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All of my sins are haunting me, I feel suicidal

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"And others have confessed their faults, they have mingled a good deed and an evil one; (perhaps) Allah will turn to them (mercifully); surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. Take alms out of their property, you would cleanse them and purify them thereby, and pray for them; surely your prayer is a relief to them; and Allah is Hearing, Knowing." Sura 9: 102 to 106

Please take a time to read all of this and answer me back with as much answers as you can.I am very depressed.I want to tell you about ALL of the sins that haunt me. I am not holding back because i really need help. I want true advice.

I am a Muslim girl, I am a teenager,  I have done a lot of mistakes in the past when I was even much younger and when I didn't really care soo much for religion, I was hanging out with bad people.I didn't technically lose my virginity but i might as well have because of all those other things i have done.That haunts me forever, i was soo young, i lost my innocence.I feel even more guilty because i would ask Allah for forgivness and then i would do it again.

I have ate pork knowing it was bad, i have worn crosses knowing it was bad.I drank alcohol knowing it was bad.One time me and my fake Muslim friends even wanted to change our religion to christianity and i would wear crosses and try to believe in "jesus" but i couldn't it was hard for me, so i stopped.But then later on i  was hanging out with an ex-friend of mine one time and she is athiest ,she said "God doesn't exist" and i smiled and agreed, just to fit in.I was hanging out with BAD influences.I also masturbated. As soon as i stopped doing all those bad things i turned to Islam and now when i realized what i have done is extremely wrong ,i am extremely depressed.

I ask Allah for forgiveness with tears in my eyes .I regret everything i have done. Allah is the most merciful but i feel as though i have been taken advantage of Allah 's Mercy because i know he is the most merciful and i know he will forgive me that's why i think i have sinned soo much. Allah only forgives sins of ignornace,but  i don't know if all my sins were acts of ignorance, i had to know exactly what i was doing, i had to know what i was doing is bad even though i was extremely young.I feel like garbage.I don't know what to do . I feel soo bad, and I regret for doing all those sins .

My Mother always compliments me and I always go in my room and cry because I know what I have done, and I feel soo bad, I can't even look at myself. My parents see me as their "innocent little girl" and that makes me cry because i'm not, i'm a horrible person.I feel as though i can never be their innocent daughter again.

I want to get married to a good Muslim man one day ,I wan't to be a good wife , and a good Mother one day.I want  a good life, but I don't feel I'm worthy of that.I see alot of Muslims saying how great it is for a girl to be "pure and innocent" and i just start panicking because of my guilt.I feel dirty, ashamed.

I try to give my friends advice when they ask  and I seem like a hypocrite, but I really don't want them to go through what I have, and it kills me when I try to give people advice on little things when in the back in my head I remember I have done much worse.I feel as though i can never tell people whats right and whats wrong , because i feel as though i have done the most wrong than anyone in the world. I feel very alone.I don't feel as though i should even call myself a Muslim, because i have sinned extremely.

It's my fault, i don't blame anyone else for my mistakes.  My sins are haunting me, I can never escape them . I just cry and feel like waste all the time from when i wake up to when i go to sleep.  Like i said earlier when i would make those mistakes i would ask Allah for forgivess but i would go back to those actions, and thats what kills me, how can Allah trust me again ?. All these memories of my past sins are killing me .I am angry at myself , what angers me the most is knowing i come from a wonderful Muslim family, i was born Muslim and i had to ruin it with all my sins .Please help me.I am very depressed/suicidal. What should I do ?? ,and should anyone besides Allah know of all my sins ??? because i don't think i could ever tell my parents or anyone else.I want Allah to trust me, Is it too late for me ? have i gone too far ? . Please help.

Alraaz


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  1. Asslamu Alaikum Warhamthallahi Wrbkathuhu,

    Sister, if you find yourself going back to do the same sin, then you have not truly repented. When you repent, you make niyyah that you will never commit the sin again nonetheless, it not too late. I can tell from your post you want to be sincerely forgiven for you sins and how guilty you feel.. Allah dosent love those who sin, but he loves those who ask forgiveness. you were sorrounded by muslims who were not strong in their deen, and thus you were caught by the Shaitan.

    Sister, use this as an oppertunity to get closer to Allah(swt). Sometimes, when we loose something precious to us, only then do we feel how important it is. Change your environment sister, learn more about islam, be freinds with sisters who truly practise their deen. Allah(swt) has planned this to happen so theres no point in still clinging onto to the past. All human beings sin, but it all depends on what we do afterwards.

    Theres an amazing lecture by Yasir Qadhi, on the power of repentance, its definetely worth watching.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAHEuqXT5yQ
    Its quite long but very effective and inshallah, it will help you with all the guildines for repentance.
    Let this be between you and Allah(swt). He knows whats in your heart and whether you've truly repented or not. Inshallah, Keep striving in the path of Allah(swt) and May Allah(swt) forgive your sins. I know its not easy, Shaitan is always there and even i find myself in shaitaans trap but shaitaan will only rest when Allah(swt) in your heart, Sister.

    I hope i've helped in someway, inshallah. Know that you're very special to be born as a muslim, not everyone gets that chance. Realise that Allah(swt) is watching you at all times so think twice before you do anything harram.

    • AOA! Girl i will say that as i read your story I can see how desperate you're forforgiveness. I am nothing just a makhlook of MY ALLAH. So if we can see this so ALLAH(SWT) knows better than us about how u feel. Just pray from ALLAH(SWT)and ask for forgivness . Try to pray 5 tmes a day. Or even less but do pray it will release your stress. And now that u have become stronger in your deen towards ALLAH(SWT) u should know that sucide is haram death. Which ALLAH(SWT) hates . U woudnt wana hurt HIM do you? Then stop even thinking about it. Just have faith in yourself and your ALLAH (SWT) ALLAH IS RAHEEM AND KAREEM HE IS THE FORGIVING ZAAT. ALLAH(SWT) doesnt like sins but HE surely loves the person who is asking for forgiveness from heart and u should then promise ALLAH(SWT) that u wont repeat what u did and then stick to it .. HE is GHAFOOR O RAHEEM!! HE will forgive u IN SHAA ALLAH:D Just get towards HIM and worship HIM and also keep asking for forgiveness ! U will feel u r not worhty of forgiveness but thats natural maye beacuse when u sin . Just never bring your sins on your tongue keep it betwenn u and ALLAH(SWT) even in NAMAZ. Trust me HE (SWT) doesnt likes us to bring it over our tongue or to discuss it with someone abhi u did discuss on internet which u shoukdnt but bviously i get it u r very upset . Keep praying stay blessed IN SHAA ALLAH ALLAH (SWT) will forgive you and your sins . Its the holy month of ramzan too , Try to convince HIM . HE SURELY WILL AGREE IN SHAA ALLAH!! HE IS THE ONLY ZAAT WE CAN ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND OTHER THINGS .. So now dont bring it to your tongue except that it should be between u and your ALLAH (SWT). Take care 🙂 hope this helpled u

      • Just want to correct one point.We cannot hurt Allah.Not with what we say or do.We only transgress upon ourselves.

      • I have read your post and I feel like you actually feel bad for the sins you have done. It's great! Me myself have done sins too and I have felt bad about them. Everyone in the entire world has done at least one sin and it is not late for you to repent.

        Try practicing to pray. Ask your mother or father to teach you and read the Quran daily. Don't stress yourself too much about the past, because there is a future for you. IT'S NOT TOO LATE! You can change into the person YOU want to be. Make your parents proud and other TRUE Muslim friends to look up to you and be inspired and Inshallah you have a good future.

        Allah is most forgiving. Most merciful. Allah for sure can forgive you and you will be on the right path once more!

        I will give you information about some sins you told us readers and what you can do.

        - Hanging out with strange, weird, bad people

        There are at least 70 billion people on this world. Some good, some bad. Please try not to socialize with weird, bad people. Some of them could try to seduce you into doing haram things and it will not end up good for you as you ARE being used.

        - Eating haram food (such as pork)

        Eating pork is haram in islam because of how unhealthy it is. Things like wine, beer, pork, ect is marked as haram because of how unhealthy and the damage to the human body.

        - Beer is banned or marked as haram because drinking beer can damage the liver of the human body

        - Eating pork is haram because it's also unhealthy and comes from an animal that eats really unhealthy things they find.

        - Wine is also a haram alchoholic drink. Wine is also similar to beer because of their alcholol and might cause damage to the human body.

        ---- Wearing crosses and talking to non-religious people----

        Wearing things you know are not allowed in Islam such as crosses or clothing is not allowed in Islam because Allah is our true creator. Wearing these things are not allowed because they are from a different religion and strays from the path of Allah and Islam.

        Again, there are 70 billion people on this earth. Some are good and some are bad. Of course you are gonna meet someone who strays from religion (and the path of Allah and Islam).

        My tip of advice is that you can socialize with them, but do not let yourself stray from the path of Islam if he or she is talking you through not to be Muslim or telling you things that might make you think twice of Islam.

        --- Masturbation and puberty----

        Masturbation occurs when someone is in puberty and develops feelings. Everyone in their lifetime has experienced an urge to rub their "spot" because of the feelings they are experiencing.

        As much it feels "good" or whatever you experience when you do it its not allowed in Islam.

        My father has always told me that when you masturbate it can cause problems later in your life (Not being responsible in doing important things in life, Constantly having to masturbate, Losing respect for women or men because you just want to make love or masturbate)

        To help with masturbating you can do the following options:

        - Try not to look at anything you find sexually attracting as it can trigger the urge to masturbate

        - Be married

        - Try to make yourself busy with religious studying or fearing Allah's punishment

        - Do things in life that are entertaining other than going for the haram things

        - If it's that much of a problem, talk to your parents about it. There is no problem at all seeking for help to cure these problems because everyone in puberty WILL experience these things.

