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Are Shiaa and Sunni Muslim Marriages allowed in Islam?

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As for those who divide their religion and break up Into sects, thou hast no part in them in the least: Their affair is with Allah: He will in the end Tell them the truth Of all that they did. [Al-Qur'an 6:159

Assalam o Alikum, I hope you find it in best state of health and Iman.

My question is that one of my class fellow want to propose to me and he belongs to Shiaa firka. I am Muslim and not belongs to Shiaa. Is this type of marriages allowed in islam? Kindly give me logics so that I can give a solid answer to that boy as I am not interested in him but at the same time I do not want to break his heart.

- Wajeeha

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  1. Salaams,

    It sounds as if you want a confirmation that shia and sunni cannot marry one another in Islam so that you don't have to tell him the truth: that you are simply not interested in marrying him.

    I'm sorry to have to tell you that at the time of Prophet Muhammad SAWS there were no sects or divisions in Islam, so needless to say there were no prohibitions made as far as one Muslim marrying another Muslim. As it stands, the only Islamic prohibitions in place are those regarding a Muslim marring someone who is not a Muslim at all.

    It's kind of you to not want to hurt this boys feelings, but in real life boys will get rejected (as will girls) and they usually learn to deal with it. If you want to help him be an emotionally healthy young man that knows how to handle a refused proposal, it's best to be honest with him. We all can process things a lot better when we know we are being told the truth.

    -Amy Editor

  2. Assalamu alaykum Wajeeha,

    Saying no to a marriage proposal should be left to parents and parents should be approached for marriage as well in order to avoid any fitna.

    If you want to say no by yourself, then tell him clearly, thank you for the proposal and kindness, but I am sorry, my choice is a little different and I would not like to go in to their details. I hope you understand me.

    And part with him with a fair leave taking. Insha Allah this should work.

    Regarding Shia and Sunni, of course the apparent beliefs of Shia which are visible show much deviation from the basics of Islam and also we cannot say all Sunni are 100% correct and perfect. NO.

    Only Allah knows who is guided and who is astray.

    You need a man who believes in the Qur'an and does not associate partners with Allah. Who fears Allah and enjoins the right and forbids the wrong and is kind to people and is able to take responsibility of a married life.

    Sunni have their Sunnah, Shia have theirs and only Allah knows the truth of the matters where they differ.

    As the Prophet (peace be upon him) was just a Muslim who believed the revelations of Allah and lived his life based on them. He did not belong to any of these sects.

    So we should also abstain from calling ourself to be a part of some sect.

    We are Muslims and we turn to Allah only. He alone knows who is guided and who is astray.

    Surah 68. Al-Qalam
    1. Nun. By the pen and that which they write (therewith),
    2. Thou art not, for thy Lord's favour unto thee, a madman.
    3. And lo! thine verily will he a reward unfailing.
    4. And lo! thou art of a tremendous nature.
    5. And thou wilt see and they will see
    6. Which of you is the demented.
    7. Lo! thy Lord is best aware of him who strayeth from his way, and He is best aware of those who walk aright.
    8. Therefor obey not thou the rejecters
    9. Who would have had thee compromise, that they may compromise.
    10. Neither obey thou each feeble oath monger,
    11. Detractor, spreader abroad of slanders?
    12. Hinderer of the good, transgressor, malefactor
    13. Greedy therewithal, intrusive.

    Your brother.

  3. leave him for the sake of Allaah as it is haraam to marry deviant, i would advice you to go and seek a Salafi husband and may your hands be covered with dust.

    as the prophet[saww] said.

    • Assalamu alaykum Sister Umm Az Zubayr,

      The Qur'an in the Religion of Allah does not have any command to marry a Salafi, neither Shia nor Sunni.

      The clear words in the Qur'an are " Believer" and "Muslim".

      221. Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth thus His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.

      18. Whoso desireth that (life) which hasteneth away, We hasten for him therein that We will for whom We please. And afterward We have appointed for him hell; he will endure the heat thereof, condemned, rejected.
      19. And whoso desireth the Hereafter and striveth for it with the effort necessary, being a believer; for such, their effort findeth favour (with their Lord).
      20. Each do We supply, both these and those, from the bounty of thy Lord. And the bounty of thy Lord can never be walled up.

