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Can a Muslim Christian Marriage work?

Salam brothers and sisters,

I love a Christian girl and we both love each other and she is ready to be involved in a relationship regardless of my religion. I have known her for a few years and she is a religious girl.

I would like to marry her one day after we get to know each other more. But I am confused if she will be able to adapt to an Islamic culture. Should I talk about it with her and see if she can handle it?

She is ready to marry eventually as am I because we both love each other but I am holding back because I would like to think things through before making a decision because marriage is a big step. I also need help as how to approach my parents about this.

My parents are very open but marrying a Christian girl is something completely different. We have hung out many times as friends but we aren't dating and we have been alone many times too but we haven't had sex because both religions dont allow it until after marriage and both of us respect that. She is a very good girl but I just need some guidance as to what I should do. I would appreciate any and all help.

Jazakallah.

- muslim man


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  1. Salaam Muslim man.

    It is permissible for a Muslim man to marry a Christian woman, but whether its a good idea or not is another question altogether. Things change after marriage. The dream of love fades, and reality kicks in. This is why its so important to choose someone you are compatible with otherwise when the dream fades you may be in for a shock. By the way does this woman believe that Jesus is the son of God? Some opinions state that it is not permissible for a man to marry a Christian woman who believes this as she is committing shirk.

    Another point is it is haraam to be alone and be in a relationship with member of opposite sex in Islam. It is not just sex thats haraam but even general touching and sweet talk dear brother. So keep contact with her to the point and don't meet her alone.

    In general (and Allah knows best) but interfaith marriages more often don't work then do work. Common problems are children. Once the kids are born she wants to raise them Christian, he wants to raise them Muslim. Or they decide to teach both and let the kids decide. The last one is not good as the parents are not fulfilling their duties to teach the truth (Islam) to the children. It is great injustice to your children.

    The best course of action would be to take a step back from your relationship with this girl and encourage her to learn about Islam and look into it. Aside from the belief that jesus is the son (audhobillah) they are not so different. Focus on the similarities, explain we love Jesus too, but he is a Prophet of God and not the son of God. Guide her to some Muslim girls who can help her find more. If she becomes interested in Islam, and converts then by all means marry her. Do not pressurise her. It would be much better for your marriage if she becomes Muslim.

    InshaAllah someone better placed will advise you further on this. There are also many accounts of interfaith marriage on this site.

    Sara
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. No

  3. assalamu'alaykum
    brother do u know what put u in this position at the first place? It is coz u r not following islam in a correct way. Being alone with an opposite sex completely prohibited. So first u need to practise ur relgion. As far as marring non-muslims, i don't think it is good idea coz it may not be good for ur children. I know a muslim bro who was married to a christian and now some of their childrens r muslims and some r christians. Do u choose for ur children this kind of life? U decide

  4. Brother,

    No. Please don't do this to yourself. I'll give you a scenario; you pray daily the required time but how will you feel when she just watches you. Let's say she never becomes a Muslim. What then? You will develop resentment towards her. You will think, Islam is good enough for me but how come it's not good enough for her. And as the years go by resentment will turn to anger, anger will turn to rage maybe even hatred. Eventually apathy, you just won't care for her. What about children. You will raise them Muslim but it will be a house divided. You and your children on one side her on the other. Miserable life.

    Don't do this to yourself. Listen to the the great teachings of our faith. "Marry the woman who is the most pious." That's the short version but you get what I mean. I'll assume your young, forgive me if your not. Maybe your hormones are clouding your judgement. Your feet are in the air. Your flying like a bird. You can jump 10 feet your so happy. You found your soul mate.

    But let the practical wisdom of our faith ground you. There is no greater path than Islam. Stay true and sincere and you will have a happy life. And when you are called you will go in peace. Thankful for the life that was given you. Thankful for the gift of Islam. Deviate and your asking for confusion, pain, misery. Listen to the wisdom of our faith. Do not deviate from it.

