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Am I worthy of wearing the Hijab?

I committed a shameful sin in the past. My ex lover said to me the other day "You're a kaffir. Your name shall be Michelle, not Leah. You don't deserve to wear the hijab. You're filthy trash. ..." And so on and so forth..

Brothers and sisters, I committed a sin. In the past before I met my ex and first lover. (Same person). He told me that I can tell him anything and everything. He said to me that he wants us to be real. That he plans to ask my hand in marriage. I met him online. I told him about a sinful action I've committed in the past before I met him. At first he said to me "We're going to take a break". Then I broke a promise of his unintentionally. Ten days later, I go back to apologize to him about it.. But he only insults me more saying those words from above that I've quoted.

Now you can imagine a girl, who has been wearing the hijab since pre-k. and had just found the meaning and beauty of the hijab, this summer 15. Before finding the hijab's beauty.. I committed a major sin.

After the sin. I've been working on myself to get closer to Allah swt. I pray my five daily prayers and fast. I make tawabah. I should start making zikir and reading Quran more often. I lessened myself from listening to music. So, you see I've made changes in my life. And I constantly bring into mind to myself. May Allah swt forgive me. Please forgive me.

Yet, my friend's aka ex lover's words run back inside my head..

Am I worthy of wearing the hijab?


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  1. Asalaamu alaikum, in a nutshell, yes you are. Allah can forgive whatever sin you committed and if we believe otherwise we are not believing and rejecting His quality of being the Most Merciful. Read about the man who killed 99 people and Allahs mercy upon Him. Everyone has hope, hes just trying to make you feel bad, keep going forwards dont go back.

  2. assalamualaikum sister Islam is Allah religioue not his, what you do is always and will be between you and Allah nobody else. You made tawbah for your sin Alhamdulillah that's good but try your best to not return to that sin again inshallah. Its not good for a man an a women to talk a lone because shaitan is the third.

  3. I would say your ex's bubble of what he made up in his mind about you burst when you told him your past sin. It helps in getting over you to look down on you, so he decided to say all those things about you.

    Back to reality, you are still Allah's property and servant. You have been ordered to wear the Hijab, what your ex thinks has nothing to do with you having to fulfill Allah's requirements. Looks like you're going to have to wear the hijab whether you think you're worth it or not. I mean I could say I'm not worthy of fasting or giving charity, that doesn't mean I could get out of doing that :).

    Also you're not trash. It's not the day of judgement yet and you aren't being dragged to hell. Allah has given you more time to repent and change your situation. Be grateful and make an effort and inshallah you'll be granted heaven where your husband will never think you're trash or would ever think that even if you told him your past sins.

  4. Yes you are worthy of hijab. Do not disclose your past sins to anyone this is between you and ALLAH. No one has a right to judge you conceal them. You admitted your mistake and that shows you are trueful and real. No one is perfect you dont need to be treated badly by anyone you deserve better. You should get rid of this guy he dont deserve you. Ask family to look for a man for you.

  5. Salam My sister why do you talk nosence .People who go against the commandments of Allah and the teachings of Muhammad S.A.W will get there hard life in this world . They will never fine peace and rest.Allah will fill there life with hardship.One problem after the next and when there time on this earth is done then a terrible punishment will start from the grave!!!Sister first of all keep away from all this.Boy friend girl friend chatting gossiping is all haram and you lose at the end.We all make mistakes in life but we go forward and we make tauba everyday but we try to perfect our Iman!You know when your weak shaitan who is always present knows your weakness and uses it against you.Only that you go away from Allahs true religion.You are a women and you need to act like a real women.Build your deen build a new surrounding with sisters around the mosque start fresh and dont give up.

  6. It will help you look pious but you have to change to be pious inside.

  7. As salamu alaykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu!

    If Allah covers your sins do not expose it!

    It was narrated that Saalim ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: I heard Abu Hurayrah say: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

    “All of my ummah will be fine except for those who commit sin openly. Part of committing sin openly is when a man does something at night and Allaah conceals it, but in the morning he says, ‘O So-and-so, last night I did such and such.’ His Lord had covered his sin all night, but in the morning he removed the cover of Allaah.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5721; Muslim, 2990)

    One of the conditions for making tawbah is to HATE the sin and never return to it.

    Its important that when you make du'a that you believe that Allah can and will answer your du'a.

    What you did is haraam no dobut about it, but removing your covering is another sin within itself.

    Calling a Muslim a kafir is HARAAM therefore he needs to make tawbah.

    You shouldn't have any contact with him without a wali whatsoever.

    Our religion is made perfectly by Allah. Subhan Allah! We can get married, so no excuses. And don't think that its too late to get married you don't have to live your life with it beating you over the head. Fear Allah! Hate the sin! Leave it alone! Fear Allah!

    Marry someone who is strong and trustworthy in shaa Allah. You'll know this person fears Allah because they'll call you to good all the time, they'll have good manners and character in shaa Allah.

    Cover for the pleasure Allah. Any good that you've started keep doing it until it becomes sincere and rush to it.

  8. Assalamu Alaikum sister.
    you wearing the hijab has absolutely nothing to do with your past. And this boy may be the strongest in deen or the weakest, but he is not your judge and his words mean nothing more than bird squawking. Allah swt knows what is in your heart. Only you know if you wish to wear the hijab. And Allah swt is most merciful. Peaxe be with you sister.

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