A Father-Daughter Tipsheet on Dealing with the High School Prom
by Riaz Sayeed
Do you have a teenage daughter in her final year in school? Does she have friends who are preparing for their prom? Does she feel left out?
As parents of teenage daughters, we must deal with creating solutions for events in our daughter's lives, which do not conform to Islamic principles. If you have answered yes to any of the questions above, you are in that situation right now. This time of the year is very difficult for our daughters, who are attending coed public schools. How can we handle such events as proms, graduation parties, and other final year celebrations? Here are a few tips on this subject. Please feel free to add your suggestions to the list. We can all use and share our suggestions so we may help each other now and in the future.
1. Invite your daughter's friends over for a party at your house on a night other than the prom night, when they are available.
2. Offer to give your daughter a night to remember. Do something with her that she has never done before. For example: Take her on a dinner cruise the night of the prom. Let her invite her friends, so she can celebrate with them.
3. Offer to take her to an amusement park for the whole day. Let her invite her friends.
4. Do a mother/daughter day. For example: Spend the day with your daughter at a salon, then go shopping, and go to a restaurant.
5. Take her to a place she has never been to before. For example: On top of the Empire State Building in New York, and then explore New York.
6. Visit a university or college campus with her. Let her speak to the students there. Many universities have welcoming committees to show perspective students around campus. Don't forget to visit the student center.
7. Send her to visit her favorite relative for a few days.
8. Give her a special graduation present. Something she has wanted for a long time.
9. Give her a slumber party night at a hotel with her friends. Give her a choice of chaperones.
10. Offer her a limousine tour of the town with her friends.
These are just a few of the ideas that my daughter and I came up with. We are sure that if you sit down and discuss this with your daughters, you will be able to come up with several of your own ideas. Please remember to be consistent with your views with all your children of both genders.