        ---- Finally asking to repent and forgiveness --------

        If you want to change into the person that your parents and other true Muslim friends want to look up to then it's time to become that person.

        Feeling guilty of mistakes and sins and wanting to repent is a very good thing because it truly means you have learned from your past mistakes and Inshallah will not do them again in the future.

        Allah is the most forgiving. Most merciful (but do not challenge that)

        Challenging Allah's forgiveness is not okay, because asking to repent, but doing the same mistakes AND asking again to repent is not okay at all. That is called cheating your way to paradise.

        Cheating your way to paradise is when you do mistakes or sins and ask to repent, but continue doing those sins and then asking for forgiveness again. The reason for that (asking for forgiveness) is so you can go to paradise knowing you have challenged Allah's forgiveness and not actually learned from your mistakes and repented.

        That is a sin and means you have truly not repent, but to fix that is to fear Allah's punishment, but also know Allah will forgive, but do not challenge that as he can easily not accept your repentance.

        We are human. We are lucky we have eyes and ears, and not born with a horrible sickness or disability. THAT IS A GIFT! Born with a healthy, young human body! That is the most precious gift you could ever have!

        Having such a precious gift is from Allah! He has the power to cut off our hearing or suddenly break our limbs without even doing anything! Or be blind and struggle! But he didn't and wont do it at all.

        We are lucky we live in a world that we don't suffer from the hellfire or be tortured! We are lucky we live in a world where we have plants, trees, a bright beautiful morning sky and a beautiful night sky with stars! That is the gift from Allah!

        All the things and opportunities we have and can do in the world is so much and that is the gift from Allah.

        Would you like to challenge that opportunity? No, of course not.

        If you truly want to become a good muslim you wish to become, then do it! You have that opportunity in life to do so! To change your life into becoming a great muslim Allah wants!

        I recommend you check out the links of doing tawbah and wonderful methods (That is also an opportunity in life, to give knowledge for others wanting to be in the right path) and Inshallah you will become that wonderful, beautiful muslim that you wished for.

        I hope my comment has helped you and lifted your spirits!

  2. As salamu alaykum, Alraaz,

    I agree with Khadijah and I would like to add the following, I´ve just read this beautiful post in IslamicSunrays, and it seems it was written to you,

    http://islamicsunrays.com/let-go-of-grudges-for-your-own-sake/

    Do tawbah, you can learn from it on the link on top of the page, keep your sins between you and Allah(swt), and don´t be so tough on yourself, you have done wrong, go through it, feel true repentance and let it go, anytime any of this images comes to you look for refuge in Allah(swt).

    He(swt) has given us tools to strengthen our iman, go for it and give every bit of yourself to Allah(swt) salat, duas, His beautiful Names and Attributes, AlQuran, Alhamdulillah we are so blessed.

    I do believe in your true repentance and I do believe in you, what is important is who you are now, after going to Allah(swt) in true repentance, not going back to the sin, you will feel His Mercy, Love, Forgiveness and you won´t need to look back to this sins, insha´Allah. You are struggling to be a good muslimah, give yourself that opportunity, give yourself the joy of going to Allah(swt) encounter with a clean heart, insha´Allah.

    Be a shining Light from now on for many that will look at you looking for advice, help or guidance, you are doing it with a pure heart, now, go ahead I believe in your kind and loving Heart, help those that are on need of Allah(swt), guide them with Allah(swt) help and guidance to the straight Path, insha´Allah.

    All my Unconditional Love, Respect and Support,

    María
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. Asalamoalikum my dear sister,
    I am sorry to hear about your state of ignorance but alhumdulillah I am so glad you have received hadayat and have come back to the right path. Sister, there is not a single person in this universe who has not committed sins (knowingly and unknowingly). But the best of us are those who realize their wrongdoing and turn back towards Allah swt. I highly suggest that you repeatedly ask for forgiveness for your sins and promise yourself that you will never turn back to that path again, inshAllah. This includes cutting yourself off from those means or channels that will lead you astray (i.e.: friends). If you sincerely seek forgiveness, then inshAllah Allah swt will forgive you. You are blessed to have not lost your virginity, so although you may feel “wasted” do not despair.

    We all make mistakes; some of us have made even larger ones. I myself have committed a lot of sins and feel guilty and hypocritical at times, but it’s the hope that I will be forgiven from Allah swt and will never repeat those sins again (inshAllah) that keeps me going. My parents, similar to yours also think of me as their innocent child (parents think this way especially for their daughters and youngest child) so do not let this make you feel guilty. Also, you are not a hypocrite when you advise others. I sometimes feel this way too when I advise people here on IA, but then I realize that due to my experiences (both positive and negative), I have something to offer to those in needs. So if I committed a sin and learned from it, it is my duty as a Muslimah to help my fellow brothers and sisters from falling prey to the sins I have committed (and suffered the consequences for).

    If we all began to think that we should not advise others due to our sins, then no one in this world would be able to advise another person as we all have committed sins knowing and unknowingly. Another thing I want to advise you is to conceal your sins and never reveal them to anyone, including your potential husband. InshAllah, Allah swt will bless you with a pious husband but you also need to build yourself up and you are walking on the right path. Allah swt has commanded us to conceal our sins and if He protects us than Alhumdulillah, we must be thankful to Him.

    Lastly, if you are not already doing so, I highly suggest that you offer salat, practice patience, stay away from those people or channels that will throw you off track and try to make new and better friends who will help you prosper in the light of deen. And, most importantly, forgive yourself for the sins you have committed. Until you do not forgive yourself for what you have done, you will not be able to move forward in life. It’s difficult to do but with time it is attainable.

    Stay strong sister
    -Helping Sister

  4. salam sister

    I agree with all that has been said before. As a sister I suggest you listen to this and the other links sisters have provided. I think the cure to your problems is knowledge and insh-allah when you embark on the path of knowledge you will see your sins fall away from you like rain drops.

    http://www.halaltube.com/hamza-yusuf-curing-the-heart

    I pray you find peace and guidance.

  5. Salaams Sister

    I'm so happy to hear that you have realized your sins and have come back on the true path of islam. It is the nature of mankind to be forgetful and to commit sins. However, Allah has given us the ability to rectify ourselves by turning to Him and begging for His forgiveness. Our mountains of evil deeds are nothing before the vast ocean of the mercy of Allah.

    Committing sins will make you sorrowful, depressed and deeply disappointed with yourself. But by returning to Allah with a few tears and beseech Him for mercy, He will certainly forgive you. There is no other door to knock to solve our issues. None can forgive sins except Him. He calls us to the abode of peace (Paradise); He is the Almighty who hides our faults and He alone can replace our bad deeds with good deeds.

    The door of repentance is always open for you until you die or until the sun rises from the west, whichever comes first. When something is a necessity Allah provides it in abundance like air and water. Since we are always sinful and negligent of Allah and Satan and the self are always inciting us towards evil, therefore tau’bah is provided in abundance so we can turn back to Allah.

    Allah has created a solution to every sickness even if it may be the poison of a snake. Satan and sins are a major sickness and the cure for it is in tau’bah and istighfar, crying in front of Allah with deep regret in the heart.

    Whenever our tau’bah breaks we should make tau’bah again. Do not despair and think you are a sinner and will go to Hellfire. Tau’bah is so powerful that it can take a person from the lowest levels of Hellfire and raise him to the highest levels of Paradise.

    You have realized your's and now you are repenting. You don't want to add more sin to your life so erase all your thoughts of suicide as this is would only make you to commit the BIGGEST sin. You were very young and immature and probably had very little guidance in your life. Don't feel guilty about guiding others to the right path

    Rumaysa

  6. Thank you all soo much for your advice, may Allah bless you all , you have helped me soo much . Allah has commanded us to conceal our sins but should i tell my future Husband of all the sins i have commited ??? , I don't think i would be comfortable in doing so.The memories of my past sins disgust me, i can't even begin thinking of what i have done in the past without crying and panicking, my heart drops down to my feet.What should i do ?

    • As salamu alaykum, sister Alraaz,

      You have said it between Allah(swt) and you, once you have gone through true repentance, you have to close the door, don´t let the whisperings of your past weakening you, you are a strong woman and you are struggling to improve and build up with your present the future you deserve, insha´Allah, those ghosts are who you were, you are not that woman any more, Alhamdulillah.

      Ask Allah(swt) to help you to forgive yourself, to guide you through your struggles and to show you the path to the right man for you, insha´Allah.

      From Heart to Heart,

      María
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • As salamu alaykum, sister Maria,

        I came across this post and I must say thank you, to you and sister
        Khadija for your inspiring words. Although I did not post the original question, I too have been feeling weighed down by my sins. I found your post to be very helpful, you and sister Khadijah seem like very caring loving women who seem to inspire and not harshly judge THANK YOU FOR THAT. May Allah(swt) continue to guide and protect you.

