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Can a Muslim girl marry a Hindu man if he promises to convert after marriage for her sake?

 

Interfaith marriages are becoming common in our society

Assalam O Alaikum,

If a Muslim girl and a Hindu guy got into a relationship and the guy promises her that he will convert to islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl.
My questions are:

1. Is it okay to accept that the guy actually converted to Islam just because he has strong feelings for the girl and he's willing to do anything just to marry her?
2. Will the guy be actually able to lose his feelings for his Hinduism and accept Islam deep down from heart one day?
3. Is it okay if the girl lives with the Hindu family of her husband after marriage? While the girl prays to Allah in the same place where the family carries out all their hinduism culture, pooja (worship), not eating red meat etc?

maya2011,


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  1. W/salaam sister.

    First of all dear sister, pre-marital relationships are completely haraam in Islam so the girl should end her relationship (stop all contact and forms of sin) and make tawbah by turning to Allah swt for forgiveness.

    1) No a Muslim woman cannot marry a disbelieving man
    (2:221):"Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise."

    This is clear sister. In Islam to the best of my knowledge such a nikah would be invalid and therefore the woman would be committing zina is Islam despite being 'married.'

    "A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you"

    If a woman wants to marry a man who is a revert to Islam this is permissible. BUT the conversion has to be sincere. It is wrong to try and 'cheat' the system by converting for marriage. Do we think we can trick Allah swt? He knows our intentions and He doesnt miss a thing. In reality we are only tricking and harming ourselves.
    La illah illa Allah Muhammadur Rasoolullah - must come from our hearts - otherwise we are not Muslim.

    2) I do not know this question only if Allah swt guides a person to the truth and removes the veil over their eyes then yes. But as I have said above its not permissible so answering this question is really not needed.
    What would most likely occur from such a marriage is the woman would either turn away from Islam and move towards Hinduism (family pressure etc) or she may get him to convert and marry her, get closer to Islam eventually and spend her life trying to get her husband to see the truth. I have seen this happen to people and its horrible to live in this way - it only leads to conflicts and misery. So Allah knows whats best for us.

    Our whole complete reason for existence is to worship Allah and to Please Him. If we do this then SubhanAllah we get an abundant reward. (May Allah make us of those in Jannat-Ameen) If we dont (May Allah save us) we pay a high price. So doesnt it make sense to choose a husband who will walk this path with you rather than risking your akhirah (by a spouse who may lead you astray) and displeasing Allah.

    3) If a hinduism man sincerely converts to Islam, even still I would strongly recommend avoiding living with his family. He should only convert when they are able to live away. Of course be respectful to them when you see them etc, but do not take part in their rituals and try to seperate yourself from such acts of shirk.

    My advice to someone is such a situation is leave him sooner rather than later. If you are both serious about marriage then allow him to learn about Islam in your absence. Guide him to a trusted Imam or pious person and let him for some months be to ensure if he does decide to convert its due to correct reasons. If he sincerely finds Islam then it would be permissible to marry him. If not then she would need to leave him and find someone Muslim and compatabile. And Allah knows best

    Sara
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Dear Ma'am,

      If what you say is true, and if the Prophet (pbuh) has said that any one who converts, have to accept Islam by heart and soul and forget everything that one practiced before converting him/herself to Islam, then how come people of Indonesia, Malaysia (some cases) and Central Africa still practice their earlier customs along with Islam, which has sharp Hinduism flavour or flavours of some other ancient religion. Why do the Egyptians, Ethiopians etc. very curious about their past culture, religion and customs of their land, when they are not allowed according to the word of The Prophet (PBUH). So you want to say that 80% of the Islamic world are unislamic?

    • "He should only convert when they are able to live away. "
      Correction: He can convert ASAP sincerely (and should) but he should only marry when he and his wife are able to live away. Delaying conversion is something that should not be done.
      This is my opinion, Allah knows best

    • Assalamualikum sister im in same trouble my family is nit agreeing i dont understand what to do on other hand i cant leqve him he read kalma

    • Please visit nearest hospital because you really need it. Ur bla bla bla . God made all equal, he cannot hate them if he they are not Religious.

