What does my marriage istikhara mean?
I’m 17 (almost 18) and have been dating a 19 (soon to be 20) year old for just over a year now. I love him unconditionally, and feel he's the one. We realize it’s wrong to date and have always had the intention of getting married, however cause I’m still in full time education we hadn’t spoken to our parents about getting married.
A friend of mine told me we could have a nikah without our parents’ consent, but we had doubts in our mind about it and did istikhara, and it came back as a bad sign, his older sister explained that even though she had also agreed to allowing us to have a nikah she realized its wrong for so many reasons, cause our parents would be hurt if they found out we’d got married behind their back and that would also displease Allah. His sister said that when the time comes she is more than sure that her family will approve of me and her brother to get married and that she will be more than happy to know that its me as she adores me. We assumed that this was the answer to our istikhara prayer.
As I’m a friend of hers, I had attended their older sister’s wedding and met their family, with them being unaware that I and her brother were dating, only his cousins and friends were aware. I honestly felt like a part of their family, they were so loving and caring. At the time of their elder sisters’ wedding his mum suspect that me and him were dating but both his sisters quickly convinced her that we weren’t dating, despite suspecting we were dating she was still so sweet towards me. His mum still asks his sister about me and has invited me to come and visit the family again.
We’ve now decided that in seven months’ time, he will come and speak to my parents and that we could at least have an engagement then married later insha Allah, cause we feel guilty for keeping our relationship a secret. I decided to perform istikhara as he suggested we should do so, the reason being for this is because if we weren’t supposed to get married it would be wrong to carry on dating and assuming we will get married.
I’ve performed istikhara on a number of occasions to find out whether or not him and me will get married. But all I seem to have got is a dream in which he was in, we met up and my younger sister was also present, (she has never met him) I’m not sure what this dream means, it’s not often that I see him appear in my dreams, please help? Does the dream have to be of me and him getting married?
And also if I need to perform istikhara again can someone else do it on my behalf? Do I go along with the sign from previously? (When his sister mentioned that she is certain that him and me will get married when the right moment comes.)
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