My wife left me, how can I save my marriage?
My question is about my wife, but let me explain you the background of my situation.
We married about 8 years ago and have one son who is MashaAllah 7 years old now. I am working in UAE and I am basically from Pakistan. She has some serious issues with my family and most of them are correct and I know she is right but I cannot do anything. I always tell her we are happy in our lives so why to discuss them. She has also some issue with me about my commitments as I cannot fulfill them. Also I have never told her how much money I am getting from my job as she is very careless about spending money and I wanted to save for bad time. I am not financially sound (which is also a problem for her) and got help from my parents a couple of bad time.
Now, I am suffering from serious financial problems and to some extent I know I will be jailed here due to the financial problems. Some of my cheques are bounced and case is with the police and they have held my passport and I am jobless but still able to manage enough money to support my family working as freelancer.
My wife left me 3 weeks earlier saying she don't want to live with me as I am a liar (about money) and she do not want our son to see that his father is going to jail also she told me that now she don’t love me and had no respect for me as I cannot give her basic needs. I told this time is temporary and our good time will come soon but she doesn’t want to listen.
I love her a lot and still supporting her and my son while she is living with her sister here and will do that. I told her to go back to Pakistan and I will ask my family to support you till I get back, but she don’t want to go back and looking for a job here. She told me she will not go back as she has some genuine issues with my family. I even told her to stay at her parent home and you will get support there but she doesn’t want to go back.
I don't know what will be my future, I have requested my family to support me most of time but now I feel shame to ask their help. She is now asking for divorce after discussing the problem with her family. I met her to find a solution but it was useless as her sister was there and she told me that they have discussed the matter and wants me to divorce her. I don't want to divorce her; I love her and don't want to give divorce, even I am ready that she can stay at her sister home and do job till the matter is resolved and but she told me she want a divorce and that’s it, now its been 2 week she is not talking to me or meeting me to discuss anything. The last message I got from her on my mobile that its over between us.
I am meeting my son whenever I get a chance and my wife had no problem in that she let him go with me but I am feeling he is don't have any affection while he is with me. He even blamed me for all this; I don't know what she is telling him about me.
Can you please guide me if she is right for asking divorce? If not, what should I do to save our marriage?
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