  2. Maya2011, Walaykumsalaam,

    It is quite simple:
    - It is not permitted for a Muslim woman to marry any man but a Muslim man.
    - A Muslim is someone who submits to the will of Allah, he believes in the testimony of faith and bears witness that 'There is no god worthy of worship but Allah and Muhammed is His final Messenger.
    - If this hindu man does not believe this, then he is not Muslim.
    - If he is not Muslim, then Islamically you are not permitted to marry him.

    Many men are drawn towards Islam because of someone they are in love with - however if they actually believe in the message of Islam sincerely, with understanding, submission and wholeheartedly accept the Quran and all that comes with it, only then do they become permissible for marriage to a Muslim woman. But in this case, you have expressed very clearly that the hindu boyfriend is only 'going to become Muslim' in order to marry the Muslim girl - this is in fact nothing but a lie and a pretence and you and I both know that this will not make him Muslim.

    The fact that a Muslim girl is contemplating marrying a non Muslim man shows me that she is far from her religion. This Sister, needs to to take some time out and think about her actual purpose in life. We are on this earth to worship Allah, He(swt) created us and so has also given us a guide to live our lives in the best possible way pleasing to Him(swt) - and this way is best for us. If she wishes to please Allah and attain Jannah, then she needs to make the sacrifice and move away from her hindu boyfriend. If she is so close to this Hindu boy that she is willing to marry him, then I can only assume that she has transgressed the limits set by Allah and so she must make sincere repentance and turn back to Allah. As a Muslim woman, she should protect her chastity and aim to find a good Muslim man as a husband. She needs to make this clear to her hindu boyfriend and then keep her distance. If this man becomes a true Muslim and still wants to marry him, then she needs to make this clear to her Wali/Guardian/Father.

    ~ Most importantly - Allah(swt) is The All Knowing and He(swt) knows what is hidden and what is apparent, so if she decides to marry this hindu man while in her heart she knows that he is not a true Muslim, she will be deceiving no-one but herself.

    This is the month of Ramadan, a time of immense blessings. This sister needs to turn to Allah and ask Him(swt) to put love in her heart for righteousness.

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. Hmmm.....If he is willing to convert to Islam AFTER marriage, what is the problem in accepting Islam BEFORE marriage?

    Sister: you have had good advice above - I was in the same boat (just spoke with him twice and he wanted to come visit me from across the country) - I told him that I was a practising muslim and would only marry one like me - he siad he would "not mind converting" bec he "liked me" (based on 2 conversations!!LOL) - I shared some Islamic weblinks and asked him to return when he had any questions/had understood what I was asking - he never returned. Allah saved me from someone who may have "converted" had I given him the chance, but who was I kidding had I ended up marrying him if he did not convert seriously?

    Honestly sister - since you are asking, it seems that your heart KNOWS the answer to your question. Please, do not ruin your ever-lasting akhirah for a few fleeting years of pleasure in this temporary life. Give him up into Allah's hands and if you really like him, make dua that Allah guides him to Islam and cut off contact with him after giving him the task of learning about Islam and to approach you when he is ready to take the next step. If he is meant to be, Allah will make it easy for both of you; if not, than Allah is blessing you and He does not want your life here and your akhirah to be damaged.

  4. My reply will be of no help to most, as I'm sharing what's in my thoughts...

    They say love is above it all. It saddens me to see that relationships between two people have to be governed by so many things, mainly the religion. I know how Islam and Christian, among others, are all meant to be the right guidance for our lives. But when hearts fall for each other, it's just cruel for individuals to be subjected to so many rebukes from many, just because their beliefs are different. What if these individuals are kind people, they don't do any harm except for falling for the people they shouldn't...(even when they're soul mates), why do they need to be separated...why can't they love and be loved in return, and be together happily...

    Btw, I do appreciate if anyone out there can share their opinions in this. I'm sure there's more to it than just following by the book. There's love. It makes people do irrational things. Sometimes, you can't tell if the actions are right or wrong. Do tell me, is there a point being with someone just because it's the right thing to do even when your heart is not in it? I love this Muslim man...but I know the difference in religion will keep us apart one day due to circumstances. I will have to find people of my own faith just because it's right in Islam. But it's not by my heart. I'll be suffering inside knowing I'll not be with the person I love the most. So, is this right, or wrong? Doesn't need to be a genius to know that it's not fair to the person I'm going to settle for eventually.

