Were my husband and I under black magic?
Asalam alikum,
I need to know where to find information on black magic, how to know if it has been done to you and if so what to do about it. Please take the time to read the following, I ask you in the name of Allah, may he bless you.
I live in Morocco, my husband has a small store selling used mobile phones. He is a good man but can be quite domineering and lose his temper fast, so he fights with people. People close to him especially his mother say there are too many bad eyes on him, partly because his store is busy and he makes a good living, alhamdulilah, so people may be jealous.
We moved to Morocco about 6 years ago. I have now been married almost 20 years. In the 2nd year, through time, I began to develop a strong hate for my husband. I couldn't stand to be beside him. I was happy when he left the home and became depressed when he returned. I hated everything about him I hated to be close to him or talk to him. Even his smell. I can't remember exactly when it started.
I converted to Islam and so do not have any family or close friends I could talk to about this. Plus I was fairly new to Morocco. I was afraid to talk to my husband about this in case he got angry, as I said he loses control fast. I used to pray to Allah to send me enough money to be independent so I could leave my husband because I could not stand him. To leave him was my only solution. Also, I kept getting sick with flu and colds, constantly and I could not sleep and I was becoming depressed with no desire to do anything.
After about 5 years of living in Morocco my husband came to me and said he wanted to leave Morocco and return to UK. He said he was losing his deen, he wasn't praying anymore and dunya was taking over. This was true. Also we had a lot of trouble with our son. He has adhd and we could not find a school for him, he was not attending school, he was 14 years at the time. So my husband thought it would be better for the family to return.
While in Uk my husband spent a lot of time going back and forth and my feeling remained the same, even worsened. Then in June 2010 we decided to return to Morocco. My husband went first and I followed with the 4 children.
Subhannallah, I had been praying for Allah to help and guide me as I was getting to breaking point. Then, Sunhanallah, a few days after arriving, which was the start of Ramadan, I felt like something had been lifted from me. Just like that I felt so happy and so excited about my future with my husband. I felt so much love for him. I felt like a teenager in love. I just wanted to be with him and love him. I loved everything about him. Everything I had previosly hated I loved deeply. I was looking forward to our future together.
The only way I can describe it is like something being lifted from me, I felt light hearted. I was asking myself why did I hate my husband before, I couldn't understand it. It seemed impossible that I should have had such feelings for him. I kept going over it in my mind and I did not understand why I felt like that, to this day I do not understand. To go from hating someone deeply to loving them deeply basically in a day.
My husband was happy too, he loved me. We were happy for about 3 months, then, I can remember the night, it was like something came over me. I still loved my husband deeply but I felt unworthy of him, like I was not good enough. I started not to trust him, with absolutely no basis. I started to become convinced he did not love me and that there was someone better for him. It has been 7 months now, and I still have these feelings, even though my husband tells me he loves me and logically I know this and I know I have no reason to worry.
But I can't get these things out of my head. I constantly feel anxious, there is like a burning in my stomach. My heart aches, I can't sleep, I have no interest in food And many different feelings like this. I love my husband so much but I constantly have these thoughts and feelings that I must leave him, that the only solution is to leave, that he would be happier. I find my self again praying to Allah to give me money so I can be independent and leave. Even though to lose him would break my heart. It is like this thing burning in me to leave him but I don't want to. There are many other things I can't put into words.
Basically, for 5 years I hated my husband, I could not stand to be beside him, to talk to him or to touch him for no apparent reason. When he left the house I was so happy and when he returned I was sad. I constantly had this pressing feeling that I must leave him and I asked Allah to give me the funds to do so. Now for 7-8 months I have this burning feeling that I must leave him, that this is the only solution and I am once again asking Allah to give me the funds to do so. But this time I don't want to leave him, it is the last thing I want, it would break my heart. But even though I tell myself he loves me and is not interested in anyone else, I still have these feelings. I cry all the time, I can't control it.
Is it possible that someone did black magic to split my husband and myself up? My husband had been complaining about a pain in his left lower side for some time. Also he had been talking about feeling like someone had done black magic to him. So about 5 months ago a good brother came to our house to read koran on him. He also read on 1.5 l bottle of water, maybe more. He made my husband drink it while reading koran over him, then he did different things like push on his stomach or something. Next he made him throw up the water into a bowl. Even though my husband had eaten an hour before hand he did not through up his dinner. Only the water and this thing like fat came out. The brother said someone had given him something to eat with black magic on it and that the fatty thing was the black magic.