        Isata

    • My beloved Sister,

      I just remember of this beautiful dua that our beloved Prophet(saw) taught us:

      اللهم باعد بيني وبين خطاياي كما باعدت بين المشرق والمغرب اللهم نقني من خطاياي كما ينقى الثوب الأبيض من الدنس اللهم اغسلني من خطاياي بالثلج والماء والب
      Allahumma baa’id bayni wa bayna khataayaaya kama baa’adta bayna al-mashriqi wa’l-maghrib. Allahumma naqqini min khataayaaya kama yunaqqa al-thawb al-abyad min al-danas. Allaahumma ighsilni min khataayaaya bi’l-thalji wa’l-maa’i wa’l-barad.
      “O Allah, put a great distance between me and my sins, as great as the distance You have made between the East and the West. O Allah, cleanse me of sin as a white garment is cleansed from filth. O Allah, wash away my sins with snow and water and hail.” (Bukhari)

      María
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Thank you sister for all your help , that is a beautiful Dua , i will learn it , and i will say it everyday .My past sins and the memories have been keeping me from being happy . I kept thinking i could never marry because i wouldn't want my future husband to know of all my sins and bring shame to him , but you have helped me soo much .

        Alraaz

  7. Dear Sister Alraaz,

    I advice you to not tell your husband about your sins, stay strong, think twice, three times, a lot of times before you do anything wrong and never lose contact with Allah (swt). Before you agree to marry someone you should give yourself plenty of time to know about your future husband's personality (of course always in a halal way), make sure his faith in Allah is strong, his fear of Allah is strong, and that he practices Islam and not only goes by the name Muslim. I wish I had done that. Don't make the same mistake I made, don't reveal your sins, do not become weak. RARELY anyhting good comes out of you revealing your sins to your husband. Trust me.

    You don't know how lucky you are, mashaAllah, for returning back to Allah now, whilst you're still single. It gives you a better perspective of life, it will make you stronger. I am very happy for you. Stay strong and thank Allah everyday.

    Your Sister,
    May.

    • Thank you soo much for your advice Sister May . It helps that i can somewhat relate to you and you have had experience with this ,I trust you. Your advice is really helpful .Thank you .

      Alraaz

  8. Just adding to all the above wonderful advice... can't say much more cuz they have said it all ... But what you wrote gave me the chills. What an Excellent daughter, future wife you will become from now on cuz you ARE a very good muslim showing very strong love for Allah... it brought tears to my eyes. You sound like you are so hurt and really want to CHANGE and sincerely want Allahs forgiveness. Keep praying and do plenty good deeds. We all have made mistakes in our life, none of us are perfect...but we cont. to grow in our faith, constantly asking for foregiveness. Some learn when they are older and others like you start learning very young to repent and to be close to Allah. Smile, you have come a - l o n g - way !! You are such an Inspirational young Wonderful God-fearing Muslim and you will have a wonderful future if you keep following Islam and cont. working to becoming a better Muslim each day.

    • Thank you soo much for your kind words , i have been going through alot and reading what you have to say has made me feel better.Reading your comment really made me smile , for the first time in a very long time . I love Allah soo much and i love Islam , once i actually learned more about Islam i noticed what i have done in the past is very wrong , soo i have been feeling depressed ever since because of all my sins. But you have really helped me soo much.

      May Allah bless you Sister , you really cheered me up , i really needed that .

      Alraaz

  9. Sisters , can anyone PLEASE E-mail me ?? i really want to talk to you about more things that i'm going through . I really need some help, i feel alone ,and i don't have people i can talk to .

  10. Alraaz I know you feel guilty about what you have done in the past but understand that you are a changed person and you deeply regret what you have done which shows you fear Allah(swt) it’s never too late for repentance. The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it. . Don't let the past steal your present, You need to take sometime and love yourself for who you are now. Stop saying bad things about yourself, you are a beautiful soul and you don’t even realize that. You have a new start to begin and smile, Remember Alraaz Allah(swt) is the most merciful, just look at this

    Look at Allah(swt)'s Mercy

    On the authority of Anas, who said: I heard the messenger of Allah say:

    Allah the Almighty has said: “O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you.

  11. Asalamu alaikum my dear sister,

    Jazakallahu khair for the detailed story. At least that way, one will no what to say.

    First of all, please remember that almost EVERYONE, it doesn't matter who, ALMOST EVERYONE has a past, or a secret, or something he/she feels ashamed for others to know. Subhanallah, the only seer and the knower is Allah subhanahu watallah who sees each and everything that we do.

    I knew this sister at university who i grew to have sooooo much love and respect for. In fact, I thought she was soooo truely beauitful and wonderful and religious that I kinda saw her as a role model.

    At the time, I was not practising. I had made the biggest MISTAKE OF MY LIFE (so ashamed to mention what). Anyway, I was dying inside. I thought that I was the worse human being not only on planet earth, but in the whole entire universe. I just wanted to simply die.

    My problem starting eating me inside. It got to a point where I JUST COULDN'T KEEP IT ANY LONGER....I HAD TO TELL SOMEONE.

    Off course, there was no one better person than this sister for me to tell.

    It took me time, I broke into huge tears, and just sobbed my heart out.

    The sister listened attentively to all that I had to say, wiped my tears and remainded me that we were all human and prone to making mistakens. She reminaded me of the mercy of Allah and of His ready acceptance of our duas for forgiveness. The she gave me a brief history of her life. Apparently, it turned out that she had once did exactly what i did. Subnanallah.

    So dear sister, Prophet Musa a.s killed someone by mistaken even though he didn't mean to. There are many stories from the Sahaba that showed us that even they were normal humans. Don't you know of Abu Mahjan Ath-Thaqafi who was a Sahaba but who drank alcohol....hello??

    He was a Sahaba, but he drank alcohol...one would think that the sahabas were perfect. Although they were beautiful people and they had so much love for Allah, yet, I just want to show that they made mistakes sometimes; they were not immune from sins. Ma'ashallah, afterwards, he swore never to drink alcohol (you could search him on google to read the story).

    My dear sister, off course what you did was not right. BUT THAT IS NOT THE POINT.

    The Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If you did not commit sins, Allaah would sweep you out of existence and replace you by another people who would commit sins, ask for Allaah's forgiveness and He would forgive them."Marrated by Aboo Ayyoob & Aboo Hurayrah & collected by Muslim (eng. trans. vol.4 pp.1436-7 nos.6620-2).

    Inshallah, you mentioned about you not being innocent anymore, but interesting enough, innocence is what lead you to do the things you did. If you had known what you now know, you won't have done them. Innocence is not about being innocent, but doing the right thing once you have realized your mistakes.

    I am 31 and my husband thinks am the most innocent person on earth.

    In time, you will heal. Repent, and get closer to Allah. Practice your deen the way you are required; stick to the quran and sunnah and dress appropiately as a muslim woman.

    Your great feeling of remose is already evidence of Allah's forgiveness of you. I know many muslim young girls who are doing worse than you and who do not care in the least.

    You're a special person no doubt.

    Wasalam

  12. According to Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) Allah has said :

    “O child of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind.
    O child of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you.
    O child of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as its.”

    Also,feeling remorseful is one of the signs of a GOOD believer:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuRB9pYlvEs

    Don't make yourself up to be a terrible person!

  13. Asalamu alaikum,

    I am so glad that I found this website and read all of your comments and suggestions. I am depressed and upset at myself. I had made the biggest mistake of my life and I feel like Allah will never forgive me. I don’t know what to do anymore and like sister Alraaz I blame myself for everything. I had a chance to stop myself but I didn’t and now I feel like the worst person ever.

    I cannot share things with anyone because my family and friends thinks I am an innocent girl. Sister Alraaz you are not the only who is feeling guilty, depress, suicidal, and scared that Allah will never forgive you. I don’t know what to do anymore.

    Hope you are doing good now.

    • Dear Sister Maira,

      Allah says is in Surah Zumar, Ayah 53: "Say: 'O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful'."

      It really is that simple. Just turn back to Allah in repentance. There are many question on this website where people are feeling guilt for sins they have committed, read through them inshaAllah and I am sure you will feel better.

      If you have any questions you want to ask, please log in and submit them as a separate post.

      Chin Up girl :O)

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  14. Alraaz
    to be really honest your note made me cry because i know it really hurts i can feel the pain as it happened to me when i lost my virginity,my parents feel proud for me and i am not worth it,it kills me from inside.
    Dear be patient and ask for forgiveness to Allah,thats the only way.make a firm promise to yourself you'll never repeat that to make your parents feel ashamed once again,its not too late,Allah inshallah will forgive you he knows your inner intentions.
    there an hadith that long before in a city there was no rain,and there was a men who did too sins and was disobedient to Allah,because of him Allah is not sending rehmath(rain).He was in a majalis where dua was going on,i dont remember who he was but thrugh GOD it came into his knowledge that the person is sitting here and when he leaves the city he will shower rain,it was announced.
    The men felt guilt that if i'll go everyone will know how i was what to do,he repented to Allah that forgive me once i'll not repeat,immediatly rain started....SubhanAllah...
    Allah is REHMAN,Alghafoor...
    just make your intentions correct he knows evrything what in your heart.
    Allah hafiz

  15. Hi to you all!!!

    Listen, what you did is the past. Don't get tight with your past. It's simply called being optimistic. Your past is just past experience. Think positive, get knowledge and fear God because this is how you truly find your balance.

  16. I am feeling exactly like this person. I have committed a major sin. I can't live with myself. I have repented. However whenever i wake up in the morning i remember my past. It haunts me. I cry and cry. I can't even eat anymore. All i remember is the times before i committed these major sins and think i wish i could turn back the clock. But i can't so i cry and my body shakes. I can't live with myself. I am so scared and fear allah so much. Please can someone help me?