    ......life is difficult. Especially when you fall for the people you are not supposed to feel so deeply for.
    Love hurts.

    • Helpless, love is NOT above all. Allah (God) is above all. Before the universe existed, Allah existed. Before humanity existed, Allah existed. When all human beings are dead and gone, Allah will still exist. Allah is above all - in fact one of His names in Arabic is Al-'Aalaa, The Most High.

      Therefore our faith, and our relationship with Allah, is the most important thing. We cannot pursue every person or thing that we covet in this life. We must be guided by our faith. That's why in Islam we have rules to keep us from getting close to members of the opposite sex, so we can avoid developing the kind of emotional attachment that would lead to sin. We save that intimacy and special feeling for our spouse.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      I think even you do not really believe your claim that love is more important than faith, because if you did, then you would convert to Islam to marry this man that you love.

    • love is above all . you mean love is above almighty god ? what the disaster of human logic. .... who created love ?
      and love is not the criteria to be a good person . truth and justice is the criteria . love is fallable love is something you cannot always trust.
      e.g many people love drugs like herion cocaine they love these drugs they crave and long it. what kind of love is that.... ?
      a man who loves his wealth and money so much that if he had to murder anyone to double his wealth he would do it . what you call this type of love.... ?
      a woman loves gifts earrings and goings to parties and eating in luxury restaurants that she sells her body to fullfill her needs . what kind of love is this ?
      a guy who loves to kill birds and animals for enjoyment for fullfilling his hunting habits . what kind of love is this .?
      a guy loves to get laid with different women by hook up online sites what kind of love is this ?

      god almighty made you out of nothing . gave you sight ,hearing , and conciousness and ablity to think and speak what favours you will deny of god ?
      you and we all will die one day and that is garanteed what matters is why we are here ? can you make a drop of water ? how many litres of water you have had till this date ? why we as humans take these life sustaining things granted as they should be there ....

      justice is what matters truth is what will help you pass the test .
      dont let yourself be swept by the tide of your emotions . be a strong woman who is not a slave of her emotions but the master.

      i am no one to tell you what is right and what is wrong if you already have believed some particular things as wrong and right. neither i am here to judge you but as i consider myself a muslim i tried to help you and i know god almighty is the one who guides. may almighty guide me as well as u. ameen

  5. FIRST OF ALL MAYA

    PRE MARITIAL RELATION IS HARAM

    IF HE WANTS 2 ACCEPT ISLAM JUST 2 MARRY U ?

    WHAT IS THE GARANTEE THAT HE WOULD STOP PRACTISING ISLAM AFTER UR MARRIAGE IS OVER ? SURE HE WILL COZ U SAID HE ONLY WANT 2 CONVERT JUST 2 MARRY U

    1>U PRAY 5 TIMES A DAY WILL THAT, "HINDU FAMILY ALLOW U 2 PRAY" , FORGET WHICH PLACE IN THE HOUSE ULL PRAY

    2>U FAST IN THE MONTH OF RAMDHAN DURING THIS FASTING WILL UR HINDU FAMILY HELP U ,N DURING THIS FASTING U CANNOT DO ANY HARAM EVEN EXPRESSING LOVE 2 UR HUSBAND WILL HE CONTROL HIMSELF FOR ENTIRE MONTH

    3>HINDUS DNT EAT MEAT N THEY WORSHIP COW , HOW WILL U CELEBRATE BAKARAH EID

    4>SHIRK IS THE TOP SIN IN ISLAM , HINDUS WORSHIP IDOLS , HOW DO U GURANTEE THAT DURING THEIR FESTIVAL(HOLY,GANPHATIETC..) THEY WONT FORCE U 2 BE A PART OF THEIR RITUALS N
    WILL U STAND N WORSHIP IDOLS (ASHTAGFIRULLAH)

    5>WHAT RELIGION WILL UR CHILDREN FOLLOW
    ISLAM/HINDUISM, PLZ DNT FAKE UR MIND THAT WHEN UR CHILDREN WILL BECOME MATURE THEY ACCEPT ANYONE RELIGION EITHER HINDUISM / ISLAM

