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I cheated on my husband but didn’t tell him until a year later

I was in a relationship with a boy at the age of 17 and it went along for about 3 years until we decided to get married without telling our parents. The first 6 months of our relationship I had a problem of not being fully committed to him and I cheated by kissing 5 other guys during that time.

Having gay thoughts for 10 years and don’t know how to stop?

I am a 21 year old Male Muslim and ever since I was 11 I have been having gay thoughts. The reason I got these gay thoughts was through my high school years as it was a same gender school.

I want to marry a Hindu boy who I can’t live without but I know it is not allowed in Islam.

Whosoever is the owner of this site please answer my question I am dying eqach and every day. I love a Hindu boy and I am a Muslim girl very close to my religion he also loves me alot and want to marry me. But I am in dilemma that is it not allowed in Islam because I don’t want to make Allah angry but its also true that I cannot live without him.

Am I a virgin?

I have always loved to sit in woman’s laps, I used to do so a lot with her, and she never minded that of course. Also, on the bed, I used to sleep very close to her, and e.g. when she was asleep, I would put my legs on her legs, as if I was lying in her lap and thus enjoy myself I was 11-13 in this age then. I did not know fully about sex back then, and did not touch any of her private parts or anything, but simply repeated that childhood obsession of lying in her lap while she was asleep. I have tried to overcome that habit as well. I am at a point of life, where one comes to realize that there is nothing of True Vale besides one’s relationship to his Creator.

My wife committed adultery; what should I do?

A Pakistani Muslim man married a Filipino lady in UK about 2 years ago. She embraced Islam at the time of Nikah. Life went on as usual. After 1 year of marriage, Husband visa refused, and he came back to Pakistan. After 6 month, husband received a call from a Filipino man that he had sexual relationship with his wife. Pakistani man confirmed from his wife, she confessed adultery. Now the wife has confessed that she committed adultery, She is not very much repenting and even she is not practising Muslim; she drink wine occasionally; attending Christening parties. She is ready to accept any decision that the husband makes but is also seeking forgiveness.

I keep thinking about abortion due to my cheating with this other man while married to my husband.

Earlier this year, I made the biggest mistake of committing adultary. I was married at the time to my husband and had been married to him for over a year. I told him what I had done and asked for forgiveness from him and from Allah (swt) and my husband had forgiven me and has accepted all of this. My feelings are very confused for this baby as I wanted a baby with my husband and wanted to settle down, I know this baby is my husband’s 98%. When I was intimate with this other man we used protection, thus too makes it impossible for him to be the biological father of the child.

Can a Muslim girl marry a Hindu man if he promises to convert after marriage for her sake?

If a Muslim girl and a Hindu guy got into a relationship and the guy promises her that he will convert to islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl. Is it okay to accept that the guy actually converted to Islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl and he’s willing to do anything just to marry her? While the girl prays to Allah in the same place where the family carries out all their hinduism culture, pooja (worship), not eating red meat etc?

I still love my ex and want divorce but my husband and my parents don’t understand this.

I wanted to marry someone else who I loved deeply. I couldn’t mention it to my parents back then because I knew they would never agree to it and also they will be very distant and sad because of me. My husband refused to dissolve the engagement because he thought I was being illogical or maybe because of social pressure. I can’t mislead my husband anymore. I can’t even tell him I love someone else. I got so frustrated just after one year of marriage that I attempted suicide. And now by the end of 2 years, I find myself on the someplace that I want this marriage to end or else I will do suicide again, the person that I used to love is still single and willing to accept me if my husband divorces me.

We want to spend our lives together but I am not sure if I should trust him due to cultural, religious and age differences.

I have met and fallen in love with a Saudi student who is considerably younger than me (18years). He is from one of the most liberal cities in KSA and has told me that his family will eventually accept me. I can’t help but wonder if this is possible due to the age and cultural difference, and the fact that his student visa will be expiring in another year or so. I also worry that he may be married already and hiding it from me, so that he has someone to be with while he is in the states. Is there a way to find out if he is married and is there any hope for this relationship?

Should he cut off ties with his childhood hurtful friends for me?

Unfortunately, Foogle and his friends were suspicious that Frodo had a love interest and asked him if he was talking to me. He denied it every time. Eventually they found out in July that I was speaking to Frodo through hacking his MSN chats (with me) and keylogging his Facebook login and email. When my sister pretended to be me, his friend swore at me and said “don’t go around posting my address you b****.” They started saying rubbish like “What the f*** do you know about the Quran” and talking rudely about circumcision etc my brother said they said much more WORSE things and he has been very concerned about the type of person Frodo could be if his friends could behave like this.