Encouragement From a Brother
Assalamu alaikum for those of u who read the article "Choosing
The Desired Wife", you might have thought that it was too
much of a dream... if u did think that, then u better read this
little nice story.
I would like to humbly add my thoughts (i.e. my own opinion
When I started looking for a wife, my only intention was to
find a muslima that could help me to become a better Muslim.
After praying to Allah many times, I came to know that a Muslim
brother in my area had an unwed sister. I was told that she was
7 years older than I was, had no college education, and had minor
health problems. Despite this, I arranged for a meeting to discuss
the possibility of marriage. When I met her, I was impressed
by her modesty (she wore a real hijab that covered everything
but her face). She was not attractive, nor was she rich. However,
at the conclusion of our meeting, I felt comfortable with the
fact that she was what I was looking for. After praying Istikhara,
I felt confident that she was right for me.
Our nickaah was performed only a few weeks later.
Oh yeah, this was a Muslim wedding - the kind where the men
separated from the women, we didn't have disco music or belly
dancers or any other kind of kuffar stuff, there might have been
one brother who was NOT wearing Sunnah, and we spent most of
the time praying, praising Allah, discussing what a great blessing
the responsibility of marriage was, etc. I think the total cost
of the wedding might have been around $20.00 US (we held it in
my brother-in-law's apartment).
I had the time of my life!!!
Despite the fact that she is very stubborn and argumentative,
she is one of the best Muslim women a man could ask for. And
I am NOT talking about the way she wakes me up in the middle
of the night for tahajjud, the way she covers her face in public,
the way she investigates every action that I do, the way she
will stop talking to me if I dont read the Quran or go to the
masjid every day. I am talking about her fear of Allah and love
for the prophet Muhammed (SWAS).
Not bad for a woman some people called ugly who has no college
education or money.
I wouldn't trade this woman for everything in the world.
Many times when the discussion of marriage arises, I will
hear one brother after another talking about how beautiful and
educated they want their dream wives to be. Others will talk
of love or family/racial pride.
Fools... (with all due respect)
In case some of you are confused as to why I am mentioning
all of this let me tell you what I know (straight up)...
A PIOUS WIFE IS YOUR STRONGEST DEFENSE AGAINST SHAITAN
Marry a woman for whatever reason you want.......
My dua' is with you all-