    INITIAL SISTER U FEEL GOOD BUT IN FUTURE ULL FACE THIS AND MANY PROBLEM N ULL BE DRAGGED AWAY FROM UR IMAAN

  6. SALAM SISTER

    IF HE TRULY WANTS 2 ACCEPT ISLAM LET HIM CONVERT AND DNT JUST MARRY AFTER HE CONVERTS

    TELL HIM MAKE A CONDITION OBSERVE HIM FOR AN YEAR OR SO THAT HOW HE PRACTISE ISLAM ONLY THAN MARRY HIM JUST DNOT BLINDLY STEP INTO A MARRIAGE WHICH WOULD DRAG U AWAY FROM ISLAM

  7. Plz do not marry him

  8. Sister
    Stick to your own "community & religion"

    Never fall in love with a kaffir

  9. Let me tell u one more thing islam is not just a religion or like many other manmade religion like of idolator.
    That anyone can choose to just marry him/her , n forget
    Islam is the way of life , it means total submission 2 god n Work in this world so to entire paradise in the hereafter

    So if u n ur idolator companion cannot digest the true meaning of islam n wanat 2 convert just for sake of marriage than u r lost
    Really lost

  10. hello my muslim friends ! I truly respect your religion. I am a spritual person. I don't believe in Idol worship though I am hindu by birth. I believe in one creator who has created everything. The supreme being..Al-'Aalaa Most high. He has created a planet for all creatures to live in his immense beauty. We 'Human Being' has developed the power of though and throug centuries of civilization we have created religion to worship n dat supreme creator whom no one has seen. different culture worship him in different ways and this has turn out to be rituals.Across all the faith and religion the common thing is 'LOVE'. I live my life in free way . I don't have any boundations, any restrictions . I am free to walk on the earth and enjoy life and be grateful to the creator. but I have my moral edcation and I know my limits. In free atmosphere the mind nourishes and one gain wisdom of life. whatever I do , I do it passionately.Now I am in love with my childhood sweetheart who is a muslim girl. we love each other and want to start our life together.we both are working and well settled. I have been to her place in eid as a friend as her parents also like me.I respect them all.But she says that if she get marrried to me then her society will disown her family. her younger sister wil not get married and her father has to leave his job. now you scolars , tell me I neither Idol worshipper, nor kafir. I beleive in one god. then Why dis kolaveri di ?

    • "Spiritual", it sounds like you are halfway to Islam already. You might already be Muslim in your heart. Why not embrace Islam and marry your childhood sweetheart?

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  11. Salam,
    I am a 36 year old practising muslim woman living in North America. I am a lecturer at a university. I met a hindu guy at school (when I was studying) almost 7 years ago and fell in love with him. He is 5 years younger than me. We were together for 4 years (within the boundaries of islam) and then he went far to study medicine. We were in touch with each other for the last 3 years, calling and emailing everyday. But recently, I found him getting distant from me and he told me that he would not be able to stand on his feat for the next 10 years. He said he didnt want me to wait for him. He is not a practising hindu and i am sure he would convert. . He told our common friends that noone other than me will ever come in his life (there is no issue of trust and understanding here). He always helped me to practice ramadan, always gave my space to pray and never drank alcohol or ate non-halal when he was with me. My point is that I know that I would never find a guy like him in my life. Someone with such great compatibility and understanding.
    Since he cant start a family with me right now,he wants to be distant so that I find another better guy and start a family. But my question is what if I dont find anyone ever and his love remains in my heart forever? The level of comfortability and understanding is beyond compare. For this reason he is not making my life sweeter and easier by getting away, he is taking away my love. My question is what should I do? I know my situation is not entirely based on Hindu-Muslim marriage factor, it is a mix of a lot of complications. Please advise if anyone of you has any idea, negative or positive....I would appreciate it.. VERY MUCH indeed.

