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July and August 2000 Poll:
DO MUSLIMS FALL IN LOVE?
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72%
22%
5%
2%973 votes were cast.
We got almost a thousand votes on this one, and the great majority said, "Sure, why not?" Many of the responses were quite insightful and thought-provoking. Still, I think this poll did not go exactly as planned. When we put the poll together, we were thinking that Muslims often are married through arranged marriages, and even when they personally select the partner they are often minimally acquainted. You get married to someone you don't know extremely well and maybe you fall in love later, and maybe you don't. Maybe it's a great marriage and beneficial for both partners, but without that element of "romantic love" which is so hyped in the West. So that's what we meant by "Do Muslims fall in love?"
Many brothers and sisters responded with comments such as, "Muslims are are human beings too!" So I think the point of our question didn't come across clearly, and that's our fault of course, for not phrasing it better. Well, live and learn.
Two hundred and eleven brothers and sisters said only husband and wife can or should fall in love, and of course that's understandable. Forty six people thought falling in love is unIslamic. And nineteen cynical souls feel that love doesn't exist at all. For those nineteen, I'm sorry, Insha'Allah one day you will find and marry your own love!
One person simply said, "I am right." There's someone with confidence! To that person I say, "I absolutely agree, you are one hundred percent right."
-Wael Abdelgawad, Editor
These are some of your comments:
real love is only in islam
love is natural, but it's best after marriage it's best
we are still humans in fact because we only love one in our life its real love
Muslims must fall in love if they want to improve themselves spiritually and if they want to have more healty and enriching relations with the other sex. As men and women we have lots of things to learn from each other and love is a perfect teacher.
(Wa gala binhoma mawadh wa rahma)
I agree with this only if it happend, man should go direct to her familly and ask to marry her, as we all have sisters and females in our familly and never accept for this kined of relation if it is not known by the familly
of course they fall in love. Love is a word with deep meanings you can fall in love with simply anything.
should a muslim fall in love b4 marriage?
of course we fall in love but only between husband and wife which
is allowed. In case you fall in love with somebody and get crazy
with him/her, but you can't marry her/him, it's better for you
to abolish your feeling or at least try to forget it...
its natural to be in love
if there isn't love there's no god! those who voted it doesn't exist are narrow minded fools!
In this new style of life with all the fitna it very hard to manage our feelings, but the right that you cannot fall in love with some one if you're not married.
You have to avoid what's haram
It is a good point
love is better for life
yes,but be clean
muslims are humans too !
Falling in love is as natural as anything b'coz Allah has made us with feelings not with the stone
Sure why not, but it has only one CURE and that is MARRIAGE
muslim girls are not allowed to mix with men so they are not supposed to meet meet freely and love before marriage
Do Muslims have feeling like anybody else, and who's FATWA is it that it's un-Islamic to love, this is an absolute nonsense. Those who believe that it does not exist, I wonder in what oasis they live? Did the Prophet love Khadija?
it is natural phenomena
falling in love is human nature, but when in love do things according to Islam and get married soon as possible.
love exists, if not we don t exist
muslims are humans and the solution of love is marriage!
love is a feeling/marriage is a choice
There are many conservative muslims living in this world and they should me more educated . There is nothing wrong to fall in love , we are human beings and not stones
Its great to show love and passion. and I believe there is nothing wrong to show such feelings between male and female of any religion.
1000%
When separating culture and DEEN then it is not possible but in cultures it exists cause Islam is practiced with the mixture of cultures...
Any evidence from the history of Islam?
I am right.
God made men and women with feelings,not with stone!
Love Allah for only he'll love you back
we as muslims need to focus on what we need to focus only the only love I personally believe in is love between a husband and wife, there is no other love, it is a game that non believers play
we are a human and have a feeling that why we fall in love because Allah created male and female in this world.
aren't muslims human with all the human feelings that come along with the package of emotions that god gives us, if there was no love in this world what would it be i cant begin to imagine, i love being in love what's wrong with that and i'm muslim
Love with chastity and proper perespective is great
love is for everybody even for animals
true love comes after zawaj
yes of course its a part of life, if u don't fall in love with your partner marriage or non marriage won't be successful. I've been in a relationship where i was in love which didn't last but hey i still won't give up
muslims have big hearts
Love is natural, it's how you act on your emotion that can be an issue!
If they fall in love it is ok, but there are limits to it
we're all human beings even different faiths
wow!!!! Im surprised that some people think it isnt Islamic
when we talk about love we mean the holy love between a man and his wife and so on, not like the love that happens in the west and some Arab countries and that has many things forbidden and shouldn't be between those who have minds
what a dumb question!
impossible
love is for everybody, islam makes us love each other
muslims fall in love......, BUT...they have something called halal and haram.....
Allah has made it so we fall in Love, but also Allah has given us a mind and a concincise to know righ fromwrong The Love between a husband and wife is right and between parents and children and other relatives but not the forbidden love.
Every human needs love and would like to give love
if you take care about the hukum
true love only exists between Parents & children
Falling in love can happen from a distance. If a young girl and boy grow up in the same community they can easily fall in love with that person's character,etiquette,etc. Even WHOLE families fall in love with a person they feel is perfect for you.
Muslims, like any other people can and do fall in love. Love is a beautiful gift from Allah subhanahu wa ta'alla if used wisely and not abused.
love is universal, it knows no religions or cultures, etc.
What is love, first one should understand it. 99.9% people on earth think that LOVE is when one sees its opposite sex counterpart and feels attracted to it only to be close to it and to make love to it. This is not true.
I suppose you love the person you marry!
love!!! what is it?
Muslims have emotions just like any other human being
of course moslims love &hate &feel , everything ,but only politely and seriously (marriage only). islam is a kind of love between the person and allah so we moslims deeply believe in soul. finally islam is more civilization in its right concept. To love any body is not a crime in muslim world. Allah has given the right to muslims to look for their soul mates.
Islam does not prohibit good intentions. Only bad conduct is Haram.
living in an unislamic society you tend to follow their lifestyle and yes i do believe through this muslims fall in love outside of marriage
yes muslims do fall in love some with ALLAH and some with humans
Yes, it's an inherent characteristic of every human being.
of course they do, im in love with a muslim and he is in love with me, i intend to obey his every wish and we are like anyone else.
Love is not a crime
Im Muslim and I am In love with ISLAM.
The religous person keeps it within the right islamic way and it may end up to marriage.
Muslims do not fall in love except for the sake of Alllah. Muslims love Allah follow his messenger and love each other for His sake. Except husband and wife.
sure, why not - but you must marry the one you love and once you have done so you must close up your heart and love the one you you chose forever and ever and ever and ever...
Anything clean, pure and crowned with good intentions is most welcome.
love respecting islam's ethics is not haram
UnIslamic? Islam is purest form of love
love will only be haram if it leads to haram but if leads to zawaj,,,,,,then its ok
Muslims fall in true love only after marriage an seeing how your spouse cherishes you and behaves towards you then love grows.
I wonder how sad those who made the 4% result?
Thanks everyone for your great input.
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