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Gossip and backbiting

Salma sisters and brothers,

I'm so depressed and need help. couple months ago I got a divorce from my xhusband and it ended very bad.

Now I'm very upset about the big lies him and his family is saying. What they are saying is very bad and not true. They are making me look bad and trying to make me loss my reputation in my community.

I feel very sad I cry and so does my family and it hurts to see my mom and I never seen my dad cry but I can see his doesn't want around me adlist but I can feel and see in his eyes too.

I've always had a clean heart and I'm very shy person. My mom said they are saying this to a girl whom not ones i had to give a lession to.

I don't know what to do at this point what he is saying and family is saying is lies. How can I live when the whole city is talking about me? I feel like in years to come people will look at my story and say "there's that girl...".

I'm wondering what does allah say about lying about girls? Making false claims,? Will allah punish them? I also a while ago had a dream where I talked to my xhusbamd sister and told her that what her family is doing is lies and is bad and I told her allah is great and allah will know what to do!! I was in a white dress another time too I feel connected to allah and allah is great and I pray and cry to allah to show signs to help me in this and to show that this family is liers!!

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  1. Sis very sad to hear about your divorce.
    Allah has mentioned strict punishments for people who malign others reputations, be they true or false.

    In your case the accusations insha Allah are false so im certain the sin would be multiplied.

    Its Ok sister, Allah is the one who give izzah and he is the One who takes it away as well. So despair not, insha Allah your rep. Will not be tarnished but those who spread evil rumors about you will be extremely sinful.

    Again dont worry, remember Allah as much as you can, try to get busy with work, studies or whatever halal activity you enjoy and leave negative folks behind.

    Hope that boosts your mood and faith insha Allah, may Allah guide us all.

    Allah knows best.

  2. Dear sister,
    As-salāmu ʿalaykum w w

    It is very command in our culture that when divorce happen always most corrupt party make al kind of lie against
    For hiding own fault.

    Only Islam teaches us, don’t respond and patient, Allah wills enough for you.

    If somebody come and tell what they said, tell them you are hurting more than them, do not Listen any talk against you. Allah helps you, amin

    You find so many rewards for patient in Quran and Hadiddh

    O you, who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

    (سورة البقرة, Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #153)

    http://www.searchtruth.com/

    Narrated 'Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) Allah's Apostle said, "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn."

    http://www.searchtruth.com/book_display.php?book=70&translator=1&start=0&number=0

  3. I know How you feel sister as i have been through the Same.its hurts but what matters is your reputation infront of Allah.Make Allah Happy.those Who are making false allegations will have to answerable for doing such a grave sin.i always thank Allah no matter how much grieved i am.u do so too.Inshallah you will go through this with strength and patience.

  4. Sis when a couple divorces a man always wants to put the women down no man will say good about her no matter how good she was they will forget everything and bring bad in front of people and add more on. I'm going through a divorce myself my husband hasn't divorced me yet but I seperated a few months ago after realising I will not be going back all I hear is she left her husband because she has another man. It took me so long to win my brothers trust back from which 2 brothers still look at me weird and ask questions, each day I die thinking I wonder what they will be saying or doing. What are they plotting and planning people will believe them my family can't keep proving the truth to everyone. It's a sad world we live in. a Muslim that covers the fault of others Allah will cover their faults on the day of judgement sadly no one does that these days. I pray Allah makes everything easy for you me and those sisters suffering in the same or similar situation Ameen. And remember what goes around comes around have faith in Allah he will look after us he is watching and has surely counted all your tears. Dont be disappointed we have Allah by our sides..

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