  5. Hi. I am a Muslim and married to a Christian guy, because we were in love. Before getting married, I also had the same doubts in my mind and did share my concerns with him regarding my religious stand point. He first told me he is very much interested to know about Islam. Now my friend, after a year and few months of being married, he is telling me that he has lost his interest because the more he researches the more he dislikes it. Already we are fighting on this subject, and I get upset every time I think about what our future is going to be together. I'm not sure what i should do to help the situation.

    • Yasmin,

      I don't know if you are aware, but Allah has forbidden Muslim women from marrying any man but a Muslim man. So the question should not be about your future with this man, but about this: 'Do you want to continue living in sin?' I appreciate this must be difficult for you as you most probably love this man. But sister, our priorities should be with Allah, not with our desires.

      As your sister in Islam, I urge you to separate yourself from this man and do immense tawbah. Tell this man that the only way you will ever come back to him is if he accepts Islam sincerely. Sister, make this sacrifice for the sake of your soul.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  6. Thank you sister for your response. However, for my reference, I would like to know where in the holey book this express prohibition has been mentioned.

    Thanks again.

  7. Why marry someone who
    1) Doesn't believe in Allah SWT and Prophet Muhammad SAW as your final messenger?
    2) Western nations would favor in a divorce (ie you divorce your chrisitan wife in a nation with 50%+ divorce...she reverst back to Christianity and raises your kids outside Islam)

    Sadly many Muslim imams take the verse in Surah Baqrah to take ahl al Kitab to mean Christians and Jews of todays which is a chauvinistic and probably haram approach.

    Allah knows best, but I would seriously have to doubt that marrying a Christian or Jewish woman is permissible especially in non-Muslim countries.

  8. To be honest, people are miss interpreting the verses of the koran. . . . In the koran, Allah forbid every muslims to marry kafiir/mushrikun - unbeliever (ie non muslims) and this is very clear. . . When the koran states muslim men can marry the ahlil kitab, it was refering to the jews and christians within the early generations who still followed the true teachings of prophet jesus and do not attach any divinity to him. . . Such classes of ahlil kitab where still in existance during the lifetime of the prophet muhammad pbuh, and Allah said it is allowed to marry chaste women from them. Though they were kafiirs but not mushriks . . . But the present day jews and christians are mushriks, because they associate partner with Allah. The christians say jesus is a God incarnate and they also said jesus is the begotten son of God. They said jesus is there lord and saviour who died on the cross to saved them from there sins. This is pure shirk and Allah said a muslim (man or woman) is forbiden to marry mushrikun (those who are into shirk) . . . They are also unbelievers (kafiirs) because they have disbelieved in Allah as the only one true God who created every thing that exist, they also didn't believe in muhammad pbuh as the last and final massanger of Allah and they dont believe in the qur'an as the book of God . . . . . This is the distinction between mushrikun and kafiir. Mushriks are those who are into shirk (ie those who associate partner with Allah) while kafiirs are those who disbelieve in Allah as the only true God, muhammad as Allah's massanger and prophet, koran as book of God and source of guidance of human kind. . . All mushriks are kafiirs BUT not all kafiirs are mushriks . . . The present day christians are mushriks because the associate partner to Allah. They said jesus is God incarnate, and they said he is there saviour and only begotten son of God. They ascribe divinity to him. We all know that jesus is not God incarnate, We all know that Allah is the only saviour to human kind, Allah is far above having a son (koran19:88-98), and we all know jesus is a humble slave of Allah and has no shear of divinity. . And whoever believe in the above christian doctrine is a mushrik as well as kafiir. So base on this above facts, it is haraam for muslims (both men and women) to marry from they present day christians. And i find this the correct koranic translation and correct opinion of most islamic schoolers. According to the koran, whosoever is a kafiir and dies in that state, he/she is going to hell fire and shall abide therein for all eternity.