    • Dear Sharmin,

      Once you have sincerely repented, accept that Allah has forgiven you and forgive yourself too. We are human, so we all sin at some point in our lives. Learn from your mistakes and use those lessons to be a better person. If you do that, then Alhumdulillah. My sister, Allah wants good for you, He(swt) doesn't want you to suffer.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Does this apply to a MAJOR sin? Also how does I know that I have fully repented? Lastly does umrah and hajj wipe out major sins? Jazakhalla khair sister

        • Sharmin,

          There are many similar questions as yours on this website which will help you. If you wish for more specific advice, please log in and submit your question as a separate post.

          JazakhAllahkhayr

          SisterZ
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Dearest ever sister,

      Allah loves you no matter how muxh sins you commited as long as you asked his forgivness. We all commit sibs, dont make Shitan destroy your life by making you think that Allah wants you to live unhappily infront of what you committed. Read the comments above of our sisters they qouted several hadith about the fact that ALL human beings commit sins, and Allah stated that in Quraan and Prophet Muhamed PBUH said Allah is more merciful than our mothers on us. Thats one of the Devil tricks, dont let him apply it on you, he wants you to be sad and depressed to end up feeling that Islam is all about being captivated in depression and bordeom. Open your eyes and see the morning Light, whenever you get theses ugly thoughts say MY LORD ALLAH IS THE MOST MERCIFUL AND FOR HIM I AM LIVING NOW AND WILL ENJOY THE GIFT OF LIFE UNDER HIS OBEFIANCE, pray, talk to him go out and know good friends and participate in activities.

      Sister I learned that sometimes Allah chose us to commit a certain sin as to understand that we can all do wrong things and be compationate towards other people, do you know what is being compationate? It is being MERCIFUL, perhaps he is teaching you that everyone can commit sins and can repent.
      .I used to judge people upon what they do even if it was one mistake, but then when I became in their place and acknowledged that I commited a sin and then started giving excuses to other people and stopped GHAYBA speaking about other people behind their backs.

      Allah hasnot put a max number of sins to be forgivven or number of times to repent. Allah sais I come to the Dunia sky every day in the last 1/3 of the night and ask " is there is anyone who wants to repent and I would wipe their sins ?.

      Dont fall a victim of the devil's trick. GET OUT OF IT!!! PRAY AND ENJOY THE GIFT ALLAH GAVE TO YOU.

  17. Alrazz......may u be freed from this problem...do not worry, everyone has his own piece of secret, infact, u r better than millions of people. Ill like u to b my frnd if u dont mind, i need to discuss somethin with u......here is my. Salam

    (I removed your email. Please don't post email addresses here. - Editor)

  18. Asalaam alaikum sisters,

    May this post find you all in best of health and imaan inshallah.

    sister alraaz: I think the fact that you are feeling this way right now, shows the strength of the iman inside you. A person with no iman would not feel this way at all. I know you are feeling very depressed and vulnerable right now, but remember even if there is no one to look after us, or to care for us, Allah swt will always be here.

    Allah swt has said that even if a person sins, again and again, but till repents to me, i will forgive him again and again. Allah swt is the most mercful, he is the extreme power, the most loving, the most caring..the al-raheem, he will never forsake his people.

    I am in a similar situation to you. I sinned but have repented. I felt like killing myself, i wished for death. I am soo scared of causing humiliation for my parents that i would rather be dead. My brother has founf out about my sin. He is threatening to tell my parents if i try to guide him to the straight path. I try to tell him to pray and not swear and stay away from bad things, because i don't want him to make the same mistake i did. But he will not listen. He has been threatening me, he says he will tell everybody about this. I am soo scared, i have been feeling soo alone and depressed. I just wish i could turn back the time. I wish i could change things.

    If any sister has any helpful advice on how to deal with this situation please let m know. It will be greatly appreciated.

    Jazakallah khair,
    Aminah

  19. Thank you for sharing your story - I am also in a similar situation, and it really helps to know that I am not the only Muslim girl going through this. I often want to give up, because I feel that the sins I have committed are unforgivable, and too vast to be redeemed. Your story and all the kind responses have given me hope.

    Insha Allah Allah SWT will forgive us all and guide us to the straight path.

    Love
    A sister

  20. Assalamualaikum

    I will keep it short and simple, by adhering to the following steps you will Inshallah feel so much better about yourself.

    1. Make every effort to pray all the prayers on their designated time.
    2. You probably live in a western country so make every effort to go to the mosque at least once a week. You will probably meet muslim sisters who will make you uncomfortable but ignore them because the mosque is a house of Allah, just being their regularly will help you Inshallah.
    3. Read up on the lives of Sahabah, especially those who lead a very sinful life before accepting Islam. Allah forgives past sins once a person starts making EFFORT to become a good muslim.
    4. You have lead a sinful life so getting over sinful habits will be hard, so focus on doing as much good and do not focus on trying to get rid of sin. Your sincere good actions are instrumental in getting rid of bad habits. Without good habits you cannot get rid of bad habits.
    5. Keep your sinful past to yourself and only talk about it with Allah almighty. If he wants to keep your past hidden then you should not be the one revealing it to others.

    #4 is the key to success for all muslims with or without sinful past. No muslim is sin free, we all commit sins knowingly and unknowingly. In the end all that matters is whether we have not committed shirk and whether we have more good deeds than our bad deeds. Allah's math is in our favor because :
    a) for every good deed he records 10 good deeds.
    b) for one bad deed only only one bad deed is recorded and it is also wiped away if we repent.
    c) if we think about doing a good deed but we do not get to do the good deed, one good deed is recorded
    d) if we think about a bad deed and refrain from it then a good deed is recorded.
    e) finally the sincerity of our good deed may make it invaluable in the eyes of Allah and one good deed maybe enough.

    If you want then I can provide you the sources for all the points from a-e.

    May Allah make it easy for you to stay on the true path and become a good muslimah.

  21. Hi there,

    I just wanted to say that all the replies and the post above is very comforting to read and inspiring. There's still hope for everyone. When I was younger, although I was very religious, I said my prayers every night and I spoke to God telling him my deepest feelings, fears, sorrows and thanked the Almighty for all that I was blessed with. There were moments when holding on to God was the only thing that kept me going. But then when I got older and went off to study, I slowly lapsed and went away from holding on to God in my heart. I sinned in so many ways, and I wish in some ways I was a stronger person so I woudnt have made those mistakes. Yet, I believe that everything happens for a reason and as much as God was testing me, he was teaching me. I long to feel that peace in my heart mind and soul like I used to, that God is with me and everything will be okay.

    I feel ashamed to face God because of everything I have done. As written above, I felt and still do feel unworthy. But I want to change, I am trying to and am taking baby steps and learning about Islam so I can understand it more and make my faith stronger. I believe in God and I love my religion very much despite not knowing as much as I should about it. I pray that you find the strength to go back to God and stay strong with him. I pray we all do. Im very grateful that I stumbled upon this page as the words are filled with love and hope, so thank you. And thank you for taking the time to read this. God bless.

  22. Salaam everyone,

    I read this post and am hoping that there is someone who can help me, give me guidance. (remainder of question deleted by Editor).

    • Sister, please log in and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, in shaa Allah.

      -Amy
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  23. Salaam Everyone,
    I have done a bigger sin that all of you. In fact 5 big sins.
    1-when I was 6 or 7 I stepped on the Qu'ran.
    2-I lied to my mum. She knows Half the truth and half the lie.
    3- I betrayed my sisters. They trust me now and forgave me but you know how uneasy i feel,I was 10
    4-I used to self-harm because I was bullied. I was 10
    5- when I was 8 everyone used to call me ugly because I had a mustache. I used my dad's razor.
    Yesterday my mother told me that "Allah doesn't forgive those who use metal upon their skins" "self harming is haram. "
    I have done both. I feel awfully bad. I sleep at night but before that i seek his forgiveness My eyes are close but my heart is awake. I feel so depressed. I can't even face my mother. I cant sleep properly or eat. I always seek his forgiveness. When my friends are talking I am not listening to them but reciting "Istagfirullah" in my mind but from my heart. It is all my fault i have done this to myself. I knew that self harming was a bad thing but I did it. I wish to take it back but i can't.
    Since that day I never lied to my mum, self harmed, Fought with my sisters, Use a razor.
    I cried so much. Can you tell me how to seek Allah's forgiveness?

  24. i have done very wrong deeds.i used to read incest stories.thats why i used to lust for my sister.need help.

    • Khan, it is important that you do tawbah and never repeat such acts or thoughts. Allah Is The Oft Forgiving and The Most Merciful, hope for His Mercy. For more help, please login and create a new post.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  25. Salam everyone
    Please help me to escape from my sins. I was very pious and true believer of islam. Performed salah since my childhood. But i had a bad gf and she tought me masturbation. I had a strong faith that this sin will protect my virginity and from the boys. But sin can bring sin ..... I chat, gossip with several boys face to face , mobile and facebook no bad thing happen within 8 years. But shaytan was too passionate I could not imagine. I became fornicator and after long passion i got my husband. Before marriage I was too happy with my fiancee but after akd all of my sins haunted me all over night. Every dreams seems a nightmare. I sacrificed my life's all needs and deeds to my husband and parents. But I can not escape my sins. Slip of toung I often say something wrong but I used to confess all o allah and virtual friends. I can not perform salah as like past. What should I do? My husband know me as pure but now I am not . I want to be ss like naive, pious, a good mother, a good daughter and definately a good wife. I promised my hubby as a joke that I will stand the row of best wife in this century. I performed towbah salah and promised allah that I will never convert my mind and body on wrong way. In my past I knew a wrong thing that little sin can save me from greater sin. Now i m not enough to take diccision what I have to do ? Please suggest me to be a better slave of allah and as innocent like a child.

