Islamic marriage advice and family advice

A word about kindness and respect

Posted by • May 21, 2011 • Printer-friendly
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As-salamu alaykum,

We often get questions on this website from people who have committed sins, and are ashamed, and want to repent. Sometimes the sins are far in their past but they continue to carry guilt and shame. Often they are confused and don't know how to return to Allah. That's why they come to this website - for guidance and advice.

Lately there has been a small clique of angry voices - three or four men - who have come to this website and made a habit of denouncing the questioners and editors.

These men have promoted an approach to Islam based on intolerance and retribution. Their wrath seems to be directed at women in particular.

I have already placed some of these people on moderated status and I will continue to moderate and delete their comments as needed. I will not allow this website to be turned into a place where people in need are made to feel hopeless.

We have a clear mission here at IslamicAnswers.com. We follow the Quran and Sunnah, and we are not afraid to tell people clearly when their behavior is wrong. At the same time, we try to guide them back to the light. That's our mission, Insha'Allah, to guide people to Islamic behavior so that they can be healthy and happy. We are not about blasting people, calling them names, or permanently condemning them to some inferior status as if they are lepers.

Our approach is one of kindness and compassion, even when correcting someone.

Anyone who does not like this approach can go elsewhere. It's a big world, ma-sha-Allah.

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In a related matter, there have been a few "gender wars" on the website lately. These are invariably instigated by men (usually young men) who make blanket statements denouncing women as manipulative, greedy, or sinister in some way. But sometimes the women start the battle as well. Then the brothers and sisters respond, and it goes on.

Let's all take a breath and remember that Allah created men and women to complement one another. Men and women each have their own unique qualities and strengths. That's how Allah made us. Let this website become a place where people can reach an understanding, and learn to see each other as human beings first of all, and then as brothers and sisters.

Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor


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8 Responses »

  1. Faith
    May 21, 2011 • 2:12 am

    Ameen to your final words.

    Jazakallah khair for the reminder and May Allah (swt) bless you for the work you are doing, Ameen.

    Brother Wael you are an inspiration and in my prayers.

    Was salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah

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  2. Takbir
    May 21, 2011 • 2:48 am

    BarakAllaah feek,

    may Allaah reward you, Its true that brothers and sisters come to this site for counseling. quarreling and belittling anyone will be unacceptable.

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  3. brotherrMunib
    May 21, 2011 • 7:43 am

    Asslamau alaykum,

    That is true. It is a place to give advice for the quentioners' own good. May Allah reward you and people involved in running this website for your efforts.

    Insha Allah, we will make this website the most peace giving site for people in grief.

    Salaam.

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    Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.

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  4. María M
    May 21, 2011 • 10:39 am

    As salamu alaykum, Brother Wael,

    The message is clear, transparent, everyone that get close to the site should feel safe, because even when nobody knows nobody, to tell our secrets to the world put us in a very vulnerable state, we should focus on the main reason this website was created as you said, this way our team work will shine as diamonds, insha´Allah, and will be a path of Light for the one in need to get closer to Allah(swt), insha´allah.

    Thank you very much for the reminder.

    María
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  5. Sara
    May 21, 2011 • 7:25 pm

    MashaAllah nicely put brother Wael and JazakAllah for the reminder!
    May Allah makes us never lose sight of this important goal and may this website be a path of light to all those who need help.
    Ameen

    Sara
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  6. brotherrMuniib
    May 23, 2011 • 8:21 am

    Assalamu alaykum Brother Wael,

    Hope you are doing good.

    Just wanted to inform you that I am unable to post from my other email id with which I wrote on this page previously. So I made a new id and write now with it.

    Please check the problem with the old one and let me know.

    Salaam.
    Munib.

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  7. brothherMuniib
    May 26, 2011 • 6:22 am

    Assalamu alaykum Brother Wael,

    Please check does error appear time and again from the email id's with which I post my answers. I had to change 3 email ids, in a gap of few days, because when I post an answer : It shows you are not authorized to comment on this page.

    Request you to check and give advice 🙂

    Salaam.

    Munib.

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