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Why are men given such high position over women in Islam?

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Asalaam alykum brothers and sister

My question to you all why does islam has gave more Darajah or should I say high position? Why did prophet mohammed pbuh said if I had given choice to do sijda other Allah I would have told their wives to do it in front of their husband? I want to know why is there is soo much of importance for men in Islam? Why do women have to suffer for everything from childbirth to menstruation to obeying husband? Why can't it be equal enough or why didn't Islam give importance to women that much as men have as I feel? Why is nowadays men is allowed to marry 4 for their fun (well some do) not all I mean why couldn't it be fair enough just to marry 1 to each other?

Why is it so bad for women to have her own choices of likes and dislikes while other hand men is always having to keep his likes and dislikes on top of his priority and his wives too?

Why all the people out there says cooking should be done by women only as if it is said somewhere cooking job is just made for women and men only has to eat it? Like when a women cooks it's for him he shouldn't even come to kitchen to cook food for him or his wife lol funny it is. Why is okay if a man can stare any women while if women did she's dead (I'm just saying dead in a sarcastic way) on the spot? I'm just saying, I don't really mean this way though, I mean her husband would have that jealousy in him that why did she even look at him .. But they don't understand how would women also feel when they too also look at other women the same way like they do .

I'm just saying here men they don't really understand women, they just expect women to understand them and obey them.

I'm sorry if I ever hurt anyone's feeling here but I'm mixed up with my confusion and my hatred of men having so much priority more than women. I mean this logic always makes me sad about it and I want some real advice and genuine to clear this out of my head. Please help this out and let's educate people out there who might have same confusion just like I do .

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  1. Dear Sister,

    I agree with you in every aspect though i will say that it's mainly the Indian Men that do all of what you have stated and it's more Culture then Religion. Men and Women are Equal as i know first hand because i am Married to a Convert (Caucasian Man) and he has taught me so much about Equality in Islam rather then Stupid Cultural things. If only People read the Quran and the Authentic Hadith rather then listening to others who speak Rubbish then you will be amazed at how Men should Islamically treat their Wives. I am like you Sister and despise most Men especially Indian Men because they treat Wives like Crap and stare at other Women like a Piece of Meat and trust me i have Slapped a few Indian Men and embarrassed them in my Western Country where i am from. Anyway please gain some Knowledge on your own by reading Authentic Information and don't listen to others as they all will have their own Cultural Views and Culture is not what we follow its Religion as in Purely Islam straight from Allah and our Holy Prophet 🙂

    • I agree sister,
      My Pakistani husband treated me like trash and thank Allah I was able to get a divorce and leave him.

      • Men of almost all countries stare at women if they find woman physically attractive .Only difference is that Indian Pak men look very cheap due to their backward style .

        • Ask any woman, regardless of how she is dressed--even in a Burka, about men staring while shopping in Pakistan/India vs. shopping abroad if the experience is the same...

          • Perhaps in Pakistan/India, most men are not used to seeing strange things, so it makes sense why one could easily be tempted to stare at a woman in a Burka (even though it's wrong to stare, islamically), whereas in most western countries, most men are used to seeing many colorful flowers, and therefore it makes sense why nothing may look strange to them. Just my opinion though. 🙂

          • Assalam alaikum Br. Issah,

            Whatever the reason is, and we can could have a grand debate about it :)... at the end of the day Muslim men should know better and the way they do stare in the places I mentioned makes a woman feel violated. It isn't a glance. In fact, I have heard often a joke that men say the first glance is forgiven, so just don't look away after the first glance--which becomes the longest disgusting stare. As for men staring at women, regardless of how much she is covered, they wouldn't want anyone to stare at their own wife, daughter or sister, yet they feel entitled to do so with any other women? And these men are both married and unmarried.

            I have heard your argument before, but I don't agree with it. Allah swt tells both men and women to lower their gaze. If there were no "colorful flowers" to stare at, then would there be a need to tell the believers to lower their gaze? In fact, there wouldn't be a test. If we don't acknowledge this is a problem amongst people in our Ummah or teach our boys and men to stop doing this--especially in public, just more excuses will generate and really, does it matter if non-Muslim men do it or do it less--Muslims, men and women, should know better. Besides with the internet, exposure to viewing women has never been so easy and statistics show that porn is accessed by those very countries is the highest in the world.

