Comments on: Why is our love forbidden?

By: jibraan ul islam

jibraan ul islam — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 11:29:25 +0000

my dear friends ...... iSlam hAs SUm LiMiTs but as a muslim i would like 2 say that in islam a relatrion between unknown men n women z prohobhited thz relation z called love in modern words so 4 it u can see this video
http://youtu.be/uUBV4rPoL8Y

By: saadain

saadain — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 11:42:22 +0000

look sis yara u r ayoung muslim its better to use your brain instead of thinking should i marry him or not its clear now u must follow what sister z says and others as well

By: Tali

Tali — Wed, 18 May 2011 11:55:58 +0000

Thank you for posting the poem....
Our relationship could not endure the political, cultural and relgious climate that we live in but it has not stopped me from loving him desperately, as I know he loves me....

We cannot be in touch but I think about him all the time, its very hard for us to move on, its painful but sadly love cannot conquer all.

By: * The Ashraf *

* The Ashraf * — Fri, 06 May 2011 23:14:53 +0000

Hey

ألاسلام هو الحل

By: J. Alexander Lloyd

J. Alexander Lloyd — Fri, 18 Mar 2011 12:16:19 +0000

Thank you, Tali, for sharing so personal a story.

It reminds me of another prophet, about whom Kahlil Gibran wrote in The Prophet, who said:

"When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you, yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you, believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden."

By: Alyss S.

Alyss S. — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 05:48:48 +0000

I understand your feelings, and I can also somewhat understand both points of view, although I must admit I don't know much about Islam (if anything I say is offensive, I really am sorry- I really don't mean it to be). But I would just like to point out something to those reviewers who say that this man doesn't really love you if he doesn't want to convert to Islam: religion is something that you should truly believe in, correct? If something doesn't conform to the way you believe, is it fair to make you change? How would those of you feel if your man told you to change your religion to prove your love? Because when it comes down to it, religion is something that affects you and only you: it is your decision. No one else should have a say in it, because at the end of the day it is you that it affects. (I suppose I should say at the end of life. ...)

By: Iqra

Iqra — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 03:58:56 +0000

Love is very complicated and often confuses people. One thing that must be made perfectly clear is that whatever you do chose to do is what you must live with after death so please think deeply about your actions. Your father has every right to be upset with you for marrying a non-muslim man-I believe that any muslim parent would do the same in his position.
I strongly encourage you to try and guide your friend of interest to see the truth of Islam and all it has to offer. If he does not convert then if you have married him you must devorce and if you were considering marrying him then please forget about him.
A muslim woman CANNOT marry a non-muslim man; no matter how much you love him your love for Allah must always come first. Allah always reason for what He has asked of us-and although it may be hard to accept this now-you must have faith and trust in Him and all He has asked.
Also, 2009 or 3010-time does not alter what Allah has asked. You must always remember that Allah is all knowing and surely had given us the rules He did as a guild which we must follow no matter which period in time we are sent to Earth.

You may not understand clearly exactly why muslim + non-muslim relations are forbidden but keep in mind:

1-your only purpose (and the only purpose of all that had/shall/and currently live) is to prove your loyalty to Allah and all He has asked. It's a very romantic idea to think "Life is too short" but the fact of the matter is-this "Life" is only a test-to see how strongly you follow Allah. Your true life shall start after death. Keep this in mind when you are deciding what to do.

2-Any and all children you have are under your duty to be correctly taught the ways of Islam. A controversy in religion can cause problems here-where as your parter may wish to teach the religion he follows instead.

3-Simple everyday life may be complicated. As you know, certain things are forbidden to eat/drink such as pork and alchocol. Your partner may wish to consume these which might temp you or any children you have to try these sorts of things. Remember-both parents influence their children!

If this man truely does love you and all he wants is to be with you then he will understand that you will not be with him if he is not muslim. If he refuses then you seriously need to re-think how much he REALLY loves you!

By: siba

siba — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 04:13:50 +0000

I was just looking into this subject, and came upod your response. i thank you all i can, for you truly understand the meaning of life. thank you

By: tali

tali — Sun, 06 Jun 2010 18:35:13 +0000

What I am about to write may offend some of you and for this I apologise...

I am an Israeli jewish girl, who is in love with an Palestinian muslim. Our love has transcended and endured the most difficult realties that surround us. In this area of the world, we cannot be open about our relationship so as not to cause havoc for both our families. Conversion is not an option for either of us.

We could not bear to be apart and our devotion to eachother could not be described in words. There are many, many couples like ours and its especially difficult as our relationship is shrouded in secrecy. We tried to separate in the past but it didnt last more than 24 hours....

Two years ago, after I lost our baby, I knew I had to make a choice. With the help of one Jewish friend who sympathised and understood my situation, I had to tear myself away. The grief was unbearable for both of us and I am still in much pain. I dont think I will ever love anyone as much as I love him. He is beautiful in every single way and I miss him terribly, as he does me. Our deep love for eachother will be carried to the rest of our lives.

I can only advise you that if you honestly think you have a future together, go for it. However, if you decide to separate because of religion, and only if you are sincere about your faith, do so. The pain will be unbearable but I can tell you that after 2 years I do feel better. I have tried every distraction possible and it does help, I never thought I would survive but I know I did the right thing for both of us. It is somehow possible to overcome.

Whatever you decide I wish you strength to follow through!

By: SisterZ

SisterZ — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 22:01:39 +0000

Abii...true, life is too short.

So those of us who know that at the end of this very short life, Allah/God will send us to heaven of hell according to our actions on earth, then we'll want to spend our life with someone who will help us to please Allah/God first.

Whom we love, really all depends on what one believes their purpose in life is.

SisterZ