    • Mohd, this information is not correct. The Christians in the time of the Prophet (pbuh) already claimed that 'Isa (as) was the son of God, and believed in the Trinity. This is clear from the Quran itself, which condemned them for such beliefs. And yet the Quran still gave the dispensation of allowing Muslim men to marry their women, without saying, "Only if they believe this," or, "Only if they do not believe that."

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • I think you are wrong wael. The koran have neither said 'ALL' the christians that leaved during the life time of the prophet beleive in trinity nor does it said 'all' of then ascribe divinity to jesus nor call him son of God. And if there is such verse, i would humbly appreciate it if you point it out for me. The verse 72 & 73 of suratul ma'ida was talking specifically to the christians that ascribe divinity to jesus or call him son of Allah, the verse did not suggest that all the christians that leaved during the time of the prophet are mushriks (ie accept trinity or jesus divinity or call him Allah's son) . . . On the contrary, during the life time of the prophet, there were still some few ahlil kitab that still followed the original teachings of jesus and refuse to ascribe divinity to him. and among these ahlil kitaab, some accept muhammad to be the massanger of Allah because they read it in there scriptures (ie the original torah and gospel that moses and jesus used and preached) about the unlettered prophet that would come from the ishmeal decent (ie arab decent) {see koran7:157}. example of such christians was khadija's cousin among others, and also jews like salman alfarisi, abdullah bin salam also among others... Btw, i have forgotten the actual verse, but there is a verse in the koran that says if someone is in doubt of the authenticity of islam, then he should ask the ahlil kitab. . . Now do you think the verse is refering to the present day jews and christians or the early generation ahlil kitab who believe in jesus divinity?? NO, the verse was refering to those AHLIL KITAB who still follow the original torah and injil and gave no divinity to jesus. So allah said people should ask such group because they have a prophecy of the coming of the prophet pbuh In there scriptures and thats why many of the ahlil kitab accept muhammad as Allah's massanger... However some of these ahlil kitabs did not accept muhammad as Allah's massanger after all the proves and evidences they saw in him and that makes kafirs (unbelievers) . . . . So i think you should read my first post again and understand what i mean. Of cause there are different opinions, some schoolers just go on with the 'face value' translation of the verse 5 of suratul ma'ida (ie chapter 5 of the koran), while others critically analyse this verse and compare it with the verse 10 of suratul al-mumtahanah (ie chapter 60 of the koran),, and they came out with what am saying. . . . . . Well Allah knows best, if what i said is true, it is from Allah. And if there is any mistake from what i said, it is surely from me and like other humans, am always bound to make mistakes. . .

  9. I just recently married my Muslim husband, I am Christian. These relationships and marriages can work but it takes effort. We decided before marriage that the children would be raised muslim, they will be exposed to Christianity because of their relatives on my side of the family but it would be very clear to them that they are Muslim. If anyone would be to convert on this relationship it would be me and it is something that I am open to and I am learning about Islam now. You must both think of what life will really be like and what each of your expectations and hopes are and if you both can meet the other persons expectations. Also be prepared for other peoples opinions on your relationship an their judgements. It is hard but it can work.

    • Nicole, I like what you have written here. I am also a firm believer that an interfaith relationship can work but yes it requires alot of effort and it will have to stand tall to protect them from the inevitable judgement. I want to ask you about the names of your children? Will their names be Arabic?

    • Nicole is there anyway I can message you privately? I'm going through the same dilemma.