          • Wa 'Alaikis-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh Sister Saba,

            Of course, we need to acknowledge this as a problem amongst people in our Ummah or teach our boys and men to stop doing this (I wholeheartedly agree with you 100% on this), however, this should be done by comparing their actions with the Holy Quran and Sunnah. If you watch carefully, you will notice that my main point is about avoiding the unnecessary comparison between the actions of those Muslim men with the actions of non-Muslim men in issues like this--as it won't be fair to do so without considering the real reasons behind the action of each group sincerely, and by considering the two reasons, you usually end up seeing that there was no point comparing them in the first place, just as there is no point comparing between the hungry cat with no food on the street, and the cat that is full and satisfied with all types of food in a rich home, and then conclude by saying that the latter is so friendly because it's playing with the rats and is not eating them, like the first cat. The Holy Quran and the Sunnah suffice as the sole Criterion for this Ummah.

          • Yes, Br. Issah, I see your point but again I don't agree with the analogy of the hungry vs. fulfilled cat because the internet has given "food" to the entire world--and it really isn't that uncommon to find women dressed in Burka or t-shirt and jeans in those areas. Also, both married ("fulfilled") and non-married men ("hungry") have this habit of staring. I really believe that it comes down to the culture of thinking and how some men in those areas feel entitled to treating women like an object--so, I'm in fact objecting to the thinking more than the act itself. And yes, you are right I shouldn't have said Muslim men because in fact, it isn't just Muslims who live in that area. And I don't believe it ONLY the Muslim men in these areas that engage in this behaviour.

            And again, my original comment only about men was in response to the comment above:

            "Men of almost all countries stare at women if they find woman physically attractive .Only difference is that Indian Pak men look very cheap due to their backward style."

            However, to be frank, I find it very upsetting when that behaviour is, in anyway, justified for whatever reason for Muslim men though. On one hand we don't want to compare Muslim men and non-Muslim men...but on the other hand, are we saying that we are afraid to expect higher standards from Muslim men or are we saying that the Quran and Sunnah were not enough to stop this behaviour to the point of making a distinction between the behaviour of Muslims and non-Muslims? Again, I think it isn't a religious problem--it is a cultural problem for people who happen to be Muslim--but one would think this would be corrected.

            I also think we should be careful about villifying non-Muslims. Just this morning while listening to the radio, there was a poll done about how a girl in a relationship should dress while attending a party. Keeping in mind that I wasn't listening to a Muslim station, the majority (about 60%) voted for the girl to dress modestly and basically stated that revealing clothing for a girl sends the wrong message. There was no Islam, no religion in the topic--I think as Muslims we shouldn't take for granted that being Muslim doesn't give us a ticket to be exempt from humanly desires. Being a practicing Muslim gives us the awareness--but mix enough bad culture into and we brew up a dangerous concoction of labeling ourselves "good."

            Even the question posed by the OP is riddled with questions arising from unIslamic cultural practices and the above post is a testimony to the fact that we, as an Ummah, are struggling with what is Islam and what is culture?

            I hope that I explained that in a better way.

          • Some few points in your post clarified your view. Anyhow, Jazakillahu khairan for the clarification. 🙂

  2. asalamu alaikum,

    after reading your post i can understand your confusion, you seem like a youngster, asking a lot of why, why. masha'allah. so many questions i will do it one by one so it will be easy insha'allah.

    1. the prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him) said "if I had given choice to do sijda other Allah I would have told their wives to do it in front of their husband" only because of the responsibility and heavy burden which is placed on a man's shoulder.

    2. women are very important. Jannah lies on the feet of the mother(women) you know how important that is? after Allah and his messenger, you know who comes next? the mother(women), then who? mother(women) then who? mother(women). finally the father. why was it mentioned 3 time? because of the importance of a women, a women who goes through hardship, child bearing etc which men will never understand.

    3. Why is nowadays men is allowed to marry 4 for their fun? if those men can support 4 wives then why not? their are more women than men. so if every single men got married, so many sisters will have no husbands. so whats the solution? but sadly a lot of men tend to not understand if they cant do justice between 2-4 wives then marry only one.

    4. nothing wrong for women to have her own choices of likes and dislikes. this is from your own culture, not Islam.

    5. Why all the people out there says cooking should be done by women? all people? no, your people are saying it not all. again this is from your own culture don't confuse it with Islam. in Asian culture they say women's place is the kitchen, and be like a maid. even in Bollywood movies i recall you see this. the daughter in law turns into a house maid, and her place is the kitchen. its not from Islam please don't attribute culture with Islam.

