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Salam,

I am 23 years old and I don't have my family nor I have any guardian. I do my job and also study. I want to marry a girl but her parents have set her marriage with someone else.

The girl does not want to marry this other person and is saying for me to come and take her along with me and do nikkah. As I am alone my witnesses will be my friends but what I should do for the girl - can my friends be the witnesses of her or any friends of her? And what gift can be done in Mehr?

The marriage will be publicized on my end so it will not be a secret.

Please guide us.

optimus


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  1. Salam

    A girl cannot give herself in marriage without her Wali. The nikah without Wali is Void according to majority of scholars.Islam forbids a woman to get married without a wali (guardian), and it regards a marriage contract done without a wali as invalid.

    Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any woman who marries without the permission of her walee, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 1021 and others; it is a saheeh hadeeth)

    So it's better to convince her parents first.

    • Salam

      Forced Marriage i.e marriage without her consent is much more invalid than the marriage without the will of guardian. Marriage is the joining of two souls in this world and hereafter, not just the physical union. So the guardians forcing to join two souls are committing a major spiritual sin unknowingly.

  2. Depends what kind of pressure her family are putting her in?is it emotional blackmail who is this other guy were is he etc how much does he earn what's so bad about him???have you approached her parents ifnot why not grow a bdack bone mate do it fast. Why have you no family what's you're situation are you British citizen etc???can you provide for her for the rest if you're life or this Bollywood love yearly love?grow up we need more info buddy tell us straight if you want straight answers WAKE UP!!!

  3. Brother,

    If this girl does not wish to marry this other person, she should speak up for herself and make herself heard.

    Salam

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