  10. I am a born again christian women raised in the penticostal faith all my life. I'm also crazy enough to allow the love of God to choose for my own. The book spacifically states that here he puts before us life and death chose so that you will live. Live? I chose to see in the eyes of God the best in a man all the qualities i have prayed for all my life. Never does the word of God ever say he can't be a muslim or does religion have a factor to that dissicion. I prayed and fasted being very knowledgeable in the word, a leader, worship pastor and family counsler. I along the dirrection of God made the most beautiful dissision God has permitted me to see beyond my carnal eyes. Words are meaningless but the word of our God is never meaningless. He showed me that it was my choice to marry. But if i chose to walk away i would be walking away from a beautiful man. And a beautiful man inside and out that is. He was focused, rightious, passionate, dedicated, loving, honorable, safe, mature, intelligent and loved God with his whole being. As long as he supported my ministry and allow me to continue my work for the lord, allowed me to continue being a good daughter to my mother (which i had just lost my dad when i meet him) and understood that our religions where sacred to each other. We would fight and work for our marrige. We married in my family church, making vows before family and friends keeping our union very private because i was practically kicked out of ministry and my church. Which was non denominational at the time. They were horrible to him and they told me i was not permitted to marry. I saw exactly what i hated. I loved and appreciated every religion as long as they beleived in God. I was respectful and loving, i was a missionary and loved people with a passion to help and be the hands and feet for Christ. I was the first exception but my husband saw me lose everything i had worked so hard for our love. But i made my first statement before God and man. That what God united NO MAN could ever seperate. I chose him and Islam. Do i agree with it. No! But i am not called to agree or judge. I'm called to walk in love and show the love of Christ. I love my husband and i honor him. We talk alot and find a middle ground in everything. It's not impossible. Did we spat, sure! Was it hard. Yes... Do i give you advise sir... how much are you willing to sacrifice? My husband says no alot. But he never leads me on or lies to me. We talked before we got married. but one thing you should really consider. Remember if your parents do not agree. Then sir, I'm sorry you must honor your parents. My mother approved. She was concerned and still is. But she prays for us and blesses him. She loves him for caring for her and her daughter. My sister and her kids adore him and feel very confortable w/ him. Religion is only a word when you dont know what to call your faith and know who you really are. Where you can hide behind and make escuses. What if she is the most beautiful righteous women you will ever meet. What if you meet a million muslim women but no one brings you close to God. I encourage my husband to walk out his faith. I help him and push him to a close relationship with God. I ask him what he learned about? I want him to serve God and be a man of faith because that makes him be a better husband. If a man has a good relationship with God he loves his family, respects his wife, enjoys life, works harder. He's fullfilled and life means something to him. His life has purpupse and meaning. Yes Muslims I am a Christian women of God and not ashamed to ever say I am deeply inlove with a Muslim and enjoy every single minute of it. I love God for making him a man of honor, his parents for them showing him who to have a wonderful man who is an out standing perfect example of what a true man of God should be made in his perfect image. Would i be happy if he converted? Sure! Will it make a difference? No... because i love him just they way he is... His faith is his right to chose. I'm accountable for myself before God... Not him for me or him for me... So young man... I say stop listening to what people say... and listen to what God says.. yes its permissible to marry a christian but remember what mom and dad say is very important. You never want live without that blessing. Its the most important blessing its the voice of God over our lives.... I pray God helps you and you learn to be sensitive to his will in your life... Blessings Brother!

    • @ Mary i really like ur comment about the person opinion. What i would like people to know is that when The angel of God ring that bell for His children to assemble to leave with Him to heaven. He will not come to get those that are fighting of which religion that is best or which religion that follow Him best. He will come for those who followed His commandment and put them in practice. Ur little story amaze me and make me realize that all that matters is to keep on praying and believe in God and let God be the judge of everything not people. And whenever we r in needs all we need to do is contact our God and let everything upon him, because that what he ur problem are nothing to me bring all of them to me n i'll make u whole again.

  11. Im currently married to a Muslim Guy whom i love so so very much nut am christian though. My husband and i have talked about the whole thing and he told me he would like me to convert to Islam but he would not pressure me. The Porblem i feel like if i convert to Islam ill be loosing who i am and would also be forced to take up a new Name and stop to do thing that i love/enjoy. Please Help. Should i still stay being a christian and living with a Muslim man Or should i file for a Divorce ?

