15 and in love, are we soulmates?
Teenage romance.
Assalam O Alikum,
Am a Boy 15 Years And Met A girl over Facebook About 9 Months Ago . We Were just Friends And Used to Share Things ,Talk And Different Issues With Each Other . We Used to Talk About Everytime Over Facebook , Phone Or Met For 15 to 20 Minutes .
I Think We Are Soul Mates As We Are Just Similar Like The Way to Think, talk, like, dislike -Everything . We Haven't Got Intimate Except Hugged and kissed each other and i am very sure we wont get any more intimate before nikah.
Now When Situation Isnt the Same And We Aint Able to Talk To Each As Often So We Miss each other a lot. We Love Each other Alot But Dont Know Can there Be Love Before Nikah? Is there Anything As Love? Is Being So Similar Just A Coincidence Or Something Else? Is There Something As Soul Mates?
- Faizan
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Assalamualaikum brother,
Yes there is something called love in Islam. But when it is concerned with a non Mahram before Nikah, it is generally something Haraam.
Brother you should keep away from meeting the girl alone or chatting with her on any platform. Avoid talking too much with her.
That is closer to Allah's Obedience and away from Shaitaan's traps. Otherwise, Shaitaan would easily fool you and make you do wrong, while you are unaware.
If you like the girl, then hold it till you are ready to get married after a few years. Waiting for so long is difficult, hence I advise you to forget about the idea of being together with her at this point of time.
Muhammad Waseem
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Assalam o alaykum wr wb,
Think about punishment on soul due to this soul mate .
First and foremost u can still marry her as u are not a kid .
Secondly even hugging and kissing is deemed as intimate . If you hold guts marry her if u don't then why you kissed and hugged her ?? What made u assimilate that she is ur soul mate .
Its easy for u to have sex but not easy to marry her lool .
Contemplate on this
Dear Brother Faizan, My advise, out of experience, as i also went through the same at your age, is that just forget her. You will, in the course of time, fight and develop ill feelings for each other. Since you are of young age, the possibility of that thing occurring is quite high. You both should get back to your studies and forget each other, esp at this point in time, when things have yet to mature. This is just an adolescent love which fades away with time. You haven't given the age of the girl. If she has less than one year of age difference then the chances of what i said earlier are even more. I hope that helps you. try to read Surah Noor verse 30 and 31 on daily basis as well as Surah Ahzab verse 55 and 56. Allah HAfiz
Salaams,
In addition to the advice given above, I would also like to mention that you should not get caught up on this idea that you have a soul mate, or only one perfect person for you in this life. You will find as you age that there are several people who you will find to be compatible with you- both male and female. Many individuals marry someone, and then due to death or divorce end up marrying someone else later. Also, some men take more than one wife. As you can see, you can't limit yourself to finding the "one and only" person for you in this life. When you are ready for marriage, you can unite with the person you find most suitable at the time, but don't harangue yourself wondering if they were "the one". If you are marrying them, then clearly Allah willed it for that time with that person. Until then, try to avoid getting caught up in situations with ladies that will bombard your emotions and thoughts with confusing fitna.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamo Alikom,
I have also went thro the same thing as you brother. When i was 14 i thought i had found my soulmate.. we huddged and kissed but in the end i realized it was all wrong. I repented to Allah. And i asked him for forgivness till this i truley regret it. My advise would be to leave this girl. It will hurt but it wont hurt as much as it will whn u realize ur deeds may have lead u to hell. Allah is the most merciful and surely he will forgive you if u make tawbah. Please make tawbah and get away from her. It may seem like u have found "the perfect one" but truley it isint.... its all the affection. Caused by the shaitan who wants us to fall into the wrong. I truley would advise to forget her and repent
And may Allah forgive ur sins and my sins and grant us all jannah Inshallah.
I pray for you brother please forget her.... Jannah is more important, and these acts dont please Allah SWT.
I have been the same path as u and... i truley regret it.
Best regards
Muslimah 12345