      78. And strive for Allah with the endeavour which is His right. He hath chosen you and hath not laid upon you in religion any hardship; the faith of your father Abraham (is yours). He (Allah) hath named you Muslims of old time and in this (Scripture), that the messenger may be a witness against you, and that ye may be witnesses against mankind. So establish worship, pay the poor due, and hold fast to Allah. He is your Protecting Friend. A blessed Patron and a blessed Helper!

      Allah has already chosen those who believe to be named as Muslims. We do not need splitting up of Ummah further, nor do we need other names to call ourselves with. We should be content with what "Allah has named us" and not the names which "scholars give".

      16. Say (unto them, O Muhammad): Would ye teach Allah your religion, when Allah knoweth all that is in the heavens and all that is in the earth, and Allah is Aware of all things?17. They make it favour unto thee (Muhammad) that they have surrendered (unto Him). Say: Deem not your Surrender a favour unto me; nay, but Allah doth confer a favour on you, inasmuch as He hath led you to the Faith, if ye are earnest.
      18. Lo! Allah knoweth the Unseen of the heavens and the earth. And Allah is Seer of what ye do. - Surah Hujurat.

      The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) has nothing to do with those who break up religion in to sects and their case will go to Allah directly:

      159. Lo! As for those who sunder their religion and become schismatics, no concern at all hast thou with them. Their case will go to Allah, who then will tell them what they used to do. - Surah Al An'am.

      Of course, the disbelievers always want that no heed is payed to the Qur'an, they have done so even when the Prophet was reciting it:

      26. Those who disbelieve say: Heed not this Qur’an, and drown the hearing of it; haply ye may conquer.
      27. But verily We shall cause those who disbelieve to taste an awful doom, and verily We shall requite them the worst of what they used to do.
      - Surah Haa Miim Sajdaa.

      Allah further does not use any word like Ahmadi, Shia, Sunni or Salafi anywhere in the Qur'an, but shows the sweetness and beauty of speech of the one who says I am a Muslim:

      33. And who is better in speech than him who prayeth unto his Lord and doeth right, and saith: I am a Muslim. - Surah Haa Miim Sajdaa.

      Our duty as Muslims is to proclaim the Scripture of Allah and not hide it, else we have nothing but the Fire in front of us:

      174. Lo! those who hide aught of the Scripture which Allah hath revealed, and purchase a small gain therewith, they eat into their bellies nothing else than fire. Allah will not speak to them on the Day of Resurrection, nor will He make them grow. Theirs will be a painful doom.
      175. Those are they who purchase error at the price of guidance, and torment at the price of pardon. How constant are they in their strife to reach the Fire!
      176. That is because Allah hath revealed the Scripture with the truth. Lo! those who find (a cause of) disagreement in the Scripture are in open schism.
      177. It is not righteousness that ye turn your faces to the East and the West; but righteous is he who believeth in Allah and the Last Day and the angels and the Scripture and the Prophets; and giveth his wealth, for love of Him, to kinsfolk and to orphans and the needy and the wayfarer and to those who ask, and to set slaves free; and observeth proper worship and payeth the poor due. And those who keep their treaty when they make one, and the patient in tribulation and adversity and time of stress. Such are they who are sincere. Such are the God fearing
      . - Surah Al Baqarah.

      May Allah make us Muslims heed the Qur'an and be obedient to Him and His revelations.

      Your brother.

  4. Shiaa people are not practicing Islam in the way Sunna do in a lot of things. and one of the thing you will face if you marry him is Nekah Almota " temporarily marriage" it is really recommended by there faith and you can not say no to him.
    So just say my parents dose not agree, or say i am not thinking getting marriage now.

  5. i am sunni and i wanna marry with shia man, can i? give me clear ans yes or no.

  6. As'salam-o-alaikum
    I wanna ask something about shia and sunni marriage issue.
    Is shia and sunni marriage allowed in Islam? please tell me.

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