Committed zinaa with my boyfriend and abortion; now he wants to separate
I am 23 years old and a sunni muslim girl. till date its past 9 months that i like a muslim guy and fell in love with him very deeply such that i want to marry him. The boy is sunni muslim and he is also 23 years old.
at first he said me he loved me and the realtionship was going smooth. i expressed my desire to marry him with parents permission but he said he needs time to decide. In dis time duration we commited zina of having sexual contact with each other where i became pregnant and not able to come up with baby due to the society i aborted my child of 7weeks on both of our mutual decission.
feeling guilty till date for commiting the zina.. after abortion i was asking him for his decission but still he didn't cleared his wish. after abortion also, after knowing i want to marry him truely, with both of our wish we had sexual contact again. but he has come up with decission saying he cant marry me as he dont love me... he just cares for me and we are still talking to each other puting the situation to God for our future marriage...
the relationship was going up and down but a month back the guy started feeling very bad for the zina and wants to seriously ask for forgiveness. he says we should stop contacting each other and should move ahead with our life without commiting any more zina because if we will be in contact we will not be able to control ourselves for commiting zina..
Now i am totally depressed as he wants to go away from me. He dont want to hurt me but needs an islamic solution 4 both of us. Even i want myself and him not to do zina anymore but i just cant live without him and i really want to marry him. I dont want to do another gunah of marrying someone else without the person knowing his wife had been in sexual contact and also undergone abortion..
now you please tell me according to islam although commited zina of sexual contact as well as abortion what the guy should do. Should he marry me thinking as a repent for the gunah we both did together? Or should he leave me on my depression thinking it will do good 2 both? i please request you to give me a complete solution as to how to proceed for the betterment of both of us.... i will be greaty thankfull to you 4 your jawab. allahafiz...
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