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Is artificial insemination lawful in Islam?

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I am a 33 yrs old male married  3 years ago but not able to make my wife pregnant. I am just not able to reach orgasm. We have had very less sexual activity too, intially due to confidence issues for me and then from my wife. I don´t know why and I lose interest also quickly.

Me and my wife are very sad and I have thought of suicide many times but couldn´t. It is disturbing my marriage. I wish to know of  other  shariah accepted ways of conceiving. Is artificial insemination lawful? Please let me know of other ways.

I want to know of adoption also...

Please advice...


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  1. As salamu alaykum brother abcd,

    I have been searching about your question and I haven´t found a proper answer, then I would urge you to seek information from an Imam, he will guide you, insha´Allah.

    Related to your sexuality, you should go to a doctor to see if you have any disfunction that can be solved with the right approach, insha´Allah. Once the physical study is done, you and your wife should look for counselling to make you gain confidence related to your sexual life, a good proffesional will give you the tools to lose the fear of failing and to enjoy your sexual life, insha´Allah.

    You have to do step by step, and I think that the first one is to go to a doctor, and when you see which kind of problem and which solution can be given, then you will know which is the right approach to have children, don´t give up, please, your body is your responsibility and to take care of your body is your duty then learn about it and have the best of the blessing of having a body, insha´Allah.

    To move forward looking for solutions will keep away from you all the fears that you are handling, because when we see a door open a Light shines in the darkness, then you have a couple of Lights shining, Alhamdulillah, you are alive, young are married, in love and you know and acknowledge what is going on then move and find solutions, this attitude will bring shine to your life, insha´Allah, Alhamdulillah.

    There is a beautiful reply given by Sister´s Noorah that I want to share with you:

    Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim

    Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah

    There are many things you can do to help to conceive a child. First and foremost, it is important that you and your husband are good, practicing Muslims, because this is the foundation of the family and will help you to be in the right physical and emotional state for conceiving. You should both be observing the five daily prayers, fasting, and giving zakah according to your ability. Your income and that of your husband's should be from what is permissible, and not from the haraam, such as interest, or the sale of alcohol or pork.

    As for the du'as, it is sunnah to recite the following du'a before engaging in marital intercourse:

    Bismi Llah(i), Allahumma jannibna sh-shaytana wa jannibi sh-shaytana ma razaqtana.

    In the name of Allāh. O Allah, protect us from Satan and keep Satan away from the children You grant us. (Bukhari)

    As far as specific du'as for conceiving, there is no "magic bullet" du'a, of course, but here are some beneficial supplications from the Holy Qur'an:

    "Rabbi la tadharni faradan wa anta khayru al-warithin."

    (My Lord! Leave me not solitary (childless though) You are the best of inheritors.)" (Al-Anbiya 89)

    "Rabbi hab li min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibah innaka sami`ud du`a' (My Lord! Grant me from You upright offspring, for You hear all prayers)" (Al `Imran 38)

    Recite these du'as frequently, and also make a habit of remembering Allah throughout your day with "subhanAllah" "alhamdulillah", and "Allahu akbar" and other authentic du'as.

    There are also some "worldy" things you can do to increase the chance of conception. The first is to enjoy marital intimacy frequently. A woman is only fertile for a few days out of the month, so if you are intimate often, you have a better chance to conceive. You can purchase ovulation prediction kits (which use your body's temperature to determine when you might be most fertile) and you can keep track of your menstrual cycle to determine your fertile times. Also, RELAX! Marital intimacy should be enjoyable for its own sake, and if you are enjoying one another and not stressing over "having" to get pregnant, you will actually increase your chances, as stress hormones can interfere with pregnancy. There are many stories about women who finally got pregnant after they "gave up" trying and just resigned themselves to not having children.

    I highly recommend this book for all couples trying to conceive: How to Get Pregnant with the New Technology by Sherman J. Silber. Although the book is a resource for people experiencing difficulty in getting pregnant, it has a wealth of information on the men's and women's reproductive cycles and practical tips as well.

