Where are my duas going?
Assalamalaikum brothers and sisters.
It all started 2 months before my 12th grade exams.The exam anxiety was growing day by day. My mistake was that I remained complacent all year, so now I had to study extra hard. I started combined studying with one of my friends.We studied daily and were increasing our time daily. My friend was sharp at one of the important subjects (subject A) and I was dumb at it.However, I kept on trying. The exams got near, and so did our exam of the subject A.
We both made a lot of dua that Allah SWT help us magically because we tried hard. But our dua didn't work 'apparently'. Both of us thought that it was a test from Allah SWT, and something better was there for us, so we continued with the rest of exams.
Now getting admissions in good universities in my country is not at all easy. So because we messed up this exam of subject A in 12th grade, our chances of getting admission into a particular University (University U) got a lot more difficult. This university considers 12th grade exams for admissions, and the entrance test for this university is later this year.
So both of us decided to work hard for another university (University N), because it only considered 11th grade marks which was good for both of us.We worked hard and made a lot of dua.We got preoccupied with getting admission into University N. We knew that no matter how hard we try, in the end only the duas were going to make us successful. So I made a lot of dua, and put a lot of hope and trust in Allah SWT. We took the exam of University N and my friend got selected. I did not.
That was one the greatest shocks of my life, and a huge setback on my Iman and trust in Allah. I cried like a baby in front of Allah SWT. It was hard to believe that all my hard work, trust and good hopes from Allah SWT did not work again 'apparently'.
I started getting really depressed, however I rebuilt my Iman that I am being tested again by Allah SWT and that success and good results are on the way.
My third chance was to apply for the defense forces of my country. I did not want to join the defense forces, however my parents had the desire that I do it. So 2 months before the test for the defense forces I started making dua seriously that ''Oh Allah, if joining the defense forces is better for my dunya and akhirah, then please incline the hearts of me and my parents towards this career path and then make me selected in the forces. And if this is not better for my dunya nad akhira, then please avert the hearts of my parents and me from this, and then please make me rejected for the defense forces''. I made this dua a lot of times, and I was seeing that the hearts of parents remained inclined towards the defense forces path. My heart also got inclined when the test came very near.
Furthermore,when the test came near, I came to know that I could not appear for the test because the test dates did not suit me. So I applied for a change of dates in the defense forces test, but I found out that the organization officially refuses to change the test dates of any candidate. My parents got depressed. Somehow, against all odds, we managed to change the test dates and I appeared for the test.
I was sure it was the special plan of Allah SWT for me, and that all my hard work and duas were going to be answered in this way and I was going to join the defense forces- a career which my parents fancied and in which I was satisfied because it was going to save me from the worry and anxiety of being qualified for another career path at other universities. Surprisingly, I was doing well in the defense forces test, and all my friends told me that I was going to be selected insha Allah. I was also feeling relieved because I thought that all of it was happening in accordance to a special plan of Allah SWT for me, and Allah SWT was going to save me from the worry of my 12th grade result and the struggle for that University U which would consider my 12th grade marks for admission. I made a lot of dua that Allah SWT save me from the struggle of university U, so I felt that finally those duas were going to be answered.
Yesterday I came to know that I did not get selected for the defense forces due to unknown reasons. Can you only imagine how I feel right now? Can you only imagine? Can you imagine how intense waswasas of shaytan I am fighting now regarding my Iman and trust on Allah and duas?
I cried yesterday like never before. I cried in front of Allah SWT. I know that my duas have not been rejected, but only in theory.
Following are the Waswasas (whispers) of Shaytan which I am having a hard time fighting, but I'm doing my best:
1) You have been rejected and ignored continuously,why don't you understand?
2) Your trust and tawakkul are of no benefit.
3) If you are not getting such a small worldy desire fulfilled by so much dua, patience, and trust how can you be given such a huge thing as Jannah ?
4) If you work less and make a lot of dua,you won't get success because you didn't work hard enough. And if you work hard and make a lot of dua too, then you won't get success because the thing you are asking for will always be bad for you. In short,being closer to Allah SWT gives you no favor. You make dua or not, you will be depressed by the results.
How do I rebuild myself, my trust and my Iman when I am seeing failure behind my back, and more struggle and trouble coming from my front ?
How do I make a magical dua which fixes my affairs and saves me from further mental stress ?
How do I know that Allah SWT feels and understands every moment of my pain and grief ? How do I know that Allah SWT is smiling and is behind my back ?
How do I know that dua can do miracles and save you from troubles apparently as well?
Subhan Allah.