    NB: I used to tease girls mistake of zinah, ilegal pregnency , abortion and their personality and foolish activities. Due to my confidence and proud with my personality convert me to shaytan's path. Allah has shown me some victim girls pains of ignorence.
    Now I do not comment anyones guilty and activities. All girls are innocent and virgin by birth. Now I do no comment and tease anyones guilty though I know she is willingly gone wrong way.

    • May, there has been a lot of good advice given on this post already, so please read it. I don't have much to add except try to forgive yourself for those youthful indiscretions. Do good deeds to wipe out the bad deeds. Try to do Hajj when you can, as it is the great purifier. And absolutely do not tell anyone about those past mistakes.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  26. Dear Sis
    My story is only for motivating sisters to avoid shadow of sins not to do sins consciously . Some make mistake consciously then taubah. Please do not choose this option ....... that is my kind request.

  27. Please guide me ... I have done a lot of mistakes in my life .....I feel very sad saying fr this ... being a Muslim I have done many unwanted things in my life .... guide me please

    • Afraz, I'm sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time. Please search through some of our other posts here at IslamicAnswers.com and I'm sure you will find some that address your issue. If not, then you can register and submit your question as a separate post and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  28. I can not attend hajj untill 40 years old. I have heard that hajj can drop minor sins ... I have commited major sins about 29 times and mentaly prepared to lash myself by weight belt 2900 times. Is it enough????
    I was fornicator not commited zinah.

    • May Ezeddin, why are you punishing yourself when Allah Has not punished you, and Has rather opened the door of repentance for you? If you did not commit the actual zina, then you are not a fornicator. Even if you really committed zina and you feel this way, then it means you are sincerely regretful of the sin, and all you need to do is to repent sincerely. Major sins are forgiven even without going to hajj.

      Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says:

      "..."O My servants who have transgressed against themselves: do not despair of Allah's mercy, for Allah forgives all sins. He is indeed the Forgiver, the Clement." And turn to your Lord, and submit to Him, before the retribution comes upon you. Then you will not be helped.'' (Quran 39: 53-54)

      Narrated by 'Ubada bin As-Samit:

      The Prophet (ﷺ) (said) "Whoever gets up at night and says: -- 'Laa ilaha il-lallahu. Wahdahu, laa Shareeka lahu. Lahul-mulku, wa lahul-hamdu. Wahuwa 'alaa kulli shy-in Qadeer. Al-hamdu lil-laahi. Wa subhaanal-laahi. Wa laa-ilaaha il-lal-laahu, wallaahu akbaru, wa laa hawla Walaa Quwwata illaa-billaah.' (None has the right to be worshipped but Allah. He is the Only One, and Has no partners . For Him is the Kingdom, and all the praises are due for Him. He is Omnipotent. All the praises are for Allah. All the glories are for Allah. And none has the right to be worshipped but Allah, And Allah is Great, And there is neither Might nor Power Except with Allah). And then says: -- Allaahumma, Ighfir lee (O Allah! Forgive me), or makes du'a, he will be answered, and if he performs ablution and prays, his prayer will be accepted."

      (in Bukhari and others)

      You may also be interested in Salah al-Tasbih.

      It is recorded in Sunan Abi Dawud and other books of hadith that Rasulullah (sallallahu `alayhi wasallam once said to his uncle Hadrat `Abbas (r.a.) :

      O Abbas! O my uncle! Shall I not give you a gift? Shall I not show you something by means of which Allah Ta`ala will forgive your sins, the first and the last of them, the past and recent, the unintentional and the intentional, the small and huge, the secret and open?

      Rasulullah (sallallahu `alayhi wasallam) then taught him the Salah al-Tasbih. Furthermore he advised him that it be offered daily, if possible. If not then every Friday or once a month or once a year or at least once in one's life time.

      Please follow the below link for the method of this Salah al-Tasbih:

      http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-ut-tasbeeh/

  29. I have heard that if an unmarried girl commit zinah she will be less punisable than married girl. I am afraid to that boy with who hugged,kissed and touched my female organ forcefully . I was about insane that time an boys took that advantages. I am very scared to them if my hubby know any of them he could leave me. I can't forget those nightmares. What should i do now. I often perform ozifas at 3.30 am and between the time of adhan and ekamah. God have not punished me but can punish anytime.

    • AsSalaamu Alaikum, Sister May Ezeddin,

      According to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, when a girl has been forced to engage in any sexual act and she did, then she is not at blame, rather those who forced her are at blame.

      Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says:

      "... And (O men) do not compel your girls to prostitution, seeking the materials of this life, if they desire to remain chaste. Should anyone compel them-after their compulsion, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful (to the girls who were compelled)." (Quran 24: 33)

      In your case, you did not commit zina nor any sin at all--rather, you were sexually abused by those shameless boys--they need to repent, not you.

      According to the above mentioned ayah, Allah says that, He Has Forgiven you because you were forced, and that it was not your fault.

      As for your husband, inshaAllah He won't know. Allah won't disgrace you because it was not your fault. Don't allow Shaitaan to make you despair of Allah's mercy, for Allah is Merciful to those who deliberately committed sins and then repented after that, let alone to those who were forced.

      Allah doesn't just punish anyone for things that they were forced to do, or for things that were forced on them. Allah is indeed, very nice, kind, and sooo beautiful--not a harmful god.

      Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

      When Allah created the creation as He was upon the Throne, He put down in His Book (that): Verily, My mercy predominates My wrath. (Sahih Muslim)

      Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:

      There are one hundred (parts of) mercy for Allah, and He has sent down out of these one part of mercy upon the jinn and human beings and the insects, and it is because of this (one part of mercy) that they love one another, show kindness to one another and even the beast treats its young one with affection, and Allah has reserved ninety nine parts of mercy with which He would treat His servants on the Day of Resurrection. (Sahih Muslim)

      'Umar b. Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that:

      There were brought some prisoners to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) amongst whom there was also a woman, who was searching (for someone) and when she found a child amongst the prisoners, she took hold of it, pressed it against her chest and provided it suck. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said:

      Do you think this woman would ever afford to throw her child in the Fire?

      We said: By Allah, so far as it lies in her power, she would never throw the child in Fire.

      ' Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Allah is more kind to His servants than this woman is to her child. (Sahih Muslim)

      Abu Huraira (May Allah be pleased with him) reported from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) that his Lord, the Exalted and Glorious, thus said.

      A servant committed a sin and he said:

      O Allah, forgive me my sins, and Allah (the Exalted and Glorious) said: My servant committed a sin and then he came to realise that he has a Lord Who forgives the sins and takes to account (the sinner) for the sin.

      He then again committed a sin and said: My Lord, forgive me my sin, and Allah, the Exalted and High, said: My servant committed a sin and then came to realise that he has a Lord Who would forgive his sin or would take (him) to account for the sin.

      He again committed a sin and said: My Lord, forgive me for my sin, and Allah (the Exalted and High) said: My servant has committed a sin and then came to realise that he has a Lord Who forgives the sins or takes (him) to account for sin. (Further on, Allah says) O my servant, do what you like. I have granted you forgiveness.

      'Abd al-A'la said: I do not know whether he said thrice or four times to do" what you desire". (Sahih Muslim)

      Hope this helps you Sister, and Allah knows best.

  30. I have determined to perform salat ut tasbih noptional fasting . I dont know the procedure. Plz help me .

    • You can make dua's while in menstruation or after intercourse, however, it's better to have the normal shower and be neat, even if the menstruation has not ended yet.

      Please follow the link below to learn about how to pray the of Salat al-Tasbih:

      http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/salat-ut-tasbeeh/

      • The method of this salah is as follows:

        1. After beginning the salah by saying Allah-u-Akbar then recite Sura al-Fatiha and any Sura followed by the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 15 times.

        2. Then go into Ruku and after reciting the usual tasbih for ruku` recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

        3. After standing up from ruku` recite the usual Rabbana Lakal Hamd and thereafter recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

        4. Then go into Sajda and after reciting the usual tasbih for sajda recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

        5. Then sit up from sajda and recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times between the two sajdas.

        6. Thereafter go into sajda again and after reciting the usual tasbih for sajda recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

        7. Then sit after the 2nd sajda (i.e. before standing up for the second rak`ah) and recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

  31. Does allah accept dua in polluted body ..... i don't miss any dua during adhan, during rain, and dua between 3.00am to 5 am daily .. though mentrual and after intervourse.

  32. Salam
    My hubby had a love affair with vedic follower women. I got him he was still involve via mobile phone with that women. She cheated him 3 years ago. She promised him to convert in islam n marry him. But she hen she got an better offer from her family she got married to a rich person. But my hubby still apologies for her. In point of his view she was too promote n intilligent and i am only physically attractive. She was beautiful, wise everything. I can not tolerate that girl. Even now I am gonna hate my hubby. I have suffered a lot before marry. Why allah gave himbefore 7 months. 1 year i suffered as insane boys poked me, teased me tortured me blackmailed me and so so . I did not know what i did. That girl did not leave my hubby. I can not tolerate. I feel suicidal.

    • Wa 'alaikum as-salaam warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh Sister,

      It seems like Shaitaan is trying to distract you from praying the salatul-Tasbih, therefore ignore what your husband is doing now and start praying the salatul tasbih. While you pray this salatul-tasbih, ask for Allah to guide your husband and to reform the issues in your marital home. You may make a lot of du'as during your sajda as well, inshaAllah.

      Remember, don't get angry at your husband now. Just be nice for now and complain to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. If there is any good in your marriage your husband will change, but otherwise, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will decree for you something better, inshaAllah.

