure ur love shd stand for you nt like me she is geting scared and then beg to allah and just wait for the time and make ur parents understand and then u wd get married! inshallah!
allah bless you with that gal!
indeed itz mentioned in quran that allah is very happy for the nikaah in which both male and female are willing and happy ..no force at all!
these communty makers like shia suni wd not let you fight bt trust allah go for nimaz and tell ur love to also do the same!
my pblm is also same!
she is now scared of what will hapin n now she is runin away from me bt one thing is that i still trust allah she will come back to me and then i knw i will get married my mom dad are ready az i faced then at ist they were dam rude to me bt then i cried in fornt of them beged to mom and then no my mom dad are ready.. now lets see what wd hapen i trust allah onlu and then she wd realise this soon ..plz [ray she comes back to me and i even knw she is a shia and she is every rich and i m just a middle claas guy!
plzzzzzzzz pray for me i get married to her and allah bless u all
@sana sister and all other plzz sugets what that galfrnd of mine shd do! she is geting scared nd u can read what she is doing i have convinced my mom dad they are ready they love her like me
brother iam in same kind of situation iam a shia n want to marry a sunni..iam 25 n he z of same age i knw him for almost 12 yrs..its vry hard to convince both d families..iam dyng inside..i knw similarities n differencs btwn both d sects more than him n try to make him undrstnd..he respcts my views so do i..bt dont know how to convince my parents..blieve me nobody z goin to help u in dis jst believe in allah(swt) n urself n peopl wll confuse u more especially who r not in ds knd of situashn.
hi guys same situation i have i love a guy but he have very bad views about shai nd i am also shai i dont know how to make him understand
Well well well, to get the said discursion answered, do not trouble ur self a lot, just think that why Prophet SWAS has said that in my umma there will be 73 firqa all the rest 72 firqa will be going to jahanum {hell} other then one in janah {Heven} so understand any person or any jamath or committee who tell kalmia will not be in heaven. So better do not speak when u don’t know much about this differences, think and you should know what are u speaking coz it’s a matter of islam and might tomorrow you go trapped up just coz of this. And regarding the marriage of suuni and shai I absolutely don’t agree with that, and advice you to follow what your perents tells you to do, you will be happy in life here and after inshallah.
I have been in a realtionship with a man for 11 years. I am shia and he is sunni i love this man so much we want to get married but his parents won't allow it even if I change sinni which I want to they still don't want me becuz I am originally sheea what should I do how can we convince his parents? he loves me and I love him we loved each other for years now (we aren't very religious and his parents aren't not allowing it because of religious reasons its just for political and society reasons)
i am in love with shia girl.we have done almost all thing and now she.....
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Brother,
In short: Do immense tawbah as you have sinned against your own soul. Allah has placed limits on us for a reason. The question you have asked us today is something you needed to consider before you had this relationship. But Allah is most Merciful and has made you stop and think now.
Please log in and submit your question as a separate post and inshaAllah we will advise you further.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor