I will definitely commit suicide if I don’t get my love back
Salaam,
I am a female muslim girl who was in a relationship with a guy but had a break off a year back. 
Since that day I had been praying badly to Allah so that he could come back to me again and if we could be together again. But it seems fetching me no positive response.
I love him a lot and can't afford to lose him. I had been offering namaz n salat-i-hajat for same purpose.
Please can you suggest me some dua or some way that I would win his heart again and we could be together again. This is the person whom I want to marry and if I dont get him then I'm gona commit suicide, thats for sure coz i cant think of my life without him. And with anyone else.
Please help me to get this guy back. I'm alive with the hope that probably I would get him back at some point of time. The day this hope dies, I'm also gonna die.
Please don't ignore this, I really need help.
For God sake
Suggest me some dua plz 4 the same..
- helpless
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Dear helpless,
I know this might be a hard time for you, but several girls have gone through what you have gone. I, personally, have felt love before and have felt like committing suicide. This must be your first love and therefore it is hard to accept the fate of this love -- that it might just not be eternal. It's hard to forget all those dreams. But, believe it or not, just as you feel this way, many have before you and you may feel this way again in your life. This is normal, and you will overcome it. The world lives, people dying everyday from hunger or war, and yet they keep living. Women are made widows and children made orphans, yet they keep living, and so should you. Love Allah (SWT) and do not think of suicide, as He (SWT) does not like it, and you will have to occupy yourself. Transmit all these emotions from negative to positive energy.. pick up a hobby, or strive to excel in your studies and work. Every time you feel like you are thinking of him, immediately get up and go see friends, or study, or whatever.
I hope my humble advice will help you. In time, your eyes will see, and with age comes wisdom.
Your sister,
Anonymous
Thank you "Anonymous" (maybe time to choose a user name?) for this excellent advice. You've understood what the questioner is feeling, offered a broader perspective, reminded her of her obligation to Allah, and offered constructive suggestions, all in one short comment.
"Helpless", please also read my page on suicide, included on this website:
Suicide in Islam
Regards,
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
i personally went through the same, but what can one do. My marriage failed despite a good outcome of istikhara. I miss my wife very much and i love her.
Nothing is eternal, sometimes parents back out on their children. Childern dont know their parents.
it's ahker zamaan, divorses will be a common thing.
was salaam and kudahafiz
thanks "anonymous" nd "wael" 4 all your precious advice.. i really felt light hearted after reading your responses..
but you did not mentioned anything about any duaa or any way which can bring my guy again...
will salah-tul-hajah not work to fulfill my dua...??
plz tell me some dua...plzz
Dear Helpless, Asalaamualaykum,
Part of being a Muslim is that our goals in life are to: please Allah, the efforts we make to achieve things are within Islamic guidelines and we need to train ourselves to accept the outcome of our good efforts as Allah's Will and Decree - Qadr. Believing in Qadr is one of the articles of faith.
I feel that your way of thinking is causing you more distress than not actually having this man in your life. While you are intent on wanting to damage or kill yourself if you do not get what you want, nothing we say will help you. This type of thinking is not from Islam, by thinking like this, you are rejecting that Allah(swt) is the one who has the final Decree in all matters. Furthermore, committing suicide is a major sin in Islam.
All our good duas are answered by Allah in one of three ways:
1) Allah gives you what you want in this life;
2) Allah does not give it to you and is thus saving you from a calamity it would have brought you, as Allah knows what we do not; ('Verily Allah is the All Knower of everything." (8:75))
3) Allah will answer your dua on the day of Judgement, and on the Day of Judgement will we all be in dire need of any blessing. So Alhumdulillah...
"Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allah has ordained for us." [Surah At-Taubah – Ayah 51.]