  33. Now I am gonna torture my hubby verbally. I can not tolarate.

    • My hubby is ready to listen everything what i say? He is great and best gift for in this world. I want to be his ideal wife. When I have found fault in my heart then shaitan is trying to cross me every moment

      • Allahu Akbar!!!

        Say shame to Shaitaan, and then proceed with your intention to pray the salatul-tasbih. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala continue to protect you and us all from the temptations of Shaitaan, and may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala makes you and your husband the best for one another in both this world and in the aakhirah. Ameen!

  34. I have taken two slerping pill today how can i perform tahajjud salah . Iwanna know the proper method of this salah

    • AsSalaamu 'alaikum Sister May Ezeddin,

      The salah is "four raka'ah".

      Please remember to make "wudu" for this salah inshaAllah.

      1. After wudu, begin the salah by saying Allah-u-Akbar, and then recite Sura al-Fatiha plus any Sura you know. And then repeat the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 15 times.

      2. Then go into Ruku and recite "subhaana rabbiyal Azeem" 3 times, and then recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

      3. After standing up from ruku`, say "Rabbana Lakal Hamd", and then recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

      4. Then go into Sajda and recite "subhaana rabbiyal A'alaa" 3 times, and then recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

      5. Then sit up from sajda and then recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times between the two sajdas.

      6. Thereafter go into sajda again and recite "subhaana rabbiyal A'alaa" 3 times, and then recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

      7. Then sit after the second sajda (i.e. before standing up for the second rak`ah) and recite the tasbih (Subhaanallaahi walhamdu lillaahi walaa ilaaha illallaahu wallaahu akbar) 10 times.

      All the above is only first raka'ah. Repeat the same thing in the second raka'ah, in the third raka'ah, and in the fourth raka'ah.

      That is all. You are done with the salah, inshaAllah.

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      Special notes for Salat-Ul-Tasbih (according to IslamicAcademy.org):

      1) Do not count loudly. It will break Salah.

      2) Do not count on fingers or by holding a Bead Tasbih in hand. It is Makruh.

      3) You may count by pressing the fingers as a reminder. For example if you are in Ruku. You may press pinky of your right hand first for the first count, then the finger next to it for second count, then the middle finger for third count, following this method untill you reach the pinky of left hand will give you an exact count of ten. Use the same method in Qayam, Sajdah and Jalsa.

      4) If missed a count then make it up in the next posture. For example if forgot to recite Tasbih after Surah in Qayam. Then you may recite Tasbish 20 times instead of 10 in Rukuh after "Subhaana Rabbiyal Azeem". Missed Tasbih cannot be recited in Qayam after ruku and Jalsa between Sajdah. If you missed the Tasbih in Ruku then recite 20 in the first Sajdah instead of the Qayam after rukuh. Similarly if missed the Tasbih in first Sajdah then do not make it up in Jalsa. Instead recite missed tasbih in the second Sajdah. If Tasbih has been missed in last sajdah of second or fourth Rakah then you can recite the missed ones before Attahiyat in Qaidah.

      5) If you miss a wajib in Salah and have to do Sajdah Sahaw. You dont have to recite Tasbih in Sajdah sahoo, since the 300 count has been estalished. But if you had missed Tasbih in any of the postures and remeber it now. Then you may recite the missed Tasbih in Sajdah Sahaw now.

      6) It is preferable to recite after Surah Fatiha Sura Takathuur in the first raka’, Surah Wal A’sr in the second raka’, Surah Kaferoon (qul ya aiyuhal Kafiroon) in the third and Surah Akhlas (Qul hu Allah-hu ahd) in the fourth raka’. If one does not remember these surah they can recite the ones they prefer.

  35. I have made up my mind to perform saom nafli and tahajjud every day at 3am . What are the method plz help. Shatan heart n soul trying to convert my mind

    • Sister May Ezeddin, first of all, have you understood the method of Salaatul-Tasbih above?

      Please learn it and practice it.

      • I have tried to perform this today

        • MashaAllah Sister. How did it go?

          • How can I manage my anger. It has destroyed my good deeds and still destroying.

          • AsSalaamu 'alaikum sister May Ezeddin,

            Firstly, you need to see a Therapist for some anger counseling.

            Secondly, you may say ‘A’udhu billahi minash-shaitan ar-rajim’ (I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan).”

            Mu’adh bin Jabal narrated that one of two men cursed the other next to the Prophet (PBUH), until anger could be recognized in the face of one of them. So, the Prophet (PBUH) said, “Verily, I know a statement, that if he were to say it, his anger would leave:

            ‘A’udhu billahi minash-shaitan ar-rajim’ (I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan).”
            (Hadith No. 3452, Book of Supplication, Jami’ At-Tirmidhi, Vol. 6).

  36. If an unmarried man and women fornicate and then they feel that if they marry they can not stay together. I mean both of them can commit zinah which has death sentence. I want to know the punishment of fornication and zinah. Plz ans me. If they perform several time is it compulsary to slash more than 100?

    • AsSalaam 'alaikum sister May Ezeddin,

      If an unmarried man and woman fornicate and no one saw them while fornicating, then what they need to do is only sincere repentance. They do not need any punishment, so long as they have repented sincerely. Punishment could be there only if they revealed their sins to the Islamic court and brought 4 witnesses along with them, or witnessed against their own-self 4 times.

      And Allah the Most-Merciful knows best.

  37. Thanks a lot .......

  38. I have performed salatul tasbih after seeking help from allah. Allah made up my mind to perform this salah after 2 years dely dally. Alhamdulihhan. And special thanks to you sis ISSAH. If I repent then how can I fell that allah has forgiven me. And i am very afraid that allah punish people in world or hell. Or else both world and hell. Will allah punish me after strong tawbah?? I have decided to perform salatul tasbih at least in a week.

    • MashaAllah for performing salatul tasbih. You are now like a new born baby with NO sins anymore, mashaAllah, because according to the Holy Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam), Allah Ta`ala Has forgiven your sins, the first and the last of them, the past and recent, the unintentional and the intentional, the small and huge, the secret and open.

      Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala also says in the Holy Quran:

      ''Except those who repent, and reform, and proclaim. Those--I (Allah) will accept their repentance. I am the Acceptor of Repentance, the Merciful.'' (Quran 2: 160)

      ''Except for those who repent, and believe, and do good deeds. These--Allah will replace their bad deeds with good deeds. Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful. Whoever repents and acts righteously--has inclined towards Allah with repentance.''
      (Quran 25:70-71)

      That is the promise of Allah that He will forgive anyone who repents sincerely, and that He will replace their bad deeds with good deeds. And Allah never breaks His promise. Therefore, please trust in Allah that He has forgiven you already, inshaAllah, walhamdulillah.

      Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says:

      ''(That is) the promise of Allah. (And) Allah never breaks His promise, but most people do not know.'' (Quran 30: 6)

  39. I have performed salatul tasbih 3 times. first after performing Johr of Thursday, 2nd a day after Esha of Sunday and last after Esha of thrusday. . I have heard that we have to perform at jummah day if we can not pray everyday.... Thanks to Allah he permitted me to perform 3 times now I wish to pray every jummah day of my life. And I promised to Allah that I will perform all namazs with nafli rakah.

    • MashaAllah sister May Ezeddin. I'm so glad to hear about your improvement, mashaAllah. Please be determined and keep up with your good intention and deeds inshaAllah.

      Also, yes, the salatul-tasbih can be performed on Fridays if one cannot perform it everyday. In addition to that, it is also recommended from the Sunnah to send much prayers (darood) upon the Holy Prophet Muhammed (sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam) everyday, especially on Fridays.

      May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help you and us all, Ameen.

  40. I have confusion about day of Islam. .... because I know the day began since sunset... I mean Friday from mag rib it's Saturday. .. night of thrusday is Friday....
    I want to know about kajah salah. ... It is wajib. ... Instead of ta hajjud it is better for goodness. is it true.

    • If you mean salat-ul-haajah, then tahajjud is better. Tahajjud is a strong sunnah and should be prayed every night if you can manage it.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • can i wear a pendant on allah suhanutalla's 99 names... kalemaye taiyeba, ayatul kursi, surah kafirun, ikhlas, falaq, nas and bismillahir rahmir rahim..... image of makkah/ madinah.. all are ingraved in a metal..... this pendant is about 110 $ i have seen advertisement..... is it prohibited to wear any sacred pendant alway even period time.. in bathroom... for a girl... plz feedback