    • lelo, we cannot tell you whether to stay with him or divorce him. That's a personal decision that you have to make yourself. You may also be interested to know that you do not have to change your name if you convert to Islam, and I'm not sure which things you think you have to give up that you enjoy. Islam does not allow consumption of pork or alcohol, and you would have to learn the Islamic prayers, but aside from that your lifestyle would probably not change too much.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Lelo, I understand that you are struggling with this. You said your husband has not pressured you, but you sound like you feel pressured. If he is not pressuring you, he is respecting you, even though he is expressing what he would like. Something you have to understand is that this kind of relationship takes a lot of respect coming from both sides. If you feel like you have room in the relationship to pursue faith and God, and you have room to be yourself in the relationship and he does not pressure you, I don't see any problem. If he is not respecting you and giving you room to be yourself and demanding that you abide strictly by the rules of Islam when you are a Christian, then it might be worth it to talk to him about how you feel. Clearly outline your boundaries with each other and agree on compromises that you can both live with.

  12. hi, i am a christian woman married to my muslim husaband, and i think there is nothing wrong in it at all, my husband and i respect each others religons and ways, his parents arranged 5 marraiges for their kids and every one of them failed and ended in divorce, my husband divorced his wife as he didnt love her, we met and fell in love, there was no intimacy before we got married, no affection, i was understanding of that, i have been thinking of becoming muslim myself but its a big step to take and its not just a religon but its also a way of life and very complex for me to fully understand, plus the fact that i am white british female and was never taught arabic i find the language a huge barrier, i have read the koran in english, marriage is easy in sharia court, personally i think its the pressure of the parents and if they like the person or not, which is wrong, it should be up to the individual to fall in love with who they want to, my divorced sister-in-law met a lovely man, gentle and kind and they loved each other, my father and mother in law said no, and 3 yrs later at the age of 28 she is at home alone, i feel so sad for her, she deserves happiness and a good husband and children.my other sister-in-law was chained to a chair as she was refused permission to marry her arab boyfriend, she broke loose and went and brought the marriage official to her fathers house, they got married a wek later, are very happy and have a beautiful daughter, when our children appear they will be brought up muslim, my other children are christian from myprevious marriage, but we all do ramadan, eid etc, but we also do easter and christmas at home, we have the best of both worlds, may i add my husband dont go to a christian church if we go. we had a simple wedding as we refused to be drawn in to the HUGE wedding to make his parents look good to the rest of the relatives, afterall its the start of our future together NOT theirs and we thought why should we pay for aunts uncles and so far removed cousins to come and talk behind our backs as not everyone approves of 'our' kind of marriage, the main thing is if you have found someone who understands and is accepting of your life then grip it and never let it go, love is hard to find, but it always finds a way. if you are doing all thats good in the koran and not angering allah then you should be able to marry who you want, it aint your parents that will live your lives its you, GOOD LUCK in your decision i am sure the lady youlove will be very understanding.

  13. Hello, my name is Christine, I am a Christian engaged to a Muslim man. It is my understanding that it is permissible for a Muslim man to marry a Christian or Jewish woman. In Christianity, it is permissible to marry whom we want. But in both religions, it is advised that we marry our equal.

    I chose to say yes to my fiance as I place more importance in how my spouse treats me than I do in which faith he belongs to. We both value family, faithfulness, sharing with those in need and we strive to lead a life of faith that is blameless as we draw near to God. We both have found what we have been looking and praying for in a spouse. I would not marry someone who didn't believe in God or who was a polytheist, and neither would my fiance. It is still important to both of us that our spouse believes in the God of Abraham, and theologically, Islam and Christianity are similar.

    In my opinion, this type of inter-faith relationship can work, but yes, it is work. Every marriage is work in fact, not just inter-faith relationships. But there are a few things that have to be understood by the inter-faith couple.