-Seeker18796
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Salaam, I'm looking forward 2 the advice u receive because I am currantly suffering from a similar situation, thank you 4 posting this question
Salam,
Thomas Edison tried like 500 times to invent the light bulb but only that one last try made it happen. Getting rejected 3 times just means keep trying. When we get knocked down we have to get up and keep fighting even harder. Insh'allah you wont have to fight too much longer but prepare your mind for hundreds of rejections. Allah never gives us too much. This is your test to ignore shaytan and practice sabr.
Shereen
Assalam alaikum,
You accept that shaitaan is whispering to you and therefore you must know that shaitaan's whispers are mere lies twisted in a such a way to penetrate your weaknesses--the question becomes, do you trust shaitaan's whispers or Allah swt's promise to you? Do not doubt Allah swt. You should know that difficulty is a part of life--you are still young, you have opportunities while others your age do not even have the hope of opportunities.
My suggestion is to not blame anyone and even avoid blaming yourself constantly either. Recognize what mistakes you made, acknowledge them, but after you learn from them, move on. Do not stay stagnant in those mistakes--keep moving on.
You might think you were meant to do something, but maybe your calling is something else. Sometimes we have to realize that whatever we planned, isn't the best plan. Sometimes we have to go through difficult times to appreciate all that we have. Appreciation and gratefulness do not come from always getting what you want, they are attributes that are developed when we are deprived from constant success. Perhaps you are meant to develop these more.
Look around at the people less fortunate than you, spend time with them, visit a hospital or a home for the elderly--those with less than you must surely have prayed and asked Allah swt for many things, but yet many of them remain faithful...so why? Does the foundation of our faith in Allah lie solely on our du'as being accepted? If you read the story of Prophet Ayub AS, you will see all of the challenges he was presented with and yet his faith was unshaken.
I believe you have work on examining how you define your faith in Allah--Faith in Allah should not be based on circumstances you are presented with.
May Allah swt give you strength to endure your hardships and prevail in the end, Ameen.
Salam,
Okay, so you didn't make it into the University you wanted and you didn't make it into the defense forces. It is not the end of the world...it just means you have to look at all your options. Dry your eyes and think hard about what else you would like to do.
Sometimes in life there are things that we may not understand or turn out the way that we want them to. Put your faith in Allah and trust that he has a plan for you. You don't need to understand it, you just need to know that no matter what, Allah will never forsake you.
There is an old saying, "If at first you don't succeed, try, try, again".
Salam
We plan and we plan, but Allah SWT is the best of planners.
We don't get everything we desire in life. Try to remember that. Maybe your dua was answered by Allah averting a calamity that was otherwise destined for you.
salam
have u heard of the concept in Islam that for all the prayers which r not heard in this world, we will be rewarded in the hereafter? and when that will be done people will wish that none of their prayers were heard in the world.
I can understand your situation. I did get into the university of my choice but throughout my 4years of engineering I prayed for a minimum GPA of 2.50.. but my final GPA was 2.47. I still wonder why Allah didn't listen to my prayer. sometimes u wish for the smallest of things and within seconds your prayer is heard and sometimes even years of dua does not matter. Allah must have something better planned for you which u at this stage can't foresee. with my GPA..well I did survive. I got a job that I liked though I still lack confidence because of a low GPA but well the world did not end. I'm still living. everyone does not get everything perfect in life.
Have faith in Allah.He is watching you and knows better than you what is best for you.
on a practical note maybe u can attempt next year. take up an internship or a job for a year? u might find something that interests u more..?
all the best!
let me tel u one thing, my cousine was crazy about becoming doctor, bt she was not on merit nd she had no sources to aply on self fianance, as i told u that she was crazy, thst y she became ill, used to get faint many times in a day, but after a year she got adm in another subject, but not with good heart, even she tried to get failed in first 2 semesters to give up studing, but with the pessage of time, Allah developed her i nterest in that feild which He choosed for her, n now she is okay with that, anyhow when she mets sad, bt meets any doctor,she gets sad, bt satisfied with present at all 🙂 so dnt loose ur heart, Allah has a good plan for u
iam facing a similar prblm tht u hve faced but this is quit differnt. iam in science streammy problem is i got good scores but got c grade in info and chem iam passed but still i dint get the admmission since it is ithe first batch of my school they wants the one who gets above 90 onli tht candidate will be promoted to 12th grade and accrding to cbse no school should give admission to 12th grade .12th grade admiisons are closed i hve no options wht to do i tried prayed i evn kept fastings but still i dint get anylife no one is rather there to help me out
fathima, I do not know the system in your country, but if you did not get admission to the school of your choice, perhaps you can try another. Be determined to find a solution, and keep on making dua'.
Wael
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