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How much time a man and woman should ideally spend/have to get to know each other before marriage?

I met a man at the ISNA matrimonial banquet over a year ago. He gave me his contact number and I emailed him afterwards to stay in contact. We communicated occasionally over phone and email for over a year. I have been very stressed as he is a very qualified and nice man and I’m sure he wouldn’t have any trouble finding a much younger wife. However, while he calls me and has indicated that he likes me, he hasn’t proceeded to have any discussions about us getting married. I am inclined to think he is not interested and is talking to other women so won’t tell me anything serious now.

I want to marry him but my mother refuses because he is from a different tribe. How can I convince her?

I have been looking for the right man for many years. Now, I met him who has the personality and qualities I desire. I am a true Muslim. He is very devoute Muslim. Proposing marriage is so difficult because we are from different tribes. He wants to get married in a halal way, but my mom disapproved him because of his tribe. I want to be married to him because I love him. I don’t want to disrespect my mother because I love her to death but how can I make her understand this good Muslim guy, who prays five times a day and knows the religion better than me. What is the best way to make her understand and tell her stop being judgmental without disrespecting her?

He doesn’t practice Islam but wants to meets my parents to ask for my hand in marriage. I am confused;

I would like to marry a male, who was born a muslim. His father was is a muslim man and his mother a mixed race female. Due to his parents separation at a very early age, he did not learn how to be a proper muslim. He does not practise salaat or read quran. However he believes in Allha (swt) 100% and has studied not only Islam but also other religions. I am still concerned as to what my father and family will say. I am so confused as he wants to get married and settle down. He wants to meet my father and family.

He is older than me and wishes to marry me. What should I do?

Can you help me please? I am 16 year old girl from England and I am a Christian. I have been dating a man who is older than me for about 6 months now. He is Muslim and has asked me to marry him as he says he loves me. I love him too but he would like to move back to Pakistan after we marry and I want to stay here.

Could someone advise me regarding my daughter’s choice of boy for marriage?

He was very short and skinny whereas my daughter is very tall and healthy. It would look very odd, to which she laughed. May Allah forgive me; This guy said that he doesn’t need my permission and he will go ahead with his family and marry my daughter.

I’m in love with a girl but my parents don’t allow me to marry her

My parents are quite strict which is causing a lot of problem for us. Part of their the reason for their strict behaviour is my sister who is not married yet. She wanted to marry a person but my parents didn’t approve him but she faught for her choice and now they have agreed when she is 27. My parents scolded me, my mother slapped me, ….

How to approach a Muslim to see if he the right man for marriage?

I am a born muslim woman (aged 25), from a predominantly muslim country. I wear headscarf, fast during the Ramadan and some other times, and pray five times a day, also read Quran regularly. My family is also religious. I came across the facebook profile of someone (let’s call him M.). We have some common friends. Then, I reviewed his profile as it was open to public and I was kind of impressed by it. He is a revert muslim, studying and working. Now, I want to know him better and to see if he is the person I would like to marry (and the same for him).

Father abusive behaviour toward family and difficulty in finding a decent proposal for sister.

My mother is not given her right to say anything in major issues of family and part of the reason of my sister not getting married is the interference from my aunts (father’s sisters). The reason is that my aunt wants to give her daughter to my brother. She probably views my sister as a thorn in her daughter’s side.

How to Decide if I Should Marry or Not

I am a British born and live in the UK , my cousin is a Pakistani born and lives in Pakistan. I have visited Pakistan four times, when I was little, 11,12 and 14.

During my last trip, I spend some very good quality time with my cousins especially one that is two years older than me…

My family rejected her but I think of her every moment

I want to marry a girl. I sent my sis and my mother to her family for this purpose but due to some reasons my family didn´t accept her.My family is status conscious but I am not. I requested them to leave it to “Istikhara”…