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Asalam O Alaikum...,
After reading all the questions in this site, on net and observing things in my life i was wondering that we all are advising people to come close to ALLAH and forget and forgive others. Of course it is a good thing i am not denying it at all, i appreciate it...!
But what about those people who are hurting others, betraying and are responsible for all the sorrows in our life.
Yes we can not blame others but sometimes it seems obvious that they are the reason for it.
No one owns anything to others but still we cry for the people we loved and they betrayed us, people who divorced or broke engagement without any big issue, girlfriend/boyfriend breakups, who do evil and makes other cry. Everyone's life is its own and they are allowed to be selfish but what about the people they are linked with? I know most of the people will say that it's the matter between them and ALLAH, i agree but lets take an example of this site, only the hurt people ask questions and we say that they are being test and focus on islam and MASHAA ALLAH most of the people become a good muslim and credit and sawab goes to you all...,
But what about those who did wrong, aren't they being test or why aren't they asking such questions?
I want to know as hurt people are crying and wrong people are leading a peaceful life... why?
A murderer is safe and the innocent person is being killed...!
I know we should focus on our own life but i want to know the answer of these questions please...
And my intention is not to hurt anyone and say any thing wrong just that after what i have seen, these questions are revolving in my mind...
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Assalam alaikum,
Most people who come to this site came here because something in their life caused hurt that they felt/feel. Even myself, in searching for answers, fell upon this site. The type of hurt or pain that people here write about are akin to open wounds that aren't visible to the eye, but are felt to the core.
In my opinion, the reason why people who hurt others don't write here is because they do not feel pain. They may be diseased in their thinking and in their behaviour, but there problem is more akin to a silent tumour growing in their soul that they don't feel. In a way, it is a blessing to have an open wound or to feel pain so that a person can seek help and know that there is something wrong...however, those causing the pain and anguish, don't even feel their "hurt" as it is silently destroying their soul.
There is nothing wrong with putting blame where it deserves, but even when it is right to do that, it may be useless and a poor choice of expending one's energy--it may be better for one's soul and heart to channel all that they have in them towards making themselves better in all sorts of ways. Betrayal is a horrible thing to experience, but in the bigger picture it is a reminder to us that only Allah swt is our ultimate source of peace.
When people let us down and we have put our faith in Allah swt, we feel the pain, but we gather the courage to move on and forward. We learn from the lesson and peace doesn't desert us.
When people let us down and we have put our faith in those very same people, we feel the pain and we have no courage left. We tend to fall into depression and experience suicidal thoughts. We learn a different lesson, but we have no peace.
Sometimes there is no point in investing time and energy into what has gone bad or wrong--because we leave these affairs to our Creator and we use our internal gps system to find our way back to the right path. In leaving matters to Allah swt, we find ways to forgive, move on, and experience peace again and again amid the pain and hurt.
what man sows he gets. if sumone has done wrong to anyone he will get the same later. 100 % gurante i know many people who did wrong to me and after 1 or 2 years they got the same
what man sows he gets. if sumone has done wrong to anyone he will get the same later. 100 % gurante i know many people who did wrong to me and after 1 or 2 years they got the same
Salam Rosey,
I think Sister Saba put it beautifully in her reply. We as a believer trusts that Allah know best and He is the Most Just and He is watching all we do. We need to remind each other that there WON'T be a 100 % justice in this life. Justice will be completed afterlife. We know in our head that this life on earth is temporary and is just a mirage. But we do not fully internalize what that exactly mean. Just because the wrongdoers are having good life or not being punished right away do not mean that they can escape the punishment afterlife. THOSE ARE BUT PERCEPTION.
Sometimes, inshallah we may see the world bring some justices in our life by catching on those wrongdoers; while sometimes the bad people may have appeared to us that they had gotten away from the system by not being caught. Trust me, there are consequences of every action in this life even the consequences may not appear to us as a "punishment". For example, having a good life in this life can be a curse and a blessing. A curse for those who drift away from Allah, the consequence may be their children/ husbands/wives became another sins inflicted being. They may bring shame / hurt to themselves,etc, etc.
I know it requires patience and faith to believe that. (Some non believers will mock us for having this self explaining or self comforting theory. We as a believer will learn this in our life through experience, submission, and complete faith in our Creator.) When I was younger, I didn't see the wisdom behind. I wasted my energy for hating or complaining whenever I saw injustice happened in my life or in general. I wish I could have someone to coach me and show me on how to channel my negative energy and focus on Allah. I wasted my time. I could have my time better use.
Having said that, it doesn't mean just to pray day and night without caring the wider environment, we could be better equipped ourselves with education, understanding the human nature / society. We, human, are so limited and vulnerable, we need to be close to Allah to and ask for wisdom, the wisdom to see through the suffering behind and the wisdom to accept the pain when there is not much we can do.
So, this is my two cents.
Hi, sorry to ask like this but I can't figure out how to submit a new question. They've changed the wordpress site and I'm quite confused. A short but clear explanation from anyone would be helpful, thank you!
Moose, the link to register or log in is on the right side of the home page beneath the Recent Stories. Once you've logged in, it's quite easy to create a post.
Wael
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