    6. its not okay for a man to stare at other women wither he's married or not. he is doing it out of his own accord so don't generalize all men just because of some individuals. women do it also, its not one sided.

    some men do understand the hardship a women goes through and the very importance of a women. some men's action does not represent whole of men, just like few women's action does not represent the whole of women. by seeing few individuals and banding them together you are doing injustice not only to the people but Islam too.

    if you took your time to study Islam, during the time of prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him) the role women played and the role men played most of your questions would have been answered. you could have easily see the difference between culture and Islam.

    i hope it was easy to understand..

    peace...

    • MashaAllah, great response!

    • Ahmed: there are more women then men.,so if every single men get married,so many sister will have no husband.

      census of male to female ratio at age between 20-35 is equal .
      At old age no of female ratio increases as men die early. Men marry women of young age although older women are the one in excess.
      Other then this response is very good. Thanks.

      • You are wrong Gracias. You have totally midunderstood. From the male 18 -35+ majority of prison population are men. Then you have the gays. Then from 18-25+ you have loads of males who are victim of homicide, on top of that some men dont want to get married at all. So you left with small percentage of men. You do the math Its not hard to see that. Thats the ratio i was referring too.

        • Ahmed: You are wrong Gracias. You have totally misunderstood. From the male 18 -35+ majority of prison population are men. Then you have the gays. Then from 18-25+ you have loads of males who are victim of homicide, on top of that some men dont want to get married at all. So you left with small percentage of men. You do the math Its not hard to see that. Thats the ratio i was referring too.

          Which Muslim countries are you talking about?

        • I'm talking about muslim countries like Pakistan check census. In India men are surplus although not muslim but huge muslim population.
          We are talking about Muslims as they are being discussed here and not west. In west Muslims are not the one in prisons, homosexual or homicide victim any way.
          There are as many gay women as men.

          • Hell with your census, they are not 100% accurate.So Who knows what you talking about, nor am i interested. Pakistan is not a Musmim country. also im talking about the MUSLIMS living in the west. So many muslim brothers in prison in the west for drugs, theft etc. If you dont have no knowledge of it then dont act like you know it all. If you dont Have any decent advice apart from trying to correct someone dont waste anyones time..

  3. Selam alekum,
    I agree with you here. I have found my ex husband to treat me only good for cooking, cleaning sex and also taking my money . I think women are treated horribly by many men. I am now divorced from an man who neglected me. He seemed to think he was entitled to everything and I am finding many Muslim men to think this way. I felt so used it was awful and its like these men have learned from their culture that women are not worth much.
    I think women have many rights in Islam but culture takes over and culture is taken to be the religion. Even the Prophet Muhammed (pbu) cleaned his home and helped his wife. I think it is better for a woman to be independent and have some kind of work or career even if she is married. Too many women who are dependent on the husband can not leave abuse and some people if they know women are helpless will abuse them more. I think every woman should get a good education and work so they can be strong. Women are not children and should be not treated like them. They have right to think and act for themselves. I truly think women are too dependent on men especially in the South Asia and it is just dangerous to be dependent as a woman is vulnerable to not being able to protect herself.
    I do not think Allah intended it to be this way and the women in the Quran were strong women. But even now boy babies are prefered over girls and many girls are not allowed their right to get an education. This truly needs to change in the Muslim countries.

  4. Wa alaikum as salam.....
    Islam allows marrying 4 wives because.....
    Firstly, it may help the women as in the case of the Prophet where he often married poor women or women whose husbands died in battle. This was to help and protect them.

    Secondly, as the prophet Abraham (as) married, they may bear the man a child when the first wife cannot. Instead of abandoning a women for her inability to conceive, he marries another and *treats them both with justice)

    And lastly, in the case of a man tempted to commit adultery with another women. Instead of this man committing a grave sin, adultury, Allah has given man an ease within his law and allowed man to marry another women. The aim of this is to prevent man and the women from committing a grave sin. Many people look at this law as a selfish addition to men but in fact it is meant as an ease on both men and women; it's not an excuse to 'have fun' with many wives but in fact it is meant to help ease men and women with their way of life.