        • These pendants can do nothing for you. If you believe that wearing such a pendant can benefit you in some way, that is shirk. It's better to avoid it.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • it seems some body black magic on us....
            i have a big problem with. my hubby. he flirt with girls by mobile. even he talk as like talked with me..... such as sexual phone recotd I got and thundered he caled her as like "" my wife is my wife i kiss her suck her as my duty but u are my heart, life, goodess of treasher.... my naughty girl... same expression same voice as like my premarital period......when i caught him he shouted scolded me and hide deleted all numbers related to her. in voice clip i heard that even he will suck her.... her breasts are very beautiful... he likes her breasts.... he likes to touch her breats.... I mean she had no reaction..... when my hubby talking..... my hubby said to me that it is my failure because i was absent due to transport problem. on valentine day he did this. i have seen many pics of her with my hubby even close pic.... she is his brothers wifes younger sister and sehe is only 17 years old... i am 26.... he had no regret.... but one day i was angry and stayed with my parents then he told me to come back and after reach at home he touched quan ( without wudhu) and promised to do that ever never....... but i can not sleep alz my heart are burning.... even i have forgotten... one day i was searching our premarital pic on pc then i found their pic and it was taken about 2 monts ago before our first meet and 5 month ago before our engagement. on our engagement i tried to copy his full memory card but he over reacted.... said my family's personal pics are here why i will give u. i found a folder named family and their selfie and close pics as like...... personal one. he married me as wife not as lover. he become a tricky when i was absent. even those pics.. i noticed with family members he was too close to touch outside body with her even all were isolated to each other. he taken pic her even in family.... butt focucing face was that girl..... what should i do now. when i forget those speech i love i care him but some time sparks.... and my mind wants to kill him...... what should i do know. that girl came closer when my hubby joined as assitant commisioner of customs department..... but when he was in poor situation that girl had close relation with my hubbys younger brother..... my hubby trapped.............. my hubby choosen me and married me on owwn choice....... what should i do now. as she is relative she will connect with our family forever....my hubby requested me not to flash this and repented..... but i cannot tolerate....... i am sceared about adultry. if myy hubby did not trapped he did not flirt even he was to mad too marryy mee. my huubby had a relationship with doll worshiper girl i mean traditional religion followers..... he do nott perform salah and says that if anybody can not perform salaah alllahh can forgive him but exploitation of anybody such as cheat and another humilation that badad for mankind can not be forgiveable. I diid not disobey hakkullah. and alz says boys will bee boys.

            what should i do.. we have passed only 8 months after marriage first valentine day was not muslims day but he follows it as special as i was absent he did not called me phone sex with another girl.... i got call waiting and he treated hard on that day....
            what should i do

      • it seems some body black magic on us....
        i have a big problem with. my hubby. he flirt with girls by mobile. even he talk as like talked with me..... such as sexual phone recotd I got and thundered he caled her as like "" my wife is my wife i kiss her suck her as my duty but u are my heart, life, goodess of treasher.... my naughty girl... same expression same voice as like my premarital period......when i caught him he shouted scolded me and hide deleted all numbers related to her. in voice clip i heard that even he will suck her.... her breasts are very beautiful... he likes her breasts.... he likes to touch her breats.... I mean she had no reaction..... when my hubby talking..... my hubby said to me that it is my failure because i was absent due to transport problem. on valentine day he did this. i have seen many pics of her with my hubby even close pic.... she is his brothers wifes younger sister and sehe is only 17 years old... i am 26.... he had no regret.... but one day i was angry and stayed with my parents then he told me to come back and after reach at home he touched quan ( without wudhu) and promised to do that ever never....... but i can not sleep alz my heart are burning.... even i have forgotten... one day i was searching our premarital pic on pc then i found their pic and it was taken about 2 monts ago before our first meet and 5 month ago before our engagement. on our engagement i tried to copy his full memory card but he over reacted.... said my family's personal pics are here why i will give u. i found a folder named family and their selfie and close pics as like...... personal one. he married me as wife not as lover. he become a tricky when i was absent. even those pics.. i noticed with family members he was too close to touch outside body with her even all were isolated to each other. he taken pic her even in family.... butt focucing face was that girl..... what should i do now. when i forget those speech i love i care him but some time sparks.... and my mind wants to kill him...... what should i do know. that girl came closer when my hubby joined as assitant commisioner of customs department..... but when he was in poor situation that girl had close relation with my hubbys younger brother..... my hubby trapped.............. my hubby choosen me and married me on owwn choice....... what should i do now. as she is relative she will connect with our family forever....my hubby requested me not to flash this and repented..... but i cannot tolerate....... i am sceared about adultry. if myy hubby did not trapped he did not flirt even he was to mad too marryy mee. my huubby had a relationship with doll worshiper girl i mean traditional religion followers..... he do nott perform salah and says that if anybody can not perform salaah alllahh can forgive him but exploitation of anybody such as cheat and another humilation that badad for mankind can not be forgiveable. I diid not disobey hakkullah. and alz says boys will bee boys.

        what should i do.. we have passed only 8 months after marriage first valentine day was not muslims day but he follows it as special as i was absent he did not called me phone sex with another girl.... i got call waiting and he treated hard on that day....
        what should i do

        • AsSalaamu 'alaikum dear sister May Ezeddine,

          Allah knows best, but I don't think there is any black magic involve in your situation. Your husband is deliberately transgressing against Allah and disrespecting your marriage at the same time. And he is also manipulating you.

          If you wish to divorce him and marry a pious Muslim man, then I will support that. However, if you want to stay with him and pray and hope that Allah may change him, then that may be good too.

          Please speak to your family (particularly your father, Uncles, or elder brothers) about what is going on, and seek their opinions.

          May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide your husband and decree for you what is best in this life and the next. Ameen!

        • Enter your comment here... what about lailatul barat....??? is it time to repent and mercy or fixing fate???

  41. My Dear sisters n brothers Allah didnt make us perfect. if there was anybody that was perfect it would be prophet Muhammad S.A.W Please dont think that you are a burden to urself and the world. We all nake mistakes. As a convert i seen many people in my life who are muslims who committed terrible things but they never killed anyone?So whats the worry. The problem with the people of the world is easy.The belief in Allah and his final prophet and messenger Muhammad. The key to a peaceful life of ease and confort and success is in Muhammad. As i will say again.Allah has created this world as a test for the BELIVERS. Everything is a curse in this world except for three things.1 old man who grows old that he rembers Allah very much that tears flow from his eyes because of joy.2)A SCHOLOR OF ISLAM 3)A student of Islam...who is always learning or teaching.My advice fix your self find people who are correct inwardly and outwardly. when they talk they talk with sence. they are pollite and they are loving.These are the people with proper faith. In the quran Allah mentions that in human being theres a piece of flesh that if its sound then his whole body is sound(correct)and thats your heart or hadith says that the heart is like a mirror if the mirror is dirty it will reflect....and likewise if its clean then you shine like the sun...Look the basics is praying 5 times and perfecting it ; keeping with good company learned and active people who have concern for lost muslims like yourself.This is one way the Devils keep people busy No time for deen but for the world lots of time even a begger is busy.Lastly the quran gives you that peace ...it is a medication , healing and a way of communicating to Allah..All this might sound so religious and not for me.....but the question i asked before Islam is seeking the opions of religions on what is a human beings purpose in life and what happens to a person that die.Islam stood out to all my answers and was very easy to understand but people make it coplicated. And when i came to Islam i had to research what Islam is correct because i was confused what is the difference in sects as like christianty...So i spent years and found out that as a sunni muslim who follow one of the school of thoughts i am very happy and blessed for my life before this change was depressing. And by the way Jesus never died on the cross or died for are sins or is son of god!!!! Be somebody in this world.As a muslim we should be top in everything we do because we are an example to people who are lost and blind and need true direction and thats why Muhammad is a role model for the humanbeing. because the actual love for Allah is The actual love for his beloved prophet! And what is happening in the so called muslim countries that given us a bad name is the work of the devils involved. There is alot of conspiracies and fake terrorists groups runned by agency covered up by media and corrupted leaders all a plan for people to forsake there religion and belive in nothing or the devil himself.So think first you are lucky to born muslim and know u must understand ur purpose as a mother to be oneday?

  42. Atleast ur repenting on the inside now repent with action ie do fard nafil etc worship Allah as Allah should be worshiped He who brought us and everything into existence when we had no power to do so, say the shahadah as much as u can there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is His messenger. Shaytaan is the one who invites u to sin then when u choose to return to the straight path and repent from sins he reminds u and torments u. Remind urself about Allah and His Mercy that is what u need at this time. Allah doesnt need to trust u He knows what is in ur heart and what u will earn. Allah has Knowledge over everything, He subhana wa ta'ala knows about our begining and our total existence. His mercy is such that He will forgive us even if we turn to Him with sins like the foam of the sea. Countless sins, He will forgive the gravest of sin shirk associating partners with Him. True repentence is u leave all major sins and turn to Allah alone regret all sins as u are doing and humble urself before Allah. If u shed a single tear in remembrance of Allah then u are sincere. Dont let shaytaan tell u otherwise. If u didnt care why would u be feeling this way? A disbeliever wouldnt care about any sin. Only believers regret. For a disbeliever this world is heaven for a believer it is a prison its from hadith. Sayings and traditions of the messenger. Trust Allah when He says He is the Most merciful. Trust Allah when He says He forgives all sins. 🙂 And this is only 0.0000000001% why Allah is the greatest xD. If life feels hard then know Allah loves u and has planned something beautiful for u insha'Allah. Keep doing good and never give up. Allah tests all His slaves and the reward jannah will be worth the struggles:D be patient pray salaah and whole heartedly trust Allah. And make dua alot. Pray tahujjad 2 rakah then make dua. Allah Sees all and Hears all. He is the Most Merciful. Hard times for a believer hold mercy for the believer. Trust Allah insha'Allah. Make dua whole heartedly no ifs or buts just ask Allah and He is the Bestower. Allah has put a veil over our sins so we shouldnt remove it by disclosing our sins. Allah forgives sins we do knowingly and unknowingly. Our intention should be to do good at all times. We should hate evil just as we hate being burned. Hate shaytaan as our worst enemy he decieves many of us. Remember Allah alot to keep the doors closed dont give evil a chance to enter. And keep advising people to do good those are good deeds to forbidding evil and inviting to good is a must for all muslims. We cant judge ourselves Allah will Judge us we just do what we do with pure good intentions (2 thumbs up) xD. Blessed be Allah Lord of the worlds.

  43. Keep praying and Allah will send a Islamic man who will purify you. But I suggest you tell him because no true husband has the right to be cheated. Its always unfair on men. It says in the Quran if u commit suicide then Allah will keep making you commit suicide on day of judgement as many times as he sees fit.