From that day he didn't have anymore pain. You see where my husbands store is I have heard that a lot of the other store holders are jealous of him plus he easily fights with people around him and can make enemies, and I have heard ther is a lot of black magic in Morocco.
Please think about my question, please don't dismiss it. I am a reasonable woman, I don't look for problems like this. I am 40 and my husband is 50. I just want to love him and live the rest of my life with him, Inshallh. Is it possible that someone did something to break us up. At the same time I seldom go to his store and no one really know my name or anything like that. If someone did do magic is there a way to find out that yes this person has had magic done against them? I play surah al bakarrah all the time in the house and don't allow music or haram things and I keep my salat.
If you cannot answer my question, can you suggest others who may have knowledge of this? I am so scared that this marriage will end, it is like I feel it coming, close and I am getting depressed.
I have just been researching black magic and have come across the hadith about the people who blowing on knots. I did not know about this and subhannallah, for maybe a month or so this image keeps coming into my head just like that. It is of a pair of older, female hands, dark skinned but not black, pressed together, between them they are rubbing some sort of straw or rough material that has been braided, there is smoke around the image and I am aware of the person blowing on the thing between there hands. This is not a dream but an image that keeps coming into my head, just like that. I didn't think it significant until I read that hadith. Does it mean anything? Please read and answer my question, Inshallah.
May Allah guide and bless us all. I do not want to lose my husband, but I do not know what to do or who I can talk to.
- mariam604
Leyla's Answer:
Salaam Mariam604,
I am sad to hear that you are experiencing these emotional fluctuations which are affecting your marriage to your husband.
Your symptoms sound very much like clinical depression as most of what you describe is a matter of your personal perspective. Your fluctuations between a state of love and happiness, to a state of detest and then paranoia can be explained by this. You go through a number of life-changing moments, moving countries, not having any friends, a son with ADHD - these are massive events that you experiencing, and you have been going through them alone, with no one to speak to.
I would recommend that you seek out a counsellor who will be able to assess you for signs of depression, or bi-polar (which is a mental state characterised by extreme highs followed by extreme lows). It can be managed and treated with counselling and sometimes medication (never choose medication alone) - and this may be the key to understanding where these feelings are coming from.
For yourself, it is important that you do not nurture paranoia and distrust by investing so much time and energy into learning about these things. Much better, to invest your time and energy into knowledge which will help to heal you from your emotional fluctuations and cultivate peace inside of you.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers
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Leyla's Answer:
Salaam Mariam604,
I am sad to hear that you are experiencing these emotional fluctuations which are affecting your marriage to your husband.
Your symptoms sound very much like clinical depression as most of what you describe is a matter of your personal perspective. Your fluctuations between a state of love and happiness, to a state of detest and then paranoia can be explained by this. You go through a number of life-changing moments, moving countries, not having any friends, a son with ADHD - these are massive events that you experiencing, and you have been going through them alone, with no one to speak to.
I would recommend that you seek out a counsellor who will be able to assess you for signs of depression, or bi-polar (which is a mental state characterised by extreme highs followed by extreme lows). It can be managed and treated with counselling and sometimes medication (never choose medication alone) - and this may be the key to understanding where these feelings are coming from.
For yourself, it is important that you do not nurture paranoia and distrust by investing so much time and energy into learning about these things. Much better, to invest your time and energy into knowledge which will help to heal you from your emotional fluctuations and cultivate peace inside of you.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers
As salamu alaykum, Sister Mariam,
Let´s see, I will try to be as simple as I can; you mention problems, let´s focus on solutions. I understand that what had happened to your husband with this man sounds extrange, but only Allah(swt) knows why and what happened.
Sister, we may agree that not a leave fall on the floor without Allah(swt)´s consent and knowledge, then to give some Peace to your Heart, why don´t you instead of focusing on what is wrong don´t focus on getting better, when someone thinks about black magic, the first instinct is to feel fear, fear makes us weak, lower our iman, it is like the floor is not anymore under our feet. To recover the floor under your feet, get closer to Allah(swt) when you pray don´t pray on feeling fear, pray knowing He(swt) is with you, be sure of this, our prayers are the most beautiful encounter we can have in this lifetime, enjoy it and feel blessed you can pray, change your attitude and you will see other shine in you, insha´Allah.
