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Bad thought about my family and Allah; Will Allah forgive my sins?

Book about major sins in Islam by M.I Siddiqui

Salam to every one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I a 25 year old from India just few years back i had completed my graduation right now i am unemployed guy from last September i am losing my faith in Allah and also my hope,dream, study i cannot concentration in anything. Since  then i am committing major sin like anger, bad thought, drinking alcohol,  watching porn site and  thinking bad thought about people around me specially about my family and friend and about Allah. Since last two years i am unemployed searching for job everybody around got job as day passed to month to year my worrying got bigger and bigger it converted into me a bad person without job how can help family.

I living a very simple life and try to follow Allah in every aspect of life let me tell u something guys I have never read a Quran and doesn't know how to pray to Allah. I am also living in fear i am coward always worried about my future and can't sleep at nite. My parents has so much expectation from me and also my family members also rite now i am stuck between lie and sin. My parents work very hard to raise up a give a education i only hope is allah. Because nobody is helping me. What i am doing i don't know if i have no job no one will marry me and how can help my parents. This kind of thing is killing me inside. I am ruining everyone life. Will Allah forgive me for my sin?

Jamir Akhtar

 

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  1. ASSALAMALAIKUM-
    SINCE YR CASE OF DISAPPOINTMENT DUE TO UNEMPLOYMENT AND YOU ARE FACING SO MNAY PROBLEMS I CAN SEND YOU THE MAILS I AM GETTING FROM ONE FRIEND WHO IS JEDDAH FROM 30 YEARS HE SENDS CHARGELESS JOBS WHICH ARE DIRECT FROM SUADI COMPNAIES AND THE SHAIKHS COME FOR INTERVIEV ONCE THEY SEE YR RESUME AND ONCE THEY LIKE YU IN THE INTERVIEW THEY WILL SEND FREE TICKET VISA AND CALL YOU TO THEIR PLACE TO JOIN THEM-
    PLS SEEK PERMISSION FROM THIS FORUM PEOPLE TO GIVE MY MAIL ID I WILL BE HAPPY TO FORWARD YOU THE MAILS ON 2ND JAN- ALSO I GOT ONE MAIL EVERY WEEK I GET 2/3 MAILS AND IF ALLAH WILLS YOU WILL GET A JOB YOU DINT KNOW THE ROUTE YOU ARE TAKING IS DISTEROUS AND TO SAVE YOU HAVE TO HOLD ON TO THE ROPE OF ALLAH-
    RELIANCE ON ALLAH AT ODDS WITH SELF CONFIDENCE
    An inferiority complex is derived from a lack of confidence in Allah and oneself.
    You should never allow yourself to believe that you cannot fulfill your obligations...

    Self-confidence is borne from the Believer's intimate knowledge and understanding that Allah is ever ready to assist those who strive and struggle in His way.

    Self-confidence comes from depending upon Allah and knowing that He is there to help you, protect you and shower His mercies upon you:

    You must never allow yourself to believe or feel that Allah has treated you unfairly or that He has placed upon you a burden you cannot shoulder for{on no soul does Allah place a burden greater than it can bear.} {Al-Baqarah 2: 286)

    {Those unto whom men said: Lo! the people have gathered against you, therefore fear them. But it only increased them in faith and they cried:. Allah is sufficient for us!

    Most Excellent is He in Whom we trust!} (Aal `Imran 3: 173)

    For the Muslim, self-confidence is wholly dependent upon the trust one places in Allah;

    Prophet (SAW)'s Prayers When in any difficulty
    Recite:
    اللَّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجُو فَلَا تَكِلْنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَأَصْلِحْ شَأْنِي كُلَّهُ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ
    "O Allah, I hope for Your mercy, do not leave me for even the duration of an eye blink (duration) and correct my total condition. Besides You there is none worthy of worship".

    لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أَنْتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّي كُنْتُ مِنَ الظَّالِمِينَ
    "O Allah, there is none worthy of worship besides You. You are Pure, definitely I have oppressed my soul by sinning".
    The Qur'an states that these words were recited when Yunus (A.S.) called upon Allah from the belly of the fish. Prophet Mohammad (S.A.W.) stated in a hadith that when any Muslim makes this dua via these words to Allah, then Allah surely accepts his duas.
    RECITE THIS EVEN FOR CALAMITIES THE PROPHET USED TO RECITE THIS-“Subhan Allahi walhamdu Lillahi wa la ilaha il Allaho wallaho Akbar”

  2. Assalaamualaikam

    From reading your post, the first thing I think you need to do is learn to practise Islam. Your words seem so lost and despairing, but the greatest comfort is found by following Allah's guidance. If you've never read Quran or learned to pray, why not start? People can discover Islam even in their old age, and learn then, so there's no barrier to learning later in life - most reverts learn as adults.

    Why not go along to your local Islamic bookstore (if you don't know where it is, you can probably find it by searching on the internet), find a copy of the Quran with Arabic and translation into your language (ideally with a reputable commentary or guide to understanding), and a guide to how to pray... Then get started. Your local mosque or community centre may well have study groups or courses on aspects of Islamic life and knowledge, so it might help to sign yourself up for those. They may also have some volunteering projects that you could join.

    At the moment, finding a job is pretty tough, so make sure that you're presenting yourself as the best you can be. Eat well, make sure you're getting physical exercise, avoid alcohol (hungover or smelling of alcohol tends not to go down well at interviews), wear clean and smart clothes. If you've been getting lots of rejections, why not ask for feedback about why you didn't get the job (most companies will provide this if you ask), and maybe go on an interview skills course (a lot of universities offer these to for final year students and recent graduates) or ask a careers counsellor for advice.

    Remember that in life we are all given tests, and it is in these struggles that we can grow as Muslims, by staying steadfast in our faith and striving to become closer to Allah.

    Midnightmoon
    IslamicAnswers.com editor

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