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Are Muslims allowed ask pious Maulana to predict best dates for weddings?

"An astrologer told me the relationship would fail within a year."

I have an odd query. When I first heard it I related it automatically to Hindu Beliefs of asking a Pious man to select dates for wedding.

This was suggested to me by a Muslim friend who told me that her family will meet up with some Muslim pious Moulana who will predict and propose the best dates.

As far as my knowledge, I have not heard of this being practiced in the Muslim community and I don`t know what my friend`s Islam beliefs are.

therefore, I`d like to know if this true, if muslims are allowed to do this, and if not, how I can help my friend to the righteousness.

Regards, A

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  1. Dear Writer,

    You are absolutely right. This concept of asking a 'holy man' to fix a date for a wedding is not an Islamic concept. It is common in the Hindu and Sikh faith. If I wanted to set a date for a wedding or a holiday or anything of importance, I would choose a date according to my other committments and then pray Istikhara asking Allah to put blessings in it - simple.

    Why does your friend think that a maulana should predict the wedding date? It is most probably for one of two reasons:

    1) Because she thinks that a maulana can predict the future, or

    2) Because she thinks the maulana is more pious hence closer to Allah and so Allah will inspire him to know which date is best.

    So based on this, tell your friend that:

    1) An Imam is human as we all are and he knows nothing about the ghaib/unseen/future. Asking a maulana to predict a date is like saying that he knows something about the future, hence he can select the best date - but this is not true. Proof of this is:

    Allah(swt) says in Surah al-Naml, Ayah 65: “Say: “None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allaah, nor can they perceive when they shall be resurrected”

    He(swt) also says in Surah Al-An'aam, Ayah 59: “And with Him are the keys of the Ghayb (all that is hidden), none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is in the land and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record”

    Further: Allah(swt) says in Surah Luqman, Ayah 34: “Verily, Allaah, with Him (Alone) is the knowledge of the Hour, He sends down the rain, and knows that which is in the wombs. No person knows what he will earn tomorrow, and no person knows in what land he will die. Verily, Allaah is All‑Knower, All‑Aware (of things)”

    And the Prophet(sws) explained this further in a hadeeth: Al-Bukhaari narrated in his Saheeh (hadeeth no. 4477) that ‘Aa’ishah (ra) said: “Whoever tells you that he knows what will happen tomorrow is lying.” Then she recited, “No person knows what he will earn tomorrow.”

    2) Also tell your friend that what differentiates Islam from other faiths is that it tells us clearly that we do not need a third person to reach Allah. We are not like the Christians who think they must pray through saints to reach God, or like Hindus who think they have to speak to God through stone idols. We Muslims speak directly to Allah and do not need an Imam or anyone else to communicate for us.

    In Surah Jinn, Ayah 20, Allah(swt) tells His Messenger Rasool(sws) to say: "I invoke only my Lord (Allah Alone), and I associate none as partners along with Him."


    I hope the above will help you explain to your friend that we should use our logic and common sense to choose a good date for a wedding and then ask Allah to put blessings in our choice.

    SisterZ Editor

  2. Assalamu alaikum . My question is that besides asking a maulana about the wedding date is it okay to ask A maulana about the name for naming a new ....

    (Remainder of question deleted by Editor)

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