Islamic marriage advice and family advice

A forced marriage – A living hell

Forced marriage hadith

Forced marriage is prohibited in Islam

Assalamu alaikum. I was forcefully married to my cousin. Since the childhood we used to stay in the same house. I never liked him. I hate him. He was not good at anything. No one ever praised him. His parents died. He was not obedient to his mother also. He has a dominating nature.

I told several times to my parents and my relatives that I don't want to marry this person. But still they married me forcefully. One of my aunt played a big role in  arranging this marriage. I told her that I don't want to get married to him. Everyday I curse her.

My marriage is like a living hell. I don't want to stay in it. We are financially not sound. My father isn't well. Whenever I say him that I don't want to be in this marriage he shouts at me. His health isn't well because of me.

My husband knew that my parents are forcing me but still without any mercy he married me. I don't want to sleep with this man. Everyday I wakeup with a painful heart. Iam very much depressed. I don't know what to do. I pray  a lot of offer salah n pray Allah swt to give me happiness . I want happiness I want my life. He is not a good person. I can't tolerate this verbal abuse.


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  1. Asalaam Walaikum.

    If you feel soo strongly then get divorced. And please don't feel as though you are to blame for your dads ill health, he has done that to himself and no ones to blame but him. He should have fulfilled his father duties by listening and protecting you at a time which is most important for anyone.

    So you do what you have to do for the better of yourself and dont think you are being selfish, these are your rights as a muslim women!

    And also make sure whatever decision you make you are 100% happy with ... Pray Isthikhara also.

    May Allah make it easy on you and bless you with a pious marriage ...Ameen.

  2. Get divorced sister. You can't make anyone Ill, your father made himself I'll. please don't take his rubbish blaming you to heart.

    Just tell them that this marriage is not legal as you were forced and go to an iimaam and ask about the process of separation if you Need one or not. If anyone doesn't like it, they can cry, they can beat you, they can pressure you, they can blame you , and they can even disown you. But you have to take charge of your life sister.

    You are young and deserve to be heard about who you Harry, not because it's convenient for them.

  3. Salam Sister,

    I think the poster and quoting in your post has answered your question. Now it is your choice to make the decision. Life will not be easy if you are not financially independent or without family around to help you out in the beginning. I strongly advise you to get help from agencies that can offer you some advices and resources. You also need to be mentally prepared for it. May Allah protects you and be with you.

  4. Wa'alaikum assalam

    Sister, please get divorced. You can divorce if you want to, and those are your rights set by Allah for you and every other woman. If he forcefully doesn't let you divorce, call the police or something. Also is he really a muslim? He is disobeying Allah's commandments about being kind to wives. Tell him that ok?

    ( Link shows true husband/wife relationship.)

    Also call your parents and tell them that they are disobeying the commandments of Allah by forcefully marrying you. Tell them to read Quran on this matter.

    May Allah help you.

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