Hadith of Gabriel: When the angel asked what is eemaan, the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said 'Eemaan is to believe in Allah His angels, books, messengers, day of judgement and Al- qadar the good and bad' (Bukhari, Muslim)
Hadith of Jabir: 'No slave of Allah will truly believe until he believes in Al Qadr its good and bad from Allah, until he knows that what has befallen him was not going to miss him and that what missed him was not going to befallen him.'(Tirmidhi)
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"Then whosoever wills let him believe, and whosoever wills, let him disbelieve."
[Surah Al-Kahf Ayah – 29.]
Please read the following on duas: http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
and flip of if you dont allow my comments in defense of islam u dumb owner of this websitei dont care if u allow or not i dont get anything herei only give not take so dont tryna act like u r great u stupid dont aprriciate my comments i dont wnat u to u dumb ass i am that lovemakelifebeautiful to whom u said its not debate etc here u ugly dumb gilr the owner of this site
Well, you showed your real character with that one, bro. How disappointing.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
oh my God, this is shame to be called muslim and being so rude and so bad character. u should say sorry and regret what you said, but would be miracle if u do so. u sound to be really mean and bad hearted. allah help u
He's just young. He's 18 years old and he posted some good comments, but there were a few comments that I did not allow because I felt they were not helpful. I emailed him about it, and what you see above was the response. Unfortunately some teenagers don't have much emotional control. I certainly did things as a teenager that I regret. But I won't allow any more of his comments after this.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
salaam,
i had tried enuf...to 4get him n my past..but at the end of the day i found that i cant 4get him... i tried every way suggested by you all...
plz tell me what shud i do..?? shall i continue wid salt=e-hajah...or shall i stop...????????
I totally understand u helpless can i ask what was the reason u both broke up?n how old r u both?and how long have u been together for?
don't do it. think properly. u were not send for him.
dear sis (helpless)
stay blessed
ive gone through exactly the same situation , i was madly in love with somebody and later he cheated on me and now he is engaged to another girl. and its almost an year now. i wont lie to u i still do feel hurt but u know what now ive realised that it was better for me, a person who doesnt have the eye to see ur love, who doesnt have the heart to feel it than why u want such person in ur life??? dont u think u also need someone who can love u and also want u in his life? there will be surely one for you. dont let urself die for succh person who doesnt worth it, and lets suppose if u commit suicide than do u think it will make any difference to him ??? NO !!! the only ppl who gonna suffer will be ur parents, the mother who gave birth to u the father who looked after u, and the sis n bro who loved u, will they ever be able to forget u ? it was u who chose such person than doesnt even worth a single tear of ur. in all this situation where was ur parents at fault? live for ur parents, make them happy , and am sure you will find an inner peace. those who truely love never let their beloved die with each passing day........... u worth a better person and inshALLAH your parents will surely find that perfect one for you
Asalaamalakum, dear muslims I was on the web looking for Dua's for my son who passed away at the tender age of 20, and I felt what annie said in her post was true the only people who suffer are the family, to say im devastated is a understatement.. but Allah has given me the sabar Alhamdulilah, I would like to add that my son was soft hearted truthful and beautiful inside and out, too good for this filthy world which is why Allah took him into his care may Allah give him jannah,Ameen. the girl he loved is with another ...he has been buried all but two weeks, this was there love.......my son slipped and fell to his death but was out with this girl who was a kaffir he was led astray, he was in bad company, young people contemplating suicide for there 'love' plz dont do it as this feeling too shall pass, plz think of ur mothers every day i wake up with pain in my heart and i sleep with that same pain,the only thing that keeps me going is my iman that one day soon inshallah i will meet my beloved child in Jannah. a lone sheep away from the flock will be devoured by the wolf. may Allah bless the muslim youth of today and make them strong in there deen and keep them away from the ills of western societies and the kafirs Ameen.
Its true Im going through the same situation but like its said that Allah wrote our fate even before we were born so maybe the quicker we accept Allah the better we will get up in our lives!! i know its tough my love cant stand by me but i just have to accept that he was never strong enough so why kill your self over it! jus follow Allah n im sure Allah will give you whats best for you!