  44. Nobody is perfect. Allah will always forgive so as long as you keep repenting. Allah will never get bored of forgiving u. If anything you will get bored of sinning.

  45. Salam

    Dear Islamic sister

    I would like to ask a simple question, Who is greater? Your your sins or our creator Almighty Allah. Just fish this answer out you will fell much better.And the thought of sharing what you have done in the past is not acceptable by Almighty Allah.

    Gracious Almighty Allah forbids us from preaching our sins,and like those who preaches His religion the one and only ultimate and true Islam.So never publicize our sins in public and the most important thing is " How ever we assume Almighty Allah we will find him in that way'. Assume Him Merciful,that is how we find Him.
    Never lose hope in Allah you will prosper through, may The Most Merciful shower His blessings and sanctification upon you and give you the courage to walk on the path of the righteous.

  46. Sister some of the best people have had a bad past. Feeling guilt is a sign on iman, it shows you really care and that's good. Continue repenting and InshaAllah you will be forgiven. Remember God is more Merciful than you and I, nothing can compare to his mercy.

  47. Hey we all go through this. We are human beings,we all make mistakes, we are not prophets. I'm in a similar situation and it really hurts me every time to go back to committing those sins. I always tell myself that I want change,I really want to but after a while I forget my commitment and it fades away. Ya Allah help me. I really do try, and I will never stop trying. As long as I know that I'm trying to stay on the right path then God know. GOD KNOWS HOW WE FEEL, GOD KNOWS WHAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH. I swear I'm shedding tears right now. I'm just a soul with good intentions Ya Allah so please guide me and protect me from the devil.
    Peace

  48. As salam alai kum
    The day your heart started to realize that u are doing something wrong and u need to change. Thats it .... Alhumdulillah Allah subhanwatala blessing are upon u.
    Its only the one who Alllah wishes that they realize the difference between right and wrong.
    This realization is your first step towards salvation. Be steadyfast in ur prayers. Ask Allah for help and the ways will come out.

  49. Assalam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatuh. My sister, it is not too late. Turn to Allah and Repent to Him sincerely, Allah says in The Quran: Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." Az-zumar [39:53].

    • 'Astaghfirullaahal-'Adheemal-lathee laa 'ilaaha 'illaa Huwal-Hayyul-Qayyoomu wa 'atoobu 'ilayhi.

    • Allah's Messenger (SAW) said: Whoever says: I seek the forgiveness of Allah the Mighty, Whom there is none worthy of worship except Him, the Living, the Eternal, and I repent to Him, Allah will forgive him even if he has deserted the army's ranks.
    → Reference: Abu Dawud 2/85, At-Tirmithi 5/569, and Al-Hakim who declared it authentic and Ath-Thahabi agreed with him 1/511. Al-Albani graded it authentic in Sahih At-Tirmithi 3/182.
    Please don't lose Hope in the mercy and forgiveness of Allah. Always make sincere repentance. May Allah forgive us all. Ameen.

  50. Salam Dear Sister Don't Be depressed First You make sure Allah Do not Think as we Think, Allah is Pak that Kind of Emotional Thinking Every one in this World is sin full But God do not care of our Sins, Allah Knows What we are doing and Even knows what we will do in future Just He like more That Human Actually Be Ashamed front of me I forgive him not only one sin even after millions of sins just once you Be ashamed front of Allah No need to tell any one ALLah says If you have Sins more than all drops of water in universal, all sand and all Trees in count just be ashamed infront of me and after that you should be sure that you have done no any sin you are pure There is no matter What is your age every sin is merciful. Your sins are nothing But Allah says If your sins are more than Whole universe which from start to judgement i will forgive you just need to be ashamed, Even after Milions of time ashamed you sin again you even can be forgive.

  51. Don't worry my girl. U know only in Islam it's allow to do sins repeatedly and knowingly. So u r a Muslim . Then y u worry. It's all allowed in Islam. Only part is repentance. After that u can do sin again. Then u should repentance. Again do sin. It's a continuous process in Islam. That's y a don't like this religion. I'm a Hindu . My husband is a Muslim. He does his religious duties. Along with that he is doing lot of sins repeatedly without any guilt. Now he is 60 years. Still he is like that. Thats y I hate this religion. Because in Hinduism and christianity we believe that we r a true believer we can't do sins knowingly.

    • Sreeja, your understanding of Islam is wrong. It is NOT allowed to commit sins in Islam. If wrong actions were allowed, they would not be sins. But do we believe that God is forgiving and will forgive someone who repents sincerely? Yes, of course. The key word is sincerely.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Sorry...it's not my own words. I have got it from some Islam articles which mentioned that . Al-Tawwab (The Acceptor of Repentance): This name of God is mentioned in the Qur’an about 11 times. Allah accepts repentance of those who sincerely repent and turn to him. The word “tawwab” gives the sense of “oft-returning,” which means that He again and again accepts the repentance. We make sins and mistakes then we repent, He accepts our repentance. Then again we commit sins and make mistakes and when we repent, He again very kindly accepts us and gives us another chance. Some of Islam understood this way and they behave like this. But their sins badly affected some others. Mainly their family. But they never admit it and they continuously doing the same things. Me and children also victims.

        • Sister Sreeja K.P,

          Sins can be of many type

          1)Sins related to disobedience to Allah only and not effecting other human beings .

          Example : Porn watching is sin ,
          Not praying to Allah is sin ,
          Not fasting is sin .
          Drinking Alcohol is sin .
          Assume that some one has realized he want to quit those habits and want to repent and became good .
          Say if an alcoholic,or porn watcher repents sincerely and genuinely want to stop bad things .He will repent it .
          Some guys might be able to stop it immediately .

          Some guys might struggle after few days and might go back to those alcohol,porn etc ..

          But they need to try multiple attempts till they succeeds in quitting those habits permanently .

          But remember that intention should be sincere and honest otherwise that repentance is not a repentance at all .

          Even if some body succeeded in quitting bad habits he needs to continue praying and asking forgiveness for his past sins .

          2)Sins which will harm other human beings

          If sins are of nature which is effecting other human beings then simply repentance will not be accepted .
          Example :
          Say if some body takes a loan from other human being and not returning to him and say he will repent sincerely then this will not be accepted . For a sincere repentance in this case he need to pay the loan money first and then repent .

          You know if some body is going for haj then one of pre requisite conditions are that he must not have loan .He should finish all loans and go ..

          If some body steals money from some one and say i want to repent then first thing is he needs to return the money and ask forgiveness from fellow human being .

          If some body rapes.murder other human being and say repentance is enough then Islamic sharia courts will not accept it .

          Many Islamic courts will give death punishments to rape , murder of other human beings .
          This shows that sins which effect other human beings are not accepted by just repentance .

    • Sreeja K.P ,

      In Islam also you are not allowed to do sins knowingly .
      If a person want to change himself then he need to repent sincerity .Sincerely means he needs to have honest intention and clear effort to stop the sins and not to repeat at any point of time in future .

      Such repentance where you have intention of repenting and then again doing sins and then repenting and doing sins again will not be accepted .

      Repentance means competently stopping of sins and not repeating again .

      It seems your husband is not a good Muslim and his wrong actions are misguiding you .

      • Sorry…it’s not my own words. I have got it from some Islam articles which mentioned that . Al-Tawwab (The Acceptor of Repentance): This name of God is mentioned in the Qur’an about 11 times. Allah accepts repentance of those who sincerely repent and turn to him. The word “tawwab” gives the sense of “oft-returning,” which means that He again and again accepts the repentance. We make sins and mistakes then we repent, He accepts our repentance. Then again we commit sins and make mistakes and when we repent, He again very kindly accepts us and gives us another chance. Some of Islam understood this way and they behave like this. But their sins badly affected some others. Mainly their family. But they never admit it and they continuously doing the same things. Me and children also victims.

        • There are three conditions for repentance:
          1)Giving up the sin,
          2) Regretting what one has done,
          3)and resolving not to go back to the sin.

          If the rights of any human beings were affected, then it is essential to restore them to him or to ask him to let one off.

          And everyone who disobeys Allah is ignorant.

          End quote from Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah, 24/308-309

          https://islamqa.info/en/177990

  52. Same situation is here I'm feeling very sorry and bad but Only after committing sins. My entire life is surrounded by sins I personally think almighty will make another hell for me . I know every thing about Islam but I'm porn addictive. I don't know what to do. I'm just hoping for his hope. I'm offering Namaz by heart so may almighty will bless me on straight path as u mentioned same my parents, society thinks I'm gentle boy but I and my God know who I'm plz help me and pray for me plz

    • Assalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatu.

      I have developed a great program based on Quran and Sunnah to get rid of any addiction and the program will also help you develop taqwa as well as sweetness of faith, so that you remain consistent on your deen until you die. Would you like to do it, brother?

      Yusuf
      Islamicanswers.com - Editor

      • I've done something similar and feel the same as you i was 8 when this happened i was into gacha and didnt know anything about whats haram and not but one day i came across a gacha video that was inappropriate and incest i thought it was the right thing and decided yo try doing it with my brother i now deeply regret it and feel like i shouldnt get married and have a family beacuse eventually someone will find out.I always look back at it and always wish i could go in the past for forgiveness i ask allah for forgiveness i feel guilty for my actions

        • Ndeye, you have nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty for. You were a small child and you didn't know any better. In Islam we are taught that small children are not accountable for their actions before Allah. So there is no sin on you.

          There is no way for anyone to find out, as long as you don't tell anyone. It should not have any effect on you getting married. Just put it behind you and forget about it.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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