Being avoided after istikhara
Dua for Istikhaarah
i am considering someone for marriage .i have done istikhara many times i have also prayed tahajjud for that purpose but i didn't see any dream or anything . the only thing that has happened is that recently that person is trying to avoid me . i have noticed that. it seems as if he doesn't care about me anymore. our families have met also and he has started avoiding me after that i have sensed this thing . i have asked him many times what's wrong he says nothing. i don't know what to do . should i take this as sign or something?
please guide me .
sajda
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Istekhara has nothing to do with dreams in general. It's prayer like all other duas. And it has been answered most probably. Because as the wording of the prayer are: "distance it, if it is not good for me and replace it with what is better for me."
Dream can be a sign too, but it is one of the ways; istekhara prayer is answered. I want to share my experience of Istekhara. I got interested in one of my classmates. I offered istekhara prayer. And almost immediately, some incidents happened that completely took her away from my radar and replaced by my ex, who I had been in relationship for long.
I'm sorry for your issues
In my opinion if the person is becoming distant from you
at least just one time ask them that what is the problem
and the reason for their distance and their family distance
just ask him only once
whether it be on phone email Etc
let them give whatever the explanation that can give
and do not push them just listen to them reflectively
there is nowhere you can persuade them to change their mind
because it seems like they made up their mind
because they are avoiding
you don't take it personally
it happens all the time that's the way of the world
also this you should ask them," is there anything I have done
or my family has done to make you feel offended?
if there is then I'm really sorry for it. I'm noticing you and your family are not speaking to us. "
say that only once
don't say it again and again
it will make you look needy and desperate
then wait for the response
if they don't respond it means they are superficial and they like to play with your emotions
If they give response just listen
Perhaps they heard a rumor about you
And they belive it
And they are avoiding you and
Your family
Silence can be often louder than words
Take the hint move on
Make yourself busy in life
get yourself a new hobby
dressed more beautifully
show more interest in your education
try to go out with your friends be more and be more lively and outgoing
U will certainly attract somebody new into your life
It is the difficult situations
that show people's true intention and nature
I myself had the same experience more than once
I get it
I know how you feel
Good luck
Salamalekum