I aspire for a daughter even though I am not married; Has anyone had such feelings?
Daughters in Islam
I am not married and may be inshallah I will get married in the near future. I am a male. Like many Muslims and Muslimahs out there, I like to day dream about marriage and about my future. One of my dreams is that I see having a daughter. The thought of having a daughter has become like an obsession, although I am not married.
I am from a family where we mostly have male children. I do not know what Allah has decreed for me, and definitely He knows what is best for me. I also know that having a healthy and righteous child is more important than the gender. If Allah does not bless me with a daughter, I think the thought of having my own princess will forever remain in the deepest corner of my heart.
I should not think negatively about Allah, I should think that He will in sha Allah bless me with a daughter. But still when I see someone with a daughter, I kind of get depressed and the thought that Allah may not give me a daughter overpowers me.
On a side note, I must mention that to protect others from evil eyes, I sincerely say ma sha Allah, barakallahu feek many times whenever I see a man with a cute daughter.
The question is, has anyone ever had such feelings? I constantly make dua to Allah to give me sakeenah (tranquility), and to give me the ability to accept His Qadr, and try to think positively about Him. I remind myself that this world is too short to waste time with something that I have no control over and to tackle it, I have decided to increase my worship of Allah.
But still sometimes the fear that I may not get a daughter haunts me. I ask Allah's forgiveness for saying anything wrong here, but actually there was no place to share this feeling of mine. Any suggestion brothers and sisters about how to deal with such obsessive thoughts?
~ Muslimboy12345
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Salaam brother, I just want to say inshallah if you continue on Allah's swt path inshallah you will be granted a daughter, you seriously should not worry Allah swt is with you always and Allah swt hears your dua. Your not married yet, my advise is as a muslim sister when your in a position to marry get married and inshallah with Allah's swt will you will have a daughter. Daughters are very special and it's nice to hear a muslim man is awaiting such good news. Inshallah I will pray for you.
Salam brother!
Wow, how sweet of you to say. Girls and boys are both a wonderful blessing from Allah.
But, brother, if having a daughter means that much to you, then do not worry. Do not have any doubt in your heart, because, Insha Allah! You will have a daughter!
She will be yours, and you will make such a great father. Insha Allah.
I will keep you in my prayers, I promise.
assalamulaikum , do not worry so much, u knw even in our house more numb of males compared to females, but my sister gave birth to a female child it was shocking for us we all were not expecting its going to be baby girl 🙂 🙂 trust me it was a miracle and she was so pretty when she was born we kept her name AYESHA , it is only in hands of allah to give u what u desire and it is natural you know i too dream to have a twin children in future and bring him/her in good way and make him/her a good muslim i keep dreaming abt it as inshallah i want to be a good mother and bring up my child very well 🙂 thr is nothing wrong in having a desire it is natural 🙂 i am wating for right person to get married inshallah but i dream to have twins and i cant avoid this thoughts i keep it within me and only few of my close people knows this wish of mine :), Allah gives u what is best for you he knows our hidden secret of hearts and he knows what is best for us , so leave it to ALLAH just pray and put your full trust in allah ...:)
jazakallah khair
Assalamu'alaikum,
Brother, your aspiration is great and positive. But the negative is you being depressed. I know people who are old and have as many as 5 daughters. They still complain to Allah for not having sons. They become depressed and what not.
Depression in this matter is not something good. Having daughters brings a lot of Barakah. Read the following Ahaadeeth:
`Uqbah bin `Amir said: ``I heard the Messenger of Allâh say: `Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.''' ( Sahih - Ibn Majah)
It was narrated that Anas bin Mâlik said: ``The Messenger of Allâh ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: `Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach puberty, he and I will come like this on the Day of Resurrection' -- and he held his two fingers together.'' ( Muslim )
Also read the hadith in the image above.
Brother, also remember, do not let this aspiration result in exaggeration leading to dislike of sons. And do not lose hope in Allah. Allah Is with His servants, as they expect Him to be.
Whenever you see someone with a daughter, say ma sha Allah, tabarak Allah, also say:
U'eedhuki bi Kalimatillahit Taammaati min kulli shaitanin wa haamaah, wa min kulli 'aynin laammah
"I seek refuge for you in Allah with His total words from the evil Satan, from every poisonous animal and from the evil eye"
Abu Abdul Bari
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Having daughters is a blessing of which many people are unaware, because of the great reward that a person may gain through them, as
The Hadith is reported by Imam Ahmad and Ibn Majah with a Sahih (authentic) Sanad (chain of narrators) on the authority of `Uqbah ibn `Amir that he said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) saying: 'Anyone who has three daughters and practices patience with them, feeds them, gives them to drink and clothes them from his riches, they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection."
This indicates the virtue of being kind to daughters and taking care of them, hoping for the Reward of Allah; for this is of the means for being admitted to Jannah (Paradise) and saved from Fire.
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The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said, “Whoever has two daughters and treats them kindly, they will be a protection for him against the Fire.”
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
"If Allah does not bless me with a daughter, I think the thought of having my own princess will forever remain in the deepest corner of my heart."
If you think like that and if Allah don't grant you own daughter and grant you son then raise your son with all your efforts and in Islamic way that one day your son will bring daughter for you. Between Daughter and daughter in law there are no difference brother 🙂
Masha'ALLAH brother!
"I constantly make dua to Allah to give me sakeenah (tranquility), and to give me the ability to accept His Qadr, and try to think positively about Him. I remind myself that this world is too short to waste time with something that I have no control over and to tackle it, I have decided to increase my worship of Allah."
Brother the words u said really made me smile!
And brother I sometimes end up thinking about my future kids, how i am going to teach 'em and what i am going to do. and all these stuff