    Salam
    a sad muslimah

    • Dear Sister,

      Please submit your question as a separate post. But to answer your question very briefly, I think if this hindu man is telling you that he cannot marry for another 10 years, this is his polite way of saying 'its never gonna happen'. To give yourself the assurance that you need, be very clear with him. Tell him how you feel and that you want to know if he is interested in accepting Islam and that if he is, you want to marry him. Tell him that you need to know once and for all. 'That' - my sister is as to the point as you can get. If he says 'no', its time you close this chapter.

      As for how do you move on when someone else is in your heart, I don't know an easy answer to this question. But I guess you have to make the effort to open your heart to seeing other potentials and ask Allah to make it easier for you. At the same time try to console yourself by believing that Allah(swt) has already chosen your partner for you, so whatever you do, whatever efforts you make, what is meant to miss you will miss you and what is meant to come to you will come to you. Its not easy, but thats the only way forward and hopefull, insha'Allah it gets easy with time.

      I know you said that you stayed withing the Islamic limits with this guy, but do you know what the Islamic limits are? Staying within Islamic limits does not mean just avoiding physical relations, it also means avoiding all unnecessary contact with non mahram men, so the daily phoning and emailing is wrong too. I pray Allah makes it easy for you to move on in the right way sis.

      SisterZ
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  12. am hindu men.....is there any way to marry a muslim girl......but am love with one muslim girl she also loving me .....wat can i do now??? pllzzzzz help

    • Mr. Dev

      A muslim woman can only marry a muslim man. Unless the non Muslim man agrees to convert to Islam. If she does marry you without you converting she will not be respected in her community and by society. Such a marriage would be considered illegitimate and so would be the children born to her.
      If you really do love her either you convert to islam before you marry with heart mind & soul or just leave her for good because if you have really loved her you wont be able to see her unhappy or not be respected in society.
      Converting to another religion will be a process which would take a while you need to understand under the guidance of an islamic scholar.
      Its not so difficult as people make it sound. Lots of people convert to islam from all over the world from all walks of life. Islam is the most Practiced religion in the world. Even after Conversion your life your family all will remain same except your belief and worship and your relationship.

  13. suppose i am going to marry a muslim girl.is it possible to marry a muslim girl?

    • Vicky,

      It if you are a Muslim too, then it is possible. If you are not a Muslim, you can not marry a Muslim lady.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • k.now i am convert to muslim then i will marry a muslim girl.is it possible?

        • Yes, it is possible then. But only if you are accepting Islam with belief in One God, who is Allah and by accepting the message of Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and by rejecting all that is worshipped beside Allah.

          If you believe in Allah and His Messenger, then I congratulate you. You are ready to practice Islam and can marry a Muslim woman.

          For any further advise, I request you to submit a new post.

          Abu Abdul Bari
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • I don't understand what you mean, because you are asking one question after the other. No non Muslim can marry a Muslim woman under any circumstane, until he becomes Muslim. Any such relation will put the Muslim woman in sin and she may even lose her faith.

          If you want any further advise, you are supposed to submit a new post, no other question will be answered for you on this page. Thank you.

          Abu Abdul Bari
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  14. M a muslim girl, nd falling in love wid a hindu guy..... He believe in Allah nd also respect..... He want to do nikah wid me..... Nd we both maintain eachother religion. If we do this thn does any prblm will create?plz answer

    • Shabnam, it is not possible. Being a Muslim, you are not allowed to marry him. In fact, you are not even allowed to meet him. Stay away from him and FEAR ALLAH. Allah Is Watching you and shall reward you based on your actions. He Has Forbidden relations before marriage and marriage to a non Muslim man. So believe in Allah and maintain a distance from this man.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  15. Slmz ...so there is dis hindu boy wu really likes me n will do almost anything for me...we r still young n schooling and he already talks about marriage, we haven't really spoken in person but we talk on BBM almost everyday...I read my namaaz and make dua 2 allah that everything must b easy for me and that if its meant 2 b allah must make him a true muslim..I need advice on this wat shall I do ?

    • Wa Alaikum as Salam, sister, you are not allowed to be with him. It is not "love" but a trap of Shaitaan which he spreads for young people like yourself.

      Read the above replies and know that it is haraam for you to marry him, as long as he does not accept Allah as his God and begins to worship Him Alone and follows the Sunnah of His Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

      Abu Abdul Bari
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  16. asslmwalekum ......my question is what is the step for a hindu boys to convert in islamic relegion,plz btaiye

    • @khushboo

      There is no ritual as such to become a Muslim.