Be confident, Sister, do tawbah for all the sins that you have commited consciously and unconsciously, say: Astagfiroullah, Bismillah, Alhamdulillah, Masha´Allah, ..., surround yourself of the beauty of being a muslimah, anytime you feel a doubt in your Heart or an uncomfortable thought: "Audhu billahi minash Shaytani rajim", Look for refuge on Allah, He(swt) protects us, Alhamdulillah.
Be your best, smile from Heart, enjoy family, try to find things that you like to do, be with people that are good for your deen, be a glimpse of light and hope wherever you are, be a lighting lamp for your family and everyone that get close to you, insha´Allah.
Being positive is a choice, choose it and see how your life changes, insha´Allah.
Bismillah, just doing your duties as muslimah you have a lot to do, pray consciously your salat on time, you have the blessing of listening to the Adhan, masha´Allah, read and recite the Quran, understanding and with faith, make dua and dikhr, read and learn the Names of Allah(swt) and His Attributes, before going to bed read surah 112, 113, 114, Al Fatiha and ayat al Kursi, Insha´Allah doing this you will see a difference in you and as a consequence you will see a difference in what surrounds you.
Enjoy every single act you do since you wake up until you go to sleep, begin with Bismillah and finish with Alhamdulillah, and when I say everything I mean everything.
Allah(swt) knows best.
My beloved Sister Mariam, Ramadan Mubarak, to you and all your family and friends.
From Heart to Heart,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Dear Sister,
I agree with both Leyla and Maria comments to you and hence the best thing to do is take Leyla's advice and seek medical help. At the same time, do your best to come closer to Allah as Maria said. As it is with the Will of Allah(swt) that both Spiritual healing and Worldly medicine work.
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However I would like to add the following just to ease your mind about Black Magic. Yes, it is real and yes it can break marriages, but we are laypeople and cannot assess your situation correctly. I do want you to be frightened of black magic because it is nothing great or beyond the power of Allah, it is just an ailment of the mind just like a physical ailment of the body and there are cures - Allah has not sent on this earth with solutions to every problem. Once when the Messenger of Allah(sws) became ill, Allah showed him(sws) in a dream that it was black magic and how it had been done on him and who had done it on him. But Rasul(sws) did not go about exposing that person or seeking revenge. He simply put his trust in Allah and recited the two Surahs that Allah(swt) had revealed for this purpose; and they are: Surah Falaq and Surah Naas, known of as: 'The 'Mu’awwazatayn'.
Scholars mention that the recitation of the 'Mu’awwazatayn' is very beneficial in the removing of and protection from black magic. One should make a habit of reciting these especially when retiring to bed and after the Fardh prayers. A’isha (ra) narrated that: "Whenever the Messenger of Allah (sws) would become ill, he would recite the Mu’awwizat (Surah al-Falaq & Surah an-Nas) and blow over himself. When his illness was aggravated, I used to recite these two Surahs (and blow my breath) over him and make him rub his body with his own hand, for its blessings." (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4728)
The recitation of Surah al-Fatiha, Ayat al-Kursi, and last two verses of Surah al-Baqarah are also very beneficial for protection from and the removal of b/m.
The consuming of Ajwa dates has been prescribed by the Messenger of Allah (sws) as a remedy for black magic. Amir ibn Sa’d(ra) narrated from his father that the Messenger of Allah (sws) said: “He who eats seven Ajwa dates every morning, will not be affected by poison or magic on the day he eats them.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 5130)
The above information has been taken from the following website, I recommend that you read the information there in detail as it gives a very balanced reply:
http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=3018&CATE=115
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Along with the above:
- Do your best to remain pure
- Pray your five salaah
- Recite Quran
- Do Dhikr of Allah - and this is best done in the way the Quran and Sunnah teach us.