    First, both people need to respect each others religions. And one person does not need to aggressively try to convert the other. God (not man) is the one who leads us into all truth, and it needs to be understood that aggressive conversion type conversations only lead to strife. If we do not engage is spiritual debates that lead to strife, conversations can be open, loving and rewarding instead of negative.
    You may want the other person to believe as you do. But you have to understand that you knew who the person was when you married them, they did not try to hide their faith from you. When you marry someone, you are telling them that you accept them as they are. If you knew someone was messy before you married them, would you expect them to become a clean person after you said "I do"? Can people change? Yes. Should we expect someone to change because we took them to the altar? That doesn't seem loving or accepting. People will change because they want to, not because we nag them or relentlessly pressure them. We need to approach them as if their opinions, values and beliefs are an important part of who they are. By marrying them we have accepted that their faith is a part of them. If they never change, we need to be willing to love them anyway, because we married them. If we marry someone expecting to change them, things will not go well and that is an understatement. Know what you are getting into and if you accept, do not expect that the person is going to change, rather, treat them with the love and respect you would like to be treated with.

    It also needs to be understood that the other person may not know everything about your religion, so you cannot expect them to abide by the rules of your religion. If there is something that you need your spouse to understand, it is best to gently talk about it, rather than to get angry with one another. And you may have to meet each other in the middle about some issues, such as: prayer, dress, food, languages spoken in the home, habits etc. Understand that you do have some differences, but try to learn about those differences. Don't stay in the dark about what the other person believes and try to meet each other in the middle as much as possible. For example, my fiance and I will both fast during Ramadan and celebrate Christmas together and we will both do this within our personal boundaries. For instance, he will not ask me to pray towards Mecca and I will not ask him to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. I will take my shoes off in the house and dress modestly, but he will not ask me to wear the hijab. All relationships are give and take and this one is no different.

    To sum up, I think that this kind of relationship can work as long as:
    - You communicate
    - You make an effort to understand each other
    - You accept each other
    - You work at the relationship
    And most importantly:
    - You treat each other with Respect, Kindness, and above all, Love.

    I hope this helps and I wish you all the best.

    • Hello, my name is Lupe I am a 22yrs old Christian girl.. with so many questions now.. of my future husband who is Muslim. Thank you for sharing your thoughts because they have been so uplifting.. If i had the chance I would like to speak to you now & know more about how things are going. I would really appreciate if you would reply.

  14. So I am looking just for information right now. I am currently working at an airport where I've met a gentleman who is Muslim. I really do not know too much about him but I, now after deep thought and consideration am willing to learn more about him.

    However, I haven't mentioned him to my parents because I fear their reaction. I know just from my dad's reactions to questions about bi-racial relationships that he most likely would be closed off. However, I'm of the mindset that right now I'm looking at friendship and that if God/Allah wills there to more than friendship then so be it. But at the same time, I'm also very firm in my faith and also very outspoken.

    He's already demonstrated that he might be the jealous type and I don't know if I could handle that. At first, when we were talking he overwhelmed me with texting and wanting to hang out and calling, now its died off and I'm willing to hang out now. He also doesn't seem to understand why I want to hang out in a group setting. And I think that because of his persistance at first, a ton of warning flags were going off in my mind. But hey maybe I'm just jumping the gun right now but I just like i'm torn right now. 🙁

    I'm going to wait and see how things go but who knows what'll happen. However my advice to everyone regardless to what kind of relationship you're in COMMUNICATION is key. You have to communicate your feelings and try to meet halfway and as with any relationships there will be some sacrifices that will have to be made.

    • Hi Brandie,

      I know you are just looking for information right now with regard to you and your Muslim man that you have found. My advice to you would be to try and get to know him so much better. I know you've only just met though.

      By the sound of it you seem fairly young - but you also have a mind of your own, regardless of what others say - including your parents.

      No, you do not have to change to Islam if anything does come from this friendship. I think it comes down to how much you 'respect' each other in the relationship - albeit just friendship for now.

      In my case, I am a 57 year old lady and have fallen in love with a wonderful man who is 62, and is a Muslim and lives in Amman, Jordan & I live in Australia.