      A muslim is the one who submits his will to almightly Allah.
      so becoming a Muslim has more to do with acknowledging Allah the almighty.

      A person who wishes to become a Muslim has to declare that there is none to be worshipped but Allah and also to bear witness that Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is His slave and Messenger.

      This statement is called as Shahada (testimony) in Arabic
      The exact arabic transliteration is as follows "Ash hadu an laa ilaaha il Allaah wa ash Hadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa Rasooluhu"
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      You cant force anyone to accept Islam. By the way what was the reason for you asking this question can i know. ?
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  17. First of all I want to ask how to make an account or something in order to be able to post questions , secondly I want to ask that can a Muslim girl marry a man who was atheist but has converted now in to a Muslim and believes in Allah and is slowly fulfilling his responsibilities of a Muslim while learning bout the religon , is it ok if the Muslim girl helps the newly converted Muslim man to guide him to the right path and help him gain more knowledge bout Islam . Also is it ok if a Muslim girl marries that newly converted Muslim man if his parents are atheist ?

    • Startwins, the link to register or log in is on the right side of the home page, beneath the Recent Stories. Yes, you can marry a convert to Islam even if his parents are atheists, but you cannot have any kind of a relationship with him before marriage.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • U have said that I should not have any relations with this person , we were once together and that was when I had very very extremely less knowledge bout Islam when I came to know that relations such as coupling weren't allowed I then broke my relation with him and I told him bout my religion and why , but now he wants to know more about the religion and I feel that as a Muslim I should be informing about others about the knowledge I have of Islam so therefore I talk to him as a normal person , not even as friends we have made it clear we are normal people talking and he asks me things bout Islam and I tell him without mixing any of my feelings . Very professionally . So on the other hand I think that maybe I am committing sins by doing this . I have told him if u r not interested about Islam or knowing then I dnt have a reason to tlk to u . But I'm not sure if I'm right

  18. asslmwalekum,,,,,,, im Dinesh

    i much believe in islam and ALLAH and rasuls. and i want convert to islam(by my deep hart) plz u dnt think im excepting a islam for a marriage with muslim girl.and im offering a namaj every Friday at five times and daly also (in my office) earlier i was blind and i was dnt know more about ALLAH but when i start to read a PAAK KURAN then only my eyes has open. so plz suggest me what i have to? do nad how?
    LAA ILAAHA ILLAL AHOO MOHAMMDUR RASOOL ULLAH

    ALLAH-HA-FIZ

    • @Dinesh - Walaikumassalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu.

      If anyone has a real desire to be a muslim and has full conviction and strong belief that Islam is the true religion ordained by Allah for all human-being, then, one should pronounce the “shahada”, the testimony of faith, without further delay. Do it right now brother.

      Mohammad, the Prophet of Allah (Peace and blessing of Allah be upon him), said :
      “The superstructure of Islam is raised on five (pillars) : testifying that there is no God (none truly to be worshipped) but Allah, and that Mohammad is the messenger of Allah, performing the prayer, paying the Zakah (poor-due), fasting the month of Ramadan, and performing Hajj.”

      The Shahada can be declared as follows :

      Ash hadu an laa ilaaha il Allaah wa ash Hadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa Rasooluhu

      The English translation is :

      “I bear witness that there is no deity (none truly to be worshipped) but, Allah, and bear witness that Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is His slave and Messenger.

      [you can read more on shahadah here inshaAllah -> understand-islam(dot)net/site/index.php?option=com_wrapper&view=wrapper&Itemid=67
      [replace (dot) by . in the link and search in the browser]

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      and here is a link for you to learn more about Islam inshaAllah ->

      -> Invitation2Islaam(dot)wordpress.com

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  19. Asslmwalekum my name is shaila
    actually i know i have wronged my mother died when i was very young my father married out side the culture and i was never given love in that house without my father not allowing me to marry a non Muslim and telling me its wrong and he allowed me but since our marriage we never shared our bed we have been in different rooms but when i fast or read my namaz i am not happy and in the month of fasting he tries to take me to a wrong path but i have been trying to be strong but since i did not know and now i no the mistake i have done and i no that this nikkah is not valid i have turned to marry a Muslim boy to clean my sins pls advice me what to do and i would like to know if its true that this nikkah to a non Muslim is not valid and i need to marry a Muslim man has quick has possible.