So: Tasbeeh (saying Subhaanallah), Tahmeed (saying Alhamdulillah) and Takbeer (saying Allahu Akbar);
Reciting the daily duas of Rasul(sws): before sleeping, when waking, before/after eating, when leaving the home, when entering the home, when boarding a vehicle and on a journey, when descending/ascending etc. There are many duas and the more you recite them, you will start doing them subconsciously inshaAllah. Remember Allah in all walks of life and Allah will build a protective barrier around you
- If you feel hatred towards your husband for no explanable reason, do Dhikr, do wudu or pray Salaah at that point to calm yourself.
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I would like to specifically point out that while black magic is real and does exist, we should not rule out any other issues that could be contributing to our problems. Many a time, there could be psychological/physical ailments that require medical attention, there could be issues in the marriage due to behaviour/personality/circumstances which require problem solving and changes in people etc. So we should look to identify and address these matters while simultaneously doing the above worship and dhikr of Allah as a habit to keep constantly purifying and protecting ourselves inshaAllah.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Hi Mariam,
I am sorry to hear about your experiences and associated feelings. I can only imagine how difficult such a struggle would be. I understand your post has been quite some time ago, however I came across your post as my sister is in the process of seeing a Shaike due to black magic preformed on her.
My sister was with a Maroccan for almost four years. My family were not happy about her relationship with him as he was much younger than she was and his family were related to everything associated with trouble including drugs, alcohol and gangs. My sister and I were extremely close, people joked about never getting in the middle of our arguments because we always forgot what we were aruging about and end up in laughter seconds into the argument. We cannot sleep unless we were sleeping side by side. We spoke most of the day. We would call each other as soon as we had the chance if we were at work or university. If he we were able to meet each other during breaks we would even if it were for only 15 mintues. We shared mutual friends. We shared experiences, feelings, disappointments and essentially everything.
Sadly, this all changed. We no longer were able to hold conversations longer than ten minitues. Our relationship became awkward and unsettled for no reason. My sisters relationship with the family deteriated as well as her relationship with our friends. She became isolated and lost a lot of weight. She was consumed in what he thought of her appearance, if he loved her, if he were cheating. She was consumed in his world, and resented the world she once had - her family.
I noticed her sleeping became irregular, she had so much fear of everything, anxious of the future, she began to move away from religion and lived in a world of Kufur including clubbing, drinking and could not understand why Islam was so "backwards". We could not meet eye to eye because I am a practicing Muslim. She began to look at me with pitty for practicing and felt bad that I was not really living because. My mother in the process of all this cried day and night at the change of her daughter over the years. She felt she lost her and I cried because I felt I no longer had the sister I loved so much. I cry as I type this reply to you and I pray that Allah swt guides you to your answers.
I prayed day and night and made as much duaa as Allah swt gave me the will to do. Eventually, I found a Shaike who specialises in curing black magic, strictly with the use of rouqua - this was very hard as most Shaikes who do this often use evil to cure evil. He saw my sisters and read Quran for her and the truth was revealed. She had been battling good vs evil in her mind for the last four years. She almost lost her life to evil. As soon as we told the Shaike she had been with a Maroccon for four years his face was filled with saddness and disappointment. It is VERY common for Maroccon's to practice black magic and it is preformed in the highest ranks of magic.
Please sister consider seeing a Shaike yourself. Its never too late.
May Allah swt gudie you and bring you answers.
Dear SandN,
Can someone recommend me a shaikh in Morroco to cure such black magic symtoms?
hello
dear all I would like to discuss and need help for black magic,as my personal life money businesses everything is gon lastly my wife also left me and requested khula (divorce) now she is one of my biggest enemy without any reason.
I find it suspicious when people say that such major life changes happen "without any reason", because it tells me that the person is not being honest with the situation (and perhaps not being honest with themselves) and is therefore not ready to be advised. Still, if you wish to ask your question you can please register and submit your question as a separate post. Thank you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam,
It makes me sad to think that a lot of people all over are experiencing such difficult times in their marriages and family's.
Salma, please register and submit your question as a separate post and we will answer you in turn, thank you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sister, find the same brother who helped your husband, and talk to him about needing his help for your self, there are people who have evil intentions, and practice evil ways that can't always be diagnosed by doctors and cured by mediation,once you get on pills its olmost impossible to get off,, their are spiritual attacks ,, find a professional who no's about this topic,and find a way out, keep your faith sister, at the darkest hour of the morning comes the sunset after, ,