Want to find a way to combat laziness to be a better Muslim
First of all salaam everyone brothers and sisters in Islam.
I am extremely weird I want to pray and read Qur'an and Hadith. Here is the problem am 17 years old Muslim boy and many Muslim boys my age in the West by now do bad things (girlfriend, bad to their parents etc). I am not like this. I don't have a girlfriend nor do I desire one because I know it's wrong however I do want to get married, I am very kind and gentle with my parents.
I don't do the sins that stand out such as drinking alcohol etc. I have read a Qur'an translation and love it but then I get distracted by video games and stop and then stop praying as well. The solution is stop playing games right but then I get bored but then I don't want to do these sins nor can I bring myself to do them.
Why am I this lazy?
Oh yeah, this is me please patient and try to answer two questions that was my first.
My sister is bad (not that I am good) no scarf, revealing clothes (all of a sudden) coming home late, as a brother what can I do? and insha Allah I am hoping for children one day - how do you raise a girl and a boy for that matter? I'd ask my mum who done good but looking at my sister I'd like other views including my mums.
Sorry for this being so long. it seems like my world is upside down and thanks for your time.
- Muhammad
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Salamualaikum Wr Wb!
MashaAllah! you must thank AllahSWT immensely for protecting you from the sins which have almost become unavoidable for most of the people around the globe especially teenagers!! Alhamdulillah!
I would suggest you the following regarding prayer and video games:
1. ask your mom, your friends or other people around you to remind you about prayer...
2. keep time for playing video games...
3. make good muslim friends... it's better to be alone than in an ill company but it's even better to be in a good company rather being alone... so make dua' to AllahSWT for good friends because you can pray together with your friends...maybe on weekends you can have halaal fun by having dinner together and offer tahajjud prayers...
Always keep in mind one thing....children learn most of the stuff by observing others around them..especially their parents...so make sure inshAllah that your wife does proper hijab and you and your wife should try to obey the commands of AllahSWT as much as possible and try to spend time with your kids...take them to masjid...encourage them to pray with you....instill a sense of honor by gifting your daughter when she is young (5 years or so) with hijab and praise her when she wears it...so that she starts loving it...but it's also important to teach children to make them have the proper intention in doing good things..that is...to Please our Most Loving Lord...
so it's important that parents teach their children to love AllahSWT....they should be taken to orphanages or to institutes for handicapped children because they will realize and appreciate the blessings they have...
ok..all that i wrote is an advise for myself before it is for you or anyone else...
and dont forget...parents' dua for their children are one of the prayers that are most likely to be answered...
Really excellent advice from "keep your trust in Allah" ma'sha-Allah. I agree with all his/her points.
"Keep your Trust in Allah", you need a shorter nickname, lol. I'll just call you KYTIA.
Wael
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regarding your sister...hmm...i really dont know...but i guess the first step would be to try to show that you care for her....like get her some gifts....and help her out in housework or school work....then gradually you can start talking about how she is precious in islam and AllahSWT has honored Muslim women and asked them to cover themselves so that they'll be known as respectable and people cant mess around with them....
every person takes dawah in a different way...so you have to know how to do it...pray for her and be patient and patient...
im working on my brother too...i was frustrated in the beginning....but patience is the key and letting them know that you really care about them by doing different stuff can get them thinking about their ownselves and inshAllah you'll find some change gradually..
may AllahSWT guide us and our beloved ones and protect us from His punishment and bestow His immense Mecry on us!
MashaAllah, may Allah swt protect you always! Its very hard at that age.“There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah , the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allah’s sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but be says: ‘I fear Allah ‘, a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.” Bukhari & Muslim.
Unfortunately 'time wasting' as a youth is also difficult as well. I recommend Tahajjud prayers as 'keep your trust in Allah' recommended, it strengthens a Muslim a lot. Try to allocate time for your gaming to avoid you missing your prayers. As isha is so early (I also love games- so i know what u mean)- i only play after isha salat. Try and get closer to Allah swt, so read Qur'an everyday - even when your busy, just try to read some. Read it with the translation. Sorry I couldnt be of more help
- I am also having major problems with this right now, alhumdulilah I do my salat my I can rarely concentrate to the maximum. I want to pray with humility, and always remind myself I am standing before Allah swt, but to no avail, I am trying. I also play games in the evening, but the biggest problem I am having is laziness with my degree project, (not so much related to my game I just feel its such a chore.)
There are periods of time where a Muslims emaan is weakened, and I find motivating myself much more difficult when I am feeling further from my deen. So work to strengthen your emaan, this InshaAllah will help.
Please let us know if anything works for you, I will watch this space InshaAllah, and make dua.
InshaAllah if we make an effort to try, Allah swt will reward us abundantly for it!
Salaam, also about your sister (Iassume she is also a youth) I recommend that you and your family be patient. Do your salat and encourage the rest of your family to do salat. ALWAYS make dua for her to open her heart to islam, and for Allah to help and guide her. My brother was in a similar situation to her, and we were on the receiving end of a lot of aggression from him. My mother always tried to force him to practice islam. To cut a long story short when we left trying to enforce islam on him, he became more accepting alhumdulilah hes a lot better now. What we've learned - dont force her, maybe gently encourage her, and always make dua that Allah guides her.
Will make dua for her InshaAllah
wasalaam
Asslam O Alaikum WRWB young brother Musa:)-
Excellent advice from both the sisters "always keep your trust in Allah SWT" and "SRMuslima".