      He actually started contacting me about 4 months ago on a Penpal site. We started writing to each and we Skype nearly every day, when we can. Except this month as it's the Holy month of Ramadan so we can't even Skype or see each other!! I respect the fact that he is Muslim very much. We have since grown to love each other very much and we miss each other during Ramadan.

      He asked me about 3 weeks ago if "I would consider him as a husband". My answer of course was "yes".

      No, we are not rushing into anything just yet as we both want to get to know each other a lot better first before making any drastic decisions. We want to 'meet' each other first as well.

      Brandie, you need to understand something with regard to being a Muslim.

      It's classed as wrong to even be in the company of someone else (male) and talking to them (especially if you don't know them). Your new man may seem to think that you 'want them in a sexual manner'. It's the way they are brought up to be a Muslim. Yes, this is something you will need to get used to being in a Muslim relationship. You may think it's 'innocent' but not to them!!

      A Muslim/Christian relationship can work, but you do have to work hard at it!! He will pray 5 times a day, either at home or at a Mosque. He will read the Koran regularly as it is part of his life. You also must remember that being a Muslim is a 'lifestyle' not a 'religion'. Islam is the Religion. It's a total 'way of life'. Any children from that relationship will be bought up Muslim. I know you are not even thinking about that yet - but it is something you do need to be aware of. You may not see much of him during the Holy month of Ramadan, either. Kissing and sex is forbidden before sunset, too. Any children are raised as a Muslim, too.

      In my case, if my man asks me to marry him - he may or may not, yet, either!!! If he does, I will certainly give it serious thought as to whether I would revert to Islam - but it would have to be because I 'want' to, not because I am 'pressured' in to it!!

      My man and I are quite old enough to make our own decisions with regard to whether I do change to Islam. It's something we will discuss together when/if the time arises in the future.

      To me, I love him for 'who' he is - not what race or colour he is. That is what your father is basing his opinion on at present. He may change his mind once he gets to know him better.

      But be very careful if he is the jealous type - that most certainly could be a warning sign as you say. Your father could be worried about that side of it too.

      I do hope everything works out for both of you, Brandie. I wish you both all the best for the future.

      Carol

  15. Hello all, here I am, a christian man, I recently met a woman that's as beautiful as the feeling of love, we hang out do things and she recently told me she's muslim, with this woman I can see my life unfolding in with nothing but greatness with her on my side, the thought of loving her fills me, the Bible encourages us to love one another as God has loved us so I'm open with her about my feelings, I think it worries her about my faith and my religion but I believe she's my other half, I told her I'd convert but earlier in reading people's testimony I read if it don't work will one of us revert back, I never judged nor really paid attention to the Muslim faith as I believe he's same person just different name in each religion, my faith and relationship with God means world to me, what do I do....

    • Salaams,

      If she's a muslim, she cannot marry you. She can only marry a Muslim man. If you want to convert to Islam, do it because you truly believe it's the truth. Christianity and Islam are NOT the same, though they share many of the same beliefs. One of the major differences in belief is about Jesus, peace be upon him. In Islam we believe he was fully human, and a prophet of God. Christians believe he is either God Himself in flesh, or the son of God. Another aspect to consider is that Christians do not recognize Prophet Muhammad SAWS as a prophet of God, but for Muslims it's imperative to believe this, as well as in the Quran and NOT the Bible.

      Honestly, this woman should not have been in contact with you at all. Maybe she's having some weakness in this area, but the bottom line is if and when she gets back strong on her faith, you won't be able to continue being a part of her life. Islamically a marriage between you two wouldn't even be valid. It would be considered fornication for her. So if you truly care about her, maybe the best thing you can do is urge her to follow what she believes and stop having a relationship with her. Even as a Christian, in your belief, you are not supposed to be in a relationship with non-Christians. 2 Corinthians 6:14 states: "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" If a Muslim does not believe in all the tenets of Christianity (which they do not), this would make them an unbeliever by your religion's standards. So really there is no reason on her side or on yours to continue this relationship.

      -Amy
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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