Is visiting his sick ex-wife without me permisible?
As Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmantulillah,
I've been married 5 months. My husband wants to visit his ex-wife because she is sick, but doesn't want me to come along with him. Is this permisible?
-Nadaa
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Salaams,
Your husband should not be visiting his ex wife for any reason. After they divorced, they became non-mahrem to one another. As such, they must not communicate with one another except by necessity. She being sick would not be a necessity, unless they have children together he must go retrieve from her because she cannot care for them in her state or something like that. If they have no children together, he should simply make dua for her shifa and allow her relatives to care for her. It's not proper for him to visit her.
That being said, in any case he should take you with him if he insists on going (if he claims to have a valid reason to go). It's disrespectful to leave you at home (in my opinion) if you have the means to go, and want to go. Personally I find it highly suspicious that he would want to go visit her as you outlined. It seems to me there is possibly a lingering emotional attachment between them, if not more.
-Amy
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THE WHOLE ANSWER IN A NUTSHELL....
Your husband should not be visiting his ex wife for any reason.
REGARDS
He can visit alone if they both are not divorced even after second marriage, if they already divorced means its not permissible. stop him from sin before he commits....
Regards - Yousuf
AsSalaamu Alaikum Sister,
Just five months and he wants to visit his ex-wife? A secret polygamous marriage could look this way too. Though you need to verify this. However, if she is truthfully his ex-wife, then he cannot visit her for any reasons, except in cases like what Sister Amy said above, and the visit should not be without you.
Allah (swt) knows best.
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! In my opinion. Why would he not take you. This will make you put doubt in your head about him??? Even if everything that he saids is legit, then not taking you would create unnecessary misunderstandings. Show him everyone's opinions on this site about his irrational behavior, that he's playing with fire to go without you.