    • Redwan Khan: lastly, in the case of a man tempted to commit adultery with another women. Instead of this man committing a grave sin, adultury, Allah has given man an ease within his law and allowed man to marry another women. The aim of this is to prevent man and the women from committing a grave sin. Many people look at this law as a selfish addition to men but in fact it is meant as an ease on both men and women; it's not an excuse to 'have fun'

      That seems reasonable....but a woman can't do it instead of committing a sin if she is tempted

      • Ummm....... what about the advice the Nabi (SAAW) gave to men who were aroused by women not their wives? Didn't he tell them to go home and have intercourse with their own wife?

  5. Women dont have to take care of household needs. If they want to work they can if they dont they dont have to. And if she does she doesnt have to share her money.While men are obligated to care of our every need. We dont have to pray after childbirth and menses and we dont hav to make up for it.

    We are given 3 times more rights as a mother.A man repeatedly asked Muhammad (pbuh), “Who amongst the people is the most worthy of my good companionship?” Each time, the Prophet (pbuh) replied, “Your mother.” When the man asked for the fourth time, he replied, “Your father.”

    God devoted an entire chapter of the Quran to women.

    Muhammad (pbuh) treated his wives with the utmost respect and honor and was never abusive towards them. One of his traditions clearly states, “The best of you are those who are best to their wives.”

    Women entitled to a dowry at the time of msrriage from her husband and in case of divorce she has right to keep it. ( i do know certain cultures where nowadays mens family are asking for dowries which is wrong)

    Nowhere in the Quran it states women have to cook. According to the sunnah men are supposed to help out with chores. Prophet SAW did his chores himself he did not sit around ordering his wives to do this and that.

    God clearly states that all humans are equal: “To whoever, male or female, does good deeds and has faith, We shall give a good life and reward them according to the best of their actions.”16:97
    It does not say men you have to do 5 deeds and women you have to do 10 deeds to earn the same reward.

    Islam has granted individual identities to men and women, a constant comparison between the two is futile. Each plays a unique role to mutually uphold social morality and societal balance.

  6. Yes, u are right it's about the culture that makin it's own rule regardless considering less what Islam says..but how can we educate people to be fair enough and,not pointing out the differences for their positions. I mean why cant they understand their spouses and help them in every possible way as they can and make their life easier to live rather than complicated and filling hatred for each other. As we all know life is too short and everyone has to meet Allah and ans him on the day of judgement so why can't thiings be simpler how can we stop this inequality in cultures. I have also read many stories in this website and my heart just breaks into sadness and just wonder how people are suffering around the world in their lives howsome people treating their spouses with all the abusivness beating all the harsh thiings i mean theyre some people who has been suffering from loong time and just being patience and dealing with the behaviour and they're some people got away from their partners. My question is how can weeducate people to do justice with inequality treatment Between males and females? I mean divorce shouldn't be given as an advice , divorce should be the least thing to think about to get away from someone's behaviour other than divorce is there any useful advice or tips that our brothers and sisters could use for their relationship. Please leave good comments because there thousands of people out there like us who read this out and get educate

    Jazak Allah khair 🙂

  7. Woman don't necessarily have to cook. In my house my father is the one who cooks and cleans and wife cleans but never cooks. Quran does not say woman are forced to cook and that woman are slaves. Men and woman have equal rights in islam. Sometimes its the countries that make it unequal like woman are not allowed to drive in sharia law in Iran. Some people just think that men are higher then woman.

  8. i want to say here islam has given much more respect to women, men are to serve us respect wise, shelter wise, financial wise BUT Men took it in a wrong way
    they think that we are their slaves
    they cant tolerate a women having more success. we cannot blame Islam.

    About 4 wives no one can afford that but people do marry for sexual purpose i am very clear about it here no excuse no lie. men do it for sex just sex.

    no women in the world can stand his men in the arms of any other women though even 2nd wife, same as a man cant stand a woman in the arms of another man (extra marital affair etc)
    but ,en dont understand here why coz there is no permission in islam for a woman to keep 4 husbands if we were given that, then i would have seen many men killing each other 🙂

    but there are few men who are not like that. not every man is like that. but its parents mistake to marry her daughter to such man in hustle. which destroys her life.

    i can give you example here my brother is the one who prepared dowry of her wife( we are not pathans* they do it) who bought her dresses, jewellery, furniture, t.v, washing machine, heater all the necessary things .
    he treats his wife with respect , encourage her for everything. so here it is not necessary that every men is the same

  9. Assalam alaikum Dear Sister,

    You have asked:

    "Why can't it be equal enough or why didn't Islam give importance to women that much as men have as I feel?"

