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My husband is a non-believer...

Assalmu alaikum!!

It's been 1 year and 8 months when my husband moved to other country for studies and after 5 months my son was born. But we got a problem before a birth of son. He started saying me there is no Allah and bad things about religion and Islam. At that time I was totally depressed that also affects my pregnancy and so many complications after child birth. But after birth of my son he again started telling me about his beliefs and that he will teach same beliefs to his son that everything is science. I told him if you wouldn't change your beliefs than our marriage will not be valid. He said ok he even not believe in such nikkah. But when I told my family and his family he started saying no I never said such words to her she is lying and I have strong belief in Allah and after that his family boycott with me and saying bad words for me to everyone.

Now situation is very worst he said me so many times that he had no love for me and I don't want to live with you but I will not divorce you, you can get it through court. Now it's a year he never contacted and never supported us financially or morally.

Now guide me accordingly, should I go back to him as he has not disclosed his beliefs to everyone and trust his words that he has strong faith in Allah or my nikkah is not valid with him? I'm in a big trouble. He is father of my son and I don't want to get divorce from him.
Please guide me.


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  1. Asalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatu.

    If the husband does or says something that implies apostasy from Islam, such as reviling Allah (may He be exalted) or reviling His Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) or denying something that is well known to be a basic matter of Islam - then he has committed kufr and has come out of Islam.

    It is not permissible for a Muslim woman to remain married to a kaafir. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning): “...if you ascertain that they are true believers send them not back to the disbelievers. They are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them” [al-Mumtahanah 60:10].

    If a Muslim apostates, his marriage to his Muslim wife is rendered null and void. If he comes back to Islam, then their marriage is reinstated, but if her ‘iddah ends and he is still insisting on apostasy, then she is now in charge of her own affairs and may marry someone else if she wishes. Based on that, if your husband persists in his ways, then the marriage between you is annulled according to sharee’ah and you are no longer his wife.

    You have to strive to get out of this marriage by whatever means, either by talaaq or khula’ or something else.

    Beware of making your son a barrier between you and leaving this man.

    You have to try to leave that country without delay, and go back to your family and your country; take your son with you and bring him up in Islam, teach him to memorise the Book of Allah, instead of them seeing the bad example that prevents him from following the true path.

    We advise you to take your case to the Islamic centres in your country and to the Muslims, and ask them for help. They know better than us how to deal with this problem.

    We ask Allah to make things easy for you and to protect your religious commitment and to make your son righteous.

    And Allah knows best.

  2. Try to convince,him tell him about islam wait little bit if he,dont understand then leave,him and take good muslim men

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