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Can a ‘converted’ Muslima marry a non-Muslim man?

Muslim woman, female Muslim convert, Converting to Islam

I have a problem that I DON'T really don't know what the correct answer is.

I converted to Islam around 8 months ago now, from Australia,  and love it so much - I don't feel happy unless I read my Qur'an every day.

My problem is that I have met somebody - who is not a Muslim - in fact, he has no religion, whatsoever!!  But, he seems very loving and cares for me very much.

He is currently deployed in Afghanistan, at present, with the U.S. Army, and is retiring in the next month or two.  He also has a 12 year old son.

The problem is that I have told him, that as far as I was aware, a Muslima cannot marry outside of ISLAM. Is that true? I was under the impression, that only applied, if you were BORN a Muslim and your family was Muslim?

I tried to 'break-up' with him, but he said he wants to 'learn' from me, about ISLAM. I didn't think that was allowed? Yes, I know there is no such thing as 'boyfriend' in Islam. He knows that himself - but he is not pressuring me in any way.

I just wanted to know, what are the rules for this, Islamically?

I do not want to do anything that will affect my faith in Islam.

Please, what is the 'correct' ruling on this?


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  1. Assalaam alaykum wrw.
    As long as you are a MUSLIMA you are NOT ALLOWED islamicaly to MARRY NON-MUSLIM MAN.

    No further statement. ALLAH know all.


  2. Born a Muslim or reverted it's the same you still a Muslima rules are for Muslims

    And Muslim women can only marry Muslim men.

    If he is interested in learning share links send him books he can download the Quran if he has a smart phone.

  3. As per sharia of Islam
    Female not allowed to marriage with Non Muslim..... That's it

  4. assalamualaikom sister

    May Allah give you strength in your iman and protect you from all harm.

    share links and books about islam withh him and pray for him.
    However, he should study it for himself and NOT just because he wants to marry you.
    In the mean time you should not meet alone, no physical touchings or hand shakes.
    and the contact should be kept to the minimum

    if things didn't go right look for a beliving brother way better for you than wasting time on a lost case

    I hope that Allah guides him to his deen from the bottom of my heart though

  5. Salam Sister,

    I'm so pleased to hear of your conversion, and your love of Al Quran Mashallah you are blessed,

    I think everyone has already cleared up your initial question, however could i please respectfully give you some advice, since you seem genuinely concerned with your religion,

    It is not permissible for you to have ANY sort of relationship with this man, unless you are communicating with him for the purpose of marriage, or necessity, however this sort of communication still has its limits, there should be no room for a man to be 'loving' or 'caring' during meetings to discuss marriage or matters of necessity....
    You are not obliged to teach a Non mehram man the religion, but you are obliged to obey Allah in the respect of his commandment to not go near Zina, we are humans beings sister and the shaytaan can and will easily mislead us if we do not obey Allah, and carefully adhere to his commandments, your relationship with this man is at present sinful,

    The best thing for you to do here sister, is let this man find his own way to the Deen, and point him the direction of the masjid, they will be brothers there who can help him learn about the religion, if this is what he really wants....... if he finds his way, and comes back to you to propose marriage, this is all good and well, but right now sister, you shouldn't be having anything to do with him

    I hope Allah blesses you further and you can find ease in this trial....

    Take care of yourself


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