Brother sisters have already advised you in a very nice way on how to become a practising Muslim man. However, I personally think that you should not even think of getting married yet. Why? Brother there is nothing wrong with that as you are an adult and Masha Allah you are choosing Halal over Haram not having a girlfriend etc
But, brother you don't understand what responsibilities you will have to face as being a husband first and then a father. Do you really think you will get away with all those responsibilities just like that playing video games and stuff. You will have to quit all that, will have to find a well-paid job which you think will be enough to support your family. Most importantly, finding a spouse brother, where ever you will send your parents to ask for the hand of a girl which you like to be your wife, her parents will have to consider many things like your age, job, personality, seriousness, how do you practice the religion, can you keep her happy and afford a family on your own without having to ask your parents for any kind of assistance, how do you treat people around you be it your family especially parents or friends or those people who you come across every day etc.
Brother seriously, deep down you know that whether you can even support yourself or not let alone the family (wife and kids). So, from my personal point of view brother engage yourself into healthy activities like playing outdoor games, join gym (make new friends there which will keep you motivated and help you with your routine there. Try to offer prayer at mosque if you can find any mosque close to your house. There you will meet new Muslim brothers insha Allah who will help you to improve yourself and if you are fortunate enough to have a mosque nearby and have enough time to spare then spend time there after each prayer. Sometimes, there are Muslim brothers who do bayan and explain Hadith in detail which is not only a way of getting knowledge and understanding religion in detail but also you will feel like a bond between yourself and those brothers which will always pull you toward Mosque Insha Allah. Remember brother! being a born Muslim or having a religious environment around oneself doesn't always necessarily mean that, we know everything about our religion as we will always be learners and that's the only way to become a Momin.
On your sister! Brother I once had same problem but Alhamdullilah it wasn't that bad as my sister never ever wore figure hugging or revealing dresses, never been in the company of any non-Mehram men, never been in a co-education school/college/Univeristy and used to cover themselves when they had to go out of house. Only issue I had with them was that they were not praying and were somewhat into music and fashion. Apart from that they were perfect sisters any brother could have Mashaallah. My mother and I myself tried our best but nothing worked but we didn't loose hope. I personally kind of limited myself to speak with them when it was absolutely necessary, just to show them that I didn't like the way they were living their lives.
Alhamdullilah, now I am sitting here in UK, thousands of miles away and my mother told me one day among other things that my sisters are improving themselves, now they offer all 5 prayers, have stopped listening to music etc. So, I suggest that you don't push her too much and try to be nice with her more then you are right now, give her attention. In most of the cases we always try to look out for something which we were ignored at home be it love, attention, care and feeling of being special. FIRST AND FOREMOST THING IS THAT PRACTICE YOURSELF FIRST AND BECOME A BETTER MUSLIM BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE. BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT PRACTISING THEN SHE WON' T FOLLOW YOU AT ALL.LET YOUR ACTIONS DO THE TALKING, THOUGH IT'S A LONG WAY BUT IT'S THE BEST, LONG LASTING, AND ONLY WAY TO GO.
May Allah help us all to improve ourselves and help improve our loved ones. (Amin)
Assalam o alikum,
It is easier to get lazy then to keep up with the prayers. Shaytan is the one to whisper in ur ear: u can play a few mins longer, u have time to pray later, or just 5 more mins of sleep etc.
Remembering that as well as trully understanding why we pray is the key in keeping up with it and making it a part of ur everyday life InshaAllaah.
Allaah (swt) doesnt need our prayers. We need to offer salah as we can use all and any help to please our God.
If we miss a prayer nobody might find out...but I always think of Allaah (swt) He knows and is everywhere.
These things motivate me to get up at Fajr time to pray and fall back to sleep with a peaceful heart or take a break at work and pray Dhuhr and so on. I plan my day around my prayers Alhamdullilah, not the other way around.
I also believe that I'll be rewarded for sticking with it InshaAllaah and not listening to any whispers of Shaytan.
I find prayers very empowering and hopeful. it is my 5 mins with Almighty Allaah and I feel very blessed to have this in my life Alhmd.
Hope this helps InshaAllaah
Allaah knows best!
Alhumdulilah, sister you are MashaAllah blessed to have that attachment to your salat - its something I have been trying to achieve for so long (well what feels like so long) but haven't been able to- Alhumdulilah i pray all of them but i often cant even concentrate much, let alone leave the dunya. I pray that Allah swt preserves your attachement to salat and helps all of the muslims to achieve this. I make dua for this - but any advice on how you get attachement to salat would be greatly appreciated. Jzk.x
Salamoalaikom,
I want to thank people of this site, and say, may Allah be with you and help you do more and more in Daawa!
It's really a challenge for a teenager of these days to do Ibadat as it should be and stick to it for a life time unless it wasnt engrained in him since he was a child. So Education is a very important factor to bring up a strong willed and balanced muslim.
i dont think that muslim teenagers dont aim at getting married and having children!!So how are we going to rear them and give them an appropriate education of Islam if we are still thinking over and over about how to merely do the five prayers on a daily basis. We have to think about it from now and before being accused of not protecting Amana that WE are all going to be asked about it.
With Allah SWT, everything is possible!.
Islam is waiting for Strong deeds from our part. and Remember we are Khalifa's of Allah on Earth. Every one is highly qualified, and i'm sure that sticking to prayers or any other duty is the easiest thing we can do.
We can do it. I'm adressing to myself too caus i personnally have to revise many things in my life and turn it to the right path.
Thank you very much