    Herein lies the problem. Why do women feel that they are less than men and why do they equate equality to being like men? When women feel that they need to be like men, they have already lost the battle on equality because Allah swt created women in a unique way and has given them qualities that he didn't give to men and vice versa.

    You must know that Iblis, who was made of fire, never did sujood to Adam AS because he considered himself more superior than a being made of clay. Why didn't Iblis just accept the way that Allah swt had created him? Why didn't be simply listen to Allah's command to do sujood, where the command of Allah swt was far more important than the actual act of bowing to another creation of Allah swt. He was tied up in his emotions and it tore him apart. He, Iblis, living in a good environment fell victim to his arrogance and had no one to blame, except himself.

    I often like to think of how this world came to be and those verses that relate to us the story of Hazrat Adam AS and Iblis and how they play a daily role in our lives and how we let our differences become our incompetencies, when infact they are just differences.

    Men are not capable of being pregnant and feeling life inside of them. Does that make them less superior than women? Couldn't we spin it that way? We could, but that difference doesn't make them less important or more important, it is just a difference and it is how our Creator chose to make us.

    I encourage you to read the information found on:

    http://www.answering-christianity.com/karim/women_not_deficient_in_intelligence_and_religion.htm

    Back to some of your questions:

    My question to you all why does islam has gave more Darajah or should I say high position?

    The position that you are speaking about has to do with responsibility. It isn't like Allah swt made men superior and that's it. No. As mentioned already, they have a greater responsibility to their families and in taking care of women (sister, daughter, mother, wife).

    As for women suffering from childbirth to menstruation, women's suffering will not be ignore by Allah swt. I'm sure you don't believe that. Again, it is mentioned above that Jannah lies at the feet of the mother.

    It is reported:

    A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (PBUH) said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim)

    A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: “(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.” (Al-Tirmidhi)

    On another occasion, the Prophet said: “God has forbidden for you to be undutiful to your mothers.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)

    Why did Prophet Muhammad pbuh, mention mother three times over father? Clearly, it is because of the care that she needs.

    As for obeying a husband, it is a pleasure to obey a husband who is caring, loving and nurturing. If he isn't and he is a zalim who abuses his power, then surely you have read that Allah swt watches over all that we do. If you believe that justice will be served in this world, that will cause you pain and agony--you must understand that true justice will be served in the Hereafter.

    The Quran is the only holy book that explicitly says: [4:3]
    And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].

    Muslims are not the only one who practiced polygamy in history, but it certainly is the one religion that speaks to the justice regarding polygamy. Islam isn't the problem when it comes to the topic of polygamy, the problem is the men who use it for their purpose. If you think about it, polygamy protects women from being misused--but women have to understand this deeply.

    Why is it so bad for women to have her own choices of likes and dislikes while other hand men is always having to keep his likes and dislikes on top of his priority and his wives too? Why all the people out there says cooking should be done by women only as if it is said somewhere cooking job is just made for women and men only has to eat it?

    As for the rest of your questions, they seem to stem from cultural practices. Women can have choices just as men can have choices. Men can cook and they even sew as well--just walk through any bazaar in the Indian subcontinent! So the question becomes, is it really Islam that dictates what you are thinking/feeling or is it the cultural pracitices? I would argue that is culture because we can find examples of women in Islamic history who were not just cooking in the kitchen all of the time. I don't have a lot of time to list them here with references, but if you want, I can, or you could do a search yourself on it.

    Again, be happy to be a woman and stop trying to be like a man because that is what sparks the inferiority/superiority comples. Both men and women have important work to do and important roles to fulfill as per their ablity. Stay clear of cultural practices assumed to be Islam--study more in Islam and it will give you patience and understanding. One last thing, understand that we lose some understanding when translating from Arabic into other languages, so be careful about translations that you read--it is best to try to read more than one.

    I was in a bit of hurry...hopefully it made sense what I wrote!

