Am I still married to my husband?
I am a revert who has been married for the past 11years however my in laws were not happy about their son's marriage to a Hindu female, so after 3years of marriage they got their son to marry a Pakistani woman.
My husband divorced me legally so that he could register his Pakistani wife. My husband left me and my son in order to live with his second wife. We lost contact with one another for 4yrs & 3months. We are now in contact with one another for the past 3yrs. He last saw his son when he was 7months. My son is now 8years however in the interim I have seen my husband in the last 3years.
Please advise is my nikkah still valid?
During the separation I did not see or be intimate with any other man. He does not want his second wife to know we are in contact with one another. His parents are late. Please advise how I should handle this.
~ Mehru
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Dear Mehru, Asalaamualaykum,
Your question is one related to Islamic Fiqh, and our Editors are not qualified to answer such questions. Please consult with a qualified Imam/Mufti regarding this matter.
With regards to your contact with this man, I would urge you to keep a distance from him until you know the status of your relationship with him to avoid fitnah.
SisterZ
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Ha ha ha ha ha!!! I love your honest response sisterz! ALL the recent post are related to fiqh and suppose to be directed to a mufti. .
Lol Brother Mohd,
Yes its kinda funny. I just raised this issue with my Editor Colleagues.
SisterZ
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Salam.. Sorry not sure if I submitted my story correct, it'd saying that it's pending? When does it get approved? Please reply .. I think I've submitted it twice
Jana,
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SisterZ
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A man is not allowed to abandone, seperate from his wife for more than six months without her permission.
And if a man has two wives but he clings to one of them, half of his body will be paralysed on the last day.
A man is also not allowed to abandone, disown his children, he has to be there for them to educate them, and keep an eye on them and discipline them.
A man has to provide for his family and cannot rely on his wife to work for her children.
A man cannot hide anyone of his wives from the others [but it does not negate his marraige], he has to be brave and open about it.
Your husband has committed many many transgressions against his Rabb and yourself and his son, if he is not providing for you and your child, you shouldnt remain with him, he's not worth it, he is wasting your youth hood and time.
I have no idea as to whether you are still married or not.
A l l a ah ma'ak
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Wael
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Asalamualikum my dear sister ,
Subhananallah your story is really painful..May Allah bless u Ameen
my dear sister .... first of oll your ex husband has committed a big sin and u are not allowes to meet him because he has divorced you legally and nw he is a non mahram for you in Islam it is haraam to meet a non mahraam and wen it comes to your child that person can meet your child because hes you child's own blood they can meet at any time ... amd de third mistake is that he is again cheating his new wife without her knowledge he is contacting you so even that is haraam so sister avoid meetin him.. and pray my dear sister In Shaa Allah u will surely find a really gud husband in de lie here after In SHaa Allah