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My Love, My Faith, My Trust, My Life….Why She is Ignoring me?!

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Asalam-o-Alekum I really do not wish to share my feelings with anyone in this world who knows me. There is nothing wrong in my case still I wish to keep my feelings, till I find this site. After reading the true feelings from others, I gathered my courage to write about my life.

I was in relation with a working girl. We started our friendship with a chat and gradually get our relations strengthen. Time comes when we realize that we can not live without each other. We often meet for which I always feel shy and don't like that. She feel angry on this often but later realize that this is for her benefit. We made promise to each other for living our life-like one soul two bodies.

All of a sudden her she got the proposal from her colleague. She initially informed me about that but not took it serious and refuse to marry that guy. But that guy took it serious and send her mother to her office where she met with her. Finally got interaction with her mother and with days they got the initial engagement. I was in total shock. In between I tried my family to visit her house but my mother was not ready for that and need time to think.

My mother is now ready but now she is engaged. She switched off all connections with me. Since last two months I was like fish out of water. I never consider any girl in my life and always gave her place of my wife. She too was very nice and always consider my feelings. We often talked Islamic values and both keep our five time prayers.

I do not know what happened all of sudden. I am mentally out of mind these days and do not know how to run my routine life. My life is completely spoiled and I no longer wish to have trust on any person. If it is allowed in Islam I may go for suicide or pray for my death. I can not imagine to have life with any person other than her. I cry in my prayers seeking help and forgiveness from ALLAH. I need prayers from all in this holy month that my love come back....

Ahmad Nadeem


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  1. You should have done the decent thing by going to her parents. Obviously she got a better rishta that Allah created for her. Leave her alone now, she has done the right thing to leave you and remove all connections with you.

    My strong advise to you is move on. Leave it in the hands of Allah. You wont get her back just accept it, everything has happen for a reason. If you ever do like someone in the near future then do not expect that girl to wait for you, go to the parents and do the decent thing.

  2. Well you were living without her before you met her, you can live without her if she leaves you.

  3. Ahmed,

    Time heals all things. May Allah send a pious sister your way and bring you much happiness in your life. The sister you speak of is no longer available. Dry your tears and move on.

    Salam

  4. Dear Nadeem ,

    Haraam acts will lead to path of destruction .Affairs are not allowed in Islam .Even a thought about suicide is worst thing for any muslim as it is completely Haraam .
    People come and people GO in life . Forget her and MOVE ON .
    Try to become good muslim ...You need to submit yourself to Allah and lead life as per his commands .
    You should be shamed of your self when you talk about suicide and that too for a girl .

    • She is not for you , Trust Allah , Allah has someone better for your life , that will make you happy, keep praying Solat Tahajud, Taubah, and Dhuha , make a lots of Sadakah , pray for others too ask Allah to send for you your real life partner , Insha Allah this will really help you, and change your DOA , don't ask Allah to send her for you , because she will never come if she not the one for you , and its just wasting your time and your energy. it is Haram to make zalim on your self, trust me your turn will come as soon as possible, I am talking by my experienced , I had more pain then your story , I am 32 years old now still single

      P/s : Ask Allah to change your life become better than before , give peace and millions happiness in your heart and life , send you many great friends that loves you, everywhere you go, don't because of one girl you became worst , Allah never want us to be like that , Change Doa trust me you will see the different

      Assalamualaikom and Love

      iela Malaysia

  5. AsSalaamu Alaikum Brother Ahmed,

    This is life, so welcome bro! As you already know, not all dark clouds bring rain.

    Rely on Allah and move on, because what happened to you does not mean the end of the world. And know that whatever comes and goes in your life was never meant to stay, and that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is very aware of your situation--and that He is The Best of planners.

  6. May Allah bless you with a better and righteous wife.

  7. I'm sorry to say but the only person to blame is yourself. I'm sick of guys only stepping up to do the right thing once the girl receives a serious proposal. You did things the WRONG way so you now need to deal with the consequences. Let her get on with her life now, you can't attempt to send your parents to her now. You lost her. If you really loved her like you say you do you would have proposed from day one and married her. There's no use feeling sorry for yourself now. Repent for your sins and pray that Allah grants you a wife who you will love and will love you.

  8. Assalam alaikum Brother,

    I do feel sorry for what you are going through, but I still see a few things that you may want to rethink for the future but first, turn to Allah swt instead of indulging thoughts in suicide--these are only from shaitaan because his first purpose is to have you involved in a haram relationship. Once you understand shaitaan's psychology, you will begin healing, inn shaa Allah.

    In future, decide if you want to marry someone of your choice or your mother's choice. If you believe the final say is yours, then you must be able to stand up for what you want and do not falter. If you can't do this and the final say is your mother's, then frankly, you have no business engaging in a relationship in which you can offer no guarantees.

    I pray that you heal and recover inn shaa Allah. Let this girl from your mind completely--she did the right thing to not involve you in her life--respect this. May Allah grant you a pious wife with whom you find happiness, love and joy, Ameen.

  9. your love , your faith your trust your life? maybe if all of these things were allah instead of some person you wouldnt be in this situation, and secretly meeting then hiding behind the excuses such as that you talked about islamic values is pathetic , do not indulge in haaram then hide behind the typical "we talked about islamic values" to eclipse the wrong which is having a gf. furthermore if you talked about islamic values did it not occur to you that pre martial relationship is haaram

  10. Salam,
    Repent and turn back to allah and tell your mom to find a righteous girl for you.

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