    • shaila, it's true that your marriage to a non-Muslim is not valid and not recognized by Islam. You must separate yourself from him immediately. However, the solution is not to marry a Muslim as fast as possible. You certainly can marry a Muslim if you choose. But the only thing that will absolve your sin is sincere tawbah (repentance) to Allah. Remove yourself from the sinful situation and ask Allah's forgiveness, and focus on your deen (your religion) and your obedience to Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  20. Asslmwalekum

    Thank you very much for your answer know i wanted to know if a boy who is 9 yrs younger then me and he is a Muslim is the nikkah allowed our prophet s.a.w did marry khadije and she was 15yrs older then him i understand its excepted. pls advice.

  21. Assalamualaikum ...

    • Tamanna, I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've had in life. The Quran is very clear that a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man. So it is not allowed to marry a Hindu man. The goodness and badness in husbands is not necessarily a matter of religion. There are good Muslim men and bad Muslim men, and good Hindu men and bad Hindu men. As a Muslim woman, you should seek a good Muslim man who will treat you with kindness.

      If you want further advice, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  22. What if a Hindu guy propose a Muslim girl an say that I will change my religion only for you because I want to marry you? What should a girl do in this situation? She should wait for him or what? Kindly guide me please.

  23. why girl can't marry hindu boy??this all is not fair..people have their own emotions and religion does not matter for any emotions..if u r happy with that guy what problem vl create and who the hell we r to convert his religion ???...

    • samira, see the answers given by Sara and SisterZ at the top. The Islamic prohibition against marrying mushrikeen (polytheists) makes perfect sense if you keep in mind the purpose of life itself in Islam, which is to worship Allah and earn Jannah, Insha'Allah. We must choose partners who will help us on that path, not take us away from it.

      Wael
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    • Salam Samira,

      The problem that it will create is that one will risk entering hell forever. Now beyond that there are muslims that choose to enjoy the brief 40 years of their youth in this life and let go of obeying Allah. And Allah provides for those that disbelieve as well as those that believe. Once they're done enjoying this life they may end up having nothing in the hereafter.

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      http://legacy.quran.com/9/68-69

      Pickthall
      Allah promiseth the hypocrites, both men and women, and the disbelievers fire of hell for their abode. It will suffice them. Allah curseth them, and theirs is lasting torment.

      Even as those before you who were mightier than you in strength, and more affluent than you in wealth and children. They enjoyed their lot awhile, so ye enjoy your lot awhile even as those before you did enjoy their lot awhile. And ye prate even as they prated. Such are they whose works have perished in the world and the Hereafter. Such are they who are the losers.
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  24. what the hell is this muslim girls falling in love with hindu katla boys .....whats wrong with out sisters in islam...why they are deviating from their path.

  25. Hello. My name is Mr. Prabhu & I am a Hindu GSB. I am very much interested in marring a Muslim Women, But is it possible that I get Converted to Islam once I find a Perfect Woman. I'm 50 years & I'm planning to marry a woman between 40/45 years who is a Divorce or a Widow. If she Having Children then it's good. I'm a married man with Children who are grown up.

    • Prabhu, if you are sincere then you should convert first. A Muslim woman cannot marry a Hindu man and will not get involved in a premarital relationship, so how can you meet the "perfect woman" if you are not Muslim? And if you are not sincere about converting to Islam, then you should abandon this idea.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Sure. I'm interested in getting converted to Islam. Please help me to get the conversion proceeds . From tomorrow Holy Ramdan starts & I feel that I shall go ahead immediately.

      • Sure. I'm ready to get Converted to Islam. Please kindly help me to go ahead with the proceeds of the same.

  26. Prabhu ,

    If you say and declare that "There is no God but Allah and Mohammed(SAS) is his messenger" then you are muslim.
    You should not be doing idol worship and not believing in multiple gods .
    Please refer to lot of archives from this site only for more info .

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