  10. Too much man-hating...

  11. A few weeks ago, I saw a post on OnIslam, an Islamic website based out of Qatar (I think). A non-muslim woman had written in and said her boyfriend was muslim and they were engaged, and she was considering converting to Islam but had a few questions first. The Islamic counsellor responded by congratulating her on her engagement and wished her much blessings in her future marriage, and encouraged her to keep learning about islam etc. Then, a muslim girl wrote to the website and said that her muslim friends are allowed to go shopping and socialize, whereas she must come home after school and stay in the house, and she feels very trapped by her father and brothers. They basically do not let her out of the house. I believe this girl was 18 or 20 - not a child and sort of on the verge of adulthood. The Islamic counsellor told her that she must be kind to her parents and provided all these stats about drinking, premarital sex, children born out of wedlock etc, and insinuated that what she was asking for would lead her to a life of sin.

    So why didn't the Islamic counsellor tell the first woman that her fiancé was a fornicator and was committing the worst possible sin by being in a pre-marital relationship? Why wasn't the man criticized? Why wasn't the non-muslim woman criticized for being in a pre-marital relationship? The muslim girl who wanted a bit more freedom had legitimate concerns about feeling stifled and wanting to socialize more. Yet these concerns were tossed aside.

    I'm just saying....There is a favourable bias toward muslim men. Women just have it more difficult. I know in my family, my brother was never punished for having a girlfriend, and when they decided to get married, she mumbled a shahada and they had a big wedding that was paid for by my parents. They're not remotely religious and the sister-in-law's non-muslim family plays a big role in their lives and the lives of their children. And my parents are totally happy with this. But I was not even allowed to leave the house by myself until I was 25, and whenever I mentioned marriage I got a big guilt trip about how I should be taking care of my parents...

    Somehow, muslims have learned to take it easy on the guys. Just read some of the posts on this website. I'm not saying Islam endorses that attitude. I'm just saying that the OP's concerns are legitimate, but it takes a revolution to change attitudes.

    • So why didn’t the Islamic counsellor tell the first woman that her fiancé was a fornicator and was committing the worst possible sin by being in a pre-marital relationship? Why wasn’t the man criticized? Why wasn’t the non-muslim woman criticized for being in a pre-marital relationship? The muslim girl who wanted a bit more freedom had legitimate concerns about feeling stifled and wanting to socialize more. Yet these concerns were tossed aside.

      Well counselor wanted that non-Muslim woman to convert to Islam and did not say any thing negative. I am sure Muslim boys get lot more freedom then Muslim girls. Most families will not care much if their son has a g/f, but if their daughter gets a b/f all hell will break loose.

      You should ask the same question from the Islamic counselor.

      whenever you mentioned marriage you got a big guilt trip about how you should be taking care of my parents...You brother should have taken care of your parents. If you find some one good, get married, you can still help your parents after getting married

  12. Ahmed: Pakistan is not a Muslim country. also im talking about the MUSLIMS living in the west. So many Muslim brothers in prison in the west for drugs, theft etc.

    Take it easy brother.

    I don't know why you say Pakistan is not a Muslim country, even though 97% of its population is Muslim. I am not from Pakistan. I have heard many Muslims saying Saudi Arabians are not Muslims.

    Muslim brothers who follow Islam should not be doing drugs or stealing or shooting each other. What you are saying is applies to African Americans and not Muslims every where. Pakistanis and Afghanis are number one in Jihad and export of heroin which Muslim brothers use in UK and USA.

  13. Allah does not choose favourites in gender, race, culture, etc. In Islam, women and men get the same amount of rights, but sometimes, culture is followed. In different cultures, they decide to favour men over women, treating the females horribly.

    Although it may seem like women/girls are being discriminated based on their gender, the blame should go toward the culture, not the religion.

    (I can see where you're getting all this information from, seeing that you've heard many people saying words along the lines of 'get in the kitchen' or 'clean the house'. Again, it's a matter of culture, not religion.

    I do agree with you, sometimes Muslim men get favoured over their opposite gender. In some cultures, when Muslim boys get married, the woman have to pay the dowry, clean, cook, etc. But in other cultures (like in Somalia), the roles are reversed. But the woman still have to clean and cook and take care of the children, so it's not much of a change.

    Some people think that if Muslim woman clean/cook and the men work, they both have an equal amount of responsibilities. Still because of culture.

    Just remember this: don't blame religion, blame culture.

  14. Because man are responsible over the woman they should protect us and we should listen to them and respect them .... However some men don't do it they take advantage of women which is not right... Have you ever thought of why all the prophets are males or why there are no female prophets because Allah loves us women so much that he didn't want us go through suffering and stresses...

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