    Make sure also that you are not doing anything that will harm your health. If either of you smokes, stop now. This includes cigarettes, cigars, and the Arabic "hookah" or water pipe. The toxins from tobacco products can badly affect the man's sperm, damaging it and leading to infertility and potential defects in the fetus. Eat good healthy food, avoid processed foods, and maintain a healthy body weight. Exercise moderately. You should be taking a good woman's multivitamin and extra folic acid to avoid a specific birth defect. There are vegetarian vitamins available online or in health food stores that do not contain gelatin or other questionable or haraam ingredients.

    As you see, there is a lot you can do to give yourself the best chance of conceiving. One thing to caution you about: you might receive superstitious advice from family members. One might tell you to wear a necklace with a blue stone around your neck, or do something that has been handed down in the family. Avoid this non-Islamic advice and hold to the Qur'an and Sunnah. InshAllah, you will be blessed with a child who will be a pious believer and a coolness for your eyes

    All my Unconditional Respect,

    María
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Salaams Brother

    To be honest with you I don't know if artificial insemination is allowed in islam however Allah Ta'ala says in the Quraan:

    "Seek help through patience and prayer."(Surah Al Baqarah, verse 45)

    One of the duas that you can recite is the dua of Zakaria (A.S):
    "Rabbi habli min ladunka thurriyyatan tayyibah. Innaka samiu addua."

    Translation: "Oh my Rab! Grant me a righteous child as Your special favor ; surely you hear all prayers." (Surah Al-Imraan, verse 38)

    You may recite it as often as possible, whenever you sit down to pray, insha-Allah.
    Engage yourself in recitation of Quran and reading Durood Shareef as much as you can. Insha Allah, this will give peace to your heart.

    You should also read these duas in morning and evening:
    1) Rabbi inni maghlobun fan-tasir
    2) Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer
    3) Recite last two ayats of Surah Tauba seven times daily

    Rumaysa

  3. Scientific advances are a gift from God. Embrace them. Once upon a time fertility drugs, ovulation drugs, even drugs to prevent miscarriage, were non-existent. These and other medical technologies have allowed couples who ordinarily could not have children, conceive.

    If you are unable to conceive naturally, then I don't know why artificial insemination would be unlawful, so long as you are using your own sperm and your wife's own eggs. Of course, read the dua that everyone has suggested here, and try to solve the root of the real problem as you have described it. But if you truly have a medical problem preventing you from conceiving, then by God's grace and mercy you should be able to take advantage of a medical solution such as artificial insemination.

  4. salaam
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    i have been married for 6 years...my husband has azoospermia and doctors say that he will never be able to father a child....we badly need a child....each time i see a baby,tears roll down my cheeks.....is there any possibilities in islam where i could also become a mother.

    • liana, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you. My short answer to you is that there are many Muslim orphans who need love and care. You can foster one of them and give him/her a good life. That is a great deed in Islam.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • dear editors,

        are there two people on this website with the name FRIEND. i certainly did not post on this post.

        can you please look into it.as i dont want to be confused with this poster.

        thanks

        • Sister friend,

          We can't restrict people from having identical nicknames. And the word 'friend' is so common that you could expect even more people to use it in the future. 🙂

          Muhammad Waseem
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Muhammad Waseem is right. Maybe you should change your username to something more specific, like friend something, or something friend.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • thank you. i will change my username. can i please request something. i cant remember my password. so cant log in. i think i did give another e mail. i will really appreciate if you can send me my password. i dont want to place my e mail here. but if you think it will help you locate me on your system then i will. please suggest.

            PS- i guess ihave to say good bye to friend now.sad 🙁

          • Use the 'forgot password' option. It will work, in sha Allah.

            Muhammad Waseem
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Sister liana

    My hubby also got that problem . 8 years of marriage...but there is. A medicine available. Alhamndhullilah ..if u can reach me in any way by email, I can help you in shaa Allah and what brother Wael said is right..to foster a child is a great sunnah...so we are on our way in that as well...even if we have biological children still I wish to follow that sunnah...in shaa Allah...legal procedures are going on....if there is any email id I could reach you?

  6. Hmmm 🙁 helping her was my intention. It's a hard journey you know. Anyway sister if u r reading this please search for Spermhope ...google it and I'm sure you will find it useful in shaa Allah....my hubby being a scientist gives you the authenticity of that team of Texas as he have personal connection with them..may Allah bless with what is good for us in both worlds...Aameen

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